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Crush
I am a man in my 20s. I've had this female friend since I started college, and she's one of the best friends I could ever ask for.
Thing is, I have had a crush on her since she and I met. Now, the attraction never changed, but I know that she will not see me as anything more than a friend. In fact, she's maintained friendships with people who were attracted to her, because as she says, "Why should she let that change the friendship?"
The thing is, I don't know how to tell her. I'm afraid that I'll be the exception to her rule. And I know she and I will not be together like that, but I want to be honest with my friend.
Help me be honest without losing my friend. I know it already seems like she would accept me anyway, but still, I'm afraid.
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You are being used. Yeah, she likes you as a friend and doesnt want to change that. Why? Because the constant hope that she might change her mind makes you malleable, agreeable, and eager to please.
She is using you, whether either of you realizes it or not. But its not entirely your fault. You enable this.
Guy to guy, stop being such a pussy. I really can't put it any other way. Every guy deals with attraction. But unless its a two way street do not let it evolve past attraction. Falling in love with friends who don't love you back is stupid.. sigh and unnecessary.
I say this because it WILL eventually destroy the relationship. You can't want a friend, not get her, and be OK with that.
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