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Q: i just had sex with my boyfriend for the first time last night. now im bleeding. is that normal? and how long will it last?

no its usually not bleeding..have you had your period yet? because that might be it. if not go see a doctor.

--natalie

Q: i'm trying to think of a cool screen name that has to do with me. i would like it to include alli or carr (yes with 2 "r"s) thanks

i think cool ones just have your name carr, or alli. with no numbers so it can beoriginal or you could have:

misscarr
missalli
babycarr
carr
alli

stuff like that i think is the best. sorry if you dont like the ideas, i tried my best. =]

--natalie.

Q: so i pretty much just have some questions; any help would be awesome. is second base supposed to feel good for the girl? if i'm moving my hands around and go "down there" but don't want to do anything more then just touch and kiss, will he get the wrong idea? should i stay away from there altogether until i want to go farthur? is it better to unhook your bra or go over, and if he can't do it should i?

thanks for the help, i now its alot of questions!

yes second base is supposed to feel good for a girl and guy.um he might get the wrong idea but you can always tell him. i dont really think you should stay away, as you call it its second base, there are steps that get you ready when you want to go farther. and if you do, use a condom. i think you should unhook your bra, because if he cant it would be awkward.

Q: 14/f.

My boyfriend is 16/m.

Ok; my boyfriend and I have talked it over, and we are ready to have sex. I don't want to go into too many details, because that's not what this question is asking. I was wondering what pre-cautions we could take to not get me pregnate.[sp?] Like, if he gets off, should we change the condom? It's both our first time and I am very nervous. He dosen't seem to be, but I was just wondering.

p.s. Birth control isn't an option.

Dont do it. you cant even spell pregnant. your 14 and just no, im pretty sure he is going to use you for sexual needs. please please please please do not do it. and if you go ahead and do it without thinking about the aftermass use a condom, and if its too big wait and get another one that fits. but i suggest for your future to NOT do it. please.

Q: does any1 no any up beat songs that wud be gud in the morning time.ie. walking on the sunshine etc. because im making a mix cd in the hope that it will get me a little more motivated in the morning!!!!!!!!!i wud rely appreciate the help and all suggestions are welcome

CORINNE BAILEY RAE -best person EVER!!! she is so light and airy and is really a great artist. PLEASE try her, she is wonderful

Missy higgins, dont worry not country she just has a wierd name. but her music is just simply amazing. very deep and beautiful.

Imogen heap- a great and different sound, and she also has a band which is frou frou. also great, if you want something new then try this artist and her band. i really love her.

John legend- GREEATTT music. he is awesome and his voice is amazing.

I hope you try my artists, they really are unique, upbeat, and would be great in the morning.

--natalie.

Q: what does it mean to poke someone on facebook

no the other person is wrong. it means that when the person pokes you, your not him/her friend and is able to see your profile for like a week or two and if you poke back you can see his/her profile for a week or two. atleast thats what ive heard.

Q: I have dropped my cell phone so many times that I now can't recieve/send picture and audio text messages... this means that I can't download ringtones anymore!! Is there a website (price is NOT an option =]!!) that I can dowmload from my computer to my cell phone or ANY way without sending it through a cell phone.
I have motorola e815 in case that matters, and i can't do the PIX Messaging from Verizon (cuz I've dropped it too many times!!

ANY HELP IS GREEAATTLLYY APPRECIATED!!

Flycell.com has hassle-free ringtones. try it!

--natalie.

Q: ok i went to the derm. for my acne and was put on Duac cream to apply every night. about a month later i went back for a check up and she said it was doing better [i didnt think so] so she gave me Tazorac cream [im pretty sure its a bleaching thing] and told me to start putting that on at night. i know she said to keep using Duac, but i think she said to put it on in the morning. but wouldnt that interfere with my makeup? she knows i use it because she asked me what kind i wear and said it was good. so wouldnt puttin make up on over it cause it to not work as well? i dont want to call and ask bc frankly its too much trouble to get a hold of those people. has anyone ever used these or know what i should do?

No it would be fine to put it on before makeup. Because its still on the acne. Keep doing it every morning and every night, the things you have been put on are great so keep using them!

Q: I Am 16 And I Have A Boyfriend And I Love Him ALOT!!! Lately It Seems Like All I Can Think About IS Doing Stuff With Other Guys! However When I Am With My Boyfriend Or Talking To Him...I Dont Have That Problem! So What Exactly Is Going On Here...

Just puberty, while your going through that you have new thoughts about guys and what not. every girl has those feelings. Its normal. And thats good that you dont think about doing stuff with others when your with your boyfriend.

Q: hey i was wondering do you always feel it when a guy gets hard? like at my school dance i was grinding with my bf and i could deff feel it but i cant at other times even when i know for a fact that hes horny. thankss

yeah you can usually feel it. and mostly its pretty noticable. yeah ive grinded someone before and he got hard and i felt it. so yes you MOSTLY always feel it.

Q: Okay, I'm fourteen, a girl, and in desperate need of some advice. There's this guy I like (he's two years older than me, if that makes any difference) and he goes to a different school than I do. So, I only see him once a week at karate--sometimes not even that! Now, I found out that he likes practically everything I like. He seems a little nervous when he talks to me though, and I find him occasionally looking at me. But if I look at him, he quickly turns away.
Now here's the problem. I convinced him to try out for his school's play, since he never did before, and he tried out. Not so bad, right? My friend's friend knows more about him though, so I asked her about him. She said he was in all of the previous plays, that he's never had a grilfriend, and that he's a loser! That's horrible! But, did he really lie to me? We're friends, why would he do that? It's just...some people say he likes me, and it's just...no one I know is like him. And the signs are there...so...does he like me?

I think he pretty much does like you. If hes a nerd who cares! if he likes you and you like him then go for it! its love! heres a quote that i like: I cannot give you the formula for success, but I can give you the formula for failure--which is:
Try to please everybody.

i hope you get something from this advice and this quote. =]

--natalie

Q: My boyfriend got me a neclace for Christmas. I got him a neclace for Christmas too. He told me on the phone he got me a Teddy bear for Valentines Day. I HAVE NO CLUE WHAT TO GET HIM!!! he has a new watch and I cant just get him another neclace! Guys or girls, what do the guys want? what can I get him for Valentines day?

get him a gift card to best buy if he is interested in electronics, hollister if he has a good sense of style, and movies if you guys want some alone time.
maybe even throw in a little cute coupon. like heres a coupon for one kiss from me! hope you like! or something cute like that.

--natalie

Q: ok ill get strait to the point! My boyfriend is big!! He is bigger than the other guys i've seen! he has fingered me and everything but he couldn't get 2 fingers in, just 1. we tried to pull a wuicky (have sex quickly) for the first time for both of us and I am too small. so if we use a lubricated condom will he slide in? or do we have to push and force it?

im sure if you lubricated the condom it would go in. if not, i guess you could push??

hope i helped some what.

--natalie

Q: Soo I bought the tan from the bottle (Jergen's Body Tanning Lotion or something like that -- it's not spray on...) and it says I'll have results after one (1) week. So I have 3 questions:
*After a week, should I STOP using it
*If I continue using it, will I keep getting darker, or will it just stop
&*How long before it fades away?
You don't have to answer all three... ANY help/advice would be appreciated!!

1-no you should keep on using it
2-it will get darker if you keep on using it
3-it usually will fade in a week or two, unless you keep using it.

hope you get tan! =]

--natalie

Q: 13/f
maybe guys around my age can answer this queastion. do guys with girlfriends ever think about liking another girl that they are friends with?
because i know that when im going out with a guy, even if i liked another guy right before it happens, i kind of forget about it and just focus on my boyfriend.
so do guys with girlfriends ever pay attention and fall for other girls while there dating someone else? can they like two girls and be dating one of them and just not tell the other?
any answer appreciated...thanks!

i know im not a guy, but yeah definitley. They always have drifting thoughts about other girls than their girlfriend. its pretty normal. or sometimes a guy is really involved with their girlfriend and dont really think about girls. so it really just depends on the relationship and the guy.

--natalie

Q: Okay I'm so sad! There's this unpopular girl in my class who has only one friend. When I was walking come she called me a bitch. I never even talk about her and I'm not popular myself and never said anything mean about her or to her and she's not even in my class! I know you'd probably be like, don't think about it. But when somebody calls me somethign mean or accidently, even accidently calls me something a little bit mean, I get realyl sad about it and remember it for years and I don't want to add thsi one on the list. I shouldn't be so sad about it but I am and I've been crying for hours because I'm so emotional

Its okay we all get emotional sometimes. Im sure this girl just has a hard life and takes it out on other people. im sure she didnt mean anything about it because im sure your a good person. just maybe tomorrow talking to her and saying hi or something. dont bring up the bitch part because that would be awkward but make some social contact. i hope it helps.

--natalie

Q: well i think i like this guy im not really sure... thats my problem.... everytime i think of him i get exited and i smile and stuff... but im always afriad to hang out with him... this is the situation... he likes me im positive about that... but i didnt like him.. and i think im now starting too... but i think i might be afriad to like him because of what other people think... cause everyone i kno hates him.. so why do i like him? should i like him? i dont kno what to do... and im afriad hes gunna ask me out and im not gunna kno what to say...

You shouldnt base your decision on what other people think. And if you truly like him theres nothing stopping you. Yes you should like him if thats what you feel, dont worry about the other people. If he asks you out, and you feel that you like him then say yes, take a chance! if it doesnt work out, then move on. but im telling you if you like him go get him girl!

--natalie

Q: 14/f freshman

I've been considering playing lacrosse in the spring. I'm really nervous about it, because I've never in my life pciked up a lacrosse stick, and a lot of the girls on the team have played since the fifth grade, and are amazing at it.

I played field hockey in the fall and was okay at it, but I'm nervous about playing lacrosse, mostly becuase I'm intimidated about the girls who are doing it.

Any suggestions as to what I should do?

My sister went out for the team when she was a sophmore and had never played. She just worked really hard, practiced in our backyard and became amazing. She even made varisty. Just work hard and practice ALOTT. LOL. Just give it your all, you'll do great!

--Natalie

Q: the girls at my school are getting gayer and gayer everyday, gay in the way that they are acting different and weird not actually gay. Ever since we changed school from 8th grade to freshmen all the girls think there hotshit now and try to boss around all the guys like there nothing so ive started not to listen to them anymore and now im hated?? and all other guys agree with me also. Like girls think there using you know and just start flirting with you to make them feel good about themselves when they really dont want anything from you. I Dont get it. And how should i act towards them without being a total dick cause thats how i have to act to show them there not hotshit.

gay? i dont actually think your using the term right. but anyway. Maybe you should try to talk to your friends, tell them using the guys is wrong, and the guys even think so themselves. If they dont listen, you'll make new friends. highschool shouldnt be segregated into cliques, be open with new people. My highschool isnt like that. maybe even start hanging out with the guys. you shouldnt act like a dick to show them how there acting, its immature. sit down with them and take it seriously.

Q: i have the cutest little shoes...... theyre the ballet flats. theyre black so id like to wear them a lot but i cant because they make my feet sweat so they give me foot odor. theyre kinda delicate but should i try washing them? if so with what? if not what else should i do; is there anything i cant put in the to make it stop. thnx.

You could get a speacial foot powder and put in in the shoe right before you wear it. That will soak up the sweat and make them dry and smell good. You can get the powder at any rite-aid, wallgreens, grocery store, target, wal-mart.

--Natalie

bio

hi. my name is natalie, im 17 and im really good advice giver, all my friends say so. I've been through a lot so i can probably relate to you. Ask me anything, i wont judge or laugh just be honest.

I cannot give you the formula for success, but I can give you the formula for failure--which is:
Try to please everybody.

really just express yourself and dont care about what others think, its a waste of time and they're opinion is not as important as yours.

i truly hope i can help.

_natalie_