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hey!
ok, so, my name is vanessa! i' a real fun crazy gal =) I'm 19 years old, and about to start my second year of college! i love to challenge myself, to be with my friends, help them out to the max that i can.. mainly reson why am here.. duh lol i love you help people =) and can simply be a great listener. I've been through a lot in my life already... i guess that can be both good and bad. But that means i have some experience about a little bit of everything!
like I said, am in college, am in love with this amazing guy whom i've been with for over a year and a half, am bi, have been in love, have had my heart broken, have been places, study, work, and well, am crazy =) hahaha! in a good way ;-)
so, anyway, ask away anything thats on your mind =) no matter how crazy or whatnot, i'll ceratintly be here to try my best to help =)

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okay,so like my friend took me to the pool today and i noticed that she kept going to the edge of the pool hanging over the edge in a trance like 8 times before i asked her, what's wrong. she told me "it feels so good" and was like entirely dozed off. so i noticed that she was letting the jets on the wall hit her pussy. so i tried next to her and i'm telling u IT FELT SO GOOD!!! oh my god! i can't explain it, i've never felt that way before. anyway, my question is, is that normal? r there any other girls out there who do this too?

Trust me darling, it definitely is!
don't worry about it and have fun! =)
and yes, there are definitely other girls out there that do that and other things too! ;-)
trust me, i know! hahaha!

xoxoxox

VB

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ok so the other night at a party i was sitting behind the house and it was dark out and i was with 2 of my best guy friends. well they kept going up my shorts and down my shirt but no matter how much i told them to stop the one kept touching me down there and down the back of my shorts... they kept following me and even did it secretly when ppl were around!! and then i was laying on the grown and the one guy put his thing right in my face and begged me to suck it and kept pushing it at my mouth but i locked my lips.. so im basically asking was i molested? i hate this feeling i have now

sweety....
whenever a guy tries to do something that you don't want, like touching you and he just keeps trying or doing it and you keep telling them to stop... yes, it is sexual assault!..
report this guys hun. They can't be going around acting and doing the things they did to you....
I'm sorry you had to go through this hun.. =/
No girl should ever have to deal with such things....
Any other help or questions or anything at all feel free to contact me... IM me at crazycurious555 or email at ...@aol.com

VB

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During sex, does it hurt for guys like it does for the girls (their first time) or does it feel good to them??

unfortunately, girls are the ones that have to deal with all the pain =/
Even on their first time, its pleasureable.... grrrr! haha!

hope this helps! =)

VB

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ok say i had a tampon in and i put a vibrator on my clit and climaxed. is that safe? i didnt put anything in my vagina but is it ok to have an orgasm while you have a tampon in?

Don't worry =)
actually, i have done it before haha!
and yeah, it is perfectly fine. since what is being used in a vibrator bt on the clit, all it does is get the tampon wet... haha! so its no problem! trust me =)

Keep enjoying! =)

VB

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ive ben dating this guy for a long time about a year and one day my boyfriend and my bff were hanging out my bff said go buy us some pizza so i left to get the pizza when i came back with it the door was locked so i went in the back door and when i came in i didnt see then i looked in the hole house ecsep her bedroom so i went in her bedroom an they were both naked having sex.what should i do about my friend and my boyfriend?

Hun, I'm sorry you had to go through this. your boyfriend with your best friend? wow.... Those two are suppossed to be the ones in whom you can put all of your trust and love, and for them to have done that to you in unforgiveable. I would advice you to put them both in the past. You don't deserve having that done to you. You for sure deserve better, and i'm sure you'll find a much better friend, because lets be honest, no real friend would do anything to cause specially her best friend any harm...
And as for your boyfriend, if he cheated on you, you can't trust him. How do you know he won't do it again? or has done it and/or has been doing it already? I definitely say give him the boot!
Good luck hun =/

VB

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like what is frist base second base third base.
and of course home
like in your personal opinion??

~First base is kissing...
~Second, is more of make out that includes wondering hands.. haha!
~Third includes all of the above but moving down the other persons body.... aka oral play
~And lastly home, refers to sex, intercourse...

hope this helps
=)

VB

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In the movie, American Pie (the first one), when Jim (the main guy in the movie) and Nadia are on his bed and she's looking at his porn magazines and they start to get close and shes like naked under a robe and he starts stripping and has his boxers on, what happens? I watched it all but she kept getting all dissapointed and all the guys from school watching on his webcam kept saying, NOT AGAIN JIM? what happened? cause i dont understand. thankss

what happened was that he orgasmed..... without even anything much really happening. which is why the girl was disappointed too lol and as you may imagine, once the guy just "came" it kinda ruins the whole thing of an experience of pleasure for both... and of course, the guys reaction has to do with not only that the guy just orgasmed, but the girl got nothing! and they didn't gt to see anything... of er or action at all whatsoever =/
haha!
hope this helps! =)

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Ok I am a virgin and my boyfriend stuck his penis inside of me for about 10 minutes he didn't get off to it and he didn't go all the way in did I lose my virgnity?

I'm afraid that the answer is yes....
No matter the length of time or if he "finished", the poing is that there was penetration of his penis into your vagina....
Therefore, technically, yes. You did lose your virginity.
Any other questions don't be shy to ask =)

VB

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okay well yesterday i went to the doctors for my check up and they made me pee in a cup ... which they never make me do and she said it was to check for any diseases ( is an HIV/AIDS test done by peeing in a cup?) or could it be a drug test


Thanks i was just curious =)

When they make you pee in a cup it is to try to detect some diseases.. but keep in mind, that they don't nesessarily mean hiv/aids.... actually those are detected through blood work....
But getting back to the urine, thats just to check for any internal mishaps, to see if everything like urine related i guess i can say is ok. Make sure you don't have any sort of infection, if your pancreas is functioning well, etc.... =)
and just so you know, pretty much from now on almost every time that you go to the doctors for a check up or something along those iles, you'll have to pee in a cup! =/ such a pain, i know.. but gotta do what you gotta do =/ haha!

hope this helps!

VB

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Can two people who have never had sexual contact with anyone else become infected with STDs after having sex for the first time?

the answer, absolutely not! =)
If lets say you and your partners where both virgins and decided to one day have sex, there's no chance of getting an std from one another since both hadn't had any sexual encounters before. The only way to contrac an std is by sexual intercorse.... and as long as both are faithful towards each other everything should be ok =)
nothing to worry about =)

VB

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ok i might be pregnant and well i don't know what to do i am 15 and i don't know how to get a pregnancy test i could ask an adult i know that wouldn't tell my mom anything but i don't want to be pregnant so i don't know what i should do should i just pray its not true or should i just i don't know i am so confused i need to take a pregnancy test but i don't know how to get one

OK, first of, try to relax, take a deep breath.....
ok, now, by just staying there and not doing anything is not gonna bring about any results. To get a pregnancy test just go to a local drug store. Or even like a supermarket or target or somewhere where condoms are sold. If there are condoms, there are pregnancy tests. Go ahead and buy one. take it home or a friends house or somewhere you know you can take it and have time to take it, and follow the instructions.
Another option, is go to your doctor, a close by clinic, or even try to contact planned parenthood.
But do try to go to alocal store and get the test.... and for next time (not to lecture you or anything) but try to remember to use condoms so you don't have to go through such scares again... =/ Cause its not fun, not one bit!

Wish you all the luck hun!

VB

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i ended my period july 8th and then i had sex with my boyfriend for the first time 3 days later. he was a virgin too, he used a condom. what are the chances of getting pregnant? cus im really scared, but i doubt that i am.

The chance of you being pregnant are very slim. If you used the condom correctly there's only about 3% chance of pregnancy. But that's very slim compared to the 97% effectiveness =)
So you should be ok =)
As long as you are carefull and smart like you show to be by using a condom, you shouldn't have anything to worry about =)
Thumbs up! =)

VB

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Hey.

Well my boyfriend and me are quite close.
And i know he likes me and just doesn't want sex!
He is horny (which is embarassing to say)!

But he's like --wanna root--wanna fuk--lets have sex--

But i don't know if i should and im a virgin ... i need to know if i should have sex or not!

HELP PLEASE!!!!

darling, you should always keep this in mind. If you're questioning yourself, and asking for others if you should do it or not, don't do it. Because that just means that you're not ready for it in one way or another. When you're trully ready to be with the boy, you will know. Your mind, body and soul will tell you that you're ready to take that step. Because not only are we talking about being with a certain guy for the first time in the relationship, but it being your first time in general. If you're questioning it now, its highly likely that you will be regreting it later.... and that's a horrible feeling.. =/
So my advise, no. don't have sex with him just yet. Wait till you're ready =) till you know tha it'll be for both of your pleasures and not obligation!

Best of luck!

VB

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Do most people shave down there?
Should I?

It really depends on what you feel most comfortable with =)
Some like to completely shave, others trim, make crazy or simple designs... and others go completely natural! haha!
Its really up to you =)
But percentage wise yes, mostly do. as weird as this may sound, its nicer, in both feeling and look.. haha! and cleaner =)

Hope this helps! =)

VB

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I am a 14 year old female and i havent gotten my period yet but i want to have sex. My question is can i have sex even though i havent had my period yet. and if i can have sex is there any chance of me getting pregnate??

Yes, you can have sex even though you haven't gotten your period yet, and yes there is still a chance you could get pregnant even though you haven't gotten your period yet.
Just make sure you're trully ready, and of course, if you do go for it, always remember to use protection! =) so chances of getting pregnant and or ctaching a disease decrease =) ok? you want to trully be ready and prepare yourself....

VB

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Is bi curious another word for homosexual?
I mean can a man like dick and still be straight?

I personally believe it's for people who are just afraid to admit they are gay in the first place.

Being Bi means that you like both sexes. And if you're Bi-curious that you just want to experiment a little being with somone of the same sex.
And if a man continuesly likes being with a nother man like you make it sound in the second part, than no, he is not straigh. He's either bi or gay.

As for the comment you made about saying that a person says that they're bi curious or bi means that they're just afraid to admit they're gay is just not exactly true. For one it couldt be that they just want to have that once experience.

I can tell you very openly that I actually am a bisexual. At first i thought i was just bi curious, but my feeling ran a little more than just for the pleasure of experimenting about being with another girl. Now, i should tell you that I do have a boyfriend, and have been with him for over a year and a half, and i love him to death, and he very well knows that i am Bi =) actually was the first to know. So i'm not exactly bi, because i still like the opposite sex. and you still have to keep in mind, that other may just trully be just bi-curious. Amd really just want to know what it's like to be with someone of the same sex... but if it does keep happening after that one time its past curiosity and into bisexuality =)

well, hope this helps a bit =)

VB

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Hi i'm a 14 year old female and i have never had my period before and i was always told taht you can NEVER get pregnant. So how can atht happen.

And also when you have sex for the first time and you have NEVER had your period like me won't it hurt. Like my mom told me taht you can't hav sex because you don't have the natural lubracante so if you do have sex it will rip your insides and you can't have kids or it would hurt really really bad.

I think the more appropriate words would be, that it is almost impossible to get pregnant if you have sex before you ever get your period. Then again you have to think of the possibility that even though you may never have had your period, at the moment that you could be having sex, your first egg could be coming down your tubes and could become pregnant. So it is posible for it to happen, but the chance of it is very slim....

Also, yes, Your first time will hurt, but not because you wont have enough lubricants, it'll hurt just because it always hurts at least a bit the first time =/ But it wont rip your insides and make you not have kids.. thats just to try to scare you off and make you not even think about having sex! What she's talking about right there is rape. And when it comes to rape, yes, there will be a lot of pain and does sort of damages your insides a bit, as you can imagine... But if its sex that you want, your body will create a lubricant so its not as painfull =)

Hope this helps =)

VB

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does anyone know how to take music from one ipod and put it on another one like or at least how to save some music to the library????

I actually did this the other day! =D
just plug in your ipod.... "the second one" and eithre a) you can leave it it so that all the music be transfered into the ipod, or b) select the manual music tranfer so you can put the songs that YOU wan to tranfer into the ipod... =)
and there you go! =)
Good luck! =)

VB

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hey i recently posted the question about getting tested for everything. and i have one other question, when u go to a regular doctor where do you do, like the doctor you usually go to get physicals or like a hospital doctor. i dont know if this is a stupid question but i just dont really know what that means. thnaks

aww don't worry, =)
not a stupid question at all!
Go to your regular doctor, the one you get physicals from =)
Right on the spot he/she will get urine and blood samples from you... =) at least that has been my experience with my doctors.. haha! =)
So no need to go to go through the hassle of going to the hospital.

=)

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hey
please no lecturing.
i was just wondering if you wanted to get tested for EVERYTHING what kind of doctor do you go to becuase i called planned parenthood and they onld do three tests. or is it even possible to get tested for everything? thanks

To be able to get tested for absolutely everything try going to your regular physician =)
make an appointment and just tell him/her that you want to get tested for any and all types of std and anythign that could be out there. No problem whatsoever =)

Best of luck!

VB

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