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Q: I don't meant to sound mean, but if a person has flab hanging out, they should not wear tight, revealing clothes that a skinny person would wear. I'm tired of seeing women in particular wearing halter and short tops with their flab hanging out the sides, and their bottoms straining the seams of their tight, low-cut jeans. I'm not a skinny mean girl saying this, I have extra pounds on me and I try to dress in a way that flatters me and hides what I don't want to show off. Do these women think they look good? Are they in denial? What is the deal?

oh my gosh!! I totally agree with you. Although people should wear what they like, clothes come in diff. sizes. some clothes look bad on thin people too, just so I dont sound like rude...

Q: Why are you homophobic? A confused girl asked a question, and you call her a "sick freaky lesbo"! You shouldn't be allowed to give advice. And I bet you won't put this in your column because you dont want people to know that you are homophobic. And you want to know something? People who are homophobic often have doubts about their own sexuality. Think about that, why don't you.

I'm so sorry, but I am not homophobic. I am perfectly straight. and FYI, i didn't answer that question. It was actually my friend who was on my account and decided to write that. oh and I can give advice. Anyone can. My friend doesn't believe in being Lesbian, however, I find it okay. No, I am not lesbian, but I happen to have a friend who is. And she is one of my best friends. I fully support her AND her girlfriend.

Q: im 15 my boyfriend wants me to have sex i said no
my main worry is his penis is big and that it might hurt was i right in doing this? and does
it hurt the first time?

You were totally right for saying no! I'm only thirteen, so I can't answer the last question. However, you are only fifteen. I believe you should wait until you are married to have sex.

Q: I'm in fifth grade and I always fall for guys who are older (7th-9th grades) or have girl friends my friends always try to find me guys to crush on in my grade but It's always back to these older guys. I just think"dang hes hot and nice and all" and im in love, it's riddicolous and it's weird the girls in my grade are more for fifth grade boys it's so different.

Hey! I can understand, actually, I'm surprised that the other fith-grade girls don't fall for the older guys. honestly, I think it is fine to date a sixth grader or a seventh grader. however, being an eighth grader, trust me, once they are in eight grade, they start trying to do stuff that isn't good for a fifth grader. Stay with 6-7 and it will be fine :)

Q: What do you do when all you think about is dying?

You should tell someone. Death is Natural, it should not be caused by your wanting to die. If you die, EVERYONE who knows you will lose something, not only you.

Q: I have been told that I am a very gifted actress, and my drama teacher said that I should get into theatre camp, but I live with my dad, and money is tight. I really want to go to theatre camp, but all the places I looked at are day camps that cost way too much money. (my dad has a tough job and cant drive me to and from camp so it would have to be an overnight camp) any ideas what I should do?

HELP ME!!!

I think that you should get a job or offer to help around. Do you have neighbors that need yard work or need their pets taken care of? Or are there nearby stores that you could work at? try to find a job that you will enjoy and at the same time will earn you enough money to go to camp. As far as getting there, as your neighbors. If you do all that work for them, they can't help but say okay.

I realllly hope you get to theatre camp!! Good luck!! and if you get there, HAVE FUN!!

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Q: My parents smoke pot and I've always known that but I have been taught in school that POT IS BAD. I want them to stop but I'm afraid to tell them. Is it really that bad?
~gir with pothead parents~

yes its very bad. it distorts your mind so that you imagine that something is happening when its not. i think that you should tell your school guidence councilor ASAP

Q: She is 4 and she almost always wants to pretend to be a cartoon character, and wants me to be one too. Sometimes, I just am not in the mood to be a cartoon character and talk in a silly voice. I already told her I won't do it in public, and she understands, but she still bugs me to be characters at home. How do I get her to stop this, or at least not expect me to play along with it every time? It's getting old. Does anyone else have kids that do this?

actually, i am 13 years old and i think i could be of some help. your daughter sounds like she wants attention. when i was that age, i wanted attention so much that i would do similar stuff. when she asks to play cartoon, offer to take her outside or take her out for a treat. maybe she is just bored.....

Q: When I go back home on weekends, my parents get really upset when I want to take off in the evening and see my friends. They complain that they never get to see me and all this, and don't understand why I even want to keep in touch with my old friends anyway, it's nuts. So I'm thinking about going and staying with friends in their town and just not telling my parents that I'm there. I know if they find out they'd be really upset, but they guilt me if I don't spend every second with them when I'm in town. Is it wrong to lie to my parents about visiting my hometown, or a necessary evil to see my friends?

try and balance your time with them. your parents obviously miss you, so plan one night at home with them to do something. then use the rest of the time to do whatever

Q: should i ask my mother if i can have sex or not?

well, depends. if you are older than 15, and she is someone you can talk about sex with, sure why not? but if you are younger than 15 and you cant talk about sex with her, then the answer is no.

Q: Ok me and this guy have been talkin on msn messenger for about a mounth or two (don't worry i kno his little sis) And we have no clue what each other look like now he wants me to go and meet him @ the bowling alley His sis says that he's kool and all and that i should start to date him and i don't kno what to say or do! I mean we both seem to like each other. Should i go with him, or just keep talkin on messenger?

Love,
!!Plz Help!!

well, you do know his sister, and she doesn't say he is a psycho murder, right? i think you should meet him with her company. if you like him, then you two could go out on your own. that way, with her if he is a jerk, then you can avoid him and only talk to her.

Q: Hi,
I'm having trouble putting my banner on my top site list for people to use.Also I'm confused.
What do they mean by"banner url??"
help!!

well upload your banner on photobucket.com then the little url they give you...well copy it on the banner url bar...

Q: I'm out of toothpaste. Is it socially acceptable to use ground up Mentos as a tooth-care substitute?

Not really....go to the store and buy some more toothpaste

Q: How can i make a room feel calm
and want to work

you should get a conopy thing and put it in the corner of your room. then take a bunch of pillows and pile them over there. you can do your homework and read stuff there :)

Q: I have a very adorable cat named Kiwamu sitting on my lap, but sometimes, when she miows, i'm not sure what she wants. I'm pretty sure it just means she's board, but I can't always let her outside. She always has plenty of food out, and she knows where her litter box is, so I'm sure it is just because she wants attention. How can I keep her entertained when I can't let her outside?

try petting her. if she is playful, go to petsmart and buy a bunch of kitty toys

Q: i want a lion 4 a pet
how do i get it without joinin the circus

you cant. they are wild animals and it is illegal to have them as a pet. sorry.

Q: is a fish a good pet? or is a dog better? i cant decide, people help me!!!

weell, if you want a pet that you can do stuff with AND if you have enough time and stay at home enough, a dog would be better. if you are always away and love watching an animal swim back and forth back and forth, an fish would be better. but seriously, if you are usually gone during the day but want a fun pet, get a cat. but dont get a dog if you dont have a LOT of free time and a LOT of room.

Q: I have this crush on a girl and i dont know what to do

well, try to be nice to her. if there is a school dance coming up, ask her if you two could go together. if not, ask if she wants to go to a movie. try to get to know her and she may find that you are a sweet guy and you two could go out :)

Q: I am Juliet. My Romeo is gay. At the end of the play there's a kissing scene. So as not to offend his homosexuality I need to learn how to fake kiss. Any ideas?

You two are actors, and are not actually kissing. its just like if romeo was not gay.

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Hey Everyone!! My Name is Lara. Thats my picture above ^^^ on a horse I used to have... k...dont have any pictures with my face :/ Umm soo Feel free to ask any question you need to ask. I love to help people! dont feel shy at all, I'll never know who you are unless you tell me :D
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Lara