My names Sam and I live in Georgia. I feel that I give good advice or I wouldn't be doing this. Sometimes I'm feeling sympathetic but a lot of the time I can be kind of blunt. That doesn't mean that I don't care, it just means that the truth isn't always what you want to hear. If it's a complicated question, about relationships and such, please IM me its a lot easier to work out that way. If you leave one in my inbox it will most likely be responded to by a question and a shot in the dark so include as much info as possible.
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i went to a party at the end of skool in the middle of june. i got drunk n was unconsious. i've been throwing up and noticed a little bulge below my belly button. could some guy have fucked me while i was unconsious?HELP PLZ! (link)
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it's possible, but its probably just bloating. You could probably tell if you had sex while you were unconscious. You'd be a little sore or something. Also the fact that you've been throwing up means there could be some irritation, that would cause swelling too. Ask some of your friends that were at the party if they saw anything happen.
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ok...u give reaally good advice so i'm asking u this...and also cuz ur a guy...but here goez,
i like cars and motorcycles and sports and stuff. i'm not a brat and i dont dress too revealing. soo many guyz have asked me out...and after that i found out they only wanted me for my body...but i'm really shy so i hang out w/ my friends and certain guy friends. how do i get a guy to notice me if i dont know how?? i hope you can help me!!! (link)
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You just want a guy to notice you? You said a lot of guys ask you out, wouldn't that imply that they do notice you? Anyways, if you want them to notice you more, then it would be a good idea to flirt, like if a guy says something funny just laugh and put your arms around him for a few seconds until the joke wears off. Most guys don't mind getting touched by an attractive girl. If you want a guy to notice you for more than your physical appearance, then I say make sure that when theres a guy your attracted to in the room and your with your friends, make it very obvious that your having a good time. I know if I see a girl really enjoying herself, I want to get in on it and usually make my way over to her after a few minutes.
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i still am lyk totally in luv w/ my ex bf...we've been broken up fer lyk 2 wks...my friend just asked if he wanted to go out w/ me again. he said probly yeah. i wanna kno how i can turn him on wen i c him..helpp!!!plz anser a.s.a.p.!
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Just make sure he's happy. Don't reject him if he tries to make a move. Make sure your breath smells good and dress nice. You have to act completely into him, flirt when your around other people, but don't miss an oppurtunity for the two of you to sneak out together.
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Hi, I asked a question before about my boyfiend + I who always break up n make up ... I'm 15 years old and HE usually breaks up with me because we either fight too much or he thinks we just need to take a break and see other people for awhile. I really love him + I dont know what to do. I can't stand when he dumps me and then begs for me back and I go running back to him. (link)
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Gosh, I hate to keep asking questions, but it would be good to know what you fight about too. If he wants to take a break and see other people it means that he has another love interest, you can't stand for this. Make absolutely sure that he knows that just because you fight, it doesn't mean that you have stopped liking him. Maybe it needs to happen just one more time, and when he comes back for you, act like your not interested and then after he begs for a while go back but act like your a little unsure. Its just playing hard to get. It sounds like when you are together he more or less is in charge of the relationship. You need to make him feel a little less in charge. Ways of doing this are going out with your friends a lot while the relationship is existing, hanging out with other guys, im not saying cheat, but do it enough to get him a little worried. Just get him to the point where he feels that he can't just dump you and pick you back up whenever he wants. Don't do it all the time though, just when it looks like things are going downhill and only if you feel like he's in charge. If you start arguing about it then you might need to lighten up a little bit with it, mostly just don't let him get to comfortable with this breaking up getting back together thing.
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i dont know why, but my boyfriend dumped me. its been lyk 2 weeks. my friend asked him if he would go out w/ me again. he said he didnt know. i called him 1 or 2 timez and he said he wanted to hang out soon. o yeah, the reason he dumped me wuz b/c we didnt c eachothr alot...ok, anyways, do you think we still have a chance or not?plz tell me!thanx (link)
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The reason he told you he broke up with you unfortunately probably isn't the real reason. We always come up with something that sounds like its nobodys fault when we, or I guess just me, I break up with a girl. He has another love interest, he lost his attraction, or maybe he's just not happy with you. I can help you get him back, but not unless you IM me or leave more info about what your relationship was like while you were going out. My screen names for both MSN messenger and AOL messenger are in my column.
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i like this guy, and i think he likes me to. but my sister told me she also likes him. i really like this guy!!what should i do if i lke him and my sister does too. he acts like he likes me though. (link)
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Thats really awkward. Try to keep things outside the family. If he acts like he likes you and not your sister then I say go for it, but if he likes both of you then forget his weird ass. Leave some ages and more info in my inbox and I can help more.
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He's 20. I'm 16.
My current boyfriend started as a crush. We didn't rush into things we started out as just friends. Now that we are together he has changed. I think he tries too hard to please me and becomes irritated very easily. He seems so insecure and ...well ... just different from the person I knew when we were just friends. Our phone conversations have become a so unbearable I hardly return his calls. HE senses that there is some tension but I don't think I can explain to him exactly what's wrong. How can I get him to be himself around me again? (link)
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Theres a pretty big age gap there. Things always go wrong with big age gaps. If you really want to stay with this guy then try just having fun with him, don't take the relationship so seriously. Go play pool with him or shoot hoops or something, and most of all make sure he's happy. Every now and then ask what he wants to do. Maybe make a day for him. Dress up nice, make him dinner and just make sure he's comfortable. It sounds like he doesn't relax enough when he's around you also. Maybe you should go over to his house and cuddle while you watch a movie, something like that. Leave one in the inbox and let me know how things go.
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i like this guy at skool and he really loves me and he asks me out all the time.hes not very popular tho and im afarid that ppl will make fun of me. plz help me!!! thanks (link)
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I say make him popular. Invite him to some parties. When you and your friends are hanging out give him a call. Just try and make him look good. Remember, its not all about your reputation, think about his too. If you think about the position he's in, it doesn't look that good. He likes a girl and she likes him too, but she doesn't want to get with him cause he doesn't have that many friends. Sounds pretty sad to me. The only difference between a popular person and an unpopular person is how many friends they have, so even if you don't go out with him you can at least give him the luxury of knowing that he has one more.
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me n my boyfriend always break up and then make up. it's getting kinda old and i'm always getting hurt. i just cant help myself from going back to him all the time, i guess its because i truly love him. i'm just so sick of getting hurt when one day he'll be all lovey-dovey to me and the next day he'll be so rude n ignorant. i feel that we're going to break up again and in a lil while he'll come running back. what should i do? i think we really do love eachother though. (link)
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For what reasons are you breaking up and how old are you? Leave one in the inbox and I'd love to help you.
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ok well ive gone out wit people and made out wit people be4.. but the kind im kinda going out wit hasnt ever had a gf and has never kissed no one so im gonna be his first kiss what can i do to make it sumthing he wont forget! (link)
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Alright, do what everyone else said, but I suggest you do it laying down. maybe even be on top of him. Don't straddle him, but maybe put one of your legs between his. Be slow so that he can pick things up. Kiss him for a while, but don't go into an hour long make out session. A minute is more than enough. After your done, lean back slowly, try to open your eyes before he does, but not all they way and not to fast. When you see his eyes open open yours a little more and smile, even if it was the worst kiss you've ever recieved, just smile, for his sake, smile. Oh yeah, make sure neither one of you have bad breath or are sweaty.
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OK i asked the question earlier about the guy i met on vacation...all i kno is that he lived in north dakota with his dad who is in the air force and is moving to tennesse soon...i kno his mom lives in california and his first name is brendan...i guess ill never find him since i dont got his last name..:-( o well any tips on getting over him? (link)
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I'm just gonna take a stab in the dark here, so I'll either hit right on, or you will think I'm crazy. It's kind of a wonderful picture, going on vacation, meeting a guy, falling in love and so on and so on. The truth is, if you think about it too much sooner or later your going to remember some things that didn't go perfectly. A time he wasn't completely into you, or a time when you wanted him to make time for you and went out with his buds instead. These things will get to you cause you can't talk to him about it and the feelings for him will diminish as well. This happened to me, except that I do have the girls last name, phone #, email address etc. I'm a guy by the way, sorry should of put that earlier. Still you will probably remember something and try to convince yourself that he wasn't the one, and even if he was you couldn't of kept up a relationship over that kind of distance.
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my best friend is really kewl and everything but she's stubborn and she wants to have sex but she just turned 14 and she doesn't even have a boy frined but how do i talk to her about the dangers and stuff?
signed,
confused (link)
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theres not really that many dangers. But, 14 is very early. Probably the earliest anyone should even consider it. Try to convince her to not do it, tell her that she has the rest of her life to do it. If it looks like she's going to do it anyways, try to hook her up with your best guy friend, he'll probably like you more for it, and if its a really good guy, then maybe they can have a strong relationship afterwords. Also, encourage her to use as much protection as possible and make sure her and her partner know how to use a condom properly (read the back of the package, you'll be surprised how much you didnt know)
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I've been sexually active for about 6 monthes or so now, and I'm going to the gynocologist sometime this week. Will she be able to tell that I'm not a virgin? I'm only 16. Oh, and if she can find out, are they supposed to tell your parents? PLEASE, PLEASE HELP! (link)
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she'll be able to tell your parents if your cherries popped, but I doubt she will unless your parents just straight out ask. Also theres other ways your cherry can pop besides sex, or so I've heard. If the doctor says anything just ask him/her to please not tell your parents.
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heheh i know this sounds stupid, but whenever me n my b/f are alone 2gether, its like we dont talk much, and we feel really akward, like were forced 2 be hangin out 2gether.. which def. isnt the case tho. i mean, i try 2 be all outgoing and stuff, but i feel like he doesnt even wanna talk even tho its awkward in the car.. any ideas 2 get rid of the akward silences besides bringing up random convos? cuz i already do that... he just answers my question, then doesnt expand on it.. and im always the one askin Qs about his life.. he never asks about mine in person... see, hes a totally different person online than in person.. when hes IM'ing me, he talks like hes happy 2 be with me, and flirts alot, but i dont think he feels comfortable around me yet cuz we only been goin out 3 weeks.. help anyone? (link)
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Awkward silences happen. It happens to me on the phone all the time, I like being in person or online because in person theres always something to comment on or you could just start cuddling or something, making out, making babies- maybe not this one after 3 weeks, but I've had sex sooner so if you want to, go for it. He sounds fairly shy so try doing something kind of out there every now and then. Like say you wanna fight, like actually stand up and start punching at him. Make sure he knows you want to just wrestle and mess around and your not actually looking to kick his ass. If he's shy like I think he is then you'll have to wrestle him onto a sofa or something and then procede to tongue wrestle. Sorry I meant watch a movie. Anyways whatever floats your boat, or just stand up and go over and start unbuttoning his shirt without even saying a word, this always gets my attention.
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so then whats a metrosexual? (link)
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Its a guy thats really serious about fashion, but not gay. He might wax his chest and back, maybe even his legs, he probably wears expensive name brand clothing and maybe uses make up or other moisturizers and things that mostly women use.
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ok i know this sounds stupid..but i don't know what a hetrosexual is! can some please tell me?
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Your attracted to the opposite sex. Well maybe you arent, but if you are, then you're heterosexual.
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ok...i still (link)
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i think you should stay within 1 year of your own age until you're 15 or 16 depending on your sexual history. I say forget this guy, cause he's probably already forgotten you. You are too young to be having sex. Wait until you're in high school at least maybe even wait til later in high school or college. I've done it and im only 15 so I cant say you have to wait too much longer, but with this guy I say don't do it.
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ive already asked this.. but i need more advice.. well ive been dating my bf for almost 2 years now! WE R COMPLETELY in love..and we're plannin to b together 4ever! the thing is.. is tat my parents dont noe.. my parents said i cant have a bf till i finish skool..and ill finish in 2 years so its not tat long.. my parents noe about him and i just tell them that we are really good friends.. but im scared tat if i tell them they wont let me see him.. wat do i do? should i let them noe the next time they ask or just keep it quiet.. the thing is my bf asks me wen am i gonna tell them n stuff cuz we hardly get to see eachother n hang out.. i meen he understands n he doesnt force me or n e thing.. but i donno wat to do! (link)
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tell your parents about him, don't mention that its been two years unless they ask, and if they do ask they won't be so heartless as to end a two year relationship. If you say it straight out though you'll just sound rebellious which will make them mad and that never helps. Just say you really love him and think he might be the one. You said it's 2 years til you finish school. I assume that means high school, so your probably between 15-17. Tell your parents that you feel your old enough to make your own decisions, but respect their opinions as well. Tell them that you really can't stop seeing him, but if they want to lay down any guidelines you'll follow them. At least tell them you will, whether or not you do isn't really up to anyone but you.
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hey. i have REALLY short legs. &its really annoying. i know this sounds weird, but is there anyway to make them longer? i just hate having such short legs because i can't find pants! if you help me i'll rate you! (link)
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There are a few things you can do. Personally, since I'm a guy I don't know much about making your legs look longer. I do know though, that any kind of weight lifting, drugs, alchohol, and strenuous exercise can stunt your growth. You can also have doctors inject growth hormones which will make you grow, but theres no gauruntee that the growth will come just in your legs. Also these hormones can have some side effects, but if its a risk your willing to take maybe you should look into it. Pants can be modified, I know it's a pain in the ass, but its better than wearing clothes that don't fit.
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well im going to florida for a week and im leaving tommorow and i havent gotten my period when i was supposed to and i dont kno when it will come and i will be swimming a lot because it is florida and i cant wear tampons the whole time can i ? because i didnt think u were sposed to do that .What should i do? (link)
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I dont see why you couldnt where a tampon, at least while your swimming, just take it off when your out of the water
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