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Hello, 16 F here

I don't know how to explain myself...
Why don't I list what I can think of?

-I have friends. I have a lot actually. All of my best friends aren't necessarily friends with each other (in other words i do noy have a close-knit group of friends)
- i do not hang out with them much
- normally i stay at home and go on the computer or do things with my family
- i often feel i can't talk about my problems with anyone
- i feel as if no on really knows who i am and what my personality is like
- that being said, my personality is CONSTANTLY changing depending on my surroundings. At school i am happy and nice and friendly and funny. With my famiy i am funny and irritated and very political, but i feel more relaxed. When in by myself i feel scary and alone and crazy almost. I dont feel like anyone likes me
- i DO NOT have suicidal thoughts. Of course i have wondered about it, but i cant imagine myself doing it EVER
- i eat a lot. A LOT . i eat when im bored, or i eat just because there are snacks in the kitchen
- my sleeping patterns are relatively normal
- sometimes i feel so empty and alone, no matter where i am. I feel like i cannot connect with anyone
- i have muscular aches regularly and i get strong headaches almost on a daily basis
- i have never had a boyfriend or kjssed a guy. However i have had MANY MANY opportunities. Also, sex doesnt necessarily interest me that much.
- i have good self esteem. I am not narcissistic, but i KNOW i am beautiful and smart. People often tell me i am both, so i guess i just believed it too.
- i feel out of touch with society. Sometimes, although i WOULD NOT EVER act on them, i actually SOMETIMES have homicidal thoughts..... That sounds so bad, but i am being completely honest, though

I am so sorry for the length
I just wrote anything that came to mind
How would you diagnose me... Depression? I am not sure and i am confused
Thank you so much for any help

PS i am sorry for any grammatical errors... I'm on my iphone :)
My question is... Do i have sone

The correct term is: you are completely sane and fine (well, as far as fine goes with what you are telling me) Of course, I'm not a doctor but you have explained a lot about my situation as well.
I have what is called manic depression. It's sort of like bipolar disorder, but to me it's a lot worse because you have more depressed days than you do happy days. But when you have happy days, it's even worse because you feel high and completely out of control of your body. It's awful. Anyways, you may have that. But i would tell your family that you need to speak with a counselor. I know it sounds awful, and it is, but it'll be nice to release some of your frustrations out on a complete stranger that isn't fazed by anything because they've seen everything, pretty much....
Of course, it'll probably result in pills, and if you can, avoid them and just try therapy (they aren't fun, the pills I mean, but they aren't deadly). If you do get on pills, don't worry, you won't be on them forever.
There is also the possibility that you are just going through that teenager phase where you don't feel like you belong, but you still should be treated so you don't get any worse. It isn't fun, but it'll help you some way.
I hope i didn't frighten you too much, I'm really just being honest because I don't want you to get any false information. If you want to talk to me ever about what it's like, I can help you, talk to you and stuff. :)
You can find my email on my advice column. :)
Good luck! I hope you'll email me, if not, I wish you the best!
xxxx.

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Im male ill be 15 next month and well i think im gay ive become really attracted to guys i keep staring at guys and at it turns me on i dont get turned on by looking at girls i like gay porn
i know im still young but does that make me gay?
is it normal to feel like this?

Well normally it's okay to experiment with your sexuality because a lot of teens are confused by if they are bisexual, straight, etc.
It's never too early to tell, but I'm not going to say that you ARE gay, but there is a strong possibility that you MAY be gay, yes.
I say you should wait at least a year, to be sure. Of course, if girls don't turn you on at ALL, and guys do, then yes, you have the possibility you are gay.
The best thing to do is to act on these intentions, find someone that is gay as well, or you don't have to. But the best way to figure it out is if you date a boy, so that you will know for sure IF you are gay or not.
At your age, yes, girls should attract you, unless you are not straight. But if you are, don't fret on it, yeah...kids hate people that are different, so what? You should embrace it and love it! It's what makes you who you are :)

good luck! (PS, I like gay people better anyways. They have a feeling of what girls ACTUALLY go through, plus they are more fun and more sensitive to women's feelings ;)haha)

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Im 16 male im gay ive been with my boyfriend for 6 months but im not sure if i want to stay in the relationship anymore weve seemed to have grown apart we spend less time together i like him but lately ive grown feelings for another guy we talk a lot we hang out a lot i havent done anything else i wouldnt cheat on my boyfriend but i have strong feelings for this guy we seemed to have more in common he is gay and he told me he likes me im torn between the two of them but i have stronger feelings for the other guy and i think i want to be with im torn how do i go about it?

Well, I've been told before that you should never make a guy think you two have something going if you don't have feelings for him. So, I would be honest with him. Tell your boyfriend you really like him, but you don't think you two should date anymore. Never feel pressured into staying in a relationship.
If you really like this other guy, go for him. It's better to be happy with someone you have strong feelings for than to be unhappy with someone you just like.
Good luck. Wish you the best.
xxxx

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15 f Bf: 17 m

To start off, I'm a very paranoid person in my relationship, because things happened which made me even more paranoid, and I don't know how I can just stop and relax.

I love my boyfriend, very much and I don't want to lose him. He has a hard life, his girl friends never treated him right, one actually slept with her step father, and said that he stalked her. His first girl friend passed away, in a car accident. I'm the only girl who has actually been faithful and loyal to you. I Love him very much. I just want him to be happy with me, he had feelings first for my best friend..who isn't my best friend now. His feelings recently came back because he spent more time with her, He resolved things with her, and he promised me he only wants to be with me.

I noticed, that he can't look me in the eye when he says "I Love You." I noticed him doing that, at the last dance at our school..and he said it's because he has been hurt so many times..:/ So, should I just relax and stop worrying or what? Do you think I'm just overreacting?

No you aren't overreacting. And why I'm telling you that is because, when I told my bf i loved him and wasn't sure i meant it, I would look away too.
You shouldn't be paranoid because chances are he probably is just scared.
Reassure him you aren't going anywhere. but MEAN it. If you don't, then don't say it.
Work it through with him. Talk more about his past and talk to him about how much you mean to him and everything. Just give him time as well, he probably just wants to make sure you are for real.

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My friend ahley thinks she is pregnet and what would happen if she has the baby???

Well she has a few choices.
1: She shouldn't just guess at this. Given her age, she needs to tell a parent. No matter how much trouble she'll get into.
2: I advise against an abortion only because she shouldn't have had sex in the first place if she isn't ready to raise a child. But that could be an option. But a murdering option.
3: Her parents can adopt the baby temporarily until she gets old enough to raise it, and claim it on her taxes for when she's older.
4: Or she can keep the baby as her own though she won't be able to raise it by herself.
5: Adoption. Most common in younger people but it's the worst in the long run for the child.
Tell her good luck and support her.
She should have looked at all the things that could have went wrong when she has sex though.

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Ok you may say I'm crazy but I will just be standing in line and weird voices in my head and I think weird & odd thingswilllpop up in my head. I'm really tall I'm a girl and I always seem to take things hard on myself.I'm book smart and physicly smart

I have basically the same problem. Though my voices will suggest things or put me down. If thats the case for you, its something called manic depression or just plain depression. I suggest you don't be so hard on yourself. I know, it's hard to stop. So you should talk to someone, you don't have to go to a doctor, but it helps a little, if not a lot.
Don't let them tell you your schizophrenic obviously, but if you get mad easily and have images pop into your head that amuse you, it's probably because you are just angry or because it's some other reason.
But you definitely aren't crazy.
:)
They'll go away, if you talk about it and stop being so hard on yourself. Maybe even, it's just your inner voice talking.

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im 15 and i don't want to be single anymore. i know i do not need a boyfriend and shouldn't rush it (etc.) but my main problem is where to find teenage guys? i go to the mall, the beach or anywhere else but i don't know how to apporoach them first of all. what do i say without sound creepy? haha "hey your cute wanna go out?" lol. it would be great if they would approach me but that doesnt happen. so i need to know where to find them and how to approach them. like what to say and any tips on what you do. thank you(:

Well try bowling places and ice skating and roller blading rinks. There should be a lot of teenagers there, mostly on weekends. How about school? If you go to school.
You approach guys and just be like "Hey! Having fun?" Or say "Hey can i play?" if your at the beach and you see guys playing a game. Something like that.
Be confident and if you get turned down, try again with someone else. If you go with friends, that would really help ya out.

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I need a surname that sounds really good with Isabel. My friends have chosen Isabel Varus, Isabel Caruso or Isabel Caverly but I'm unsure of all of these. I'd like some suggestions because to be honest I don't really like the above mentioned. I will rate.

Isabel:
Blessing(s)
Withers or writhers
Jamie or jamey
Little
righting or rights (wrights)
whiting
living
brainey
braithers
:)

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I am 15 years old ive had my period since i was 11 and tge last time i had my period was DEC 15 2010 and i missed january. During january i masturbated like put things in mY vajayjay. I never had sex before. Now its feb and now im feeling cramps, tiredness, backaches, and now i feel like crying for no reason.!! What is wrong with me.??,

There's nothing wrong with you. But could you have masturbated with something that had sperm on it?
If so you could be pregnant, so go see a doctor.
If not, it is normal. You can still show all the signs of having your period, without actually spotting. I'd give it another month or two before you really start to worry. Sometimes periods miss a month, mine has done that before.

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I killed my baby - now i can't live with the guilt. I don't know what to do.I am angry at the father for not caring and so I harass him as much as possible. My therapist says I need to let it go but I can't. Help me! How do I move on?

I'd say keep your mind on something else.
Do you mean like abortion?
If it was abortion, then there must have been a good reason for you to abort your child.
Just keep telling yourself that what you did was the right decision.
Time will heal your wounds of what happened.
You just need time. Don't forget your baby but also think of it as a blessing. If you couldn't raise the child, it is in a better place.

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I'm 16 and have had my period for 5 years. My period ended a week ago, and shouldn't be due for a few more weeks.

Just today, I got really dark brown something in my underwear, and it's not just spotting, it's a bit more. I would think it's discharge, but it's too dark, dry, and too much of it to be that.

What do you think it is?

Well it could just be your period again if it is becoming irregular. I'd wait a few days to see if it'll stop.
If it doesn't and you start feeling abnormal pain or the blood thickens, I'd see a doctor. There are a lot of possibilities it could be, but nothing I would want you to worry about quite yet. So just be careful and everything. Good lucky.

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I've been having this weird ankle pain in my left ankle. It kinda feels like it's in the vein, or on the bone. It's very sharp. When I get the pain, it only last for maybe 30 seconds. I haven't done any kind of sport or anything where I could have injured it. Does anyone know what could be wrong?

Well, considering we aren't there with you, there is no way of knowing for sure. You should speak with a doctor and they'll refer you to a specialist if they don't know what's wrong.
It could just be a growing pain if you are younger, or maybe you hit it, but i would still see a doctor to make sure everything is well.

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:( the boy i love is taken. Its an online relatonship between him and a girl. They've "dated" for a few months now, about five or six. She lives in the US, him in Asia.
I've loved him since when he was single..
I was wondering...do you think this'll last?
I cry every night..and wish I were dead.
Nothing for me ever seems to go right.
He knows how I feel, and he says he likes me as well, but is already in a relationship. I don't blame him, but I'm very depressed... :( Please help me..? What do I do..?

Well i suggest you let things play out. Right now he can't be with this girl actually, because he lives too far away. I'm going through a similar thing only not another girl.
I suggest you talk to a counselor about the wishing you were dead and depressed thing.
But the best advice I can offer you is his friendship. You could be happy that he is happy and wait it out. You could try finding someone else, who knows? Maybe you'll move on. Just take each day one step at a time.

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new years day was the last day of ma period and I got together with this guy I was dating for a while and he was drunk, and he forced me into something but I got out of his VERY tight hold before he makes me loose my virginity and slapped him and all.....But I noticed that he came on my area even though I cleaned it real quick !!

I am two weeks late for my period! So 3 days later I was with this guy, I was pissed and drunk (I dont drink, so it was this one night thing) and he put his thing in really hard like three times and I think I lost my virginity but I did not bleed whatsoever, but freaking out because he was giving himself a handjob before he put it and I WAS drunk... I am taking a pregnancy test tomorrow but could I be pregnant but the test wouldn't be accurate?! Plus, I feel come in my underwear literally every 5 minutes, I have been changing my underwear more than 4 times a day, what is happening to me?!

Okay well first things first, the guy you are dating forced you in sexually. Which is rape. You should talk to someone about it.
Though you cleaned it, the sperm undoubtedly made it's way in because just my laying with a naked guy and he ejaculates can get you pregnant.
You did lose your virginity, and your hymen doesn't necessarily pop the first few times you have sex. All depends on how tight or how stretched out it has gotten from other past activities. Such as putting in a tampon or horse back riding can stretch it out too.
You can take a test but I advise you to go to a doctor. You can look them up in a phonebook or online. If you are a teenager you can go to somewhere such as planned parenthood (all depends on where you live) and they won't contact your parents if you tell them not to because they could get sued. That would be more accurate.
What you are feeling in your underwear is not cum, you just are paranoid. It really is just your cycle. If what you are feeling is sort of slimy, and white or yellow, then it is your cycle finishing off.
Just be calm and handle it with a doctor's office. You could even go to your normal doctor, and they wouldn't be able to tell your parents or any body without your permission.

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I found some blood about 5 days ago, but nothing else so now I'm kind of worried please help!!!!

Give it a month. When you get your period you will feel a little pressure in your lower stomach, where you normally get your cramps. You will also have brown blood on your pants if you are getting ready to start.
If it's your first time, usually it doesn't last very long until a few months later.
Just be patient, everything will straighten out within a few months.

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hi, i am shirin bansal, male, 18 years old from india. its about my first love.we got to know each other in a coaching in October,2009.to keep the story short, i started liking her, proposed her for being a girlfriend, she never said yes or no, it was all well for just 20 days, then everything went wrong, we never dated, i lost total contact after 17th march,2010 but always sent her messages on her phone and facebook profile, i stalked her.meanwhile, in that time, she got admission in a far city for college.one day, i got her number, called her but i was too desperate and nothing changed.i tried once more but this time she was too loud and rude, so i stopped contacting her since October,2010.

Everything went wrong because of me. i never understand any situation, never gave her space, i was too desperate and never used my brain.

The thing is even today, i think of her every second, i feel its incomplete, i want another chance as i feel i can now handle it very well.But she is completely screwed up with my constant desperate behaviour. i want to start from nil, to be friends again, then take it to the level of relationship,slowly and gradually

how can i start from scratch,how will she become normal and atleast be my friend?she has set up her mind not to talk to me?i love her, i miss her but i am mature now and can be her boyfriend if she forgets the past.will time normalize her? how much time will fade away my past image?

I say give her space for a little while. Maybe even a couple months. Girls like their space and like to think things through. Then, call her. Tell her (if she doesn't answer, leave a message) that you are sorry for being so stalkerish in the past. You really just want to be friends and you two should hangout some time. Give it a couple weeks, and if she still doesn't call you, then oh well. At least you tried. Time will only tell if she wants to be friends with you or not. Though you can't force her to like you.
Some tips: girls like feeling wanted, but they also want time alone as well. They don't like being called every single minute five times a day. Once or twice will do. For your girl maybe one or twice every few days. Dont control her, trust her. All will be well. XX

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20/f. I've been singing since I was like 9 years old. Suddenly, my voice has been cracking and it's like I can't control my voice anymore. It's really weird. I have a youtube channel and I can't even add new music my voice is going like crazy on me. What's going on? Maybe if any of you are singers you can help me? Could it be that if I hadn't practiced my singing in a few weeks, I just got rusty? Help!

I'm a very young singer but my voice has been acting weird also. I would drink drinking some honey. Don't take a whole but, just a teaspoon, and work your way up. Just do some voice exercises for a few days. :)
This is great advice, maybe i should try it myself? ;)

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ok so my ex and i broke up about a year ago and we still talk you know its all casual, but lately now we see more of each other so we've been talking more. so lately hes been bringing up things that happened when we were together and hes been trying get us physically close, but at the same time i know he has a girlfriend and he sometimes talks about her. i dont know how to interpret the way hes acting around me, what should i do?

You should tell him to stop.
It's fine if he brings up his past with you because it is inevitable. Obviously it's going to happen. But don't let him get physically close, unless he wants to break it off with his girlfriend.
Goddess bless.
xx

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i want to quit my job because my boss is a racist bt my partner is not letting me do it

I'm not sure why her or she isn't letting you but for one:
your partner isn't the boss of you, and tell them that.
Also, as long as you plan on getting another one soon, there shouldn't be a problem.
Just start looking for a new job. You can also file a complaint to the HEAD of your company to let them know that you are working for a racist person. That's a good idea to start with. They will have to deal with it because it goes against your rights if they ignore you. No one should be treated unfairly.

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My wife is constatnly fighting with me calling me an alcoholic on a daily basis and throwing huge fits all the time about drinking. I am a well educated profession who drinks only about once a month, weekend only. When I do drink I will have several drinks, get a nice buzz, eat and go to sleep.

She comes from an alcoholic family (father, brothers) and says my drinking is a MAJOR issue, but I don't get into trouble, I do it only at home, I never go to bars, I dont drive or hurt anyone or anything, and I have a great job and treat her very well, and I only do it every so often, as I said about once a month. I see no problem except that she dislikes it so much.

Is this truly an alcohol issue or is this something that is about her and her past? What should I do besides stopping entirely which I dont think is fair. If i want to drink once a month on a Saturday after a long week, why can't I?

You can! I would talk to your wife about seeking professional help, you could also go with her to her appointments and try to resolve the issue together.
You aren't an alcoholic. My step dad drinks several beers a NIGHT. Which is worse than several beers Once. a. month.
It's just her past and her. Truth be told, she is probably scared to death about your drinking thinking you'll get as bad as her family.
Sit down with her calmly and talk to her, no yelling.
Don't give up on her :) this girl needs you.
Goddess bless you.
xX

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