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hey i have a question about a guy. ok theres this guy that i really like. its not just a crush im obsessed! everytime i see him in the halls i always make this stupid face like my jaw drops and i cant breathe. everytime one of my friends are with me i do the same thing but pinch them cuz im so excited and i dont even relize what im doing. i talk to him all the time online and sometimes in the halls he'll say hey. he use to like me and this other girl but now he doesnt like anyone.and when i talk to him online he'll say all these things that make me like him even more. everytime i try to get over him and flirt with another guy i just end up liking that guy more. i just dont know what to do i love him so much and i want him but i dont think he'll like me any time soon.. all my friends say he will but im not so sure. so could i have some advice on what to do? thanks so much. 13/f
Well since you talk to him online try asking him if he has any feelings for you other than friend feelings. It is easier for some people to talk to someone they like and let out their feelings on the computer than to actually face them or try writing him a note or something like that. If he says that he doesnt like you then your just going to have to accept it, at first ya it may seem very unfair but there must have been a reason like you two just werent meant to be.If your going to get inot the whole love boat you have to basically put on your seat belt so you dont get hurt.It means you have to be prepared for getting your feelings hurt or something like that. You'll be ok, trust me . I hope I helped, ask anytime;) oxox-Melissa-
i weig about 180lbs. and i was wondorin wut kinda clothe i shoild get for my weight?
Sara
ok well it sorta would help me if I knew how old you are but thats ok. My best Advice on this would be to try different sizes that you think you would be comfortable in.You never want to get something too tight or too baggy. You could also try asking someone in a clothing store, Im sure they would be able to help you. And remember it never hurts to ask. ;) I hope I helped :) xoxoxo-Melissa-
my story goes like this lol ok my best friend has a g/f that i really like to so i keep on flurting with her but yet i no my best friend will get mad at me and then i asked her to make out with me and she said yes but then l8ter i felt rong about doing it but then it felt right doing it becasue i really like her what should i do?
Well I think you should confront her and say I feel bad about what I did and I shouldnt have done it or atleast say sorry. She shouldnt have said yes if she was "supposely" a trustful girlfriend to your friend, for then she wouldnt have had made out with you. I know its hard but just try to forget about it , if you keep up with life, you'll just keep moving in the right directions and when there are obstacles in the way thats when you can turn to a good friend you can talk to or Me ;) I hope I helped :) -Melissa- xoxo
what kind of shampoo do you use? your hair looks so shiny ! claire, (please answer soon!
Thanx!:) I use Panteene pro-v shampoo and conditioner I also use this shine cream that adds shine to your hair and makes your ends look good. I bought it at Jcpenny salon along with my straightener. I hope I helped !;) xoxo-Melissa-
im a grandmother of a 10 yr old girl and i have her friend here alot and they woulnt stop laughing and when i tell them to stop they dont listen they laugh harder and they play music loud music till 3:00 or 4 in the morning and they dont like to turn it down.i need ur advice on how to get them to turn down that music. by the way i think you give very good advice for your age. sined grandma in need.
Well I think you should tell them to try to see it your way and understand your point of view. Also REMIND them that other people are sleeping. You can help it try not to yell or scream at the child or children because then they will get mad and just not really want to coperate well :/ . If tell them that it is only fair since you are letting them play the music that it is also fair that they respect your enforcements !* If they do not listen still then I would make them turn the music off and go to bed. I hope I helped !;) Ask anytime ** Good Luck xoxo -Melissa-
how can i help afriend whos dad woulnt let her see her mom she was crying today i tried helping by telling her to talk to her dad but ill find out tomarrow how it went but what else can i tell her???\
I would tell my friend to just keep looking onthe brightside and it depends does one of the parents have custody of the child or does the father just not like her seeing her mom because of an abuse,drug or some other kind of reason. I would just ell my friend to just keep going through school and she'll make it . As long as your a good friend to her keep her busy so she doesnt think about it.:) Try to make her a card or give her a nice gift to show that you care :) I hope I helped* Please Rate me*~ xoxo -Melissa-
i just heard that someboy in my school died i wasnt that nice to him and i felt so bad and mad at myself and i dont no what to do about it will someone tell me what to do to help my feelings????
Hi, Im sorry to hear that. Well If I were you I would pray even if you not Catholic you can pray. Prayer helped me through my father's death sooo much. I thank God eveyday for listening and helping me, if you talk to God or maybe to this kid that past,.you could say something like Im really sorry I wasnt nice to you,I hope you can forgive me and it was sad that you past:( "What I have learned as being Catholic is that God listens to EVERYONE and even though it seems like he doesnt he does.I think that could help you out alot :) I feel alot better when I pray to God when Im upset. I hope I helped ;) Ask any time !~* God Bless you * xoxo -Melissa-
ive never kissed anyone before, or been kissed. i want to kiss my boyfriend, but im not sure if id be bad at it or what. when should i? how can i make it so its not just really random and awkward? how? what do i do? im so confused! thanks all! 14/f it that matters at all
Hi, I never kissed a boy like on the lips , like I never had my first kiss either, and Im going on 14 in Feb. I can tell you thought it is suppose to be special and kinda romantic.:) My best Advice on this would be just go with your feelings and if you two are alone and he has his face nears your, start to lean forward near his lips and lightly kiss him and if he gets into it, he will start to kiss you back. I'd say wait for just the right moment with just the two of you..;) YOU HAVE TO KIND LET YOUR LOVE FOW WITH IT * :)
het its just Meg, saying Hi, and I like your column, and I looooove you!
aww thanx Meg, I miss you !!~* your pretty too !!!:) My best Bud xoxox -Melissa-
Here's My story ...
I met this guy @ a party last year, not like where i never new him before but he goes to my school and i dreamed of talking to him but i thought it would never happen but then last year in october I was invited to this party , and he was there ... it was the first time we actually spoke to eachother and he finally knew who i was. We Flirted constantly and then by the next couple days we started to like eachother and then he asked me out !! Of course i said YES , and from then and on we were unseprable, I fell in love with him .. i know im really young to say that but it was real love. Being with him made me the happiest person in the world ... until this one night, he was invited to this party , and i wasn't...He asked for my permission to go and of course im gonna say ya , it's not like i control his life. So i had a friend stay over while everyone else was at the party. Me and my friend Sat online talking to someone Posing as him and they were calling me slut and bitch and all this stuff then trying to act like it was my boyfriend... everyone was telling him to break up with me ... and he listened. The breakup was deadly because We had a date that day and i showed up at the place to meet him there and he never came so after a couple hours i came home and on my away message was a message from him saying i think we need to break up . Im a strong person but when the only thing in the world that matters to you just wants to give you away it really hurts... it turns out the reason why he broke up with me is because one of my good "friends" @ the party was saying he should break up with me .. because she wanted to go out with him... and that's exactly what happened... I went to school like nothing was wrong but in my insides i felt like i wasnt ment to be on this world...I can't get over him no matter how many times he hurts me i want him !! I wish I could just go back in time and not do what ever i did to make it like this ... it's been a year and i still cry about not being with him ... I just want to get over him , i think but i dont no how , i need some advice
ok first of all I know it is very hard , and Im really sorry to hear that but if you have very supportive friends that care about you, they will try to cheer you up and take you to do fun things like shopping , hanging out or going to the movies.When Im upset I try to find things to do with myself like watch tv to get things off my mind . Somewhere in life you will find someone that will be perfect for you but obviously he wasnt the one so dont get upset just think of it as your better than that so just keep being yourself.Try talking to your friend - the one that wanted your boyfriend, try to see why she was all in on this and try to work it out . Just try to not think about it . I know that sounds hard but with school and life it can be hard.You'll get through it trust me ;) I hope I helped, ask again and please Rate me !~* xoxox -Melissa-
okay hi i am nicole. and i need help with boys.
okay see my problem is that to many guys like me. and i am not bragging. but it is getting to hectic and i really need to pic one. and i need help!!!
nicole
ok well My best advice to you is look for the guy with the best qualities and Im not talking about just looks I mean like whether their honest, nice to you, sweet, and cool to be around. I think thats the best way to pick . I hoep I helped you or gave you and idea, ask anytime ;) please Rate me !~* xoxoxo-Melissa-
hi i herd u help a lot of pepole. well i need help i think i like a good friends boyfriend i dont no wat to tell her im afraid shell never talk to me again if i tell her. And i also think my other best friend likes my boyfriend im being mean to her and i dont no wat to say and shes always hinding things from me that she thinks i shouldnt no and i want to no but she woulnt tell me shell tel her other best friend these things and im realy mad at that.
sined confused
Ya :) well I dont think you should steal your friends boyfriend becasue then that could cuz alot of problems, and if you think your best friend likes your boyfriend you should ask her thats what shes there for :) I think maybe your friend feels like she needs more privacy or just some other people that can relate to what shes going through, you could try talking to her and maybe you could just let it go cuz some people have things that they just want certain people to know, and its not because their not including you its just maybe because they dont feel like they need to talk about it with you or someone I hope I helped ..:) xxoxox -
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Hi.
If I don't wash my hair every night then my hair gets and looks so oily.I usually do wash my hair everynight but every once in a while i don't have time. Does anyone know any products that i could use to make my hair less oily or anything i can use so it doesnt look oily....please.
Thanks!
Try using baby powder on your hair because my friend does that sometimes when she trys to make her bangs look really cute and she does a good job too ;) I hope I helped * please rate me too !~* :) xoxo -Melissa-
Everytime i make out with my boyfriend i feel like he is attcking me with his tongue is this normal or does he have issues??? Can i have some advice to work around this!!
Well it depends, it sounds like your uncomfortable with this or just not ready for that yet and thats ok but if I were you, I would just tell him to go slower and use more of his lips than his tongue, because if a guy really cares about you he'll think about you instead of what hes gonna get with you ... I hope I helped , please rate me * :) and ask anytime ;)
xoxo -Melissa-
Not too long ago me and my boyfriend broke up. i still really like him, but i've done my best to start moving on. recently he's told me that he still really likes me. but the problem is, i dont move fast enough for him. i've jsut barely made out for the first time and he's intersted in girls who move a lot faster than that. im confused why he likes me if he wont get any. i've started a relationship with someone else but as soon as he tells me he likes me again, i start questioning what too do.. this time he says its different and that he won't make me do stuff im not ready for, but i don't know if he means it. and i dont know what too do about hte guy im with, i like him but i like my ex too .. im so confused
Hi, Im sorry , I know that relationships can be very confusing and that if I were you, I wouldnt go back out with this guy because it sounds to me like hes trying to get down your pants :/ Im sure hes nice but most teens get pregnant that way , so I would say stick to someone that is not going to presure you into doing something you dont want to do . I would handle the situation like that, by finding some else that is not that mature... :) I hope I helped and gave you something good to think about ;) ASK ANYTIME xoxo - Melissa- :)
I like this guy that I met at my church and my friend called him and he said he liked me too but a couple of days ago i called him and he said he couldnt hang out with me anymore because he's hookin up with some girl at his school. He said he'd call me when he was free.. I really like him should I just move on or wait and see if he really does call me?
If I was in your position, I would just move on because if you think about it, he's probaly not going to break up with this other girl for a while and by then you could have snagged up a better guy!:). If you think you should wait then go ahead but I suggest move on and then maybe later you and him can hook up , its also good having patience ;) I hope I helped, please rate me !~* xoxo -Melissa-
i live in sc and i have a friend who wasn't anything more than a friend but she left 4 years ago to cali. i still talked to her for a long time online and phone calls but for somereson when she left i found myself thinking about her more and more but i know this relationship will never happen but my heart isn't agreeing with me on that. I've told her things i've never told anyone else so i don't want to end talking to her but i feel i'm so attached cuz i told her so many things about myself. anyway how can i stop this feeling i know it isn't healthy for me
I think its just that you have a stong feeling of friendship, thats ok, thats perfectly normal!`* I say that you should keep talking to her so you guys stay in touch and dont los that strong bond that you two have :) I would try to talk to my friend alot if she had moved . So just go with your heart and be the best friend you can be ! , I hope i helped,:) please rate me * xoxo -Melissa-
Its been almost 3 years since my father died. And its just not getting any easier. I still grieve and have resentment to god for taking him. I sometimes take my anger out on my friends because i have no where to direct it, after wards i feel horrible. If anyone else has lost a parent and knows htings that helps the pain lessen that'd be helpful if you coudl share it. I know the pain won't go away but i just wish i wasn't constantly sad, crying or taking my anger out on my friends.
Hey, Im sorry to hear that* :( My dad just died around last chrismas so I know what your going through.I was 12 when he died and now Im thirteen. I can understand its real hard on you.I live also with my mom and the good thing is we got through this together and were trying to be strong about this. I think you should try to talk to someone about this that will listen and I think you should let your friends take you places,cuz when your out with your friends,you should have a good time so it will make you happier. And theres always going to be that emptiness in your heart and mine too,but theres ways to make it feel better. I think your friends dont want to see you sad either so try to keep yourself busy with things.And I still cry about my dad too.But I believe he is in a *beautiful* place called Heaven :) If you NEED ANYTHING !! Im here for you !!! Thanx for asking and i will pray for you .xoxoxo -Melissa- ps. Aim me sometime if you can ** My sn is teenqueen21711 :)we can talk if you want :)
Hey you dont know me but i think your really nice to be doin all this advice and stuff for other people but my question is how can i brake up with my girlfreind without braking her heart because i love her but i also love this other girl and shes alot sweeter so i hope you can help
Hey , thats very sweet of you too say that and , yes Im a very nice person. Well, try to explain to her that you just want to be her friend , then if you can make it like you just met this other girl so she doesnt think you were playing her. Its very hard let someone go sometimes. I hope this helps .Please rate me** and write back soon!~* :) -Melissa-xoxo
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Hey , That sounds like a good idea and I'll make it on paint ,so then I can put it on my website* Thanx for writng back -Melissa- :) xoxo