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I believe that everyone needs advice sometime or another. Its human nature. Im not gonna tell you to much about me. Keeping my mysterious persona will add alot to my answers. Im into to keeping it real and giving unbiased advice. Good Luck.REMEMBER: No Question Is A Stupid Question.
If you have the courage to ask for help, I will answer your question. That is my policy
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If you were a 16 almost 17 girl, (maybe some of you are haha) then what would your dream gift be to get from your boyfriend for Christmas? I am stuck on what to get my girlfriend for Christmas, please help! :)
Every person has a different dream gift. What works for someone, may not always work for someone else.
Think really deeply about your girlfriend and try to find out about things she likes and enjoys doing.
If you are really stuck, look behind the materialism and try to find a gift that you think has more of a symbolic value. Trust me, it will be more appreciated.
Good Luck
ok i have a boyfriend that i am in love with but when he is around his friends he acts like we are not even going out. i love him and i know he feels the same way and i dont want to break up so what can i do?
To put it simply..there is nothing you can do. If he cannot acknowledge your exsistance in front of other people there is nothing you can do to change that.
Communication is the key here. Try talking about your problem. If you can't resolve it, you will have to break up with him - unless you want to have a "secret" relationship for a very long time.
Good Luck
Sorry its so long.. but u need to hear the WHOLE situation to understand..
OK.. My coach and I used to get along really well. I play setter and I have for almost 4 seasons. Well.. im now on the high school JV team.. and theres another setter. OK fine. Well.. coach just GAVE her the position of starting (she didnt have to work for it). I asked him why.. and he said its because i dont work hard enough in practice. I argued with him about it for a few minutes and he just wouldnt listen to me. He said I need to work hard to earn my position. But in practice, I go out there and work my ass off. And this other chik just goofs off and stuff. None of our hitters like her.. and coach dont realize im the better setter (sounds conceided(sp?) but thats what all the hitters tell me)
I guess what im tryin to get at.. What can I do to prove to my coach that I really am workin my ass off out there to earn my spot in a game? And to prove that im the better setter on the team
It seems to me that your coach is a hard headed person. Because of this fact, I don't recommend you really argue your point with him. This make things worse. He might get fed up to the point where your position on the team will be threatened ( and trust me this is a possibility). Arguing can have bad effects This may not sound like what you want to hear, but just keep on playing usually and wait for fate to kick in. If you are really meant to be a star hitter, eventually the coach will realize that you are an asset to the team and give you a position fitting your talent.
In the meantime, I don't recommend you push the matter.
Good Luck
there is this guy i like, and he knows that i like him. Well he had told his friends, and my brother that he likes me. Well I wrote him a letter yesterday confronting him about my feelings toward him that i liked him and if anything would happen between us. And his friend told me yesterday that He likes some other girl... But i don't understand because he told all his friends that he likes me. So he wrote me a letter stating: Hey what's up. I have to clear up a couple of issues between us. You seem like a really nice person, but I'm not ready for a relationship. So can we just be friends? I still like him a lot , no matter what, and I don't know what else I should say to him or to write back to him. *i rate* thanks!!
Let me try out some of my street lingo:
" Nuff Said"
You have told the guy that your not ready for a relationship and that is totally acceptable. There is no need for any follow up letters because there is nothing else to say to him. You have made your point very clearly to him
If you still like him though.MAKE SURE NOT TO IGNORE HIM. Give him a casual "hi" or still keep in contact with him. Not doing so will make you seem "snobish" and immature.
Good Luck
okay i had this party the otha night and my friends were suppose to come ova ... 4 of them were coming!! 2 of them said 2 or 3 days in advance told me they could not come!! thn the day of the get together .. the other 2 called me one of them said that they got sick and that they weren't even planning to work ... i called her to see how she was doing but when i called her house her sister said said she went to work and that she won't be back until late!! the other friend of mine he said all during the week i am going to ur house and then he called me the night of the thing and told me he couldn't cuz he was going out with his otha friend! i have mixed emotions on this and can't believe they totally ditched me!! what should i do?? and what should i say to them??
You should tell your friends how you feel. No one likes being ditched and it is a very rude thing to cancel out on someone at the last minute. Like I have mentioned so many times before, your friends will never know the way you feel unless you share it with them. Being really mad or rude while talking at your friends won't get you very far. Sharing your feelings like a mature person will get you a positive response from your friends ( such as an apology) Communication is the key.
Good Luck
Well there's this country song I've heard and I really really like it. But I need to know what it's called or who its by! It goes like this-
I'm not gonna sleep til I touch your face...
And that's like all I know haha so please help me out! Thanx!
The answer you seek is:
Clay Walker: I Can't Sleep.
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I am trying out for cheerleading in less then 3 weeks and I need to be in shape to do a Side Hurdle, Front Hurdle and Toe Touch. Can somebody give me exercises to do?
Im not a cheerleader but here are some site that are worth checking out:
1.)http://eteamz.active.com/cheerleading/instruction/tips/category.cfm/Exercises/
2.)http://cheerforum.com/cheerleading_jumpexercises.html
3.) http://cheerleading.about.com/od/flexibility/
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15/F/F
okay so i was going out with this guy and he was a year older then me and we live in the same neighborhood but go to diff schools and we were sooo perfect for each other...but then he cheated on me soo i broke up with him even tho i liked himmm sooooo much and he still liked me a lot to ..((he didnt wanna break up i did ))soo then after we broke up he tryed to ask me out again but i said no cause it would be way to weird so we stoped talking and now about 2 months later he likes me again and today he said he wnats to tlak to me about sumthing and i havent talked to him in like 1 or 2 months soo im guessing he likes me again soo what should i do bacuse i still really like him but all my friends will get mad at me that i took him back i dont know what to do ..help ..thanks6
A leopard never changes its spots. People don't change so quickly. There is a good chance this guy will cheat on you again. I don't recommend you give him another chance to do so.
If you really feel like you want to be with him, just remember why you broke up with him in the first place.
Good Luck
okay, to those of you that listen to country, lately I've been thinkin of these lyrics, and now I'm getting them messed up, so before I 4get, duz any1 know this song
What if God quit trying
he just turned away....
What would you do
You'd probably give up too
if nobody believed in you
Then in another stanza, I know it says something about taking his name out of the pledge of allegience. If you atleast know who sings it, or the name, or a full stanza of lyrics it'd be appreciated
I belive the answer you are looking for is:
Joe Nichols: If Nobody Believed In You
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Hey, you give good advice so i thought I'd give it a try! Well ne ways. I'm 15 years old and me and my boyfriend have been dating for 5 months so far. He's 3 years older than me and its hard for us because of my family not liking the age difference. Besides that, he's in trouble with the law! He just got out of jail for violation of probation. He took the blame for someone, so thats why hes on probation in the first place. He violated it because he couldn't pay the monthly bills. But ne ways he got out and then his stepmom went and tore up his room and tried to get him in trouble again. He didn't have ne thing bad, it made him mad that she did that, so he ran off. Well, now he's on the run again. He use to call me everyday, but now he calls every so often. I haven't talked to him in 3 days and I'm worried. No one knows where he is. My friends keep saying that hes a crappy boyfriend. I really don't know what to do. I really do love him, and i know he feels the same. He tells me all the time how much he loves me. But my friends who just got out of a relationship b/c of THEIR crappy boyfriends tell me that he doesn't love me and he doesn't care, but I KNOW he does. He's not a bad person, hes jusr gotten in trouble. Should I keep this relationship going? If you have advice for me, I would appreciate it. Sorry this is so long. I've just been depressed about it. Thanx bunches! Brittany
Brittany, I really do feel for your boyfriend. He seems like a troubled guy who just needs a bit of advice to get him on the right track again. From your message above it seems to me that you really like this guy and nobody can change that feeling. Don't listen to your friends who can't tell you whether the guy loves you or not.
I really think this is a question you have the answer on your own. Do you love this long enough to endure all of the events that he went and is going through? The guy you talk about definitely has a few unresolved issues, and you must be ready to deal with them.
Your best course of action right now is to wait it out. I don't recommend you try to find him as that may complicate things a bit. If this guy truly loves you, he will try to make contact with you soon enough. If he doesn't make contact with you within a reasonable amount of time I suggest you move on with your life.
Good Luck
I've been with this guy for 3 years and were really close and I am ready to have sex. So is he. My parents know what we are planning on doing and they don't really care. We are going to use a condom and everything, I just wanted to know if it hurts or what it feels like. Also do u think I'm too young? 13/f.
Though I may be sounding old fashioned her, sex should be something special, shared between to mature adult individuals who are fully aware of the consequences surrounding the topic.
You are only 13 and you have the rest of your life to experience the joys of sexual intercourse. There is no need to rush into anything you might end up regretting in the future.
I cannot stop you from having sex, but just remember. For every action there is a reaction and consequence.
Think about ur descison carefully and consider all the pros and cons of the situation. Once you have had sex, you cannot back.
Good Luck
ok so my friend(lets refer to her as X) has some serious problems in her life(money, family and stuff) and shes usually always hungry. anyways, her mom doesnt have a job and shes always asking her mom 4 money so she can buy food and recently, X started cutting herself because she blames herself that her mom never has money. i dont know if X will keep on cutting, but hopefully she wont. anyways, she wont talk to me about it, even though ive known her since 4th grade. i HAVE to do something about it if she keeps on doing this, but i dont know what to do. plzz help!!!!!!
The first thing X needs to do is seek help immediately. Cutting is a serious problem that needs to be addressed quickly and discreetly. This is the first thing that must be done IMMEDIATLY. If you truly are her friend, you must tell her this.
Secondly, Food is a fundamental element towards living. Everyone needs and deserves food. If her mother is experiencing money problems, this is not a large issue. There are many food banks and donation centers where food is readily ( and privately) available for pickup. No one has to know, if this is a large issue.
BUT. Your friend needs to seek immediately concerning the "cutting" problem.
Self mutilation is a serious and very dangerous thing.
Good Luck.
well, theres this guy i like and hes only in 1 of my classes. anyways, weve been giving each other looks but hes 3 years older than i am(he failed once) ive only talked to him in notes cuz hes "shy" to talk and i asked 4 his number. i just talked to him on the phone 4 the first time yesterday, but i made up and excuse cuz there was nothing to talk about. what do guys like to talk about? any ideas of excuses why im calling?
School- the cause of all your pain!!- can be a good thing in this situation. Ask about the homework. It is the easiest and best excuse to use.
BUT- You should not be using excuses.
Act on your feelings and tell the guy the real reason for your phone calls. He will probably end up getting annoyed if you keep using your "excuses".
Unless he is a mind reader, the only way to let him know how you feel is by telling him.'
Good Luck.
K well anyways I have had this b/f for 2 months and Its internet, thoug I've knew him almost a year... anyways My Friend, her b/f and myself are planning to drive down to where he lives, which is about 30 minutes to an hour away from me... but I know my rents would not go for it if they knew I was going to meet him... so Should I go on and go and just tell them Im going shopping with my best friend for a party or something or tell them the truth and try and convince them o let me go? If I should tell them Im going shopping with My buddy... I need a good excuse to go out of town...
Thankz
l8rZ
The answer is NO. Absolutly not. You have no idea who this guy is for one thing and you are putting yourself in a very dangerous situation by doing so. I DO NOT RECOMMEND YOU LIE TO YOUR PARENTS AND PURSUE THIS GUY. Lying to your parents is not a good idea, because if something does go wrong ( god forbid ) they will have no means of finding or contacting you. I cannot give a great piece of advice to you in this situation.
DO NOT GO AND MEET HIM.
a lot of my friends are acting differently towards me, and theyre starting not really talking to me....its kinda weird because in 8th grade, one of my friends, lets just call him Bob. bob and i used to be really good friends, and now this year, in 9th, he's acting differently towards me and he used to IM me a lot, and now he doesnt and he doesnt say hi in the hallways anymore!
also, my other friends are just acting different..i dont know how to explain that..but they are, and i dont know what to say or do! i dont want to be rude and be like ew ur not talking to me why not?? and stuff like that..so.....please help? thanks so much!
Though I agree that the transition from 8th to 9th grade is a big one, people don't change that quickly. This question cannot be easily answered by me or any other advice giver.
As I have mentioned in the past, TALKING is key here. I'm not your friends, or Bob ( and neither is any other advice giver on this site) and I have no idea why they are acting differently. Maybe it is something you did that they took the wrong way?
Wondering what is wrong will you get you no where. You need to ask your friends why they are acting so differently. You don't have to be rude, simply bring up the topic casually.
Remember: if you don't take action to solve your problems, no amount of advice can help determine why your friends are acting so differently.
Good Luck
13/f
okay i really like this guy i've liked him for such a long time gosh like 3 years almost i'd say and his birthday is coming up in 20 days i want to buy him something cuz he's my best guy friend.. but i dont know what to buy i dont wanna buy him somethin that also gives clues of me liking him or anything because i dont want him to no .. i told him the 1st time i liked him which made 1 year of our friendship like hell n its our 2nd year of our friendship and i rather be friends w. him than nuttin at all but yet i rather be his gf than his friend but anyways wut can i buy him??
oo btw he's turning 14
tnxss
((i rate high))
It looks like if you want the RIGHT advice you better be asking the RIGHT question. I can only give you advice based on what you tell me:
"but yet i rather be his gf than his friend "
i just moved and i was at my old school for 13 years and made alot of friendships. Now that i am going to a new school it is hard for me to open up to people and i dont want everyone to think that i am acting bitchy or something just cause i dont talk to them and ideas on who i could open up ?
Moving is a hard thing to do and everyone adjust differently to this big change. It can be hard to find new friends when you have made so many close bonds with people, and are going into a new environment where " everyone knows each other."
I congradulate you on wanting to get to know new pople and make new friendships. The first step to adjusting in a new environment is making allies.
Here are a few ways on opening up to people:
1.) Find common intrests with people. If you hear someone listening to your favourite band, or reading your favourite book this is a perfect oppurtunity for you to strike up a conversation.
2.) The easiest topic to talk about is school. Ask someone how their homework assignment is coming along, or share your views on "how hard that last test was. Chances are, the person you are talking to will agree.
3.) Join a club or a team. Joining a club or sports team is a great way to meet new people and to get yourself known around the school. You will form close connections with other club members.
4.) Try some humour- A joke about something, or a funny situation is a great way to break the ice.
The final and most important thing I can tell you is : DON'T BE SHY.
Taking an active role, and speaking up for yourself will open many doors for you.
Good Luck
ok my boyfriend is really pissing me off....we made plans on thursday to go to this arcade on saturday (yesterday) .... he called me friday to give me all the details bout wat time n stuff that we wer gonna go...well we were supossed to go @ 12 on saturday....and he didnt call or nothing....so i called him @ 12 30 n he was like "ohh ya i duno if im gonna go nemore wanna jsut go see a movie later on?" so i was like okay...and he was like well ill call u later n ask wat movie and where wer gonna c it..WELL HE NEVER CALLED ME BACK! i called @ 12 3o...we wer gonna c it around 5-6 and he didnt call all afternoon or nothing....HE STILL HASNT CALLED! im so mad bc i cancelled all my plans to go with him...and i stayed home n cleaned to get money so i could go! i dont wanna b lyke bitching at him if he calls but i dont wanna just b lyke AWW ITZ OKAY! he usually calls me every night...im expecting a fone call today....but wat do i say...im really mad...=(
Im a big beleiver in the fact that we should always think the best of people. When I first read your answer I immediatly thought that your boyfriend was trying to hide something from you, but my views have changed.
Even though he cancelled your arcade plans, the fact that he tried to arrange something else with you means that he probably isn't trying to deliberatly hurt or you ( or that he is involved with other people).
I simply belive that your boyfriend is experiencing some trouble or something really important came up. If this is so, he will probably end up apologizing to you.
The best advice I can give you is: don't be quick to judge. Find out the full story from your boyfriend before you act. He may indeed have a valid reason for cancelling on you.
Saying something you will regret before he has a chance to explain will make the situationn worse.
Good Luck
okay i have a big problem! i was all excited because i just got my cartlidge done! but i came home and told my best friend! and she asked what ear i got done and i told her my right one! and she said that if a girl gets just her right cartlidge done...that means shes a lesbian?! omg i'm all upset now! is that realli what rumors say?! because i'm definitly NOT one!
i'll rate you a 5!
The answer to your question is a definite no.
Dressing a certain way or doing something different doesn't mean that you are a lesbian. From what your friend told you I would take her advice in the future with great caution.
ok, fellow advicenators, help plz. ok, i like this guy let's just call him uhmmm Joey. ok Joey. and Joey is so much fun to be around. and everyone flirts with Joey, but Joey likes me. but when i tried to hook up with Joey he starts sayin all this about crap he wanna do with me. and im not a teenage whore. so i wanna know an easy way to let him know i'm not interested anymore. any ideas? 1x3 puppy
There is a simple way to get rid of Joey: IGNORE HIM. Do not make any contact with him what so ever! Pretend Joey does not exsist.
If the problem with Joey persists I suggest look for help at a higher level ( teacher, parent) but I don't think it will be necessary if you follow my advice.
Good Luck