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Hey guys. I'm just a girl going through the transition of a teenager to an adult and all that it entails.
I've had a colourful life with many a lesson learned and much to offer. Whether you want advice, support or just a chat then all you gotta do is reach out.
I'm honest, whether it hurts or not, but i'm fair; open minded and philosophical, a little crazy yet very logical, at times rather controversial.
If you have a question go ahead and ask!
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There is this boy in my class I love I mean oh my god his cute body,and his cute face I love him but what to do? FYI:Im 11!! SOS!! :'(
Go talk to him! Nothing will happen without communication! Go say hey and get a conversation started.
my mom wont let me get my belly botton peircered so i did it my self now i can't find a belly ring any where and i dont have any money
Well you may be angry with your mother but the fact that you got it pierced behind her back - by yourself, no less - shows that your mothers judgment and decision was clearly the right one.
The fact that you completely disrespected your mothers decision shows that you're not mature enough to be making such decisions. Theres an age set by the law for a good reason.
You went behind your mothers back and because of this i doubt your mum will trust you and the less likely she'll let you get anything else done in the near future. In respecting your mothers decision youre showing respect in her decision and maturity.
Piercing yourself is very dangerous. You need sterile piercing equipment and environment. Not doing so makes you significantly more susceptible to infection and your body rejecting the piercing.
Positioning of the piercing is very important. Not everyone can get their navel pierced and it must be placed in a specific area.
The gauge of the needle that professionals use varies and there will be a specific gauge for a navel piercing so that the bars and rings will fit.
These reasons and many more are important reasons as to why one should NEVER attempt to pierce oneself. I strongly suggest you let the piercing heal and clean it daily with a solution of seven parts water (pre boiled) to one part salt. If it gets swollen, red, inflamed or any other sign of infection shows, arrange an appointment with your GP immediately.
Next time listen to your mother. Whether you believe it or not, and whether you agree or not with her decisions, she does know best. And this situation is an exceptional example of that.
I suggest you come clean with your mum in case you DO need medical attention and start earning back your mums trust.
Hi im 13 theres this guy who ia drop dead gorgeous hes kind of. A player but. Hes soo cute and nice to me my friends say thay i shouldnt likr him wat should i do
There's nothing to say that you have to be serious with him!
If you're fine with hanging out with him and keeping things casual and nothing serious then there doesn't seem to be anything wrong with spending time with him.
Reputations aren't always accurate either. The only way you'll determine what he's REALLY like as a person is to get to know him better. People don't become serious in a relationship without getting to know each other first.
Don't let your friends or anyone else tell you you can't see him. Make the effort to get to know the real guy and go from there. Trust your instincts.
I have been practicing voodoo for quiet a while, about 4 years now, and i know that all of my friends know about my spirituality. but there are a lot of stupid people were i live. Even though i have a lot of friends, and they all know, some of them are kinda nervous to be around me, because some people said that i was going to hex them or some nonsense like that.
i knwo i should explain my faith, but i just dont when the best time is, or if i even should at all
There will always be some sort of stigma attatched to you because of your religion. Whether we like it or not there are many ignorant and close minded people in all communities. That, unfortunately, won't change.
The people who are mocking you and/or your religion are clearly not worth the trouble. People like that don't even make the effort to understand something. This is even more unacceptable when they don;t make the effort for someone they care about. Do you really want to make the effort when they don't?
Focus on the people that accept you as you are. They are the people that matter.
Unless you are very strict with who you share your religious and spiritual beliefs with, people will act like that. But they're just not worth your time.
what should I get my mom for mom's day when she is allergic to practically everything that has perfume scent in it?
Breakfast in bed, a new pair of shoes or a bag, spa day (as long as you let staff know of her allergies), take her out for a nice dinner.
There's many things you can do and i think the more personal you make it the more she'll appreciate it.
Iam a 22 female and sometimes I find my self eating when Iam not hungry. I eat when iam bored and depressed why do I do this is this an eating disorder or am I just a glutton?
Many of us can testify to unnecessarily eating or even binging simply because we're bored or the food is so good you just don't want to stop!
This is extremely common. Just be aware of when you're over eating and try to make more sensible and healthier choices.
Exercise is a great tool for controlling unhealthy appetites. Combined with a balanced diet including protein, soluble fibre and whole grain foods, you should have no problem in making sure you stay fuller until your next scheduled meal.
There is nothing wrong with eating snacks between meals as long as they're healthy such as fruit, handfuls of nuts, crackers etc. Dont overdo it.
Otherwise perhaps make more of an effort in having more things to keep you occupied and distracted so you don't eat simply of boredom.
I am an anarexic i do tell people but they dont do anything. I told my best friend and she acted as if it was nothing. But its not nothing! When my stomach growels i see that as a good thing. But that isnt the problem i need somebody to tell me how to tell my mom. She is already strugglin as a single parent with 9 kids and 2 that droped out of school. And i dont wqnt to cause anymore trouble. So please somebody contact me and give some help i am only 12 years old. Please somebody!
You need to get help. Now.
Despite your mother having problems supporting nine kids there is nothing more terrible for a mother to know that her child is suffering. If you have anorexia it WILL escalate and get worse. Your mum will notice at some point and it'll take much more to get through recovery. Tell your mother now before it gets any worse.
Talk to your mother and tell her the truth. You fear you may have an eating problem. Tell her that you need her support in this and you want to go to the GP to be examined and get your doctors opinion. Professionals and trusted adults WILL listen. You just have to reach out.
At twelve years old people do not understand mental ill health unless they're going through it. Dont give your friend such a hard time. Instead try to help her understand.
When I first entered services and met people with eating disorders I thought that just had to eat cake and stop being stubborn. And I was thirteen years old.
People need help to be educated and remove the stigma.
So please get help before it gets worse.
14/f
I have a once great 'best friend' whom I was very close to, but lately she's been a bitch and baby, honestly, and flipping on my other friend and me over nothing. I can't take it anymore. Should I stay her friend?
It's part of being a friend to take crap from someone important to you. Is your friend going through something and acting out? Is her actions intentionally malicious? Is she treating you like that because she finds it easier than asking for your help or support?
There could be something behind this. She may well just be mistreating you and if that's the case you dont deserve to be treated in such an inappropriate and uncalled for manner. Let her go and focus on the people who do treat you right.
But it's not right to give up on someone if you dont know the full story. Have a proper one on one conversation with herabout your friendship, your concerns and how she treats you. Make her aware of how you feel, how her behaviour impacts upon you. Be firm and clear.
Give her a chance. One chance. If she blows it then you'll know she wasn't worth keeping as a friend. but she could potentially be someone important in your life if there is something going on.
Everything is just going so well for me. Is that bad I don't want to date? I feel it would be a distraction... I'm doing very well in all my classes right now and don't feel I have the time... The main reason I ask this is my friends keep trying to set me up because my ex of 3 years dumped me a few months ago and they think I need to get out there and date... I keep telling them I don't want to but they don't understand. I know they mean well and just want to see me happy but I am...I just don't know what to say to them anymore. I tried explaining that if I wanted a bf I could find my own, and that I don't want to get serious until after college.... Please help meh!
Nothing wrong at all about wanting to avoid serious relationships. Many people decide to do this during the important school and career years of their life, or even out of simple preference!
It's easy to see why your friends may be concerned but the fact of the matter is that you havent come to this decision due to negative circumstances. Your decision is not made on an unhealthy basis.
You just need to be first with your friends. Its your life and you're happy in it and in the decisions you've made. Should you start dating again it will be when youre ready and when you decide, not before. You appreciate their concern but you want no more fix ups. This you must firmly and clearly explain to them. No means no.
20/f
i live at home with my parents. i am really unmotivated i watch porn a lot. at night i make out with my pillow and pretend it's a guy and have sex with him. i know that's weird and i feel weird thinking about it. when my mom calls me i lie to her and she knows when i do. my parents have spoiled me rotten so i guess that's why i am messed up, and they don't i watch porn, because i delete the history. i have an older brother who is probably the only normal one in my family. i am not close to my parents, we fight a lot. i have a bad attitude, and my parents yell at me. my attitude has gotten a little better. my therapist says because they were born in India and i was born here, the cultures are different so it's hard to get along with them, and i agree and understand. they see her too sometimes and they've changed a lot also, but they can be really controlling. when i am angry at them they just get mad at me, and makes me feel like i can't tell them anything because they'll start yelling at me. and whenever i want to be alone they'll bother me. and i usually will tell them to leave me alone and they'll get mad. they think because i live under their roof they ought to know everything i am doing, and won't respect my boundaries. my therapist tells them this but they don't listen. they think because their old now they can't change, and they are who they are but don't realize how it's having a negative impact on me. whenever we get in a fight and i call my therapist they make a huge deal out of that. and start saying things like oh you tell her every little thing. but aren't i suppose to? i can't stand it when they come home because they start asking me how was my day and ask me what I've done all day, like if i did any homework, which i don't do till they come home. I've been seeing a therapist for three years and she tells me my parents are allowed to talk to me about school because they are paying for my school, the roof over my head, and my car, even though that's the only thing we talk about. my mom does ask me from time to time what's going in my life, or if i am talking to any guys, which i don't because they don't let me date. and whenever they find out i am talking to some guy they freak out, but they can since i did some promiscuous things in my past. i only have a few friends who i don't hang out with that much since they don't seem to have time. i did have this one friend but she's become a religious judgmental, controlling nut job who i can't stand. and i spend my weekends with my parents going out to eat, then we come home and my mom will ask me if i have any plans when i go home?. meaning if i am going to study. At school, i feel weird like i don't belong, i talk to my classmates sometimes but lately i just feel like no one wants to interact because i talk too much, and one of my friends have told me that. it's true though because my brother and even my parents and other relatives have told me that. so i feel like i am just an annoyance to everyone. my therapist keeps telling me to keep trying at school to be successful, not to worry about making friends even though i am lonely, and to help around the house, which i do rarely, but i can't motivate myself and i am worried that i will fail and will get kicked out since i can't keep a job, since in the past i have had poor job skills,and will end up on the streets. I've already had to drop one class this semester and i have a W on my transcript. so i can't help but feel sorry for myself, since i am not close to anyone, well i am with my brother kind of but he moved so we talk on the phone every once in a while, but yeah i don't know what to do anymore.
Let's look at the situation here.
Your parents provide you with the necessities in life, they provide for your schooling, they provide and maintain the cost of your car and im sure they regularly give you spending money as well; you havent been able to hold down a job neither do you seem motivated in giving yourself much of an education. Can you honestly say youre surprised that your parents treat you as if you're a pre teen?
Have you ever had responsibility that if you flaked on it there'd be serious consequences, have you felt the satisfaction of working hard for something and earning it?
You have taken zero initiative in taking control of your life and your future. You seem to lack self discipline. You admittedly hang around with people that aren't good for you (like people who do drugs). Your parents aren't treating you like an adult or giving you the space because you dont act like an adult, you havent done anything to earn your privacy or boundaries in the family home.
Your parents do seem to be controlling in unreasonable aspects of your life but your parents are not mind readers and at the same time you dont seem to be taken seriously in important situations.
Your therapist is right. Regardless of the difference in cultures and personality there is much you can be doing to improve the situation. Most people of your age have been studying for years and are putting themselves in debt at university trying to give themselves a future. You need to grow up and learn that life is tough. You have to work at it.
It is likely people will talk about you or betray you or some other bad things but thats just part of life. It's whether or not you let those things get in your way.
If you want your parents to take you seriously then you have to CHOOSE to make some changes in your life.
- Do your homework and go the extra mile to get much better grades without being told to by your parents. Remember that you're there to learn. Not to make friends. If you dont get on with people, so what? Its not the end of the world.
- Get yourself a job and actually stick to it. Learn how to hold down a job and earn your own money and respect. Start paying for your own things like clothing, gas for your car and other expenses.
- Forget about the friends that mistreat you. Real friends don't do that. Recognize the people that are genuinely a good friend to you that you enjoy spending time with and make the effort with those people in your life.
- Take up extra curricular activities or something you're passionate about.
- Take the time to open up to your parents. Tell them about how your day has been or something that you're really excited about. Perhaps invite a close friend over for dinner. Make an effort to involve your parents in your life.
As long as you live in your parents house they DO have a right to demands certain things. If they have house rules you must adhere to them.
If you want your relationship to change with your parents you have to do the hard work. You might not always agree on things but if you want them to take you seriously and respect you, for there to be a time in your life where you can say 'im an adult, treat me as one', then you gotta be one.
You can give yourself the life that you want. It's about the choices that you make and the work that you put into it. Get up off your ass, do the work and act like a twenty year old woman. It's a lot of hard work but the concept really is as simple as that.
If you have genuinely earned respect as an adult, youve worked hard for a long time, achieved a lot and your parents still dont treat you in a manner that you have earned then perhaps its time to think about moving out and becoming independent, be it on campus or a small apartment. Relying on no one but yourself is the only way to give you complete and total freedom in how you live your life.
Okay well I am a 15 year old girl. I have always been taught to wait until marriage to have sex but I feel like I am always having to masturbate and watch "porn" I really want to have sex(with my boyfriend and i know he wants to also) but I am afraid that my mom will be ashamed if I try to explain that I want to have sex and I want birth control to prevent any unwanted pregnancy! and I dont think vaginal sex will hirt to bad but does anal sex hurt? HELP PLEASE!
Unless you wait until the legal age to have sex in order to go on a prescription contraceptive, you're going to have to talk to your mother about this.
Should you decide to approach your mum the best thing for you to do is handle the situation in a mature manner. If you have completely made the decision to start a sexual relationship with your partner then your mum has to know that you ARE intending on becoming sexually active, you'd like her to acknowledge the responsibility of you coming to her beforehand and that you'd much rather her take you to get birth control pills to stay safe than doing it with minimal preventative measures.
If you choose to start becoming sexually active as well as not approaching your mum then the only option you have is a condom. Before starting any sexual activity you must be informed on all contraceptives and the physical processes of sex.
Its completely your choice whether you want to consent to anal sex as well as vaginal penetrative sex. Personally I think vaginal penetration is more painful. But it depends on each girl. Everyone is different.
Some find it completely painful, others not at all; some girls bleed a teeny bit or quite a bit or even not at all; some people cant even have proper penetrative sex first time.
Bear in mind you'll be stretching your hymen so it may be painful or uncomfortable and it may take a few tries. Not to mention you''re used to your colon being occupied your entire life and your vagina hardly at all.
So take everything into account when making your decisions. The more responsible and mature you are in approaching the situation the better you are overall in the long run.
20 female.
I feel like i have gotten a little extra fat in my stomach area ugh :( It all went to my stomach! I don't really work out. I run here and there, do some crunches when I feel like it. I just want my stomach to be more toned for summer. I feel really self conscious right now!!
What are some work outs I can do to tone or maybe lose some fat in my stomach??
If you want to burn fat then cardio (exercises that work the heart buscle therefore increasing the heart rate) is the way forward. If you want to lose weight i'd suggest cutting your daily calorie intake to 1800 and making healthier choices. The best time to burn fat is in the morning before eating anything. Your body takes the energy it needs straight from the fat stores. A good amount of cardio five times a week will be sufficient to shift those few pounds and its even more enjoyable to make it fun! such as swimming, a sport or with friends.
As for toning this happens when you directly exercise the abdominal muscles. Things like yoga or pilates is great for all round toning and is a low level impact exercise. If you're a member of a gym then there's many fangled machines that can work on your abdominal muscles as well as trainers that can tailor an exercise programme appropriate to your needs.
You can also do things at home. Doing forty crunches when you wake up not only burns the calories from fat stored before eating but kick starts your metabolism for the day. Theres also '8 minute abs' which is personal favourite and very popular amongst people of all ages and fitness levels even today. If you stick to it it definitely produces the desired results - even if you do have to suffer the decades old spandex exercise gear!
The best thing about muscular exercises is that your body continues to burn calories for hours after exercise whereas cardio stops burning calories as soon as you terminate the exercise. As with many things, the more effort, time and research you do, the better the results. If you put in the effort you'll see what you want in the mirror. Just remember to do so safely and properly.
19 female-My boyfriend of a year and a half broke up with me two days ago. We've been off and on for the past 4 months because he is battling a serious drug addiction and doesn't want to drag me down while hes trying to get help himself. When he broke up with me he was here visiting because he lives 7 hours away. He told me how much he loved me and seemed really undecided. I know he needs time to figure out his life. It just hurts really bad and i begin to have a lot of doubt that he will ever come back. We were off and on because of the drugs and never really fight about other things. I am really self consious that maybe he just wanted out and didn't really mean when he said that he wanted to meet up later in life when hes figured out things and is working towards something. He kept saying that we were meant for each other and it makes this really hard. I know that he seriously does need time to himself and im proud of him for actually trying to change. I was a little mean because I was so sad and said things like I hate my life now cause of you but Im hoping he understands that I dont and that I was just being dramatic and upset. I really miss him and really want him to come back but I dont know what to do. I know he needs time and logically it makes sense, its just emotionally the coping is hard to deal with :/ Do you think he was just saying those things to make me feel better and doesn't really mean them? Or do you think he really will work on himself and one day come back to me? :/Any advice would be helpful, Ive never really been this sad in my life.
The best thing you can do for him is to put your needs and wants concerning him aside. he's in recovery and before he can get into anything else in his life he needs to get himself together first and foremost before even thinking of taking anything else on. He's going to be needing a lot of intense therapy and time and space to deal with everything going on with him right now.
Not only may he drag you down with him but you could distract him from his recovery and treatment just by being there with him. Unintentional or not having a relationship with someone going through what he is can be damaging even when youre really trying to do the world of good. He needs to learn to manage on his own and help himself firth before thinking of others. it sounds as if he's doing really well right now.
If you're really meant to be together then you'll wait for him to get better and get to a place in his life and recovery where is mentally, emotionally and physically stable. Let him know that you are still there for him and you will continue to be supportive and caring. And you'll be waiting when he's fully ready to deal with something like a relationship.
Until then let him do this on his own. It hurts and you miss him terribly but it's for his own long term well being. Thats what love really is.
I like to do alot ι wanna be α singer when ι get older and. α dancer , but my lifee mad fuuckedd up and my family and fake ass friendss ..... My question is should ι start smokingg ? Smokingg weeed ? To takee the pain away because people act like they dont care but ι still dont wanna give up on my dreams but ιts like fuck everybody idc about them but this pain and stess hurt / depression ...... But iam α strong person .... & iam 15 .....
Part of growing up is dealing with difficult situations and interpersonal relationships. You need to learn how to positively deal with negative emotions be it distractions and immersing yourself in something youre really passionate about, such as dance, and getting your feelings out to someone you trust. Open up to people.
The people that are treating you badly havent a right to do so and you have every right to call them upon it. Communicate with them and try to resolve the problem. If your friends still dont treat you right or have no respect or care for yourself and your friendship then you're best without them. You dont need people like that in your life.
As for your family - we all have family problems of a varying extent. Though we can't always fix them entirely we can learn to deal wth them and try to improve things. Again the key is communicating with your family. Approach your parents and talk to them about family situations and how youre feeling. let them be there for you.
There are many things that we need to deal with in every aspect of our life and it's all part of growing up. You need to learn how to deal in a positive way. Weed, other drugs, alcohol and abusing other substances wont resolve any situation. In the end it just makes you reliant on a substance to take your pain away and with or without drugs, you're going to need to face your problems some time. Look them head of and tackle them in an assertive manner.
Weed also has links to mental ill health as well as paving the way to other harder substances. There is nothing positive in negative escapism and dependence. This is life and its part of growing up. You just gotta learn like the rest of us. Dont risk your future and your health. At the end of the day it's just not worth it.
My dad was in a hit and run accident and he finally found the car who hit him, should he sue?
My dad was involved in a hit and run car accident 2 weeks ago. someone hit my dad. He finally found the car today by coincidence.The man that was driving the car that hit my dad said that his wife told him she hit a pole. Theres a little bit of our paint on his car and theres a lot of his red paint on our car. The insurance company told my dad the car was totaled, but my dad is a mechanic and he said it can be fixed but it costs $4,000. The man told my dad that he would pay for what is wife did. He said he would either pay for the damage done to the car or buy us another one. I just dont believe that he would do that. He said that we would have to wait 3 weeks though. My mom thinks the man is just saying that so he can fix his car. But he gave my dad his address, phone number, addreess of his job and my dad took his liscense plate number. the man wants us to wait 3 weeks, but I just dont trust him but my dad does. my mom thinks we should call the police now that we found them. he did call the police when the accident happened and they gave him a police report and they said they would investigate. the person that hit the car doesnt have insurance. the mans wife actually hit the car though and lied to her husband. I dont believe the man is going to fix the our car and my mom wants him to call the police. Should he call the police now or wait for the man to pay him for the car?
I think the guy sounds genuine but i think you should take precautions.
Give the guy a chance to come up with the money. Because she has no insurance chances are it's him thats going to have to fork over much more than it costs to fix or buy a new car not to mention he'll have a record with the DMV which can lead to all sorts of vehicular difficulties for him in future because of what his wife has done.
In the mean time there's nothing to stop your dad inquiring into his rights, whether waiting the three weeks or not will in any way harm his case should he decide to sue and look at all of his legal choices. He could also take the time to ensure that the information that the man gave him is valid.
If there's any sign that the guy is BSing then contact the police right away but i think it wise to give the guy a chance. I know if i were in that situation i'd immediately and genuinely offer to pay for the damages. Perhaps he just doesnt have the money right away.
This is just my opinion though. You know all of the details and the situation first hand. Discuss it as a family, see how you all feel about it and make a decision. Just take everything into account and make sure you know every legal right your dad has in this.
Hi, i jusst wanted to know if me and my 2 week old boyfriend should break up? This all started today when i sat on his knee (its ok im 16) and he said that i farted..... and i didnt!!! The second thing is thaat he touched my friends boob. The third thing is that when i was going up the stairs at school he said that i should get my "big butt" out of his face!! i was like WTF! shut the hell up! and when we were going to leave, he just said bye. not love you. just bye. we usually say i love you before we leave to go home. but he didnt today. He is always embarrising me infrount of my friends and im not liking it :( he is a sweet guy though and very romantic. but is this just a bump in the road in our relationship or should i make it a standstill thing?? so do you think i should dump him or not?? (sorry this is soo long i just had to get all the details so that i can get a honest answer) so thanx :D
You've been two weeks and already youre telling eachother you love eachother?
Lets look at the reality of this situation. You're a new couple and youre getting to know one another. All relationships are faced with problems, little or small. The main thing is communication. Talk about your problems with each other, little or small. hes not a mind reader and neither are you.
If he does something that hurts or offends you then tell him so! But do so in a respectable manner, not condescendingly.
You cant expect to be in a serious relationship after only two weeks; it takes months, a lot of time and getting to know eachother to find if youre compatible or not.
Just focus on the right now and date him. See how it goes and communicate, communicate, communicate. Give it some time and effort and see where your heart takes you, whether you see a future with him and ask yourself whether you both have put in enough into your relationship.
All you can do is make the effort and wait and see.
im 16 going to 17 soon , and my boyfriend and I have been dating for over a year now. The first time when we had sex was on our 4 meet up we used condom and so on... however we love having sex it gives us some beautiful feeling but we dont use condom anymore like it feels amazing without it, but im so scared to get pregnant however i did wanna have a baby with him but oh gosh my parents will freak out. I love sex , but i love doing it with him he was my firt ... but i told him i done it with two guys before . Strangest thing was when i lost my virginity to him i didnt bleed lool.. is that okay? please help :)
Every contraceptive carries a small risk of failing. Apparently condoms are effective for 97% of the time. Using both condoms and birth control, as is commonly used, is safer to avoid unwanted pregnancies. As long as you're on some sort of contraceptive you should be okay.
Condoms are also very effective in avoiding unwanted STI/STD's etc. so make sure you both get tested and cleared if you want to carry on without the use of condoms. You can never be too careful.
Many girls dont bleed or feel any pain, some experience a significant amount of pain, some bleed a little and others more. And many times it takes a few tries to be pain and blood free. It all varies on the person. It depends on the girl. The fact that you didn't bleed is perfectly normal.
im 17 and ive been seeing this guy for over a year we broke up last christmas and was planning to get back this year until my mum found out we had sex, she lost all her trust in me and we have of feelings for one another, its tearing me apart what can i do? :( i really wanna be with him, she dont wanna let me go on dates with him because shes scared i would go and have sex and get prenant. This is the main reason why we can't seem to be together. Helpppp me please !! its actually tearing me apart inside :( i'm in love with him. please thankyouu.
How can I make her see what i feel for him?!
It seems to me that what your mother is most upset about is not the fact that you had sex but because she had no idea you were sexually active. This is a trust issue and it must be addressed.
Every parent will be worried when their child becomes sexually active and i think the best way for a parent to ensure their kids safety and well being - as well as for the parent to realize that their daughter/son is mature enough to have a sexual relationship - is for them to approach their parents when they decide they've found the person that they feel they can trust and be comfortable with 100%.
It seems that most parents will never be ready for their kids to grow up and be sexually active. But the time will come and both parties need to be able to trust one another.
I think this is what you have to relate to your mother. Acknowledge how she feels and why she feels that way. Let her know that you are fortunate in that you have found a genuinely good guy who will treat you right and is the kind of person that everyone should have when it comes to their first time.
Make her aware of your knowledge when it comes to contraception, the risks involved and the precautions that you're taking. She needs to know that you know how to keep yourself safe and protected.
Most of all she needs to know that she raised you right. Tell her that you have no intention of falling pregnant or getting any sort of STI/STD. You dont sleep around, this is your first time with one guy that you have genuine feelings for. That she needs to trust that you know what your doing and even if it all goes wrong that youre going to need her by your side.
Tell her you want an open and honest relationship with her in which you can tell eachother everything and to have faith in you. You have to grow up some time and she has to let you do so.
Overall be genuine when you tell her that you want her included in your life. Keep her in the loop.
Perhaps invite him over and let your parents get to know him as a person better and to see that he's really a good guy.
You need to show your parents that they can trust you, youre mentally and physically ready and that you're safe. Trust must be earned. Next time approach your mum about whatevers going on. Dont let her find out this big secret from someone else. Can you see why shes hurt and taking such extreme measures? There are two very valid points to this story.
Does the guy Jizz when you give a hand job?
If its a good hand job. But guys tend to prefer oral stimulation both at the same time! Ejaculation mostly occurs at the final stage of orgasm which is preceeded by a sufficient amount of sexual arousal and stimulation to achieve orgasm and therefore ejaculation. There is also such a thing as a dry orgasm where a man does not ejaculate once achieving orgasm as well as 'wet dreams' which is the spontaneous ejaculation during sleep.
Should i masturbate since my boyfriend is at work and im bored?
There's absolutely nothing wrong or abnormal about masturbation. It's much more common than you might expect. So if you feel like it then go for it.