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Alrighty where to start? Well I've known my best female friend for about a year. I always try to do the sweet things such as getting her candy, carrying her books, even going shopping with her. Even at school people always make rumors about us going out, but there are times where I feel like she has interest in me and times where I don't feel anything. She doesn't know that I like her. My question is should I confess to her or if not what should I do?
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I'll tell you right now, transitioning from a year long friendship into romance is hard, often impossible. Why? Because if she was interested in you, it was at the start. And by now, shes buried that.
Shes going to enjoy having you as an attentive friend. But shes not going to want more. She doesnt need to date you to get what shes already happy with. Thats a mistake to catalogue for the future. If you do everything a girl would want in a boyfriend without actually being her boyfriend, shes going to look elsewhere for that.
First thing you need to do, regardless, is stop doing every little thing for her. If you do ask her out, then you want to do it on equal terms. Not when you're basically whipped. If you dont, then you dont need to be spending all your time mooning over this girl. Separation helps get over it.
Once you pull away, look for something. Does she express more interest in you? If you dont carry her books and go shopping with her, does she seek out other time spent with you?
If she chases a bit, Id risk asking her out. Right now, if nothing else, you're young. You have many, many, many chances ahead of you. If you blow this one, you learn from it, and you can apply that better next time.
If you stop doing things for her and she just kinda doesnt notice, maybe just ignores you a bit now, etc. She was using you.
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