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I'm afraid I'm going to have to get my wisdom teeth taken out soon, but I have a horrible, irrational fear of the dentist.
It's not just a fear like most people's fear of the dentist. It's partly that, but there's more to it. I had the worst orthodontist in the world. I had braces for three years and the whole time, I had to go to the orthodontist once a month. I dreaded every time. It never got easier. My orthodontist was rude, abrasive, and down right scary. If you told him that something he did hurt, he'd say, "No it didn't." He often did painful procedures without warning you. He ripped out my last baby tooth without letting me know he was gonna do so and the tooth wasn't even loose. It was also a silver tooth, so it really hurt, but he was very insensitive about it. This is just one of many examples of the kinds of things he did. He also once upset one of his employees so much that I think she quit and called for a ride home, but while she was doing so, he ripped the phone off of the wall.
This orthodontist have me an irrational fear of the dentist and now I'm scared to have any dental work done. However, I can't ignore my wisdom teeth becoming impacted. I've put off getting them removed BEFORE they became impacted, but I'm just not gonna be able to keep doing that.
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call a different orthodontist office. every if you have to go to a different town.
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OK so I am a lesbian and consider myself out of the closet, as in my friends and family all know and I am comfortable telling people. This one girl isn't homophobic she's just really annoying about it. Like she keeps thinking I have a crush on her even though she is really fat and ugly...she also always has to say she is straight. Like if I say "my hair is not straight, just like me." She'll have to chime in with "my hair is straight just like me." and it's really fucking irritating. She also has to constantly point out my sexuality whenever rainbows are involved, for example, my other friend had made phone cases for a scene in the play (we are all in drama club) and asked her to pick one. One of them had a rainbow design so she was all like "I'm going to pick this one in honor of *insert my name*" then for the next hour was like "do you get it...do you get why I picked it in honor of you" I'm not ashamed of being gay but holy shit I don't need to be reminded every 2 seconds. And if someone says faggot or something she'll start screaming, then be like "OMG we have a GAY person in the room!!!!" While pointing at me, or she *always* has to tell off homophobic people *because of me.* Standing up to homophobes isn't the problem, it's just that I don't like being singled out and othered all the damn time and even if you didn't have a single gay friend you still should be against homophobia...and if something even slightly good happens to the LGBT community she goes way over the top excited (more excited than any community member I've ever met and I've met plenty.) Of course she pins her excitement on me. Tbh I feel like she's gay or bi herself and doesn't accept herself, or her parents are against it, or something and is trying to live it out through me. In which case she sounds like cringey 12-14 year old LGBT emo kid who admins an LGBT Instagram page. A big reason I feel this way is how she behaves towards a mutual friend of ours. Lets call her N. N is an absolute sweetheart, a very likeable, terribly nice girl and I don't think she has a drop of hate inside her but honestly the way she acts towards N is so weird. Like she's developed this creepy Asian fetish after meeting her (N is Japanese) and is constantly hugging and grabbing her, and if anyone else tries to high five her or something she'll get insanely jealous and start death staring you before pulling her away and claiming she belongs to her. Any time she is absent from school we can't mention her name without her wailing at the top of her lungs,"*insert her name* CHAAAAN." Aside from that she acts like an overprotective white suburban mom. It's beyond the friendship thing, and I think N is too nice to say it but she doesn't like it. If she did have a crush on her whatever, but even if you did that's really creepy...if I acted like that to my crushes, I would be considered a predator and get a restraining order put on me. How do I get this girl to chill tf out? (link)
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I have met these types of girls. They are so dramatic about everything, lake a cartoon character. In older movies it was common to have literal cartoon characters along side living people. Girls like her make me feel like I am in one of those movies.
you can not change her personality. You just have to find a way to deal with it. Find something funny or charming about her cartoonist antics. Also take comfort in the fact that you are not the only one she acts crazy toward.
She is sweet, loyal to her friends, good intentioned, but not to bright. :)
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well i been heartbroken over this guy named josiah for 4-5 years, we were close and almost dated. he led me on and used me til didnt need me anymore, and is my first love, kiss who lost virginity to etc. we ent from talking alot flirting etc to all sudden it stopped. idk why still, and foundout from someone that is married now. i tried sending a friend request on facebook, playing it off as dont have these feelings still, but denied request but didnt block. want talk to him so badly, as did have a miscarriage of his child and never griefed properly as kept it from my family cause they lecture me about having feelings for him tho thats not something i can help , tried everything i could think of to move on, and now in a relationship with lance, who treats me like queen do care for just not as much as do josiah. he knows had thing for him in past, as told him how he hurted me badly emotionally dont think it was intentional tho cuase he's best guy i ever knew before lance. what should i do? and want make my current relationship work though im just settling for lance since cannot have josiah like we were... (link)
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First loves can take a long time to get over. Don't try to contact him and just live your life without him. the feeling will fade eventually. It may take couple more years.
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I had a girlfriend for around ten months. On my end of the relationship, I thought I had done nothing wrong. I believed that until her friends told me how obsessive I was, and manipulitive I could be. Ever since, I've bettered myself, and no longer do these actions. However, my ex and I talk every night, we've actually kept a streak since the day we first met. But over time, she has become the controlling person. she hates when I talk to other people, yet talks to her ex-ex boyfriend, (the one before me). She yells at me if I do anything she doesn't like, literally YELLS at me over the phone. She constantly treats me like a child, talking down to me and telling me what an embarrassment of a boyfriend I was. and the worst part is, I still love her. I need advice. I'm not going to leave her, that's not an option, but can someone help me to help her understand her problems?
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When she start yelling or saying hurtful ting for a purpose of being hurtful then just hang up. This may just make her more angry. if she calls back and continues yelling then hangup again and silence your phone.
call her the next day and be friends again. there is not need for ether side to apologize or make a big deal of it.
This tactic may take a few times for her to get the message, you are not going to just sit there and take abuse.
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what will happen if allow the condom or penis to touch the vagina after withdrawal
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the condom and the penis will have sperm. also keep in mind the inside shaft of the penis will still have left over sperm. so even if you clean the outside of the penis the sperm inside the shaft may still be a risk.
you should pee to flush out the interior sperm and then clean the outside with soap and water. then it will be very unlikely you could get her pregnant until the next time you cum.
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A friend has called me 'my love' recently over the holiday conversation. Is it OK for him to call me that? He's mate though. An honest thoughts please (link)
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If saying "my love" is all he has done then it probably does not mean anything.
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25/f. I have been dating a guy for about 2 years and we have had a wonderful, beautiful relationship. Yesterday he asked me for a loan and it really really hurt me. I have never had a single friend in my whole life... up until him, the only people who were ever willing to spend time and get to know me were paid to do so. (Teachers, therapists, etc) I am quite well-off, my parents give me full financial support and folks I know have frequently asked me for money for this and that. It always makes me feel so worthless, like I'm an ATM machine or something. I really hoped that Eric would be different and it just makes me really really sad and disappointed. Should I just leave him now?
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You have said nothing bad about him except he asked to borrow money. It would be ridiculous to breakup with someone after a two year relationship because of that alone. You could just say no. Breaking up is a huge overreaction.
As a general rule never loan money to friends or family it can damage a relationship very fast.
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So I am on a team with this guy, and I started growing a crush on him, but I didn't want to ask him out or do anything because I didn't want to impact our team before compition. So I didn't say anything, we became friends and teased each other it was fun, my crush for him grew. Eventually it got harder to talk to him. So I vented to my best friend, she unterstood and tried to set us up at dances, the only problem, I can dance. I'm getting off track. Somehow he found out that I had a crush on him and things got weird. There were days where he wouldn't talk to me, and then others when everything would be the same. I was scared to talk to him. Prom came around and he went with my best friend in a group. I was originally his date since my friend set us up, but my anxiety got the best of me and I ducked out. I missed my one shot to starting something more then friends. He leaves for college in 3 months and I won't see him again. Should I just let my heart break, and never see him again. I really like him. And I think he likes me. I just don't have the courage to do anything. (link)
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If you try to make a move now you would only have 3 month to form a strong relationship before he leave and you are forced to do the long distance thing.
let him go and move on.
in the future when you like a boy make a move. Time is never on your side. Strike first chance you get.
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you are at work assisting a patient/client that you are working with to provide service
you have been told that you can bill for time spent working directly with the patient/client that you are working with to provide service each week.
you have also been told that 20% of your TOTAL time billed (NOT 20% of the time that you spend working directly with the patient/client) can be time spent talking with the patient/client's family each week.
what is an equation that I can work to figure out exactly how much time can be billed for each week talking with the patient/client's family (you would need to use a variable "x" that would stand for number of hours spent working directly with the patient/client that you are working with to provide service).
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I think I understand.
So what you are saying is you bill for both time spent with the client and time spent with client's family, however you have a maximum amount that you can charge when it comes to time spent with the family. The maximum amount is 20% of the time spent with the client.
If that is right then I have an equation for you.
Keep track of the time you spend with the client and keep track of time spent with the family.
Time spent directly with client = c
Time spent with client's family = f
Maximum billable time spent with client's family = m
c * .2 = m
c + [m or f whichever is less] = total billable hours
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A friend says, you like me while we were having a chat over this topic that he called me stubborn and I told him he's doing my head in that's the moment he said but you like me, i said sarcastically, yep I do like you, Actually a few times he has said that. I mean why is he so sure that I like him? We do know each other well. He can be a bit cocky, I guess. I'm a girl and he's a boy. I reckon he likes me, not quite sure but I like him. Teasing sarcastically and a little flirt is always there while we are together at our project. So, please help. Thanks (link)
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If you really want to know if he likes you just ask him.
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A few months ago I started meeting up with someone and we decided to have sex (I should probably state that I'm female). It was my first time ever having sex and ever since I've been feeling so desperate to keep having sex. Almost every single time we've seen each other we've had sex. Although I was originally hoping for a steady and serious relationship I can't seem to control my urges. We haven't tried anything different and we can only meet up once every few weeks. I feel like I'm so deprived of sex most of the time. I don't know what this means for me and what I should do. (link)
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You found an activity you really enjoy, GREAT. Have fun but be safe.
If you want a committed relationship or if you just want a friends with benefits let the guy know. Be honest about what you want out of the relationship.
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I'm a 20 year old female and I had recently hooked up with a guy that I liked. It was my first time having sex with anyone and ever since I have been wanting more of it. I have done masturbation but so far it hasn't been having much of an effect. It's been the same feeling and it's gotten to the point where I might end up masturbating at least five times in a day. I once spent a few days with the guy and we had sex each day I was there (made sure he used condoms), but ever since I was returned home I've felt so sexually repressed. He's a great guy and I trust him, also he's pestered me to meet my parents.
I don't know if it might have anything to do with it, but I've been wanting to try new things with him ever since and are too nervous to ask. I'm wondering if exploring this new curiosity would ease my tensions even a little. What would be the best thing to do? Could I experiment? I feel like I should be careful about what I try with him. (link)
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You have already hooked up with him several times, then there is no harm in seeing if he wants to try your experiments. Just be safe.
If you do not want to get into a commitment then I would not have him meet your parents, that might send him the wrong message.
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Hello, my name is Tamara I'm 27 years old and had NEVER had relationships let alone sexual ones, not even Hans holding or kissing either, LOL, aww Lord that sounds sad xD Anywho I was wondering is it ok being a virgin for sooo long? I'm really uncomfortable with the subject, that I get genuinely have no interest in it. I hope it isn't bad. The jist of this is, is it unhealthy? (link)
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No, there is no health risk to abstaining from sex. If you never want to have sex, you are free to do so.
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Can extensive or rigorous breast sucking of a woman during a romantic sexual intercourse make the woman to have breast cancer? (link)
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No, sucking on breast can not increase the risk of breast cancer.
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I'm a Sophomore in college and I feel like it's taking me way too long to graduate. I was told I can graduate in 3 years, but every semester it seems like it's taking longer and longer. I'm now looking at 4-5 years and I'm only in my second year and feeling burnt out. It's not because I'm failing classes or anything, it's all the extra courses I have to take that have nothing to do with my degree. Now I'm being told that I'm going to need my Masters on top of my bachelors to get anywhere (Healthcare Management).
I really want to travel to other countries teaching English, but I don't know how realistic that is.
I'm also tired of dating, none of the boys in my age range take life seriously and other than one relationship that lasted 3 years, the rest of my relationships have ended in 6 months or less. Sometimes I wish there was a mail order bride type service for American women because I think life would just be much easier if I could find an older gentleman to marry me who's financially well off. I really wouldn't mind being a housewife, I love to cook and take care of a home and have lots of hobbies I could keep myself busy with.
I also don't have any friends at college so I spend all my time alone. I joined a sorority, but everybody was already in cliques so I'm going to drop at the end of the semester and join some clubs next semester to see if that helps.
I just feel super lost though. I have summer vacation coming up in 4 weeks so I have some time to figure it out, but I don't even know where to start. I'm thinking about getting my TEFL over the summer (to teach English), but I really just want to know what I'm doing with my life...
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College drags on longer then you think. I am back in college now. I feel your pain.
Yous should be proud it seems you are making all the right moves. You should explore what paths are available to you without burning bridges behind you and it looks like that is what your are doing.
Anything related to the medical field is a good call from a financial stand point. You will need a masters but it will pay for itself in the long run.
Teaching abroad can help you grow by experiencing other cultures. most colleges have programs where you can go abroad. After you get your bachelors you can join the peace core.
Housewife is ok, but i feel it may limit your future options too much.
Joining a club is good. The trick to making friends is to make conversation even if you are nervous or if is feels awkward. Let people know what you are interested in and if they are interested too a friendship comes natural. even if you are into stamp collecting there is a group that is into it too you just have to find them.
don't stress over finding a man too much. they are not all they are cracked up to be.
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Are victoria's secret models' bodies unrealistic or are americans just delusional because they've collectively grown fatter over decades?
if their bodies are realistic then how are they real? every single video of them is photoshopped? every single paparazzi shot of them is photoshopped? diet and exercise trumps genetics. many top models "coincidentally" were athletic tomboys as children. many also come from developing countries where they weren't used to burgers and pizza all the time. it's no coincidence. we can't control our heights but we're in full control of our physiques if we exercise enough willpower.
it's very lazy when rather than trying to improve their bodies, people would rather change the standard, by trying to make plus size more acceptable. it's not a matter of preference. promoting plus size fashion is the same as promoting diabetes, heart disease, and other top lifestyle killers. people need to wake up. it's also disingenuous, because these same people saying you can never get to that "unrealistic" standard, or that models should eat more burgers, find those models FAR more attractive than the average figure. if average or plus size was just as good you wouldn't see so many gawking at victoria's secret models, sports illustrated models, and etc. these are real people. there are many real, non models with similar figures and it's no bloody accident. even if everyone in your family is obese you can still be slim like them as well with enough effort. i don't get why our society would rather pull wool over our eyes about this issue (link)
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"Are victorias secret models' bodies unrealistic?"
Yes they are unrealistic. every model is picked to be above average attractiveness and they are shot by professional photographers; Makeup artist, Photoshop, lighting, custom clothing.
"americans delusional?" yes.
"single video of them is photoshopped?" All professionally shoot ones, yes
"every single paparazzi shot of them is photoshopped?" No, and they do not look nearly at attractive in them
"do diet and exercise trumps genetics?" sometimes
"many top models "coincidentally" were athletic tomboys as children. "
many also come from developing countries where they weren't used to burgers and pizza all the time. it's no coincidence. It is not true that a large percent of model are from counties that do not have burgers and pizza.
"we can't control our heights but we're in full control of our physiques if we exercise enough willpower."
Willpower alone is not enough
"it's very lazy when rather than trying to improve their bodies, people would rather change the standard by trying to make plus size more acceptable." I agree it is lazy when a person trys to change the standard because they don't want to improve themselves
"promoting plus size fashion is the same as promoting diabetes, heart disease, and other top lifestyle killers."
Those things are not the same.
"it's also disingenuous, because these same people saying you can never get to that "unrealistic" standard, or that models should eat more burgers, find those models FAR more attractive than the average figure."
It is perfectly OK to find a model attractive while still believing it is an unrealistic standard.
"these are real people. there are many real, non models with similar figures and it's no bloody accident." I agree
"even if everyone in your family is obese you can still be slim like them as well with enough effort." sometimes
"i don't get why our society would rather pull wool over our eyes about this issue"
I think you are over simplifying the issue. All sorts of thing after into weight. a person's genetics, what quality food they can afford,the psychological/biologic encouragement to eat certain foods, family influences, social influences, cultures influences, how much a person knows about the subject (god knows there is tons a misinformation).
The world is not small or simple. that are a billion moving parts in an issue like this and it is more than just people being lazy.
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Hi I'm 18 years old. I had a kiss with my boyfriend and I'm worried that I might be pregnant because i don't have my periods. can it be pregnancy I'm really worried (link)
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You can not get pregnant by kissing.
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I'll try to make this short. Ive been dating this guy for 4 months now and things have been great. We get along well, shares similar interests, and don't have too many disagreements. He's met my parents and I've met his (i feel as if we could have waited on this but he was so persistent about it) and I often spend time around him and his friends vice versa. The problem is that although we do everything any normal 20 something couple would do, he still will not consider us to be boyfriend and girlfriend. He said that he wants a relationship with me but wanted to wait it out. At first I was okay with this, but I increasingly grew to be more annoyed because it didn't really make sense to me. Especially given all of the things I have done for him that most girls wouldn't do unless the relationship had some seriousness to it. Either way I continued to put my own feelings to the back burner and just accepted that he'll come around. However I recently I found out that he had been on the dating app Tinder just casually checking out girls. I established that he hadn't actually met up with anyone nor took a number, but I was hurt because we both agreed to only seeing each other. With this I told him I was done and that I couldn't handle this situationship anymore and that these actions showed the real reason as to why he didn't want to be exclusive. After some time he came to me saying he didn't want to lose me and that if I gave him until May ( 1.5 months from now) that he'd be ready for us to take it to the next level. I agreed with this because I love him (he tells me he loves me daily) and don't want to lose him, but I struggle with whether or not I should continue to wait. Very confused. (link)
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You agreed to give him until May so keep your word and give him till May. If you don't say true to the your word, no relationship can work.
however don't become any more attached then you already are. Keep in mind he is NOT your boyfriend and you own him nothing.
If things don't work out, just make sure to learn from this situation. It seems you fell for this guy real fast. Falling in love before your are even dating is not a good idea. Also agreeing not to see other people seems a strange rule to make with someone you are not dating.
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so i was in a long distance relation but we broke up after 3 months and i tried to fix the problem but she just wouldn't even try and think about it and i tried texting her and she was reading those texts but not replying to any of them and she'd just say "idk what to say"
and after a while she said that i "spam" her with texts but all i sent was 3 texts telling how i feel about her and she called it "spam" and it hurt me a lot and so i blocked her on social media and also in the multiplayer game that we met ! . it's really hard for me to give up on her and i just love her a lot and at this point i'm just hurt a lot and thinking about her MOST of the time and idk what to do....
i'm thinking of reconnecting with her (i know i'm dumb but i just love her a lot) and i don't know whether this is the right thing to do....
i'm thinking of texting her in the game we met
so yea as i said before i'm just confused and don't know what to do that's why i'm asking for your help
Thank you for taking your time in reading this
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She has made things clear. It is over. Messaging her would just be a waste of time.
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What does it mean? (link)
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It generally means that they believe in some supernatural thing but not a standard organized religion.
It is very vague and if someone says that I would recommend asking follow up questions.
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