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ok so i have bf and he has tried to makeout with but i dont know what to do
he stuck his yongue in my mouth and i was like freaking out! i kinda liked it though haha.
so i mean what do i do with my tongue when he puts his in mine?
PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE HELP MEEEE!!!!!!
PLEASE HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! (link)
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Just play with his tongue a bit, too. =)
And yeah, it might be awkward at first, but really, you'll get the hang of it.
Best of luck!
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MY friend is moving NJ to CA. He's already really upset. We haven't known each other very long. I'm a grade above him. We became really good friends and stuff. I want to give him something. Something creative. Any ideas?
Greatly appreciated.
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It might sound corny, but maybe a hemp necklace or something. I don't know his personality, but I have some guy friends who wear hemp necklaces and bracelets, and then you can tell him to always wear it in memory of you. Also make sure to demand you keep in touch!
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I'm a female and I'm 17. I'll just get straight to the point. I like this guy...a lot. More than I have before. The thing is, I really want to tell him that I have feelings for him and it seems like he may feel the same way but I'm still afraid of that famous phrase "I only like you as my friend" or something to that extent. The other part of me is just telling me that I should just forget about him and move on or whatever. What do you think? Tell him? (link)
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If you think he likes you back, then I'd say go for it! And what if he says "Only as friends"? Consider it his loss.
But really, how can you know without trying? =)
Best of luck!
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15/f
hi!! most of my best friends have boyfriends. Some of them even have 8 -yes, 8- other guys vying for them as well. Like if they broke up with their boyfriend, they would be asked out by 8 guys at once in a heart beat.
Me on the other hand, i can't even get asked out once. i've never had a boyfriend, a kiss, or even a real "i mean it" type of hug from a guy. I'm starting to get really lonely and also pissed off because im tired of being left out of plans becuase i don't have a date/boyfriend and i really want to be liked by atleast one guy (that i even remotely like-there are some guys who like me, but they #1 don't have enough courage to tell me/ask me out and #2 they are gross (don't brush hair, bad BO and bad breath, and don't wash clothes).
how do i get someone to like me and how do i flirt with a guy to get their attention to ask me out.
if you could PLEASE help me, i would be really really really happy and grateful.
(o, i forgot to mention, im really shy and not good at starting conversations or keeping them going)
thanks so much and sorry this is so long (link)
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I'm alike with the shyness! But I swallow it and try to be outgoing, and it really does snatch up guys' attention. And yeah, just flaunt the fact that you're confident and love yourself, guys tend to dig that =D
(Not to be mistaken for vanity, I just mean high self-esteem and such).
As for flirting? Resting on their shoulder, asking for a hug, giggle and smile a lot, and load on the cute!
Best of luck!
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I have been single for 10 months because my past relationship was with a guy I truely loved but he wasnt willing to devote himself to atleast calling me once a day to talk to me.
I have found this guy that I really like and He recently told me he liked me to. hes really nice, and not like most of the other guys i know. He is rude, he doesnt party much and hes not like most of the guys ive dated. I really like him but for some reason I get really shy around him (which isnt normal). The only thing Im afraid of is that Im going to push him away Like i do with alot of guys and i dont want to do that.
I think i push guys away when the treat me well but i dont understand why.
my question is. How do I try to losten up around him so that he knows i like him and so maybe we could move further and start dating. And how do I not push him away when this starts to happen?
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I'm the same way! I've also lost a good boyfriend due to my shyness and insecurity, so I learned that basically I have to love myself and flaunt that I do! Swallow that lump in your throat and be outgoing towards him.
And it's probably not that you push away guys that are sweet and good to you...it just feels foreign from the guys you've dated who've failed to commit.
Best of luck =D
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It seems like all of the girls in west milford high have always been dating assholes who want nothing but sex, then when one sweet guy comes into their lives they dont know what to do and end up hurting him. Why cant nice guys ever have what everyone else has? Do i have to turn into an asshole for girls to like me? (link)
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If a girl can't see how good of a guy you are, you're better off without them. Don't let anyone get you down for being the sweet one, it's a rarity to find a decent guy, so just make yourself available for the girl who comes along who will like you for you. =)
Best of luck!
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alright so me and this girl are really tight and we spent basically the whole summer together and we just get along so well and we were just complete best friends. now she's always hanging out with this other girl, let's call her jillian, and she blows me off to hang out with jillian, which i ask her if she wants to do something first but then right after jillian asks her if she wants to do something and she says yes. we never hang out anymore and i try to make days in my schedule were we can hang out but then she says "no sorry i cant, im 'babysitting'" but then i see her away message and stuff and its like "hanging out with jillian" its just really annoying. i have nothing against jillian, she's a cool girl we're kind of friends but, i just want my old best friend back...what should i do?
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I find it kind of sad that your friend lied about babysitting to hang out with "Jillian" it really shows how she knows it bothers you.
I'd confront her, just tell her that you feel you're being replaced and you're feeling kinda hurt by it. Since I don't know her personality, I don't know how she'd respond to it. If she gets very defensive, maybe she just had felt like she wanted a change, or if she's sympathetic, maybe she sees that she has disregarded your feelings and will hopefully apologize and you guys can hang out again.
Best of luck!
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i think, but i just dont know, but i think im in love...see this guy i just dont really know a whole lot about him, but he is everywhere i look...i told him i liked him like two months ago and i think i scared him off,,im in the process for asking for a truce and getting to know each other...but i have tried to get over him and just when i think i do, he pops up again...i dont know why...but all of these quizzes saying are you in love they wont tell you,,they are mostly about when you know the guy really well...but i dont hardly talk to him like maybe once a week...if i am in love i dont know what it feels like..i just know that i have never felt like this about anyone ever before...he is with me everywhere at everytime...but i see more to him than when others just see a pretty face..i see that he is a good person and has a lot of poteintial in his life..i see that he cares and is a gentlemen...i see him not the cute guy that plays soccer,,you know..i just dont know what to do...so can you help???
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Of course. =)
I had thought that I loved a guy before, but I think I had only felt that way because he was the first guy to actually like me. So, before you devote yourself to him, just remember that at this point it's a crush, and it's too early to truly tell if you love this guy.
And about scaring him off? I doubt it! Guys have that huge ego so he was probably just shocked a bit. But it's good that you're in the process for getting to know him better. I'm sure he'll be willing to be friends, and if he isn't, it's his loss! Don't forget that, okay?
It's a rarity for someone to see more than just a cute face, so congrats for being a good person, haha. I hope he sees that you're an awesome person, too, and good luck with the friendship (and hopefully soon relationship!)
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ok so it all started when last year when I noticed that a guy was kinda stalking me I guess b/c I would see him everywhere. ok so this yr its like the same thing his locker is by mine so we see each other pretty much every day.like he stares at me a lot even my friend noticed.every time hes lookin at me and I look at him he looks away. i think he might like me but Im not sure. First it was kinda annoyin but then I started to get interested b/c he's very cute. then I found out that he is a sophomore and I felt weird b/c im a senior. im not sure on what to do. I think I like him but he's younger..would that be a problem?? If not, how should I start talkin to him b/c we dont even know each other =( (link)
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Be a little cautious, I had gone out with a senior in my sophomore year, but we had to end it because he went to a college 4 1/2 hours away. Of course I think if we worked for it, it could have gone smoothly, but we weren't really that convinced that we'd both make it work.
As far as talking to him, just make sure you smile and catch his glances. When you guys are both at your lockers, maybe smile and say, "Hope you have a nice weekend!" or something. It's apparent he's shy and he'll probably be overjoyed that you took notice to him.
Load on the cute, and good luck!
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I have a few questions. First I would like to know if 185 lbs for a 15/f 5'6 is average, overweight, extremely overweight, or such... and my second question... Is that I eat nonstop. Its mostly an I eat when I'm bored and whenever my mom makes something to eat I always eat it all because here its a clean your plate kind of house, even when im not hungry anymore. I know the odvious don't eat as much or don't eat when your bored, find a hobby... I've tried all that.. but it doesnt do much.. does anyone know what I can do for this? ? ? And does anyone know any easy, fat burning "exercises" that are fun and easy? thanks a bunches! (link)
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The game Dance Dance Revolution: Extreme 2 has a cute lil' built-in exercise option. You put in your weight and I believe it records calories burned. Also, it's so fun!
Best of luck!
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I am feeling really low right now. Have you ever poured your heart out at someone? and they just threw it back in you face? Well I hope not, because I wouldn't wish it on my worst enemy. I just expierienced that very thing today after school.
Freshman year in highschool I met this guy. His name is Ethan. He was the best guy friend any girl would want. He was sweet, caring, and always said the right thing. Well, I naturally started falling for him. With a little push from my loud, obnoxious friend, he had the courage to ask me out. So yes, that it how it all started, it was all fine and great until he changed from kind, sweet Ethan to the know it all, egotistical Ethan. I am a very passive person most of the time. I was very patient with him and accepted and loved him despite his annoying additude.
It worked out also because we both had and have a passion for drama and being on stage, so we got to be in plays together and spend time together constantly in after-school activities.
The problem started at our lunch table. Ethan didn't get along with my friends. I may have put up with his know it all aditude, but they didn't. My friends hated him, and I think they still do. I was a fool and sided with my friends. They seemed so right. I began seeing Ethan in a differant light. I slowly began to find every bit of him repulsive. Everytime I would be talking with a friend about him, I felt compelled to be a jerk and agree with all the negative conotations they labeled him with. It got to the point when I was telling people I was going to break up with him after the Christmas dance. I think Ethan began to see the way I had changed. He gave up on my friends and moved to another lunch table. Then my friends really started slamming him with 'bad boyfriend' labels and I the idiot I was believed him.
The day came and I decided I was breaking up with him after school. But that same day he beat me to the punch. I was devistated. I got so mad at him, and said things I didn't mean. He followed me, trying to hold my hand and console me, but I was furious. I was such a jerk and I know it now.
So that was it. I think the worst moment was when I climbed into that car, and drove away from the school. It all hit me on what had happened. A love song came on the radio, and I just cried and cried.
I am now a sophmore in highschool. It has be a long time since I even cared about this. But a couple weeks ago, I was lying in bed, and it just hit me all over again, like deja-vu. I felt horrible. As I lay tossing and turning in my bed, I knew the only way I was going to sleep was to write down my feelings. That is just how I operate I guess. So this writing turned into a very long letter...to Ethan. It basicially was saying how I really miss being his friend, how I want to be friends again, and just apologizing for letting my friends decide who I should care about. I also included a painting I had painted for him and never gave to him because I was mad at him for some reason. So, now I regret it... but I gave him the note. I gave him something that was a total theriputic exercise for me. I guess my reasoning was that it might make him feel better about himself, and put me in the good graces with him again.
So, basicially he said nothing. On the note I said I wanted to talk about it..but he said NOTHING. I was devistated, the only thing I had to comfort me was the thought that he was probably feeling good about himself- and that's why I gave it to him anyways. But I couldn't stop thinking about how he was kinda saying 'no, I won't be your friend', which cut me deeply...
So all of that doesn't matter now because today after school he finally talked...well kind of...
I was at my locker after religion class (which I have with him)Just then my friend Kaleb who has no association with Ethan decides to start singing 'It's too late to apologize' by Timberland (just a strange coicidence) Ethan then tapped me on the shoulder, and started a mildly awkward casual conversation, and asked to talk after school. I said fine, and all was fine and dandy. I was then on an emotional high. I was thinking...'finally he's coming around! He understands!'...So yep, I was happy. After school I found him and he led me down a hallway to talk..that's when it got weird. He was ReAllY awkward now, and extremely uptight and rude. This is basically all he said, not really letting me talk and making me extremely nervous: So what's up? Are you ok...now? are you FInE and dandy.. now?.... I got a few ums here and there and maybe a 'kinda' it was horrible. Then I said how I felt: "Well,, it kinda hurt my feeling when you didn't talk at first. It was like you were saying...No, I won't be your friend' He didn't really resond to this, I think he said some thing like: 'you're ok now though?' Then he said 'stay here' and just started leaving and was basically saying, stop following me. I was mad and showed it made a face and walked away. Then he started following me. It was like that night all over again. THis time I let him talk. He just kept asking that question and I tried to change the subject once again: "Do you like...hate me or something?" He said "no, if I hated you I wouldn't be looking at you." Then he looked at me but it was definately forced, and it made me feel really low. THen he was being awkward and started playing with my hair and then tried to put his hand around my shoulder. I still wanted to talk but he seemed compelled to end it. he asked the question again and I said: 'yeah...but' and he cut me off again and said 'good, that's all I care about.' Then he put his hand around my should awkwardly and I did it back. (a half hug thing) then he said, 'give me a hug' or something and I did. Then he looked me in the eyes and said whenever you need something just tell me' I thought that was sweet, but he said it really insincere. I left feeling horrible. I wanted to cry. I was and am very embarressed. So here I sit once again. Thankfully this is not a letter this time, it's late and I'm tired. I just don't know what to do. Should I pursue him as a friend still? Or just leave the poor guy alone?
ps I still think I have feelings for him. Last night I had a dream about him, walking and holding hands..just talking. I woke up, and I was angry I woke up. I think that's a big sign I do still...=/
Help..
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I'm sorry to say but it is a lot easier to get over someone if you aren't talking to them, but if you truly think that he'll make you happy and it can all work out, I'd say go for it, but first bring it to his attention that he had changed drastically from super sweet to egotistical. (Also keep in mind that he might have acted that way because he had that ego-boost since you said yes to going out with him).
Just remember, don't beat yourself up over this. Maybe you did side with your friends, but you had every right to since he was showing off his negative qualities quite a lot. And now, it's up to him how things will work out, you've already done what you can.
Also remember to never let anyone make you feel like you're not worth them. Consider it his loss if he doesn't want to continue to be friends.
Best of luck =)
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f/sophomore
Hi.
So theres this guy in my health adn gym classes and he's new this year. He's really cute and i have a crush on him, but I've never even talked to him. I'm kind of shy. I'm not the type of person to talk first, but I want to be. How can I start a conversation with him? Thank you! (link)
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Maybe say something like, "You were awesome during I wish I could play like that!"
Just a cute compliment and let it lead into conversation. Maybe then tell him what your favorite sport is and such, ask him what his favorite is.
I'm very shy, too, so I went to the guy's soccer game and after it was done gave a big thumbs up and cheered at him. Then he came over and bam, conversation.
Best of luck!
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alright ok sorry for one of these "does he like me" questions lol.
alright so i like this guy and he's in one of my classes and lunch.
my friends say he's really quiet;;;which i could totally see...except for when he's in my cultural geography class...he kinda talks a lot.
except see we've never talked before
i have a MAJOR problem talking to guys i like.
i overanalyze EVERYTHING i say and get sooo self-conscious
my friends say he always looks at me & it seems like he likes me even though we;ve never talked lol. i even sometimes catch him staring.
ok so the problem;;what should i do to get my confidence to talk to him or whatever?
thank you :] (link)
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Honestly I think a great way to transition into talking to him is to glance at him and make sure he sees it. So he sees you're interested, too, maybe that'll give him that push to talk to you, first.
I'm currently having that problem too, so I can sympathize. =O
But I figure I really want the guy, so I pay attention to everything he says in case I can get some word in. So like, if he needs a pen or something, lend him one and say he can give it back to you the next day. That way, he HAS to talk to you another time to return it! From there, try conversation, or joke around with it, like, "Oh I completely forgot you had that!" And giggle. Use your charm! Good luck!
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I am tall and i hate it i am 5 ft 11 and im only 14! and i odnt wanan grow anymore i dont like it :( is it bad to be tall because i ahte it please help me :( (link)
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Being tall is usually connected with elegance (not saying the short can't be elegant--I'm short!!) and models actually have to be a certain height.
Plus that and, I think taller people are the stereotypical formal croud. Take a look at advertisements for gowns and such...always the tall!
Personally, I envy jeans for the taller group, I find them more appealing. =P
Hope I helped =D
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I'm 15/f (sophmore) and this guy who is a senior has hung out with me a few times and as much as I hate to say it, I'm completly smitten with him, (no this doesn't happen a lot). I'm not sure if he's playing around or if he's really interested. Examples: brushing off the imaginary dust on my shoulder and going back to make sure he "got it all", or whenever I laugh or talk or anything he's always looking directly at me. Am I losing it here, is he just being a nice guy? How do I tell the difference between a nice guy and one who might be interested?
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I dated a senior when I was a sophomore, so I'd say that there's a chance that he'd like to go out with you, but just to be safe, I'd make sure you know his personality well (keep an ear out for things said about him in school) before making any assumptions.
And remember, even nice guys can be interested.
Good luck!
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Okay, this is rather long, I'm sorry.
I'm currently dating this guy, we've been together for about a little more than half a year, maybe about two months more. But recently, his ex came back into the city. They were together, two years ago but then they broke up and she left for Penn, (or at least this is what his friend told me) But anyways, it has been really awkward knowing that she is in our same school and she is his ex. I guess everything would be okay- I could live with it if she didn't happen to be living with him as well. Because her parents and his parents are very close friends and since they just moved back and they didn't seem to find a house to settle down in, they are living in my boyfriends house...which is extremely awkward because when I go over to his house, I see her and it just, I guess annoys me or makes me jealous to see her? Since she apparently spends a lot more time with him than I do. But that isn't the biggest problem, it is the fact that she confronted to me and said that she stilled liked my boyfriend and she had decided to try and win him back. And I don't know- she seems to have the upper side since she is pretty, intelligent and everything and I'm really nervous right now. I have no idea what to do. I told my friends and they tell me that everything is going to be alright and that I should have trust in him, I do but it isn't like it won't be possible- they're living together! So, really, can I have some advice? I'm really confused, worried and nervous right now. I really don't want to lose him. Thank you so much. (link)
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I know that saying "just be confident!" is, although truthful, a hard thing to listen to.
Really, I'd just inform your boyfriend that his ex told you that she's going to try to win him back, and that you're nervous over it. Then at least he knows that it'll never be a natural connection with his ex, it's that she's made it her objective TO get him back.
Hope I helped, and good luck!
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Okay. So heres the situation. I like a guy and he really likes me Im 15 and Hes going to be 17 pretty soon. we've known each other for 2 years and we are very close! the other day he told me he liked me . but the problem is we live in 2 different towns and they are about 45 mins apart from each other. And pretty much what i am asking is how i can work around the distance and make things easier for dating and how can i get him to ask me without seeming pushy.? (link)
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Depending on the state, he can either already drive or can drive pretty soon, so that by itself will make it a lot easier, especially if you go to the same school. =)
About getting him to ask you out without being pushy? Well, we already know that he likes you, does he know that you like him? If not, you'd best tell him soon, that'll lead into him asking you out, most likely. If it doesn't, just keep loading on the cute! And by that I mean, giggle, smile, y'know, the works. =)
Good luck!
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I have a lot of guy friends, and they show signs that I see as affection. None but one has ever asked me out. I like these little signs of attention that others may not get, and I want it to go somewhere, at least in my mind. I imagine what it would be like date each of them, but in real life, I could never actually see myself actually hooking up with them. I love guys and love to hang out and chat with them (it's less drama than my girl friends), but I am nervous that my affection could be taken a way that I want it to be taken, but I know that I would never feel comfortable dating one of them. Does that make sense? I am super confused with myself. (link)
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Don't worry, I think you're making sense. =)
I think that it's great that you have all these guy friends you can feel comfortable and hang out with, but if you don't see yourself dating any of them, I wouldn't try.
I'd wait for that guy who comes along that you have feelings for and then try to date him, and who knows...maybe your guy friends can help hook you up with him. =D
Good luck!
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i talked to my friend for 2 days and then when i got online he blocked me from everything and i dont know why i dont kno what i did and i cant talk to him online at all and i want to find out what i did or what is going on. i need to talk to him (link)
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Next time you get to see him face-to-face, just ask him, and if he ignores you and walk off, try again another day. You can even try prying some information from his friends, and explain that you have no idea what went wrong.
Good luck. =)
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ok well theres this girl i like and she knows i do but i dont know if she likes me well looks at me almost as much as i look at her and she smiles at me and she does look nervous and just latley she had to take a test in my homeroom for my homeroom teacher and she sat 2 seats behind me the other one was already tooken by someone probaly but i try to say something but im just not sure what to say
i think she does like me but how do i talk to her more cause this year we have no classes together last year we did (link)
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Well, I'm a shy girl, and honestly, I freeze up when the guy I'm crushing on comes up to me. I have to rely on him to make the first move, and I'm sure she'll be flattered if you ask for her number or a screen name is she has one.
Best of luck!
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