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I'm Edith. I'm optimistic, and i've learned from my mistakes, i believe everything happens for a reason.
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I have a CHI 1 1/2 inch flat iron that I use to straighten my hair. (me and my mom share it). Can you use it to curl your hair too? I have a Conair curling iron that works well, but I'm wondering if you can curl hair with CHI's as well. (link)
if the straightening iron is curved then probably yes.
but if it has flat edges, then no.


i'll try not to make this too long. so there's this guy named joe, and he just got out of a relationship with this girl, they were together for about 5 or 6 months. (we r 15 by the way). anyway, he and this girl gave each other oral sex. recently, me and joe have been talking and flirting, and we like each other. i think his friends know that. well recently he became kind of popular. i'm in between popular and like...normal. anyway so he was grinding with me at this dance a few nights ago. online we have been having really intense talks about like, how far i would go with a guy and i said i wouldn't go past feeling up for a while. he said that that might eventually push us apart because he has such a high sex drive (this was like a week ago). anyway, he came to my house this weekend and we made out a lot and stuff. and it really seemed like he liked me, he would randomly come up and hug me really tight and just sort of nuzzle into my neck. well since then we haven't really been talking too much. online i will try to start conversation and he will just answer and say nothing else...and at school he has been flirting with other girls (but he's a really big flirt and we aren't official yet or anything). also, 2 nights ago he told my friend that he was going to ask me to our homecoming dance...but he hardly talks to me. should i ask him if he is still interested? i fell for him really, really hard and i'm so scared that if i ask if he's not interested, he will admit that that's true, and i'll lose him. what should i do? (link)
You should talk to him, and be upfront about everything. Explain how he's confusing you and how you've heard he was planning and asking you to homecoming, but honestly don't get yourself involved with him if you already know he thinks it'll push you apart if you aren't sexual with him. Either way you'll get hurt, it'll hurt to never get a chance with him, but it'll hurt if he uses you and then leaves. Remember this is about your heart and dignity. Good luck.


I'm a tomboy and all the girls at my school wear the same types of clothes from the same types of stores. All the guys that I like went out with all of those girls. They liked me but wouldn't go out with me so I don't know if it's because of me being a tomboy or what. I mean I'm not a complete tomboy,I wear some of that stuff every now and then but not all the time,so I don't know if I should just be like those girls or what. Well,also I wasn't popular and they were,so maybe that's what it was. I know you're not supposed to change who you are but I don't know what to do. (link)
you can wait for the guy who doesn't care about how you dress to come along and so on...
or you can change the way you dress and style your hair a bit. add accessories to your normal clothing, and be creative with your hairstyles. Those simple things can make you more noticeable with out changing who you are.


well i have braces and i relly want to give my bf a blow job but will the braces get in the way?if i do give him on will they hurt him? (link)
Everything should be fine as long as you don't like scrape your teeth along his penis, but you're not supposed to do that anyways. Things might be slightly more difficult considering you have braces, but everything will be alright.


Okay so my boyfriend and i have been pretty serious for about 8 months.. and we say i love you to each other and stuff like everyday... but im IN love with him... and when i ask if he is with me he says he loves me but he doesn't know if hes in love with me...
but to me there are two kinds of love.
loving someone like a good friend or family or something like that.
or being IN love with a girlfriend/boyfriend that you've been with for a while or known for a while.
and i don't know why he isn't... but lately when I've talked to him I wont say i love you back to him.. and i think he's getting the point.. because he knows that i love him... but he also knows that it hurts me.. but if you answer this don't say anything about me not saying it back.. i just want to know what you think because I'm really IN love with him. and he acts like he is with me.. but he wont say it...
as many answers as i could get would be great. (link)
boys are confusing. even though he doesn't say it at least he acts like it, it would be worse if he said it but didn't act like it. maybe he's scared to say it or trying to figure out his feelings. don't rush it. when he finally says he's in love with you, and says it from his heart and not just because you want him to, it'll feel great.


I recently got these really cute boots but they give me like an extra three inches and im already wicked tall. I dont know how to walk with confidence when im tall because i am alot taller then most the boys with the boots on. please help! (link)
If they're cute and you look the way you look in them, you should wear them and walk with pride. Appreciate being tall, I'm like the shortest out of all my friends, so it sucks. I know how you feel, a bit differently but still. So just wear the boots with confidence, guys find that hot.


i was wondering, r u supposed to shave .. down there? 4 girls i mean (link)
Either way is normal.
There are other ways to remove hair down there, but shaving is one way to get rid of it.
But keeping the hair natural is normal too.


hey. ok, so what are some songs about a boy that you like, but doesn't know you like them or dosn't really notice you a lot. for example Teardrops on my guitar by Taylor Swift. But they don't have to be country. they can be pop or somethin. idk, but also, i want somewhat recent songs. not like from 1990s or somthing. lol. anyways, thanks!!!
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i can think of 1.
i want you to want me by letters to cleo


is there any nude parts in halloween? how bad is it? (link)
In the one out right now, they show like 3 different girls bare breasts, that's about it.


Hi. okay so i have like kinda dark, well medium brown hair.
i want a shadow box. a shadow box is like the under part of your hair. i want to dye it blonde. are there any non perminite dyes that you know about and like? i dont want it to stay in for too long. like about a week or two. any suggestions? get back to me as soon as you can. (link)
Since your hair is dark, the only way for the blonde to show up well is to use dye with ammonia in it, so it would be permanent.


15/f

ok so i went out with this guy for like a year and then broke up w/ him like right before summer. we got in like a huge fight and we stopped talking and stuff. now were like friends again and we talk.. not like a lot but we do talk. anyways we wanna like hang out soon.. but he wants to like hook up and im like fine with that. but he like wants me to give him a bj too..but like should i? or is that really slutty? i was really close with him i mean we went out for like a year. and like its weird bc now when we talk its like its the same.. like i still trust him & everything its weird. (link)
if you still have feelings for him, you shouldn't do it. you're doing this for him, but you aren't getting anything real in return. but if you don't like him as more than a friend go ahead, because in the end no one will get hurt. Good Luck.
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Look I am totaly in love with my boy friend and my ex boyfriend. They both go to my school. Today was my first day back and I have a huge crush on my best guy friend. I need help so if anyone has any answers please help me
thanks byexxxooo (link)
if your feelings for your boyfriend are lessening you probably shouldn't be with him, especially if you have strong feelings for someone else. it's ok to be single, you're not the only girl out there who's single, you should take some time off of boys and figure what out what you really want. good luck.
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16/f im in love with alot of guys but i dont talk to them much like maybe once or twice a day for about 5 , 10 minutes each.... i really want to go out with one of them i really dont care who but i dont know get them to see that im interested, so how do i lure a guy into asking me out? (link)
if they don't all hang out together, flirt with each one, but if they hang out together you have to choose who you will focus on, or all the guys will get mixed signals, and not like you. but mostly try to cut it down to just on guy, things will be easier.


I have acne scars, i think.
they are red dots but they aren't bumps like acne is. and they won't go away! and they look like pimples so it's bad :[ i've gone to the dermatologist before but he never said anything about scars. my actual acne has cleared up but those dots are still there? what are some home remedies i could use to make them go away?
here is a pic: don't worry it's not disgusting lol
http://i17.tinypic.com/4qgxzb4.jpg

also right now i use proactiv, neutrogena oil free acne wash,and 2 creams that my dermatologist gave me for my acne. they will help actual pimples... but these red dots won't go away.

helpppp ..i want CLEAR skin!
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It seems like you're using a lot of products at once. Medications that are prescribed are usually strong, so maybe your skin is too dry from all the products or it's have an allergic reaction, or something of that sort. So maybe you should minimize the use of so many products. Good Luck.
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He said that we are going to wait for each other. Then he comes home from camp and he tells me that he met this girl and kissed her. He won't talk to me or message me back on any of the messages i give him. Then all of a sudden he breaks up with this girl and meets another. he tells her that she was the best thing that has ever happened to him. I see him at a concert and he keeps looking at me and by the end of the concert he finally talks to me and we are acting like friends again. but after the concert I try and ask him if he still likes me and he doesnt answer me. He won't message me back. He does the same thing to me again. What do I do? I really like him and all I can do is think about him (link)
This boy needs to get his act straight. He is acting very immature. And he's just wasting your time. It seems like he acts the same with all girls. Try cutting all contact with him, go out with your friends, and meet new guys. If you feel like you're going to message him or call him, tell yourself that by doing that, you're just showing him how vulnerable he makes you. Good Luck.
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16/f. So this guy and I like each other. But about 3 weeks ago, he broke up with his girlfriend of a year and a half because she cheated. But I'm friends with her and she's still in love with him. Therefore, I feel like a terrible friend. I mean, I would horrible if someone I still loved was going out with one of my friends, and I really don't want to hurt my friend like that. I don't know what to do. This guy and I want to get to know each other better of course, so we're not gonna go out or anything right away, but I still feel bad. And sometimes I wonder why he likes me... I mean, they went out for so long and just broke up, but now he likes me? I would think he would need some time to get over her. I mean, we get along really well and stuff and have alot in common and whatever, so it's not like it's weird that he likes me, but so soon? Idk what to do, I'm caught in the middle of all of this and it makes me feel like a jerk; I don't want anyone getting hurt. Like, I want to go out with him eventually but his ex and all of her friends, who are also my friends, will probably be so pissed at me. But if I just didn't bother giving it a chance and going out with him, I'll probably miss out on something great and regret it. =( What should I do? Thanks for taking the time to read this. (link)
If she really loves him like she says she does, she wouldn't have cheated on him. It seems like when she had him she didn't want him, and now that she doesn't she does. It's not your fault that they broke up, you and him should continue to get to know each other, but keep quiet about it for awhile, so that the drama isn't as bad when you two decide to tell people. You will have friends who side with her and some who side with you, but you have to tell them, that it's fair, she was the one who had him at one point and cheated. And as for him moving on quickly, as long as he seems genuinely interested in you, you should trust him. Good Luck.
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ok so i was dating this amazing person..but he broke up with me and we havent really talked..but when i see him around at local concerts (hes in a band) he'll say hi..but i get so choked up and i can barely keep myslef from crying so i dont sy much. and i just found out that hes already interested in somone else..idk if hes serious about her.and i really really really dont want to be without him..should i tell him how i feel..??? how?? in person..over the fone or myspace?..or shouild i stay quiet?? idk what to do help me please!! (link)
You should tell him your feelings, it'll make you feel a lot better, and it will feel like weight has been lifted off of you. Tell him over the phone, it's more personal, and mature. Don't get your hopes up though, and when you do tell him how you feel, try and be strong and confident. Good Luck.
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Their new album came out Tuesday.

Before then, they had a song called "Holding On" on their myspace...

I looked it up and it isn't on the older CD or the new one. But one website said it was, but it's not. What happened?!

I love that song! (link)
Maybe it was like a hidden track on only a certain number of copies of the CD.


"it was the end of summer, it was the end of a lot of things"

is that a song? a quote from a moivE? what? (link)
i think it's from the movie, Now and Then, it sounds familiar.


okay well i like this one guy(lets call him cody) and i also kind of like this other guy(lets call him matt) codys going to the movies with the one girl he likes( lets call her kate) but he told me he likes me too& ive also heard that from a couple of his friends& at the same time im going to the movies with matt(the guy i sort of like) and i was wonderingg if i should just act friends with matt because im not really sure if i want a relationship with him because cody knows i like him& hes "said" hes trying to "straighten" things out with kate because they went out and then they broke up but thats all he told me: so back to my question should i act just friends with matt or act flirty with him to get cody jealous: and i know that sounds like im using matt but i sort of like him too so in a way its not using him because im pretty sure he likes me too and stuff
ahhhh please help!!! (link)
Guys are too dense to realize that you are only trying to make them jealous, and also guys don't like to wait around, so if he sees you flirting with Matt, he'll automatically think there is something going on and move on. Don't use Matt either, don't string him along and then just drop him. If you don't see anything in the future with Matt then just act as a friend towards him.




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