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Q: i think i am going to go trick or treating with my friends so what is a good group costume idea?? or any good individuals if you feel like it too. funny ones, pretty ones, but not like famous ppl or common things-cheerleaders, opposite sex, devil, cat, angel, fairy, etc

thank you

Ronald McDonald!!!!!!

Q: OKAY, about a week ago i was having sex with my girl friend and we were realy geting in to it and well my skin on the side of my penis riped all the way down and you can see inside my penis and everything it is realy sick i dont no what to do i cant tell my mom because well i am 14 and sex is not aloud but it hurt real bad plz help me and tell me if i should tell her or let it go and spend the rest of my life not haveing sex and if you think i should be asking a guy this then give this to a guy that will help me!

I told my boyfriend and his exact reactions was:

/Horrified face
"GAAAAAAAAAAAAAH!"
"GO TO THE FREAKIN HOSPITAL, FORGET WHAT YOUR MOM IS GOING TO DO, YOU GOT TO GET IT CHECKED OUT"

He's mad at me for that image >)

I'm with him. You're hurt, You are crazy to not to get that checked out, worrying about your mom is probly the least of your troubles.

Edit: A 1?! I don't know what you're thinking, but everyone else pretty much said the same thing and atleast I got a guy's opinion on it. You need to appreciate the advice that's offered to you unless it's purposely to hurt your feelings. If you can't handle decent advice then don't ask for it.

Q: All right. So this summer, I've had two loves.
-Let's call her "June". I met June online on a roleplaying game. I liked her, she liked me. We weren't going to get serious, I just loved to be around her. But I recently got permanantly banned from that game. I have no way to contact her at all. What do I do?
-Let's call her "Summer". I first met Summer in science class, and I just thought "Wow, she's a hyperactive freak." Then we became friends, and everyone thought she was flirting with me. We both denied that we liked each other. But then at the start of the summer I realized that I missed her and I really did love her. So then I told her that. And she said basically that she was really sorry, but she only liked me as a friend, etc. Then later after she got back from a vacation she told me she had been thinking about me the whole time she was on vacation (I was thinking about her the whole time, too) and she said that what she had previously said, she didn't know if it was true or not, she wasn't sure if she liked me or not. But I'm madly in love with her, and I'll do anything for her! Anything! I lost an hour of sleep last night due to thinking about her!
Then one day I looked on her website. Turns out, she had had a recent boyfriend who broke up with her because he hated her frequent spaz attacks. Well, I think she's funny when she spazzes, but whatever. This really didn't mean all that much to me... until I listened to my iPod. In the song "Break My Stride" (I don't know who the original is, I'm listening to AC Rock) there's a line "You look at me and you see your past. Is that the reason why you're running so fast?" And that got me thinking. Hm! Summer thinks about me and she remembered her other boyfriend who was her friend first, but then boyfriend, and now they're off speaking terms! Maybe she just doesn't want that to happen to me also! But her previous boyfriend obviously wasn't the real thing. I know that kid, and he's not the kind of guy who involves with true love. He's the kind of guy who just goes for the reputation, the street cred. I need to show Summer that this is the real thing... that I wouldn't break up with her, no way, no how... I know what love is, and I want to make her know the real thing too. Please, I'm so distraught whenever I think about her, I can't continue with my life! And never being able to talk to June again doesn't exactly help!

I'm sorry it was so long. I just really need help. And I've asked smaller questions, and some people have said that I can just pick up any girl that I want to based on my question, but I don't like anyone else. Just Summer, June, and Summer. Thank you SOOOOOO MUCH!

Are you asking which girl to go for? This role-playing game, did it happen to be World of Warcraft?

Well judging from your rant it sounds like you should go for Summer. June just sounded like someone you'll miss from the game. Summer sounded like someone you couldn't live without.

If you think what happened between her and last bf is going to influence her decision to go out with you, all you can do is continue doing what you've been doing. Only Summer can decide what she's most comfortable with, and who could blame her, break ups like that aren't fun to repeat.

Q: ok so i have kissed a boy before but i have never made out with one. i know this might sound stupid but where do you put your hands and know when to stop.

i'm kind of scared incase he thinks i'm rubbish

i'll rate 5's

www.virtualkiss.com

it has a real tutorial. good luck reading without laughing.

Q: This is long but like crucial in my life: Okay one of my friends broke into the popular jock's house and had a party while their whole family was on vacation (my friend and Mr. Popularity used to be friends a while ago, so my friend knew where the key is). So somebody spilled my name, but the truth was I went to Mr. Popularity's house without knowing he was gone! My friend called me and said "There's a party at [Mr. Popularity's Name Here]'s house." So me and my boyfriend went. But when we found out Mr. Popularity wasn't there we left. Well my mom was pissed at that already. Now my friend left his jacket with his name in it at Mr. Popularity's house. Before he confessed, he was lying about everything. So he said I had taken it at breakfast and that's how it ended up there. So now my mom thinks I shouldn't trust him and everything. Well how do I get my mom to see I didn't know Mr. Popular Jock wasn't home AND to trust my friend now? Opinions welcomed. I'll rate fives, no joke.

For your friend to sell you out like that (even tho you were innocent), I think you need to ditch him.

Your mom is going think what she thinks, I find that it works better to just drop the matter and just ease the friendship back to her attention slowly. She may think that things have changed since the incident and that your friend is worth giving a 2nd chance.

I personally wouldn't waste anymore time with someone who would try to make me pay his dues.

Q: What could be wrong if you don't have your period after 7 months? and you're definetely not pregnant..

Ulsers. (spell check?) I had to see my doctor because I never missed a period for two years and I went without one for 2 months. Doctor suspected ulsers.

Q: OK i have been going out with this guy for a few weeks and we havent gone anywhere or anything he also goes to a different school. SO then i wouldnt know if hes cheating on me or not. Hes really nice and all but im not shure if i should dump him or not. I RATE HIGH!!!!!!

-thanks-

NOT SHURE

If your relationship isn't going anywhere then maybe you should dump him.

Q: okay so i turned 13 like 1 month and a few days ago. umm im going into 7th grade. i weigh 103 pounds andam 5'5. Is there any suggestions how i could loose weight my thighs i think are fat but my parents think that im just exagerating.please give me some advice on how to loose some weight. thanks

I'm 19, 5'3" and I weigh 125, you are SKINNY!! But if you insist... lunges, and running/powerwalking would probly work. For more ideas just search on google.

Q: whats probobly the bst shampoo to make hair grow faster and smell pretty?

Garnier has a line called Long & Strong, what it does is focus on repairing your split ends so you don't have to get any trims and just let it grow.

Q: Hey, I was just wondering what you guys thought about a freshman in highschool dating a senior because i've really started to like this guy and he likes me too. Is it too big of an age difference? Will people start spredding rumors about me "giving" him something for him to b going out with me?

I highly disagree, when I was a senior all the guys that went out with a freshman only did so for one reason. I know this for fact too, but every school is different and you shouldn't let what other people think bother you. Seniors and freshmen have always been arch rivals around here and the only connection they could have was sexual.

But like I said, your school may be different and your relationship may be different. I would expect rumors to spread however. Just remember, he's a senior who is soon to graduate and probly go to college. College and high school are completely different and from my observations and experience that diffence in education level has broken up more relationships than it has made them stronger.

Q: What is the best product for hair removal on my arms?
Please don't say 'Nair' because they do aniaml testing so I can't use that.

I reeeeeeeeeeallly like Sally Hansen. I'm reading the back of the one of the bottles I have and it says "NOT TESTED ON ANIMALS" So I am sure it goes the same for the rest of their products.

Q: so i have a low confindence level.its like am afraid of popular kids in my school and i kind of want to be one .but i dont think i belong with tem .i like to watch them and know wats going on in their lives.what is wrong here.

What's wrong is I think you are adoring people because they are popular, but I could have read your question wrong. Trust me, there's more drama going on in that clique than you probably want.

Nothing is wrong with wanting to be liked tho, but I think it is best to find people that will like you for you and vice versa. You'll have more fun and forget about your low confidence. Great friends tend to make you feel better about yourself anyways.

If you really want to make friends with the popular people at your school, it couldn't hurt to try. You might hit it off, if you don't well then it wasn't meant to be.

Q: how can i shave my "below the belt" area without gettin those little hairs that are all prickly
*i rate high**

hair removing lotion. It's easy, less messy, and it does a darn good job. I recommend Sally Hansen, I usually leave the stuff on for an extra 2 min to make sure that I get rid of it all.

Q: i recently purchased a USB stick memory card and it isnt working. i put it into my usb port as it instructs but nothing happened, it ried my otehr open ports still nothing, i tried my digital camera and it worked fine, so teh problem isnt the port. ive also tried installing the software it says is needed for older computers, even though mine is pretty new, with windows XP. anyone know waht could be wrong and a way to fix it?

Are you waiting for the usb port to open a program? USB port is only an additional drive, it shouldn't be opening up anything.

To see if it's doing it's job, go to My Computer and see what drives you had... if you have an E: drive then it's working, if not tech support or the store you bought it from.

Edit: judging from your rating I have no clue how to help you. I reread your question... you put it in your usb port... you don't put cards in ports.

Q: ok so this is a weird question...but girls how are you suposed to...um...shave...down there?

I don't, I use hair removing lotion. It's easier and it gets all those weird angles that a blade would have trouble with.

Q: i'm a girl should i shave my vagina? i mean is that what guys like?

Real men don't care, prissy boys do care tho. It wouldn't hurt to remove the hair and just keep short.

I recommend Sally Hansen's Bikini hair remover lotion, it comes in a blue tube. That thing does miracles, and it gets all the angles that shaving won't.

Q: hey, i wanted to get a job at walmart after i turn 15 in december.. does anyone know what age they start hiring at?

thanks a bunch

some 16, most 18

Q: i went to am-i-fat.com just to see what it would say and it said im emaciated.. i dont even know what that means! i dont think my weight is unhealthy. im 5'5 101. what does this even mean? like should i be worried? thanks

emaciate
1 : to cause to lose flesh so as to become very thin
2 : to make feeble

WHOA toots, you're taller than me and you way 25 lbs less than me!
You are certainly not fat, and you don't need a definition to tell you that.

I know you're not asking for this piece of advice but I'm going to say it anyway... EAT! if you don't you make me look ugly and fat instead of average and normal :( You don't want to do that, do you?

Q: well im 13 and my sister is 15 but for some reason, evertime a guy likes her or she goes out with someone, i get really pissed off and scare the guy away. ( I even gave a guy a black eye) I know that shes gonna go out with guys, but i dont want anybody to hurt her or take advantage of her. last summer, we went to the same summer camp, and a guy liked her and thats where i punched a kid. we tell each other everything so she knows about the gfs ive had (only 2) and she didnt like my gfs either. should i give a guy a chance, and am i being too overprotective?

whoa there my 13 yr question asker! Methinks you are. Just wait til the guy actually does anything to hurt your sister's feelings (or body) to start beaten faces. Your sister will thankyou for it, it's not easy having a relationship when the boys are all scared of your brother.

Q: i have an awesome chocobo in my ffix game, he is blue and can walk on shallow water, i found another peice to the puzzle to find some more treasure so that maybe i can upgrade this guy, and even though this isn't a main part of the game, a lot of people train their chocobos and might help me...

see, i found the clue to find the treasure, it is an abandoned beach near a dying forest... in my awesome boat, i have circled this island several times, and have searched every beach... maybe not...

CAN SOMEONE HELP ME!! i am desperate... seriously... sleep deprived and everything...

it is only the third treasure, so a lot of players who haven't upgraded completely might know...

thank you... i will rate high cause i am desperate.

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