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I WANNA BE WITH HIM & MY MUM DONT LET ME SEE HIM.
im 17 and ive been seeing this guy for over a year we broke up last christmas and was planning to get back this year until my mum found out we had sex, she lost all her trust in me and we have of feelings for one another, its tearing me apart what can i do? :( i really wanna be with him, she dont wanna let me go on dates with him because shes scared i would go and have sex and get prenant. This is the main reason why we can't seem to be together. Helpppp me please !! its actually tearing me apart inside :( i'm in love with him. please thankyouu.
How can I make her see what i feel for him?!
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It seems to me that what your mother is most upset about is not the fact that you had sex but because she had no idea you were sexually active. This is a trust issue and it must be addressed.
Every parent will be worried when their child becomes sexually active and i think the best way for a parent to ensure their kids safety and well being - as well as for the parent to realize that their daughter/son is mature enough to have a sexual relationship - is for them to approach their parents when they decide they've found the person that they feel they can trust and be comfortable with 100%.
It seems that most parents will never be ready for their kids to grow up and be sexually active. But the time will come and both parties need to be able to trust one another.
I think this is what you have to relate to your mother. Acknowledge how she feels and why she feels that way. Let her know that you are fortunate in that you have found a genuinely good guy who will treat you right and is the kind of person that everyone should have when it comes to their first time.
Make her aware of your knowledge when it comes to contraception, the risks involved and the precautions that you're taking. She needs to know that you know how to keep yourself safe and protected.
Most of all she needs to know that she raised you right. Tell her that you have no intention of falling pregnant or getting any sort of STI/STD. You dont sleep around, this is your first time with one guy that you have genuine feelings for. That she needs to trust that you know what your doing and even if it all goes wrong that youre going to need her by your side.
Tell her you want an open and honest relationship with her in which you can tell eachother everything and to have faith in you. You have to grow up some time and she has to let you do so.
Overall be genuine when you tell her that you want her included in your life. Keep her in the loop.
Perhaps invite him over and let your parents get to know him as a person better and to see that he's really a good guy.
You need to show your parents that they can trust you, youre mentally and physically ready and that you're safe. Trust must be earned. Next time approach your mum about whatevers going on. Dont let her find out this big secret from someone else. Can you see why shes hurt and taking such extreme measures? There are two very valid points to this story.
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