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i really like this guy and i'm pretty sure he likes me. he's hinted it but hasn't come right out and said it but a while ago he promised himself that he's not going to have any relationships for a while because they've caused him a lot of grief and stress. so i'm asking you guys, if you like someone but don't want a relationship even though you know that you and this person would be good together, is there any chance that you would make an acception?? (link)
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Honestly, most guys would.
I would.
If you like him, be persistent, and he will cave. Seriously, guys have no willpower in that area.
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what is the sexiest thing to do to a guy w/ youre hands (link)
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Make him dinner.
Haha sorry, I couldnt resist.
And there are a ridiculously large number of answers to a question like this. Different guys like different things. Talk it out.
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16/m
I have this friend. Well, now we're more than friends because she asked me out today. and i said yes. I really really like this girl, but im afraid things are getting awkward between us, and because of it she'll break up with me. and this is only the first day...
Im not sure if maybe im just being paranoid or something, but the only way we knew each other was because we made fun of one another and joked around. now that we're more than just friends, I don't know what should change and what shouldn't.
the point is, i really like this girl, but i dont really know HOW to be her boyfriend. i dont want us to be ruined. and i dont want us to break up either... thats why this is confusing me.
anyway, here's my main question: is this just the type of thing we will get used to? or is this never going to work out between us? PLEASE help. (link)
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You're stressing out too much.
Be yourself. She asked you out. That means that she likes who you are.
Conversation is one of the many ways into a womans heart. Ask her about herself. Things you dont know, like what she wants to do with her life, what she likes doing. Find something you have in common and talk it to death.
Its a day old. If you are stressing out about it this much then it WILL die. No girl wants to be with a guy who is a nervous wreck around her. Like I said, remember that she asked you out. She already likes you. That means it is no longer your job to make her like you.
Its your job not to mess it up.
(lol)
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16/f
i've fallen in love with the foreign exchange student. he's from france, he's a senior and i'm junior in high school. he came in august and was staying with a friend of mine so i got to know him pretty well. he was in my gym class too.
anyway he's only staying until he graduates and then he's going back to france. we kissed over the summer and have talked about a relationship but we're really not sure if it's worth it or not. he's so sweet but if we get into a relationship and it really works out and then he moves back to france we're both going to be heartbroken and devestated.
i love france and i've been there before but it's a completely different country! how do i handle this? (link)
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You dont live your life now based on possible hurt later.
So many people are unable to do that, to even the smallest nuances of their lives. Look at how much some people on here agonize over just talking to the opposite sex. People act as if every rejection was the last chance they will ever get with anyone.
Yeah. The guy or girl you are looking at may be the last person you ever date. The last person you will ever need. They could also be someone you dont remember their name a few years from now. But either way, why would you trade the possibility of good memories to avoid pain later.
Pain is part of life. Its going to come one way or another.
Another thing to note. In a year, who knows what can happen. Not you, not I.
Take more chances with your life. Date this guy. If nothing else, you will hopefully have some wonderful memories.
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I am an intelligent junior in high school and as of now i have yet to have a real boyfriend. i look at other girls walkin around w/ their guys and i get so left out. i dont know what i m not doing. i mean, when i like a guy, its pretty frickin obvious but i can never get them to notice me like i want. and if they do its one of those "courtesy talks", like they'd rather be doing something else.
i will probably graduate 1st in my class, as much as i m working now...
but my lovelife has yet to begin and i feel like i m working so hard, but still not feeling as satisfied/happy with my life as i want (link)
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Alright heres the long and short of it.
Most people like being able to somewhat manipulate those around them. Whether you like to make others laugh, and smile, or make them cry, its a common desire.
Men, in particular, have a tendency towards being attracted to women they have some level of control over. Whether we can trick girls into doing what they want, whether all we have to do is ask, some guys need the command thing too, its a very common thing for most guys to be prey to.
So enter you.
You are intelligent. We can sense that immediately. Possibly more than we are. We might not be able to get a good read on you and if we do, we are somewhat intimidated by what we see.
A girl who is difficult to outsmart. A girl who seems impervious to cheeseball lines and all the other bullshit guys make up in high school to try to seem more attractive to the opposite sex.
We're stymied. You may even be hot, but we have no idea how to approach you. We dont know what you want. And we're scared of trying and finding out we dont measure up to your standards. Rejection is a bitch.
So heres you. Being avoided or treated courteously instead of hit on and flirted with. And you feel like its somehow a judgement negatively against you.
Its not.
You just have to know what you're looking for. I'm sure there are plenty of guys that know you that appreciate you for who you are. Don't get discouraged.
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Alrighty where to start? Well I've known my best female friend for about a year. I always try to do the sweet things such as getting her candy, carrying her books, even going shopping with her. Even at school people always make rumors about us going out, but there are times where I feel like she has interest in me and times where I don't feel anything. She doesn't know that I like her. My question is should I confess to her or if not what should I do?
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I'll tell you right now, transitioning from a year long friendship into romance is hard, often impossible. Why? Because if she was interested in you, it was at the start. And by now, shes buried that.
Shes going to enjoy having you as an attentive friend. But shes not going to want more. She doesnt need to date you to get what shes already happy with. Thats a mistake to catalogue for the future. If you do everything a girl would want in a boyfriend without actually being her boyfriend, shes going to look elsewhere for that.
First thing you need to do, regardless, is stop doing every little thing for her. If you do ask her out, then you want to do it on equal terms. Not when you're basically whipped. If you dont, then you dont need to be spending all your time mooning over this girl. Separation helps get over it.
Once you pull away, look for something. Does she express more interest in you? If you dont carry her books and go shopping with her, does she seek out other time spent with you?
If she chases a bit, Id risk asking her out. Right now, if nothing else, you're young. You have many, many, many chances ahead of you. If you blow this one, you learn from it, and you can apply that better next time.
If you stop doing things for her and she just kinda doesnt notice, maybe just ignores you a bit now, etc. She was using you.
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Okay ,so I want to know when my true love might come along. Because I've been searching and no guy is right, I always find a flaw in every guy. I want to find that one guy that makes me happy and doesn't turn me off.
Not a lot of guys want to go out with me. I don't think it's because I'm ugly. People tell me I'm pretty all the time but it's just I'm 16. So am I too young to have a boyfriend? If so then when is it time? (link)
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Are you too young to date? Not really.
Are you too young to be looking for something serious? Definitely.
At 16 you are changing. I know you've probably heard it before, but by the time you are 18, you will be a completely different person. By the time youre 22, you will be a completely different person from who you were at 18.
It starts to stretch out from there. But you are changed by the things that happen in your life, and right now someone whom you are compatible with you almost certainly wont be compatible with later.
You're only sixteen. Don't think too much about the romantic choices that you make. In the end it won't be worth all of the worry. It can't hurt to just try and be happy for now.
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So I really really like this girl, but she has me eating out of her hand. I can't stop, she's a master of manipulation. Or maybe I'm just nuts about her. Any thoughts that could help me out? (link)
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One of three things is going to happen to you.
1) You will continue to fall head over heels for girls before they fall for you, and sometimes even when they dont. Girls like this will use you and discard you until you are bitter and so emotionally armored that you have difficulty with relationships for the rest of your life because of your deep seated inability to trust women you like.
2) You will be pushed past a point of anger with a girl and will focus all of negative emotions on her and completely blow up. You will be angry and distant with relationships, which ironically stands a chance of making you better with the ladies. Your ability to not give a shit the way you used to will attract women who want to "tame the beast".
3) You will become angry with yourself for letting people treat you like crap all the time. This will either result in suicide or serious self examination and positive changes to your demeanor and behavior.
Actually, you'll probably just keep making this mistake until youre like 25, and you'll either find a girl who treats you right by chance, or you'll end up with a domineering bitch who refuses to let go of her hold on you and you'll end up married either way.
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I am a man in my 20s. I've had this female friend since I started college, and she's one of the best friends I could ever ask for.
Thing is, I have had a crush on her since she and I met. Now, the attraction never changed, but I know that she will not see me as anything more than a friend. In fact, she's maintained friendships with people who were attracted to her, because as she says, "Why should she let that change the friendship?"
The thing is, I don't know how to tell her. I'm afraid that I'll be the exception to her rule. And I know she and I will not be together like that, but I want to be honest with my friend.
Help me be honest without losing my friend. I know it already seems like she would accept me anyway, but still, I'm afraid. (link)
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You are being used. Yeah, she likes you as a friend and doesnt want to change that. Why? Because the constant hope that she might change her mind makes you malleable, agreeable, and eager to please.
She is using you, whether either of you realizes it or not. But its not entirely your fault. You enable this.
Guy to guy, stop being such a pussy. I really can't put it any other way. Every guy deals with attraction. But unless its a two way street do not let it evolve past attraction. Falling in love with friends who don't love you back is stupid.. sigh and unnecessary.
I say this because it WILL eventually destroy the relationship. You can't want a friend, not get her, and be OK with that.
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im looking for songs on these topics
i like everything but rap
although i prefer indie,alternative,rock,punk and even pop punk
but whatevers fine
-losing your best friend
-your first time
-you likesomeone who likes your bestfriend
-really good break up songs with good meaning
for both you breaking up with them
and them breaking up with you
-rape
whatecer you can do,id appricate
:]] (link)
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All these songs fit/semi fit what you were looking for:
-Something Corporate: Konstantine
-Last Winter: Girl Next Door
-The Rocket Summer: Goodbye Waves and Driveways
-October Fall: Tongue Tied
-Holiday Parade: Walking By
-Dropout Year: Tire Swing Romance
-Four Letter Lie: Firecracker
-The Spill Canvas: All Hail the Heartbreaker
-The Spill Canvas: 3685
-The Spill Canvas: So Much
-Every Avenue: Think of You Later
-Bedlight for Blue Eyes: Walk With Me
-Anberlin: A Day Late
-Asteria: The Taste, The Touch
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I come from a very religious family and go to a christian school.
We talked about God all the time in classes and mostly good things.
God is all about love, forgiving, a way of life.
The thing is, that we were only being tought just chosen quotes and not the hole thing.
I bumped across this site that has all those particular stuff chosen from The Bible, The Old and New Testament and I found out crazy evil stuff inside there.Horrible stuff. Of course I am not gonna argue with my parents, let them think whatever OR my friends.
This has really been a life changing experience for me, something really mind opening and a new way of life free out of human stupidity.
Stupidity that tells you "Dont be evil cause you ll burn in hell", when it should actually be more like "Dont be evil cause you shouldn t be".
Or sayings against premarital sex or "Smoking sends you to hell" and that drinking is evil.
I get drunk like twice a year, and dont feel the need to drink more and more. And by drunk I mean a little bit tipsy.
Or why is oral sex evil and immoral? What harm does it do?Its been a while since I found joy in both giving and receiving it lol...
In case you were wondering, this is the site
http://www.truechristian.com/confessionboothx.html.
It talks about, slavery, in breeds (Lot) and put things in a way new perspective.
I have validated the facts from the bible.All it takes is make a little extra reading from what they tell you to read in school.And you are free to find out for yourself.
Of course I am not going to turn Muslim, the Allah religion is way more obscene and violent.
But I do believe in soul and one true god.
I also do believe in Jesus as an historical figure and share the same philosophy. All the good things he said.
But priests, school, religious people and books written by people, rules build by people (for instance oral sex.drinking,smoking) are violating Jesus work and the real Gods work.
No I dont expect Jesus to be smoking, but he was a human and a God. And there is no need for some being to expect from us to not be doing those stuff if that greater being gave us the present of life in the first place.
Do you suppose there is another sub christian party that works according to my beliefs? Of course I dont mean a church where people get drunk or something, but a church that celebrates life just as God intented instead of looking forward to death. (link)
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ok me and him like eachother but hes talking about this do you think hes trying to make me jealous? i didnt really get jealous but is he? we were talking on aim and this is the convo:
him you know this 1 vietnamese girl keeps flirting with me
him: kick her butt
me: hahah
me: what the heck
me: no
me: ahhaha
me: vietnamese girl
me: hahaha
him:yeah she keep massaging me and stuff
me: hahahah
me: haha
me: how does it feel
him: its cool shes good
him: better than u
him: haha
me: =]
him: HAHAHA
me: ahhaha
him: hey
him: !
me: yes
me ?
him: you suck....
me: what?
me: how
me: i didnt do anything
him :exactly
what does it mean when i said"i didnt do anything? and he said exactly? (link)
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The idea that people actually talk like this is much more shocking that any other question or query you could possibly have.
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Hi im a girl and i was wondering what drives a guy crazy? like something that makes him want you more than anything. and we arent tecnically dating so not something involving sexual stuff haha just like major flirting and i can touch him lol were super close friends and we kissed before too and we hug a bunch and occasionally hold hands. he's pretty outgoing not popular or preppy but hes got a good amount of friends and hes really nice and stuff. i want something i can do that would really catch his attention and turn him on. something i could do in public hahaha something i could say and do is fine. whatever works im up for! haha thanks sooo much! and i will rate all helpful advice!!!!! (link)
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haha whaaaaat
I can't give away all of my secrets. If I did then all my fans would know everything.
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okay so there is this kid named mike, and i have been on and off liking him, like im kinda confused cause he likes this other girl. But deep down i know i REALLY like him.
well last night i had the best dream,
idk where we were but like i guess i was cold and he like gave me his sweatshirt to wear and we were like holding hands taking a walk and stuff...
idk but this dream made me like REALLY really happy!!! and i have this like vibe that it meant something but i cant figure out what.
its making me mad cause i want it to be true so badlyyyy!!!!
so like does anyone know what this means or am i just wanting something so bad my mind is playing tricks on me?!?!
i really want it to mean something, i really want that to happen
P.S we are good friends we hang out and talk alot so yeah =]
helpp (link)
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To pull from my bank of Hitch quotes:
"So how does it happen, great love? Nobody knows... but what I can tell you is that it happens in the blink of an eye. One moment you're enjoying your life, and the next you're wondering how you ever lived without them. "
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i need to piss someone off and say fvck you.
what should i do? (link)
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lol.
I believe you just answered your own question.
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do you think it's too fast to be past second base after 3rd week of going out? (link)
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no.
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hey im a girl
i just wnana kno
why guys do this
1:they like ignore you for a day and then the next they start talkin to you
2:they are so confusin sometiems uthink they like you beccacuse of thyre smile or something
and you neverrealy now
why do they give mixed signals??
Haha
thats all really
:P thanks
PEACE (link)
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I think you pretty much summed it up.
"you neverrealy now"
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I'm getting a side kick soon,
but i want to know, which one would you recommend?
Sidekick one, two, or three?
any other cellphones worth checking out?
thanks :] (link)
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http://img470.imageshack.us/img470/7830/4535fd5.gif
imo.
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Now that it's fall, I am getting like really serious allergies. I use two Rx medicines for it (one for day, another for evening use), but when I get attacks of sneezing in the morning, neither of them work for at least 4 hrs, then they work for another 3 hrs, then stop. I am getting really embarrassed and annoyed that my allergy fits interrupt school, assemblies, hanging out, and even sleeping. I am kept awake by my sneezing for up to 5 hours past the time I go to bed. I get up very early, so this is a big problem. I get up at least 10 times per class at school, which lasts 1 hour a class. Blowing and rubbing my nose makes it red, raw and painful. Any helo please? (link)
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ACHOO!!
Change prescriptions.
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So I'm a senior in high school. There's this cute guy that I like that I've known since sophomore year. I liked him back in sophomore year and I'm pretty sure he liked me but, he just didn't show it back then and was way too shy. So anyways I moved on and we stayed general friends throughout.
Then near the beginning of this summer we started talking pretty consistently again and I began to develop feelings again. This time however, he's much more responsive, but in a more friendly way. We talk on the phone, in the halls, and on AIM but its really just about normal stuff like school and etc.
We flirt sparingly, and the only thing keeping me from thinking that he just views me as a friend is the amount of attention he shows me.
In truth I am convinced he feels the same way, I just don't know how to take it to the next level with the semi-awkward situation we have now. Any help would be great! (link)
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Gah! Too many serious questions. I don't even know how to give a smart ass response to this, so once again here goes.
I can understand your situation and I'm sure it's a common one many people have. Unfortunately for you, since he's showing no signs of taking it to the next level, that responsibility falls to you.
You could try flirting with him more and then waiting for a response, but honestly you're better off just getting it over with and asking him out. From what you've told me, he sounds like he'd accept and the beginning of your relationship could be a little awkward, but it's infinitely better than never knowing.
I couldn't follow my own advice in your situation, but that's why I'm just sitting here, giving it. (lol)
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