So here's my question.. What exactly does it mean when someone says "I'm a virgin again"? My boyfriend told me that. When we first started talking he told me this. I mean, I guess it might pretty much mean what it says but I'm not sure. When he first told me this I guess I didn't see the "again" part. But one day we were talking about sex and he told me about this other girl he had sex with and I was so surprised! I thought he said he had never had sex since he was a virgin but I guess I missed the "again" part.
How in the world can you be a virgin again? If you had sex in the past then you arent a virgin.. Like what the heck.
It's kind of like that saying of being born again. You have a new take on life. But in his case it's sex. It's kind of being celibate. Your never a virgin again but he's trying to not have sex I suppose.
Lillian
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Ohkay , so its this boy name Zachary , andd I think I like him well i know i do . hes in my first perios class and mee and him talk but not alot he sits right infront of me . But the thing is I dont know how to tell him and Im scared he wont even like me and would reject me . CONFUSED , Help ?
Try to catch his attention a little. Spark up a conversation and see if you really do have something in common. And if you do . Do it when the times right. Do the classic yes or no boxes do you like me test! haha hasn't failed me once.
Lillian
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Hi! Help me please! You'd be doing me a solid.♥
I'm Spencer, female, 17, college freshman. So, there's this guy I like, he's my classmate. I've kind of liked him for a month now and for the past few weeks I've been trying my hardest to do all the right moves but somehow I don't feel like I've progressed. But despite that, I don't wanna give up. But I don't even know what to do.
So this guy I like, he's 18, college freshman and we have 3 classes together. But we also have friends in those classes. About our relationship, well we've known each other since the schoolyear started but we belong to different groups. We're not like, 'oh we're friends and we're nice to each other', no, he actually likes to bully and joke around with people (me included). I always try my best to make small talk with him or something but sometimes I fail or sometimes I succeed (for like a day and then never again).
So please help me? I'm out of ideas and I just realized I don't even have much of a plan to win this guy over. I've put on makeup for him, watched his favorite show (men wrestling btw) just so I could talk to him about it, punch him lightly just to get his attention, IDK anymore. So, advice? Please? Pretty please with a cherry on top?:(
P.S. Every Monday I get an opportunity to be alone with him. We walk together to our next class because we're in the same building. That's roughly 8, 10 minutes? I've tried to like converse with him but usually I'd just ask and he'd just answer. Conversation ended. Then it'd be super awkward. I don't wanna sound desperate, asking another question over another after every answer like an interview (is that desperate?) so sometimes I just allow the silence between us. Any advice on how to maximize my opportunity here??
P.P.S. We have PE together. His partner's a girl and I can't help but feel jealous when they're talking, laughing, seemingly having fun. But at the same time, I don't think I can intervene because we perform by different groups. Maybe I'm just paranoid but I don't wanna lose to her or whatever. Advice in this area would be great too.
Sorry if that was long. But I honestly need help!:( Any great advice would be incredibly awesome (and if I succeed, I promise to let you all know). So please, please, please, please, please, please, please, please, please, please,
PLEASE HELP ME! God rewards good people..:)) JK, but seriously though! I need your help!
Thank you in advance! You guys are awesome.♥
xoxo,
Spencer
17
Female
I hate saying this but he might not be into you. But also with the 8 to 10 minutes walking say something that will last a long time. Play around with him. Ask him this one question " I like this guy . He's really cute and stuff but I don't know how to get his attention. What do you like girls to do?' Though try to imply that the person is back home or something. Something that he knows its NOT him. Just to tell you usually if a guy likes you he will tell you. Though there are guys out there who play hard to get. Good Luck!
Lillian
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I lied to my friends about what was going on with a guy I loved, he found out and now he doesn't like me, did I blow it because he still flirts and talks back to me, he is embarresed to be with me though, around his friends he treats me very badly and I want to know if I blew because I still love him... I hope he still likes me.
Truly it depends on what you lied about. But you hurt his ego. He probably still likes you but you screwed up his train of being. So thats why he doesn't show it around people because I guess you didn't.So why should he be truthful when your not.
Lillian
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this guy goes to a diffrent school now ever sicne 4 weeks ago and im just not happy without him i use to see him everyday and now i barely see him and ive been trying to get over him for some time now i even gave time im just not happy..and im going to like a dance thing soon with a boy that i dont want to i asked him but thats when he said he was leaving the school..and now i dont know how do i get over a boy that ive liked so long...p.s. im a kind of girl whose kinda awkward shy around guys so im not to open to people i like to keep things to myslef....what d o i do to get over him because i still cant stop thinking about him.btw he like a year older andi allways see girls posting on his fb wall which i think there just firends but they could possibly something more? i dont know i dont even know why i still like him i mean i do but hes kind of a bad boy (hes not the sharpest tool in the box either as in not that attractive) but i find him amazing..anyways what should i do?
You say you want to forget about him though you like him. And it seems as if you want to be with him. I have to things you can do. You can do what you want to do and just ask him out. Or you can just live your life that is the on;y efective way for getting over a dude. He doesn't hender your existence. You do you. I know you say your awkward, but some one like that. It might not be him but it will be someone. Go to the dance have fun, even if you don't like the other guy. Do You!
Lillian
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So a few weeks ago , me and a guy friend started texting and talking more. He didnt exactly say he liked me but I didnt say i liked him either, we talked for a couple weeks and hungout(not alone) one time last weekend. At school whenever i see him, i usually have to talk to him first but he would text me and stuff. But within the last 4 days, he only IMed me one day and he told me that i "amaze him" and that it was a "good thing" then the next day i decided to text him first and we talked until the conversation died out and i expected him to talk to me the next day but he didnt. He hasn't texted me first in like a week and I don't know what I did wrong, or what! He's a really busy kid, straight A's , lots of extracurricular activities and stuff so maybe he's busy..but at the same time he would text me during all that stuff for the last few weeks so I don't know what the difference is. I feel like he is a bit shy, but he's a guy and im sure he knows he's supposed to talk to the girl first. I'm not crazy about him, I just finally like a good guy and I don't want to miss my chance. What should I do? ...
Some times it takes patience for these types of things. There could be a lot of reason's he hasn't text you first. But truly that shouldn't matter. If when you text him first you can hold a good conversation, thats all good. And if your not crazy about him don't stress if he wants you he'll come. Like they say if it was meant to be it will be. Just relax don't read into it to deep.
Lillian
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Im becoming seriously DEPRESSEEDD !
Im my own worst emeny and things are getting way out of control .
I dont have confidence in myself or anything and it seems like I have no one I could talk to about thiss cause they wil probalay all judge me and I cant have that right now .
I look in the mirror and she a ugly girl and its really sad . i have to pretend im smiling when others are around me knowing im really sad inside . My life pretty much SUCKS . Any Advice ?
The one thing I know is that all women or girls go through the same thing. It might not be for as long you've been struggling through it but we all go through it. You got to except the way you are( physical wise). You can change you attitude, your clothes, though that can't change how you feel. Just know that God made you that way for a reason, for some man to treat you right and to love every thing you may offer. Try this start putting positive things around you mirror like your beautiful, your smart, you can do anything you can put your mind too. Keep a journal of what's getting on your nerves. And if you don't like the way you do things, change them for the better.
Lillian
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I am 15 years old and when i was in 6th grade i fell in love with my bestfriends cousin. and he fell inlove with me. We have been on and off since 6th grade. and last time we dated was in august-6 months ago. yesturday i went to his house with my bestfriend and her boyfriend and we all hungout lots of awkwardness. but it decreased as the time passed. He put on a necklace i gave him saying nina + allen than the date. when i say we fell in love i mean in love-like the teenage love. first loves. you know what i mean? so when i left his house my bffl and her bf were trying to get us to kiss and i really didnt want to. but then he kissed me and i relized that i miss him ...again..still.. and this weekend we are all supposed to chill and drink and they are planning on us having sex again. (i lost my virginity to him months back)i know how bad this is but i dont completely mind having sex with him again- but i would really rather not at all. but in the end i do not want to date him, but i do want to hangout with all of them this weekend. just, what should i do? about telling him i am not ready for a relationship yet, and the sex thing. etc.. i know i dont have a straight out question but if anyone can find anything to say please helpp.
YOu don't need any advice girl. You know what you need to do you wrote it in your question. Tell him you don't want anything like what their describing. Don't let anyone pressure you into anything you don't want to do.
Lillian
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Ohkay , I think I am becoming very depress lately.
Where I live there is lots of killing and suicude and its to much for any human to bare .
I was thinking to myself if any of my friends or even family died I wouldnt even know what to do nomore I would paneic !
I think I've been thinking to much any advice .
I think your focused on this because like you said your surrounded by it. But instead of looking it at a very depressed angle. Think of it as God forbid your last day so make it worth while. Don't let anything even death get in your way of living. I say you can worry and sleep when your dead. Live your life now!
Lillian
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Im currently taken by a girl ,. and which I am a girl also . We would be going out a month on Feb . 12th you may say that not even long . This is also our 2nd time going out . This realtionship just doesnt seem right to me nomore. My feelings for her are not even like they use to be, and I'm not happy like I use to. ADVICE PLEASE .
The easiest thing for you to do is break up with her. You can't stay in a relationship that you don't want to be in. That's not fair to her or yourself. That's basically all you can do
Lillian
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Is it possible to be in love with a guy who lives in a different state and who I only met once and only hung out with once for a short period of time? I'm 16 and I am a young lady.
I think you may think you're in love. But you you may be in love with the thought of you two being together more than being in love for-real.
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Heyyyy. Okay... So I'm a sophomore girl, fifteen. Some background on me: Dated a guy all of last year (I was freshman,14 he was sophomore,16) and he was a jerk. He would be a complete ass one second and then force me to look him in the eye when he told me he loved me. He kinda sorta (based on your defintion) cheated. He pressured me into fingering. He physicallyl forced my hand to give him a hj. He asked me for weeks for a bj saying things like "if you really loved me, you'd do this". He dumped me in a text. All in all, he really hurt me. He confessed he was only in the seven month relationship for the physical stuff, only liked me when we were hooking up, etc. He also told me he didn't tell anyone about how far we'd gone which was a lie cause he would give his baseball team entire play-by-plays and brag about how he "had me on a leash". But okay. I was whipped. I was so confident and strong before I met him. I really changed when we dated. I hate that girl that I was. I was an IDIOT and I wish more than anything I could take it back. I became a little puppy dog and basically lost all of my self worth when the whole thing was over and done with. I felt like a joke. I felt like(because of this and other instances involiving guys prior to this one) a guy couldn't ever like me for the person I was. That there was something so horrible about me or my personality that my body was the only thing that would keep them around. After the break up I was to put it shortly a mess. And one of my really good guy friends basically saved me... He talked me through a lot of it. I told him things I didn't even tell my girlfriends. When I wanted to beg for my ex back he told me I was too good for that and he basicallly helped me find myself again. We've stayed god friends August he started dating a girl. Around November I started dating a guy. Towards the end of November he was talkign to me about how he wanted to break up with the girl. He did it and called me after so we could talk. He was pretty upset just because he felt bad for hurting her. About a month later I decided to break up with my boyfriend cause he was super clingy and would look through my phone and yell at me and stuff. Again, my guy friend helped me through this. After that we started talking every single day. People accused us of liking eachother but we both assured them we were just really good friends. But the thing is... I like him now. I'm so confused by our relationship. And I don't want to ask him about it because I don't want to ruin the friendship. Recently he hasn't texted me as much and he acts really distant when we hang out around other people. But that's only b een the past like week so maybe he's just in a slump? I dont' know... but it actually makes me sad. We've been through so much and I don't know what's going through my head or what to do or if I really do like him or what... I need some serious help...
The distance can mean a difference of things. But its understandable that you like him. Some one that cares for you that much and you the same is common. But sense you have the relationship that you do. Just ask him if theirs anything wrong. It might just be a test or something. If there is nothing wrong, talk about what you usually do.
Lillian
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okay, im a little worried. ive missed my period almost 4 months in a row. i am too embarressed to tell anyone (even my mom). is something wrong with me? what should i do? please help me! if it helps im 15 and i started to get my periods in june of 2008
If you haven't had sex you should be fine. Some people are just irregular like that, and thats ok. I rather that than every month. But if you feel as though you don't think its right check with your mom or a doctor.
Lillian
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so ive been very easy recently. i dont make boys play hard fo rme i give in really easily but i really like this guy and he doesnt like me because im so easy so how do i go from being a complet slut to hard 2 get?
If you've been very easy lately just go back to where you were, before you were easy. Don't make a 360 or anything, then you lose yourself in the processes. Just tone it down. I'm not sure if you mean easy to go out with or easy to get in bed with. But you should also do this for yourself not just for a guy. Because its not gonna stick if you don't want to stop.
Lilllian
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My boss is more then 50yrs old and lives with his parents. He does not have a lot of social skills. I have caught him following me around the office and looking at what I am doing, like what mail I put in the outbox or who am I talking with or where I am going in general. His behavior is creepying me out. I can do my job without even talking or speaking with him for weeks and have tried to stay out of his way to see what would happen and it seems this makes his behavior worsen. I find it creepy to come out of the women's restroom to find him leaning against the wall near the men's waiting for me. He then joins me and walks back with me into the office. He watches my emails through the network server (only mine as he moved my and his email to a separate server from everyone else) and watches the websites I go onto and programs I access.
What is the best way to handle this guy? If I tell him to back off, he tells me I am paranoid. And yet this continues.
You need to report this defiantly. Though know you might be risking your job depending what hierarchy scale there is at your office. But nothing should compromise your health and safety.
Lillian
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Ok so well I guess I just get over angry but anyways a new girl came to my school a couple of days ago and everyone says she is gorgeous and is gonna go out with all the popular guys! well yeah turns out she is going out with my ex and it makes me sooo mad I can't stand it she is so preppy! I just need advice(: haha if anyone can help me - Thanks 13/f
I can give you some tips. You are done with that guy, you had him first and you got read of him first. Your'e gonna move on to something bigger and better. And for that girl she's gorgeous, and he's going out with her. So what does that make you. He might just have great taste in lady's. Take it as a compliment. But to be honest, just focus on you. You are the only one you can control.
Lillian
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i like him. he likes me.i just dont really know wht to do now. its difficult because he is never on the internet, he has no cell, and i cant call his house, honestly the only time i ever see him is at school.i know, sounds stupid. its just that he is shy. he doesnt party or really hang out with his friends on weekends and he is REALLY into his school. like he works hard to get good grades. i just dont really know what to do now. he knows i like him alot. and i know he likes me just by how he acts around me. a lot of people think we have a thing but like...we dont really, not outside of school anyway. and prom is comin up in june and i really want to go with him...if he even wants to go. most people just tell me tht he needs to grow a pair. but i am getting tired of waiting. what the hell do i do?
If he knows that you like him, and he likes you. You should't be embarrassed to ask him out, or if he's into school like you say he is..... just ask him to come study with you. Or you can come over his house. But plan it all at school.
Lillian
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gossiping..
I hate it, so the gossip was i dated this guy. but we aren't. so now his ex-girlfriend is jealous, and tries to make me her friend. i have to pick sides. it's obvious i will pick his side because he became my best friend!
at a certain point i asked her, why'd you break up.
The thing is she said she never got an explanation.
when i talk with him about her he says, he hates her face. but i mean seriously. he hates her face?
well if looks are that important you shouldn't like me?! (because we kissed and he still tries to kiss me, i don't give in because he just wants to be friends) I am a girl, 16 years old, fat, musician, horrible past. she, blond, skinny, great boobs, not that much of brains if i may say so, perfect family girl and she and him just suite great. But still..! he doesn't like her anymore of that i am certain because she makes him puke.
now it bothers me that she with her ugly face tries to make me less in love, we work together and when he he's there it causes a lot of weird situations like she getting me as far away from me!
ARGGH may i kill her?? (A)
16 year old, from The Netherlands
Not trying to be mean but you paragraph doesn't make any sense. If you redo it maybe i can. I will love to help.
Lillian
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Hey , im 14 and a female .
i had a boyfriend and he was m everything we stayed togethere for a months and then one day he came up to me and told me we had to break up for a reason How can i move on ? how can i feel better?
do u know anything that will make me cheer up for a while and forget him or somethin?
Actually their a couple of things you can do to get over him. You can realize that he made way for someone better to come. You can hang out with friends getting off the topic of boys. Keep telling yourself that you deserve someone else and he will come in time. But my main thing I don't want you to do is try to get back with him, because if he doesn't want you its noto gonna work. Keep positive about your life and you'll be fine. Good luck!
Lillian Garvin
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It's been my second time using 5 Minute Bleach Whitening Gel and when I was done, I layed down on my bed and noticed that my jaw popped when I moved my jaw back. This has never happened before. Only when I ate, my jaw cracked. I'm only 15. So now, my jaw pops when it moves forward, back, and when I move it to the left. What should I do? What is this from? Is it dangerous? How is it fixed?
Ironically I'm 15 and my jaw pops and cracks too. Um it can be dangerous because your jaw can lock and you won't be able to move it at all. So I would tell your mom or dad. I don't believe their much you can do about it right now, just be careful.
Lillian
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