Hey, call me Neo. Inside joke I have with a friend. Lol we always joke around. paid 2 make things I enjoy fire, hangin out, and talking 2 friends. I'll help if i can. Oh yea and ummm all you gay guys, please stop asking me if I'll date you. I'M STRAIGHT AND ALREADY HAVE A GIRLFRIEND!
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I'm an 18 year old female, living on the East Coast. My friend Jake is 22, living in Oregon. He is suicidal. Is there anything I can do to help?
I've known him for about 4 years. He has been suicidal since he was 10, apparently - that's 12 whole years of "depression". He just came back from the Jop Corps last week for his summer vacation, so yesterday was my first time speaking to him in 10 months. ALLL he would talk about is getting his hands on some tough drugs and then going to the "train tracks", if you know what I mean.
How do I help him? His complaints are pretty much the usual stuff. His family hates him, no one loves him, he doesn't have a girlfriend and now that he is 22 he will never have kids. For years, I've been trying to help him, trying to comfort him, trying to make points where I feel I can. But oh no, nothing works, because.... "no one loves me". When he says that, it actually insults me. What, have four years of my time meant nothing to him? Isn't there only so much a person can do?
I almost blame myself for not being able to help him. I can not contact his friends or family, because I have zero connection to them. He doesn't live with his parents, so there's no address I can find. He only has a cell phone, so that says that. And I don't even know his parents names, or friends, for that matter. I have zero way to get him help.
I know this isn't about me, but I'm losing my patience here. He is seriously stressing me out. I try and try and try, but I am never good enough. What, does he like being this way, or something? Could he secretly enjoy his lifestyle? Could I have a major attention whore on my hands, rather than a suicidal man?
He is also compulsive liar, which doesn't help anything. I'm thinking his other friends (the ones he doesn't have, according to him), probably assume that if he hasn't done away with himself in 12 years, he will never have the guts. That may be true, but I am not willing to write something like a death threat off, I'm sorry... because I know there is always a breaking point.
I consulted a few of my friends, and of course I heard the same thing every time, "Why do you bother talking to him? Oh, I wouldn't talk to him. Screw that guy."
Only, I know that wouldn't contribute anything to his well-being. Right?
I guess what I'm trying to ask is, at what point should I disconcern myself, if ever? And what more can I do to help him? Trying to help somebody who doesn't want to help themselves, is usually a failure before the process even commences... (link)
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Suicide is a serious matter. And he is worried about not having kids at because he is 22. Listen, my father was 35 when I was born. Tell him that when he's 40 and he doesn't have kids, then he should worry about never having any. Also, what the hell are you doing? Get over there as fast as you can, find the guy guidance and pray that it hasn;t gone too far and there's still time. I take it you haven't mentioned this to your family and that was stupid. Help him get through the depression be at his side, find him a doctor. I doubt his parents like him either and i think they should be locked up but oh well. Listen, just go to oregon, I'm sure your parents will help pay the price and find him some help and support him through it all. It's the best thing you can do oh and be sure NEVER to give up on him. Sho him how great the world can be and that he isn't even promised a good after life or if there even is a good after life. Let him see that he is promised so much but in order to get that he must stay alive until it is his time. Apperently it isn't because he would already be dead and I think he knows that. And he apperently has at least 1 friend, you.
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i used to cut.
and i got help and im really happy now
but
my friend mentioned her wanting to cut yesterday
and now i feel like i wanna again
i dont know what to do
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Don't do it. find your friend help and I suggest you tell your parents about the urges that your feeling to do it again. Please, find yourself and your friend some help before you give into the temptations.
Best of luck,
Neo
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How do i Clean the fan to my PS2.. (link)
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You should take a soft cloth and the fan won't collect dust only the case and just rub over it and blow into the case a couple times but keep your eyes closed and it should clean it.
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I just got a brand new 2007 Honda Civic for my 16th birthday. My friends and I all name our cars. I know it's strange but that's what we do haha. Well, I can't think of a name. My car is a deep blue//royal purple in the sun and it's a "male" car. A list of guy names that would fit my model//color car would be great! Thanks y'all! (link)
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lol sweet b-day present. hmmm well, I can name some guy names or tell you what, Ill even let you use my name! Neo! lol but here
Brian
Freddy
Jason
Buck
Civy
Deep Pruple(thats a great band and its almost blue so why not?)
Erin
Eddy
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im the one who posted the one about im inlove with a guy one.
well..
im afraid to tell him
cause like what if he doesnt like me .. and he thinks im weird.. and doesnt talk to me?
ahh help pleasee =[ (link)
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Well, There really is know way to find out is there? How can you know unless you tell him? And what if he does like you and shares the same feelings and you two start dating and get married? You don't know and are you really going to keep it to yourself and in the future think what if? If he's your friend then he still will talk to you. You may get harrassed by his friends and people that find out it's happened to me but you know what? it was worth every single second of it. I wish you good luck and hopefully you two start dating soon. Don't keep it to yourself you'll feel so much better it you tell him even if he says no because at least he knows.
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I was wondering could it be that my dad died when I was 12,but Iam 17 now so that couldn't possibly be it could it? (link)
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Listen, I am really sorry your father died and i would love to help you but I need more information. I can tell you how to figure it out by yourself though. All you need to do is figure out the year he passed away in and subtract that from the year 2006 and that will be the amount of years between today and the day he left our world. Then, subract that from your age and that will tell you how old you were when he passed away. Once again, sorry about your loss.
Hoped I helped,
Neo
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alright..
so.
thiss guy i like .. well were like best friends.
and i like him.
he likes someone else thoughh.
and its really getting me down
im too embarassed to tell him i like him.
cause i like him way to much.
he likes a scumb bag though.
i just wished he liked me
help pleasee =[ (link)
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I would consult him. Sometimes people don't see that they love someone until they find out that the other person likes them. That's the only way you'll find out if he wants to date you and if he doesnt' at least he knows you likes you. If he ever needs support he would turn to you and then maybe someday soon you two will be dating. Tell him your feelings.
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ok so im gay and sortof goth and i have a crush on this prep i saw in this night club in texas and he always ignores me but i cant resist him he has the most fabulous long blond hair and i tried to kiss him onece when we were drunk but my lip ring got stuck in his braces i tired to make a mix tape for him but he didnt like any of my goth selections such as icp so i bought him a sweater from abercrombie but i have a feeling hes just a materaial girl what should i do?
xoxoxoxox
arnold
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Well, I'm not gay so this is pretty hard for me. Ok I'll look at this as a straight relationship you being the guy, the other a girl. Ok so I' asuming the other man is gay because if he is straight then you already lost this. Hmmm what i would do give him the sweater. Abercrombie is perfect for a prep and maybe put a little note inside saying how you love him and all that kind of stuff. He may find it cute. And if that doesn't work then you two may not be for eachother so if it doesn't work out, then don't be too upset.
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my name is Rachel and iam 17 years old and just here lately i've been real tired and hungry all the time and I havn't been doing anything to cause me being tired all the time like yesterday I was asleep all day from 12:00 untill 10:00pm what could be causing this and how can I stop it?
Iam really worried is this anything I should be worried about? (link)
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Your sleeping way to much. Try to be more active, go outside and have fun. WEhen you sit around and do nothing you become hungry and tired like I am always busy and I'm never hungry and never tired. I suggest playing a sport anything really but just stay active do something that makes you feel alive blast music do something. Or maybe your depressed. Did you recently break up with your boyfriend or did a close one die? That may make you like the way you are and if that's the case I would find some help. Hope that helped,
Neo
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ok...here is how it is...i used to be a happygolucky child then my cousin changed and i acted cool like her but i was so young people thought it was cute...but now i am wearing pink clothes...listening to green day....and hard rock!!!!!! what is wrong with me? and sometimes i want to dye my hair black somtimes i come to my sences and say ..no i would look bad with it...then i turn goth and get moody...then another i am happy sweet loving child..which should i choose..and why am i going through this because i need to make a decision because i am getting new clothes and it would be stupid to be totally opposite..my friends think i am weird because i always have opposite feelings one day and another..goth..prep..punk...prep..punk..goth...it changes...for me i prefer to wear goth clothes but be quiet...but cheeerful i want to have different attitudes ..but then all this mixture is to much...plz..for the sake of pete help me! (link)
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When I was younger, I was the same way. I tried goth but that just isn't me. It's just a time in your life and hard rock is awesome. So don't feel bad about yourslef be who you want to be. I was always the rocker and badass but you can be whatever it is you want. Don;t pay attention to the others they want to suck you in. If you feel comfortable in goth then go goth. If you enjoy prep be a prep. Or, you can try 'there' a little thing my friends and i made up. It's basically your mood reflection. I did that and it works out good. Sometimes you may get made fun of but I made it into a joke and I would go along with it. Never bothered me I don't know about you but do whatever you want, noones going to stop you. Remember that.
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hey guys im about to have a party with my friend and we want to have some questions in our mind for truth or dare but we cant think of any! if anyone has some good ones much appreciated thanks in advance! (link)
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You can always dare someone to kiss someone else or smell another persons shoes. That really makes the othe person angry. Or you can ask who they have a crush on or if they would make out with a certain person you know, personal stuff like that.
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Christians do not believe in having sex before marriage, so does that include no full on kissing? (link)
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Kissing is not having sex. It is a sin to sleep with another. I don't believe in the christain religion or anything so I don't think any of that is a sin but look at it this way. If you can't get an STD it isn't having sex. Hope I helped.
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what does it mean when someone says they're head over heels for you? and how did they come up with it. it's okay if you can only answer one of the questions. thanks. (i had no idea what category to put this in sorry) (link)
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It basically means that they gotta crush on you. The origion, although i can't spiciffically say came from a man/woman who witnessed another fall down the stairs to get to their boyfriend/girlfriend. Just common sence so who knows? I may be wrong.
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I have been feeling kind of down latley and just miserable. i feel like i have no friends and no life. i dont have the life that most teens my age have like partying and just having fun..most of my time i sit at home..i am very insecure about myself and i wish i wasn't. i feel as if i dont love myself but i wish i did..i believe in God but i dont go to church because i moved to a different town 2 years ago that i dont really know anything about. But i do watch several sermons on T.V. everyday. I just want to know any uplifting passages/verses from the bible you know..or passages/verses that have to do with being proud of yourself and appreciating your life or any other good passages/verses you think i might need>thanx soo much for reading..please help me out i need som guidance... (link)
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Ok well I'll do my best to help on this one. I am honestly not big on reading the bible because I've never found it well, true. I am a fan of plato and philosophers so I should have a few saved to memory. I think I found a good one. "Never be afraid to try remember...amatuers built the ark, professionals built the titanic."
If you ever need anymore inspirational sayings, try this.
http://boardofwisdom.com/Default.asp?topic=1005&listname=Inspirational
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Hey could you guys help me out...i need fun songs to put on my myspace so could you like make a list of some and with the arist and title? Like techno,pop,dance,hip-hop,electronica,comedy,club,
fun,disco etc..something fun and dancish!
thanks a bunch and ill rate and give feedback =0) (link)
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well I a rocker so I'll tell you some good songs I know.
Enter sandman-Metallica
rapture-Hurt
crazy train-Ozzy
welcome to the jungle-Guns n' roses
I don't know, those are some of my favorite songs don't know what you like but i think they're 'fun'.
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well people i have been volenteering at the local pool with swimming lessons...and i recently had 4 classes and i got a sunburn and i need it to stop the pain...so what should i do....i hvent taken a shower yet but will it be bad if I do!please give me all the advice you can....
thanks,
meghan (link)
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Take a cold shower. Also, some spf50 or something will help so it doesn't get worse. If you are using any spf, you may need a stronger kind or apply some more. I'm a swimmer myself so I know what you got. Try some burn relief.
=))))
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ok so my parents got a devoice 7 years ago. and last year my dad got married. my step mom WAS cool but now shes annoying. i get in trouble for the *dumbest* things when she asks me a question and i dont give her every single detail then she yells and cuses. and she spys on me and my step sister to see what where saying. and we cant shut our door they said they where gonna take it down.i dont get any privecy. HELP (link)
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Wow. I would talk to your dad and honeslty she shouldn't be able to boss you around. She's just some mean old lady who feels like she needs more power. I know that privacy is important to people especially in their teens cuz I also enjoy my privacy and always have. I usually keep to myslef and your stepmother should respect that you need yours. The first person I would turn to is your father and have him help and if he refuses, then go to ur step mother and talk to her. Don't be mean about it, maybe a little strong but polite.
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i dont know but i alwayz wantt 2 hav sex its lk i cant controll myself or somethin i think & talk abuot it all da time even when i know i shouldnt lk wit guy friends or somethin do u think i hav problem? (link)
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No i don't think you have a problem at all. It's an urge you get a 'craving' if you will. Everyone gets them so just try to keep them under control and if talking about it makes you feel better, go ahead but be careful who you mention it to. your mother is a good person to talk to about it even though that feels akward. That's who i would turn to though.
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ive been a christian my entire life up until now, jsut before my whole life i gew up in the church, and thats how i was taught. now that im older i started to look into spirituality a little deeping and ive found that what i belive isnt really christianity. im going on a mexico missions trip with my youth group in a few weeks, we're goign to tijuana to build houses and work with teh kids. i've been twice, and its always a erally spiritual experience, i guess im kind of scared that i will fall back into how i was before, just because of all the pressure from everyone else, how do i stay clear from this, without not going on the trip? (link)
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Yea i was raised christain and i don't believe in it either. I don't think there is a way, if you go back to the old way that's how it was meant. I've never gone back to believing in it but maybe some kid will help you see the light and believe in a different religion or something.
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A good friend of mine recently just told me that he has feeling for me that go beyond our friendship. I had to turn him down and tell him that I couldn't be more than just friends with him. Not because he's not a good guy, don't get me wrong, he's pretty hott, funny, fun, sweet; he's a great guy. I just can't see myself in a relationship with him since we're such good friends. And not only him, but anyone of my male friends (I'm a girl by the way, if you haven't caught on--16).
It's like, once a guy reaches the "friend zone" with me, thats it, I can't date him. I mean, I tell my best frineds (guys and girls) everything from guys I've dated and done things sexual with to why my sister and I got into a fight. They've also seen me at my worst whether it be just woken up, havent shaved my legs in a while (haha), or in an argument with a parent. True, a boyfriend should know almost everything about you and will end up seeing you in those situations but as the relationship builds. Plus if I my best friend becomes my boyfriend then who am I going to complain to guys about?
Does anyone else feel this way or do you think I should give this guy a shot even though I do think this about friendships? Because honestly, if he had told me before we became such good friends I probably would have gone for it.
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Some time a good friend makes the best boyfriend or girlfriend. I'd give him a chance i mean, he's been your friend this long why not? If it doesn;t work oout then you guys can always go back to friends but what if it does work out and you guys never went out? It could huant you your entire life.
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