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SO INCECURE!
Ok,well i used to live in this city,and now i live in a town.I've changed and i dont like it,im incecure,im quiet,im shy,everything like that.i used to be outgoing,eventful,and all sorts of things like that.So,how can i become more outgoing and happier?maybe like i used to be? i know whenever i go back to see my friends in the city im outgoing and fun with them..but i feel as though im so quiet here i'll never be outgoing ever again!!! please i need advice on how to stay outgoing,talk and yell out with out feeling embarissed of what i say! :(its either that or just move back to my city...oh yeah,13/f
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My personal experience with being shy was to become a joker. If you can, try making jokes. Ad-lib and come up with them on the spot as much as possible, but telling prepared jokes can also work. You should start to lose your shyness, and as long as your jokes don't all fall flat, you'll be gaining confidence with each successful one. You could also try putting a few random elements into conversations (as long as you can take a few odd glances). Don't go with the obvious things, like 'purple monkey dishwasher' (or anything to do with monkeys). Try randomly saying 'fish' in the middle of a conversation. Or 'tuberculosis'. Just about anything that takes practice to say is good too. You're bound to get some attention, and as long as you're quick enough on your feet to make up some story about whatever random word you uttered, you'll be fine. Hope this works out for you.
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probaly you need alot cool friends that are outgoing and yelling etc
i suggest you go make some good friends at school...invite em to your house...get a nice movie,soda,chips and snacks and have fun
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Dear Insecure,
I think i can help because i my self am a fun out going person who can say anything and not feel on ounce of embarressment. First of all you have to think of why you feel insecure here but not back home. I think it's because you really know those people back home and you feel more comfterble with them. But what you should try is to maybe join a sport or a club at school you'll meet tons of new friends there. Then during lunch try to sit with different groups everyday, just to get some variety. But maybe if you wear bright colors sometimes especailly red it makes you be noticed so maybe people will come up to you. You just have to learn that your in a new place and things will certainly be different but that doesn't mean that it has to be a drag.
muchlove,
bubblesamin
p.s. good luck and if you ever needt to talk again my email is bubblesamin@yahoo.com
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it's all about confidence... people like to be around girls who are confident and smiley, just be careful to not get snobby. you're probably like this because you just moved and it's new. go out and meet people, go say hi to someone, most people won't be rude enought to blow you off.. who knows, you might find a best friend that way!
good luck!
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