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i have no idea what to do. i mean, i have my own column.. i should be able to hanlde this. im suffering depression.. i dont think my antidepressants i have are kicking in yet. between now and march i lost 25 lbs.. went threw an eating disorder.. and now am currently a binge eater and beat myself up for it by trying to purge and eating myself sick.. then eating more. i am discusting i can't even stand myself. i say, "no more binge eating" but i just forget it everytime i get near a whole load of food. i was 98 lbs now im back to 105 (5'3") and i feel so fat because i gained weight. i know its mostly muscle that i need but i want to loose like 2 lbs and i cant because i just binge eat. i mean, i want to be a dietitian when im older and cook healthy and live healthy but i cant when i have eating disorders. please help..
This isn't what you want to hear, but 105 pounds at 5'3'' is very thin! You don't need to lose any weight at all. You're perfect the way you are.
Stay the way you are, maybe put on a couple of pounds.
If you want to cook, eat, and live healthy, then you have to eat. There is even nothing wrong with eating a lot sometimes. It sounds like what you need is to straighten out your diet. You need to eat at least 3 meals a day. Try eating 5-6 meals a day. 3 main meals (even small if you don't want to gain too much weight), and then have 2 or 3 snack times. Your metabolism will skyrocket and you'll still stay thin. But you'll be healthy thin! Sexy thin! Unlike most of us, you have the potential to be perfect. Honestly, most girls and guys would say that your perfect weight (at 5'3'') would be 115.
I'm extremely hard on myself as well, I've had my share of eating disorders. I've been up and down. I'm not at all happy with my weight this year, so I'm starting to work out. I know its not easy to listen to someone say shit like this, because in the end all that matters is what you think. I didn't listen to anyone, but I finally woke up and saw that the healthier I ate, the healthier and better I looked.
Okay I really liked this guy for a while. I play basktball with his sister and helped coached his brothers team. This was all last year. We flirted, and I was shure he had to like me some because one time we were talking and his sister asked him if they could leave and he kept stalling i think so he could talk to me longer. He looks at me alot too. So i left him a comment on myspace but i got nothing back. So i looked and all the other people that left him comments hed never writen them back either. By now I really liked him it waslike after are talkes i felt like i could fly. Eventually i was convencd that he didnt like me. So i talked my friend into asking his sister if he liked me. He said as a friend...well all of this happening. I tried to get over it I really grown to like him. Im okay know i geuss. I relapsed a few times when i saw him.But i bounced back.
Well....a year later basketball is starting back, and hes comeing back around. Its weird we dont talk at all. I just want to be friends with him agin without falling for him agin.
What do I do??
I think that you should try to talk to him, just a little bit. Not nearly as much as you used to. It's a year later, maybe you've changed. Maybe he's changed. Maybe he'll be attracted to you or he'll spark a new interest in you.
So talk to him a little, but don't crowd him whatsoever. Go about doing your thing, but make sure he can see you. Maybe he'll be intruiged by you, remember you, and want to talk to you. Make him come to you.
This will also cause you less pain than if you were always talking to him. If you don't as much, you can't possibly feel as strongly as you did last year.
I'm 17/f
And I have lent some money ($200) to my best friend who has not paid me back after almost 10 months because he is always broke.
I am really in need of the money right now and I am broke myself.
I have recently been diagnosed with depression and I am too tired, lethargic and out of energy as well as irritable and I get angry and violent very easily.
So therefore I can hardly go to school everyday, let alone work.
I really need a job and I desperately need money but i dont think I am going to get the money back of my friend who is actually moving away next week.
What should I do?
it's not only the money that I lent him that I need but I really need an income but I just can't work.
please help.
xx
17/F
I am diagnosed with depression as well, but I think it is a different kind. About a year ago, I never wanted to get out of the house, nevermind work. But my parents were making me and I agreed that it was time for me to grow up and get a job. Honestly, having a job has helped my depression a lot. If you're willing enough to take that chance, I think it may help you. Maybe the work itself may not be an awesome experience, but knowing that you're independent, making your own money, and you don't have to rely on anyone else for money is a great feeling. Even if its not fun, its a chance to get away from the house. If you don't go out much, like I didn't, save up your money for something that you really enjoy. I bought a nice camera because I love photography. I think you should strongly consider getting a job. Something easy and non stressful like hostessing, bussing, or working at a place like McDonalds.
If you really don't think you're up to it, ask around. Maybe some people need favors that they're willing to pay you for. Babysitting, lawn mowing/raking leaves, house cleaning. Those won't take much time and its not a set job that you'll always have to go to, but you'll get money from it.
what are some really good things to say to make a guy go crazy and make him really horny? really good ones would be grreat. thanks :]
17/F
Haha I love your question. Alright, well if the two of you are around other people or friends, tell him you can't wait to be alone with him. That'll obviously just get him thinking. His mind will start running and he'll wonder what you want to do with him. Whisper in his ear as much as you can, if you're sitting down on the couch or something, put a leg around him and kiss his neck and shit like that. He'll be dying to be alone with you.
Once you are alone, I don't know how close you guys are, but guys absolutely love when you tell them you want to suck their dick. Tell him that you're wet. Compliment his dick haha. "Its so big" or "I want it in my mouth" are always good haha. If you are sucking it, look up at him occasionally. That will drive him crazy.
I have 6th period with the guy i like. When I get in the class I blush ALOT & i have to sit next to him. Today I got super sweaty & my face gets red when its hot or i feel uncomfortable. I look super weird because I am the only one in the class who will be all red and sweaty so I turn my head away from him until about 10 minutes into the class when Im not as nervous anymore. I absolutely HATE this. Is there anyway to make it stop or something?
17/F
That used to happen to me all the time when I was in like 7th grade with this kid I liked. I know its hard, but just try to chill. Don't be tense. Sit in a really relaxed manner. Don't keep your arms by your side or sit anxiously, because if you're physically uncomfortable you will sweat more. I don't know what your desks are like, put put your feet up or something.
And I know I used to do this: don't worry about him looking at you. If you worry that he's looking at you, you'll instinctively make a stupid face haha, even if you don't know it. Don't act like he's not even there, but don't plot your every move. It'll be noticeable if you're trying to hide your face from him.
Just try to be laid back. Act like he should be the one that should be nervous around you :) That'll never fail.
What are the best ways to boost your metabolism?
Eat breakfast! Eating breakfast helps your body recognize food and gets it working faster to get ready for your day.
Eat slow. Don't chow down your food. Eating fast also makes you hold extra weight for longer.
I always have this one dream when something very important is going to happen to me. Whenever it happens it means something will happen, A death, A relationship, Anything life changing.It scares me because I know something is gonna happen and theres nothing I can do about it. Im in my moms old truck and its completely empty, its rolling toward the ocean, I look out the window and i see myself with the girl I love, usually it is flashbacks of my life, Im laying there with the girl i love and i wave to myself, the truck hits the ocean water and i drowned, then i wake up. Every time i have this dream i understand it more, it hasnt seemed like it was gonna end till now. I dont know what that means, am i gonna die or will i help myself from the sinking truck?
I'm going to take a scientific/psychological approach to answering this question. Your question really intruiged me.
Dreams are about every day things. No matter how imaginative, far fetched, and creative they may be, they do have to deal with your anxiety, your worries, and every day problems that you have to face.
There are two types of "dreaming". In REM sleep, you have imaginitve and creative dreams. I don't know the details, but this dream doesn't seem very 'out there'. There is also called sleep thinking, where your brain thinks about things that are rational, maybe something specific that has really happened to you. This is not during very deep sleep.
Do you worry about drowning? More realistically, do you worry about letting something happen? Is there something you know about thats going on in your life, or in someone else's life, that you have concealed and you're not doing anything about it?
Just like you're letting the truck roll into the water, you may be letting something else slip away. You're just letting it happen, or you're losing something/someone.
If any of this is true and it really is happening in your life/someone else's, try to stop it. Maybe the dream will end once and for all.
You are not going to die.
im 16/f and I live in Ohio.
I want to get a job, so I dont have to ask my parents for money, to buy my boyfriend his x*mas gifts this year. I just went to taco bell to get an application. But I play basketball, and I dont know what to put done for the times I can work, bc our times change in basketball, and games and such.. We get out of school 3 and sometimes have practice at 330-530.
So would working 6-10 be good hours?
Would they even hire me bc I would need days off and such.. Also, my grandma has cancer, and we go see her on saturdays, so would they be okay with that also?
So my questions are...
What hours should I put done, or just wait and see if I get a call back..
What would they say about me playing basketball and need saturdays off(but if they need me, Ill work.)
THANKS! =D
If you have your basketball game schedule, look at it to find out if there's any day of the week that you have no games. For example, maybe you never have games on Monday and Wednesday. Put that you can work on those days from 6-10. It may sound tiring, but 6-10 is great. I work 5-10 and I love it.
Its inevitable that you'll need to work some Saturdays. Lots of teens are hired at Taco Bell and they all have a busy schedule, so unless you have an organized thing planned on each Saturday, you will most likely need to work. Put down that you can work on Saturdays, but have someone cover for you every now and then so you can visit your grandmother. Finding coverage is easy, there is always that one person that wants to work a lot.
And work Sundays.
You'll be busy, but you can find at least 3 days a week to work.
Plus, they'll like the fact that you're involved in a sport and you still want to work. That shows that you're a hard worker and you're not afraid to take on a challenging, busy lifestyle. Good luck :)
i think, but i just dont know, but i think im in love...see this guy i just dont really know a whole lot about him, but he is everywhere i look...i told him i liked him like two months ago and i think i scared him off,,im in the process for asking for a truce and getting to know each other...but i have tried to get over him and just when i think i do, he pops up again...i dont know why...but all of these quizzes saying are you in love they wont tell you,,they are mostly about when you know the guy really well...but i dont hardly talk to him like maybe once a week...if i am in love i dont know what it feels like..i just know that i have never felt like this about anyone ever before...he is with me everywhere at everytime...but i see more to him than when others just see a pretty face..i see that he is a good person and has a lot of poteintial in his life..i see that he cares and is a gentlemen...i see him not the cute guy that plays soccer,,you know..i just dont know what to do...so can you help???
There is always the chance that you really do love him. But most likely, you're just infatuated with him. If you're not dating or you don't hang out with each other, then you can't possibly know the real him. You do care about him for more than his looks, but that is still a form of infatuation. There is always that 1 in a million time when you have love at first sight, but do you really think its that? Try to hang out with him, if you really did scare him off then work at getting him back, but don't act obsessive. Try to work up some small talk with him and build on that. Ask him to go out to eat or something, try to hang out with him. He has to feel something back for you for you to really know that this 'love' is worth pursuing.
i dont know whats wrong with my camera, but anytime i put a battery in it (anykind of battery) even if its full and brand new, after turning it on once or twice , the next time i turn it on it will only turn on for a quick second or just not turn on, and it says the battery is empty...does anyone know what this is and how i can fix it????
oh yeah and my camera is a Sony Cyber-shot 3.2 megapixel...smart zoom DSC-P72...MPEGMOVIE VX (if thats important)
If your camera holds regular batteries as opposed to Lithium-Ion chargable batteries, then try using rechargable batteries. Some cameras, maybe yours, just eat regular AA batteries. Rechargable ones might do the trick.
If you have a Lithium-Ion battery for your camera (the square battery), then try charging it in a different electrical socket, maybe there is a problem with the one you've been using. That's happened to me before. If not, buy a new battery.
If these don't work, maybe there is a way you can "reset" your camera, like you can with an iPod. I don't think there's anything wrong with the camera itself, just batteries.
My boyfriend and I are both 20 years old, we've been dating almost two years. We have been sexually active for some time and never had a problem.
Last night, though, he seemed to be having some male issues. That is, getting hard enough to have good sex. He was able to keep it up enough to get off once, but it was pretty obvious there was a problem. He was very embarassed and I feel bad for him, it's the first time it has happened to us. Any advice on what I should say to him? Or what the reason for this could've been? Thanks
This happened once with my ex-boyfriend an I. He had never had a problem with not being able to get it up until this one time. We had been messing around the whole day and when it finally came time to have sex, he couldn't get it up anymore because it had been up for so long during the day. So don't let him feel bad or don't let yourself feel bad, maybe you were too hot for him to handle. If he had been really hard for a while before you guys started having sex, that could be the reason he couldn't keep it up much longer. Its just one time, don't let it get to him/you. :)