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Well.. this is probably going to make me sound like such a low person but when I remind myself that you don't know me it doesn't matter so here goes: I've been dating my boyfriend for almost 8 months. He's my best friend and I love him to death, we spend alot of time with eachother and I wouldn't want to sacrifice him for anything but I realize that a friend of his has a crush on me, and I sort of like him too a little. And we flirt and I'm not sure where it's going. I told my boyfriend a friend of his liked me, we flirted, but not who it is or that I like him too and I'm in a world of hurt right now. =P Oh well, won't remember when I'm 30 anyway.

Okay hun,What you have to do is,if you really love your bf then stay with him,and like you said, don't sacrafice him for anybody.If you want,you can tell him about who it is and everything,but that's only if you think he loves you enough to actually stay with you.Which I'm sure he does =]
Hopefully it'll work it just fine.

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I'm going to say that I'm 16/f and I'm very ashamed never to have had a boyfriend or ...never to even have been on a date =( V_V. I just do not understand. It drives me CRAZY. And the thing is. On places like myspace and facebook...guys joke around and flirt with me! While chatting, they flirt with me as well! They just never seem to make an attempt to want to have a relationship with me :| And I cannot believe that I'm saying this, but I'm desperate for a relationship x_x The worst part is...that guys tell my FRIENDS that they like me! But they never tell me! =( I'm quite an intelligent person ( I think so, anyways )) and I'm thinking that could be a turn off? Help, please ;_; The worst part..heh...is that my friends...who I think aren't THAT attractive..they almost ALL have been asked out! I don't understand! I'm nice, and I have a nice personality...but whyyyyy??????? ;_;

Thanks. ;_;

Okay sweetie maybe it's just because your shy?
Also remember that your chatting online..so that kind of changes everything..You have to interact with people in person because online realtionships aren't good =/
Ask anytime :]

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17/m. wow. so okay. I'm worried about my friend. He has a girlfriend that he met ONLINE...that lives in a DIFFERENT COUNTRY O_O. lets just say that he lives in North America and she lives in Europe...they met through a forum, I think. I just need opinions. Because I don't want him to ruin his life waiting for her. Okay, so...they knew each other for one year. she promised to move to North America next summer to live with him. they both say that they love each other o_O, they're both the same (almost) age. My question to you is....Will a chatting relationship be strong enough to make this girl move all the way from her home country? why would she though? education is like free in europe. isn't it hard to get a passport to come here...and then it's very difficult to adjust to a different culture here in America? do online relationships really work out? Would ANY DECENT PARENT allow a girl to travel like 3000 miles to see a guy whom she only saw TWO pictures of?? Without speaking to the guy first?? (NO LIE) What are your views on this?

PS: I should also mention that I talked to her before. The girl's a depressed "nobody" who never had a bf. Could it be possible that she's just seeking attention??

Sorry for asking so many questions. I'm just worried.

Thanks.

Hey hun.Well to answer one of your question's flat out,no,it's not good to have online relationships at all whatsoever.You absolutly positivly have to meet the person first.And this girl is a complete idiot to think she can go and fly 3000 miles just to "live" with your friend.Just imagine..once they meet eachother it could all change.Because what if your friend doesn't like the way she acts in person? I don't think she's seeking attention..but she's just desperate.And no I don't think any decent parent would let some random chick from Europe come travel to America to date their son.And as for the passports and everything,yes it is kind of difficult to get one..and they are MUCHO expensive.So you might want to talk to your friend about all the disadvantages him and her are going to go through.
Hope I helped =]

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so the other night i was coming home late from work. i was at a stop sign and looked out my window and i saw the weirdest thing. i saw fairies floating around dancing with dwarfs and the fairies had those little boots on with the curls at the end. i told everyone about it the next day and nobody believed me. shortly after i saw them again when i was coming home from this crazy party. so i told my parents about the fairies, a big mistake, and yesterday they made me go to the doctor. they told the doctor what i said in private and then he asked to talk to me alone. he told me i had gone way too far this time and he said the fairies and dwarfs were illusions i had created because i'm always smokin and trippin. sure, i do drugs but these fairies were real, i know they were. does anybody else ever see fairies dancing around with dwarfs late at night?

Nooo sweetie..I'm afraid not.
Maybe it's just some kind of medication your taking?
Or maybe a drink or something?
I don't think you really saw them..
Maybe it was some kind of bug?
Eek I don't know..
Sorry I could'nt help much =[

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Ok well a file or program, something on my computer is named System Idle Process.

What is it? What does it do? is it important? can I delete it?

Okay well Idle means like stand by..so maybe it is important?
Sorry I wasn't much helpp.

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13/f

I need to find a great place that does hair. I want my hair an orential black and I want it straightened. I don't have a picture of what I want, but you probably already know what I mean. I need the place to be in Kalamazoo, MI or somewhere in Van Buren County in MI! This place needs to be good with hair. THANX!

Hey!
I live in Michigan too.
Anyways.
It may not be in Kalamazoo but in Grand Rapids like in downtown,There's a plave called Tyler's spa and I think they do hair.
From what my friend says anyway..
I'm not sure though.
So yeah.
Good luck :]

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m/13 so me and my girlfriend are planning to have sex. we dont know whether she should put her tampon in during it so she doesnt get pregnant, or i should use i condom. also, how do u put on a condom? when i put my penis in how fast do i go in and out?

Okay this was kind of disturbing to read because,hello,your 13.I'm the same age and I'm telling you that your kind of stupid.Don't do it.I'm sorry..I don't mean to come off rude or anything..but your about to lose your virginity and you'll regret it..trust me.
Don't do it please?
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i've been molested, as a child. it happened often and i've tried so hard to block it out but now i feel like it defines me. nobody knows, i can't say anything nobody will believe me. everybody will hate me. he ruined me. i picture how my life would be if it never happened, the way i am now is horrible. i make so many mistakes just trying to make myself feel better but nothing works. i dont know what to do, i cant talk to anybody. im 16, this happened the summer going into 5th grade then into the year.

nothing makes it go away i don't know what to do i want to die so badly.

Awww..I'm sorry to hear that hun.
I'm sorry to tell you this..but you'll never really 'forget' about it,but hopefully after he's done that to you,it's made you a stronger person inside.
And I know it may seem like you want to kill yourself,or your just unbelieveably stressed,but it'll get better,I promise you.
I don't know you really but promise me you wont do anything to hurt yourself ok?
Good luck sweetie♥

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what is the best way to remove hair on your upper lip.
i tried the cream to remove hair but i always have short hairs left over. i don't want to shave it off. and plucking hurts.

Okay this may sound kind of gross..but you can buy this waxing stuff..and all you do it's put it on there and when it like dries then all you do is peel it off.
Although it does hurt a little because one,your removing hair,and two the wax is alittle hot.
But other than that it works!
Hope I helped =]
Btw it's called Bio-waxing.

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OKay. how old do you have to be to move out of your parents house and not have to listen to them in NY state??

I think you have too be 16.
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Ok.
so my friend just informed me that
she likes this one guy who is 16 and
shes 14 and she wants to ask him out.
but i happen to know for sure
that he likes someone else.

should i just help her through it
or tell her that he likes someone else
and see what happens from there??

Mm I think you should just tell her that he has someone else in mind because it would hurt her more to be turned down,you know?
Hope I helped ;]

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14\f
Okay. I know im not depressed but ever sence school ended Ive been wicked sad. I sleep for like 10 hours everyday even if I got o bed so early or anything 10 or more and when I wake up I force myself out've bed and im still tired. I rarely get dressed and when I do its because im being forced by a couple of my friends to get outa the house.And even if we go to the movies or funspot I still hate it and wanna go home. I don't know why im always sad and always tired but the thing is I eat a lot. And if i was depressed people usually stop eating right? Well if anything ive started eating more.. Depression is something that runs in the family, but I cant just go to the doctors and be like I think im depressed right? They'd ask questions and I dont want to tell anyone why im feeling this way its stupd and childish and its a dumb thing to be sad about all the time. Ant I really dont think its important.. ahh fine. Okay ive had this teddy bear sence I was born and i got it from my uncle glen and he passed away of cancer November 12th of last year. Well he was like my best friend so I loved that teddybear and started sleeping with it every night(dont say anything!) And i felt so helpless watching him and seeing him get sicker, and The last two months of this life he wasnt there. It was some ill, skinny, frail person not my uncle glen. Well My mom noticed I took it outa my baby bin and that I sleept with it always and took it away and said it wasnt healthy and I told her I just mis him so she gave it back to me and then my brothers starte making fun of me. So I gave it to my mom and she hid it. I dont think she threw it away. Or anything just hid it smehwere ood. and ever sence ive been sad and empty.
Wats wrong with me

Hi.Well I kinda see what your talking about..I've been that way lately too,exept I eat less and it's harder for me to fall asleep.Anyway my advice..is that you find someone to talk to about it so you don't feel so lost.Because holding it up inside of you will just make things worse :/

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