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Q: i was feeding my cat treats and they said they were chicken flavored so i tryed it and got sick and when i try to feed my cat i start feeling like one ?? whats wrong with me

Ha dont worry, its probably all in your head. There isnt anything wrong with you, infact, you may just want to believe you are like a cat because.. hey, it would be kinda cool! Anyways, dont sweat it, just let if roll of your shoulders..hope this helps:)

Q: so I used to cut myself--bad
not just a littl red mark
these deep gauges in my skin
but I got over it and battled it.
and won.

But I still have the aftermath and the embarrasment of scars on my thigs/shoulders.
is there any creams or lotions that I could put on them to help the scars fade away?

Try rubbing some Cocoa Butter on it everyday, after a little while it will heal! Good Luck and good job getting over that habbit!
hope this helps:)

Q: This guy who is about a year older than me came here to florida to visit my friend's brother for a week. After knowing him for about three or four days, I started to like him. Yes, I know it's kind of sudden. He's incredibly funny, hot, smart, etc. But he's going back to Wisconsin today. I'm really sad now. Ughhh. Should I just try and stay in touch(If so, HOW?!) or just try to forget him somehow? (I always try to forget about a guy and it never works because a few months later something will remind me of him and it makes me really sad)

Make sure you flirt with him while hes still here, then he will get the idea you like him and want to flirt with you more! So just ask him for his number and wait like a week or two before you call him, but when you do call him... work your magic so that he will want to call YOU! Then you wont have to be the one doing all the work:)
hope this helps:good luck:)

Q: I was out swwimming yesterday and I went over to myfriend's place. I had just put on my jeans and I sat on their couch. When I got up, there was a huge blue stain on the couch. I had read something about just flipping it over so I just flipped the beige cushion over but now I'm feeling really bad about it because that stain would never come out.
Should I tell my friend?

Yes, just say "I have a confession to make because im feeling really bad about something".. then go on and tell her your story, she is your real friend so she wont get mad at you. At first you might feel a little scared to tell her in fear she might be mad at you, but you will feel way better in a long run. After telling her just offer to try some remidies to get the stain out with her ( when her parents arent around so you dont have to let them know ).
good luck.
hope this helps:)

Q: ok so like i have this best friend and shes like clsoe with this other girl . and like my best friend ditched me for this girl before and the thing is i hate the other girl so its not like we all can hang out and when eveer im with my best friend she talks about the girl real bad and than the next day shes like best friends with her. and like i just wanna be like ur so fake how r you gonna tlak about her but call her ur best friend . but everytime i talk to her i just cant be mad at her.. its like weird. its liek impiossible to tell her. and i dont know why. and i dont know what i should do. if i should like be mad and tell her .. or let it go cause its not that big of a deal

If it really annoys you, then it is a big deal, so you should definately talk to her about it. Next time she starts trashing her, then tell her how its annoying how she does that and if she is gonna call her a best bud, she should stop talking behind her back. Also ask her if she hates that girl so much, then why does she ditch you for her? That will help you prove your point!
Dont let this go, because if it keeps going on eventually your really going to be mad at her...
so go ahead and talk it out!
hope this helps:)

Q: Hey everybody. Well, I'm 14/f and African American (if that's of any help). I have like these scabs on my legs, and I really want to get rid of them, but everything that I've tried had failed. I really don't feel comfortable showing off my legs, but they're in really good shape and they look nice, and I really do want to show them. If anybody knows of any creams, etc. that help with scabs, discoloration of skin, or scars, and that can get my skin clear in the quickest time, I would really appreciate that! Thank you soooo much!

My friend uses cocoa butter to remove scars on her, she says it works really great! Cocoa butter also works for bags under your eyes and things like that, it should work really good on your legs!
hope this helps:)

Q: today my boyfreind came over and i took everyones advice and tried to talk to him..
it was just way too awkward..
every five minutes we would say something like..
whats your favorite color? or stuff like that..
every ten minutes we would talk about hair.
ugh
but i ended up giving him head..
i really dont like this
should i break up with him?
or give it another try..?
PLEASE HELP

Dont end things yet, wait until you guys feel more comfortable around eachother and things will warm up more. If you let him go now you might regret it later, and you dont want that happening. So just give him another try, and you will start feeling more comfortable and have more things to talk about. Sometimes its not even bad to talk about your favorite things just to get to know eachother some more. He probably feels the same way as you, so help him out a little and strike up a convo about anything, he wont think your wierd, he will feel relieved! hope this helps:)

Q: How do I tell my very very very best guy friend that I love him?

He has a girlfriend. But hes the only person who acts like they actually care and tells me he loves me and says Im amazing. Ive said "I love you." A lot, but.. how can I explain to him that its more than just I love you. How can I say he means more to me than the world?

As long as you make this meaningful, it won't be lame.. dont worry. But next time you say "i love you" , just say "and i mean it.. really".
He will really get the hint then, I promise! That will probably get you guys talking about the love subject and you can explain yourself.
From the way that it seems (even though he has a girlfriend), he likes you too. If he says I love you and stuff like that, hes most likely giving you hints that he really does like you!
hope this helps:)

Q: okayy .. well call my boyfriend frankie. me and frankie have been together for 5 months. and we have our problems. but we cant stay apart. we broke up once for 2 days and then we both coodnt stand it. and last night we did again .. for 15 minutes .. and we hated it .. we talked about it and we wanna be together.

but frankie's friend tom, likes me. so tom has been telling me all this stuff that supposedly frankie sayin/gonna do (he's goina cheat on me, he wouldn't care if me and tom hooked up) but he's like you cant tell frankie about this ..

could tom just be tryin to get me to break up with franki cuz he likes me. because there was a RUMOR that i liked someone else and franki got pissed. and he got pissed off one day when tom wouldn't stop lookin down my shirt. doesn't that seem like the opposite of not caring if i hook up with tom ..? i think soo ..

that was question #1, is tom possibly makin that stuff up?

and question #2:

me and franki arent perfect. we argue alot. he doesnt always call when he cant keep his plans, and he works alot. and all my friends say i shoodnt take his shit .. but i cant help it .. im miserable w/o him .. ive never liked anyone as much as him .. is it wrong to stay with someone who doesnt' treat you the best, but still can make you feel better than anyone else .. because everyone's makin me feel like it is ...

sorry for lengthh! please help me ..

I think that tom is just making that stuff up, guys are like that. He obviously likes you, so he would do something like that to get you to like him.
As far as frankie goes, he cares about you! If he got mad that tom was looking down your shirt, then thats jealousy! So he doesnt want any other guy to have you but him. I would keep him, he might be busy, but there is no doubt that he still loves you!
hope this helps:)

Q: alright im 16/f and im still a virgin. ive only done things with 2 guys but i have only had the opportunity to do things with 2 guys..the 2nd guy i didnt even like but idk..it just all happened.do you think thats kinda of sluty? and me & this guy have a little thing goin on but im afraid that when we hang out agian we'll go a little bit too far. i really like him and i know he likes me but i dont know if i can stop myself. im supposed to hang out with him and stay the night over his house cause he is my friends cousin and my friend is goin too. but idk..i just dont want it to happen and i dont know if it will or not or if i can be able to stop at just making out..what should i do?

For a girl your age, that isn't slutty, dont worry. But if your afraid to go any farther then making out, then try to stick with your friend more then him. Make sure you and your friend are occupied, and let her know your nervous about it so she doesnt leave you two alone on accident or something. If you guys all hang out together, make sure your friend is always there! That way you two wont be alone and I'm sure he wont want to make a move when his cousin is there.
hope this helps:)

Q: ok all of my friends are having sex (and there all around 15 and 16, and i am 15.) And I don't feel like people our age are ready to have sex yet...but all of my friends are telling me how much fun it is, and they kept telling me how i need to lose it. I kept telling them that i'm not ready, but they keep pressuring me to have it. How can I get it throgh there head that i'm not ready and I don't want to lose it untill i'm ready?

There is one thing that good friends hate to hear: "Then you must not be a real friend"
Tell them that if they can't accept the fact that your not ready and stop pressuring you, then they aren't your real friend. This will catch their attention and see your serious that its making you mad that they are pressuring you into something that your really not ready for.
hope this helps:)

Q: Okay, I feel like my friend doesnt need me anymore. Because a long time ago we used to talk like 24/7! and he used to call me all the time and he used to talk to me on the computer all the time. But now it just seems like he doesnt ever have time for me. I need help to get over this! And p.s-i forgot to mention that i like this guy more than just a friend!

I used to have the same problem, but if your story is close to my story as I think, he will be IMing you suprisingly soon! Its not that he doesnt need you anymore, its just that he is getting to know himself and everyone around him.. soon he will talk to you like old times. Just be patient in the meantime.
If you just dont want to wait for him, then just talk to him! He could just think you are tired of him calling all the time, so he is giving up. Guys are very sensitive! So if you called him, he would most likely be happy to hear from you!
hope this helps :)

Q: I just asked a question earlier today about my white & light brown chihuahua. Here are the two names I have chosen.

1. Princess
2. Isabella (Bella for short)

What do you guys think? 1 or 2?

I think for a Chihuahua, Isabella is really really cute! I think you should use that one!
hope this helps:)

Q: I have short hair that I can't do much with. I was just wondering if anyone has any styles that I can do the morning kind of quick. P.S. my hair is up to my shoulders.

Hey!
I have a few ways that you could make your hair look cute..
Wear fake flowers in your hair with your hair flipped out a little at the ends. You can buy the flowers at claires and they have many pretty colors with sparkles and sequins on them!
Do a half ponytail, and put a headband on!
hope these help:)

Q: how to make friends in highschool?
cause im very very nervous

Just be yourself! Dont be worried that people wont like you, because if you act comfortable and nice, then they just have to! Just wear your best outfit on your first day, be outgoing, and then there isn't any problem. Have fun:)
hope this helps:)

Q: 15/f
allright so here's the deal. one of my best friends is my cousin. im over there like everyday and i feel like such a loser because i mean ..its my cousin? and people are like gosh your always over there...shes your best friend? and im like yeahh one of them. i mean sometimes i will do other things with my friends but my cousin doesnt have many friends so she always asks me to come over. for some reason we dont do mcuh but i still have fun :D but i feel retarded because there is this cute kid that lives by them and he always sees me over there and i talk to him sometimes and he probably thinks i have no life or friends since im always over at my cousins. do you think there is something wrong with this situation? i mean i love doing things with my other friends but its always so hard to go through with plans with them because they're always working or busy! but i was just checkin to see what you guys thought. thanks

One of my best friends is my cousin too! So I know how you feel, but its really cool that you have a great relationship with your cousin! Not many people do, and that guy probably thinks its cool that you spend time with family. Its not wierd at all that you have fun with her, so keep hanging out with her!
hope this helps :)

Q: hey my name is Rachel and iam a 17 year old girl and iam going to be babysitting an autistic child for a whole month in june what kind of activities should I plan.I know autistic kids don't like change so what should I do if i make a mistake and he pitches a fit?

Get some ideas from his parents about what he likes to do for fun, that way you wouldnt be making a mistake because you will already know what things he likes. Then you can find out what he likes to eat, what you can make for him. If by some way he pitches a fit, call the parents and ask them how to calm him down. Or you could just bribe him with something he really likes,
ex) if you stop screaming I will let you watch t.v.!

Q: hey, im a pretty small girl lets say about 90 pounds. im 13 and by no means am i anorexic or bulimic. everything on my bbody is fine and proportionate with my body size .. expept my thighs. my lowe legs are fine its just that when you go half way up my thigh the bottom part is fine and the top is huge. its mostly on my inner thighs at the top half but its a little on my outer too. if there anything that i can do to reduce the flabb there?

Yes, you can definately help those areas with doing squats, walking, and running!
hope this helps:)

Q: ok well i want to lose weight over the summer on my arms, stomach, legs. i really need good workout ideas that work and show results especially on my arms. please help i have no idea what to do.

For your arms, do like weight lifting workout, it will make them muscular instead of chubby.
For your stomach, sit ups work really well!
And as far as your legs go, for your upper leg, you can do squats, running, and walking ( running and walking will help your whole leg).
hope this helps:)

Q: Ok..soo i met this guy at a baseball game and he got my number from one of my guys friends. So he called me that night..and now we talk on the phone every night. And i mean we're starting to like eachother but the problem is..he lives like an hr n 30 min away. We really want to hang out..cuz we've only met once. But the problem is..it wont be awhile till come up there again..like the end of the summer. WHat should i do?

If you drive, then you and some of your friends could go on a road trip to see him, that would be fun too!
If you dont, then get someone who drives to drive you there, you may have to pay them!
When you get there you guys can just all hang out and you could meet his friends.
hope this helps!:)