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Q: all my life ive been handi capped from intimidation in the past 2 years ive had starting relationships but i always seem to get intimidated and cant seem to physically show effection ive lost dozens of women this way any suggestions?
Hello there =)

First of all, dont do anything you are not quite comfortable with. I can understand how hard something like this can be but honestly, just take it slow when in a relationship. This way, you can warm up to her and get more comfortable with her after getting to know her more etc... And then you'll find yourself physically expressing yourself with her. But be patient with it. If she leaves before you feel comfortable doing anything, then its better she was gone then have stayed b/c relationships shouldnt be built on how physical you are when just starting out.

So before doing anything, take it slow to the point where you are comfortable enough to do anything, because as I've mentioned, dont do anything you are not comfortable with, it wont feel right to you.

Hope I helped and good luck!

Q: I am a sophomore in college and have been friends with a girl since my junior year of high school. Well I guess I shouldn't call it a friendship. Here is a little bit of background on the situation. Good "friends" until she got with her current boyfriend ( they have been together for about a year and a half I would say). During their relationship, I noticed the girl and I hung out a lot less. It's not like she ditched all of her friends, just me. I never confronted her about it because we never talked anymore. I find out her boyfriend doesn't like me for reasons I don't know. He didn't like her hanging with me an it's pretty obvious she listened to him and ignored me. She even deleted me off her facebook friends and blocked me for no reason a couple months ago. But today I got a facebook message of her apologizing and how she was a terrible friend and what not. I did not write anything back yet. I am not sure what to say, if I should make it a big deal or not. We haven't talked since June. I want her to know i forgive her but at the same time I've realized I don't need someone like that in my life. Sorry for the length. Any advice?
Hey!
First I'd like to say that I'm sorry to hear this, Its so hard to find a good friend and when you think you've found one, they go and do something that makes you question the friendship so i totally know how confused you might be.....now for what I think lol:

For someone to ditch a once good friend is obviously wrong in this situation. Seeing that shes kept this up for about two years, when at first her relationship wasnt serious yet??? Yeah that lets me know that you werent too important to her....Shes a year and a half too long for her apology. Tell her how you fell, like you want to let her know you accept her apology but you dont see a future friendship with her. Maybe not a relationship as close as before or if at all, whatever you feel is right. So tell her how you feel hun, I'm sure you'll pick the right words and make the right desicion. =)

Q: everytime after i pee, like right after, i have this pain that feels like i have to pee extremely bad. like ive been holding it in but i just went pee and cant pee anymore. what is it and can i do anything to fix it?
hey there
hm...sounds like you might have a urinary tract infection. Its very important that you take care of it so that it doesnt do anymore damage. It's very common for females to have (I've had it before lol) so dont worry!! Go to the doctor and have them check it out. If it is, they'll just give you some antibiotics for a few days and you'll be all better. =) Hope you feel better.

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Hello my name is Gina. I'm 21-years-old
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A little about me: I've been married since I was 18 and have been to hell and back to keep this marriage together. But the only thing that has truely kept us together is our love....and a LOT of work. We have a son who is just a few months old whom I LOVE SO MUCH!

I am honest & blunt in my advice giving, and will probably tell you what you dont wanna hear.....Life isn't easy folks.

I look forward to helping anyone who needs it so please, ask away!

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