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Hi, I am Alison. Well I live in New York. I love helping people out and giving advice out to people. Fashion is my thing, so if you need any advice on that don't be afraid to ask = ]. I love getting messages for advice so feel free to ask me anything. I'm up to great oppurtunities in life. Ummm there isn't that much more to know about me!

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14/f. me and my best friend were inseparable, until she got a new boyfriend. (i'll call my friend jen and her boyfriend zack.) jen started hiding lots of things from me, stuff we used to tell each other all the time. she started sneaking out and doing vandalism like spray painting, TPing, forking, egging, rubberbanding etc.
she told me this and told me not to tell ANYONE.
but im not sure i can do that. should i tell someone like my mom?
or do I keep quiet...?

Well first off if you tell your mom than you will lose your friends trust and she might never forgive you. And if you don't tell your mom, your friend might keep doing it for a long time. If you tell your mom, think about it, what will your mom do? If you are willing to lose your friends trust than you can tell your mom. If you have to tell somebody, you should tell one of your parents rather than gossiping it to a friend who will spread it. Think it through. If you have to tell somebody I say tell your mom. But you might lose your friends trust, remember that.

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i feel like im nto havign as good of a summer as i should i believe i deserve to have the best times and go out and have a lot of fun and share new experiances but this summeris boring and i feel liek its going by to fast an im not getting as much out of it as i should its not fun what can i do to have the best rest of the summer

Try hanging out with some of your friends by the local pool or if you live by the beach. Maybe if you have a local waterpark or amusement park you can go there one day. Also you can ask your parents to go to a place close by maybe an hour or so away to see new places and enjoy a family roadtrip. There is many things to do in the summer. Heres a link: http://family.samhsa.gov/monitor/summer.aspx

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im 13 and havent "grown up" yet. im not comfortable with going to either of my parnts when it happens. only my grandma. but i cant see or talk to her. what should i do when it happens?

Maybe you can talk to some close friends who have "grown up" already. Also some close relatives like aunt, uncles, cousins. I'm sure there is at least 1 more person you can talk to. Maybe even if you are open to talk to a guidence councelor. Try thinking of a person you trust.....= ]

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Sombody asked me to babysit for her son on next monday,tuesday,wendnesday for $15 each day but my aunt wants me to go with her to wisconsin dells those days should i stay or should i go?

It's your decision. If you really need money, than maybe you should go to babysit. But if you are dedicated to your family and really want to go to Wisconsin, than go. It's your decision, and no one can pressure u into doing anything you don't want to do. = ]

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16/f i really hurt my 2 best friends very badly (emotionally). i was just recently diagnosed with schitzonfrenia, anxiety, depression and my 2 friends got involved with it. i never had a good realtionship with my family and the 2 most importnant ppl to me are my friends. they absoutly hate menow and will not speak to me. weve been best friends for like 5 years and we are together every single day all day long. its so hard to exept theyll never be my friends again. i never ment to hurt them, but they dont undertsnad im sick, but im still the same old person i always was (i havent changed, i just hurt them *not gunna say what happened*)it was bad tho. how do i deal with out them when my whole entire life revolved around them =[ please help

Well first off, if they won't listen to you in person, send them a heartful email explaining why you did what you did and that you are only going through depression. Tell them what their friendship means to you. If they are true friends, they should understand. Remember that forgiving takes a long time, but if they are able to talk to you, thats a start. It will probably take awhile. Remember that everything won't go back to normal right away. It will take awhile. I hope i helped = ]

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15/f

Theres this one girl, at my school who is amazinnggg, she is like sooo popular, and so pretty, i mean shes absoulty gorgeous, and shes so nice, unlike all of her friends, but still. and were kinda friends, kinda. but shes just soo nice. i mean for her birthday, her mom bought her all this stuff, and then gave her like 5000 dollars, and she went to the mall and like bought all these clothes, and gave them to the poor! shes always thinking of others, and she just so sweet! i just want to be just like her. i mean honestly, i dont know how she can be the way she is. i mean shes like the richest girl in our town, and she doesnt act like it at all, shes always thinking of others. and shes really smart, and i mean, i just want to be like her. how can i? shes like a freaking saint, she doesnt talk behind anyones back, shes not stuck up, bbut thne yet she has so much confidence in herself in everything she does.

I WANT TO BE JUST LIKE HER.
how?

First off, I'm sure she has some faults because everyone does. She is deffinetly not perfect, because no one is. Try being yourself, and being nice. Find your identie, not hers. Copying someone isn't being yourself. Try being nice to everyone. You don't have to be rich to give to the poor. Try selling clothes or things you don't need and you can give that money to the poor. There is many things you can do. Like angelina jolie is a good romodel for giving to the poor. Try finding your idenitie. I hope i helped = ]

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my friend is moving soon and i avoided her for a while because i was really sad that shes moving but when we talk a little and when i say bye i hug her so tight like shes leaving tommrow and she says"dont worry im not going anywhere yet...." and next day i talked to her a lil bit and i was gonna hug her like as we always do but she just turned around and refused to hug me and slowly stopped talking to me after this what do you guys think about this situation?

When I moved away, the same thing happaned to me. I think she doesn't want to get to close to you, because she thinks when she is going to move, it will be harder to say goodbye. I'm sure both of you guys feel bad that you won't be able to see each other that much and are going through patches where you don't want to be to close. Shes probably just going through a stage where she is very sad she has to move away from all her friends. Try calling her up and sounding friendly. Try not bringing up that she is moving and you guys will probably have a great time. Hugging her everytime probably reminds her that you only can hug her a few more times before you move. I'm sure she wants to hang out with you inside = ]

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Hello
I think I have a major problem. You see me and this girl have been friends since we were born. But however since she has gotten older she has the WORST temper problem. She will barge into the room yelling at me becuase she is mad at life because she has 3 siblings at home and I only have 1 but she moved out so I am basiclly the only child.She also has the worst bragging problem... she will brag about EVERYTHING Thats not all though.... she will be so angery becuase I am better fit, and I have more friends.... not trying to sound concieted or anything but it is true... please help
Then lately she yelled at me saying that she would NEVER want to be friends. But 1 day later she wants to be friends again. But I dont think I want to though. please help me

Well first off, before you make a big decision of not being friends think it through. Try talking to her. I've been in this situation, it's just that my friend I guess was a little bit more dramatic than I want anybody to be. But remember she won't change over night. It's a long term process that will take awhile. And if you have time to take it, then yes you should probably try to work things out. If she really likes you and wants to keep being friends she'll try to change and not make you drag away. But if she ignores you, than you probably shouldn't be friends if she is going to have all those dramatic moments. Don't make your decision overnight, because you may have mixed emotions in the future and no one wants to hear "I want to be friends and then you don't want to be friends. Think it through and think if this relationship is special or if it has always been crappy and not exciting = ]

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i cannnotttt fall asleep as hard as i try, ive tried music, ive tried warm drinks, ive tried reading, watching tv, I CANT GO TO SLEEP!its driving me crazzzzzy i lay in my bed for at LEAST 3 hours. then finally fall asleep, does anyone know anyways you have tried falling asleep and it worked? THANK YOU!!!!!!!

The exact thing just recentencly was happaning to me. It started off where I went to sleep one time very late and woke up late. So that night it was hard to go to sleep and a whole pattern went on and I was having sleep patterns like 3AM to 11PM. Which is not really good. When listening to music, it kinda doesn't work. And reading makes you focused and more awake. Try looking at picture in a magazine or watching a tv thats low in sound. Don't focus on going to sleep because it doesn't work. You'll fall to sleep when your tired. You can't focus ur body to go to sleep. I hope I helped! (zz.zz.. hope you go to sleep!)

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ok so (not trying to brag or anything) but im a really good singer, and i want to sing and play stuff like the rocket summer but my voice gets all weird when i go for not the reeally high ones but like in between idk. hah

Try picking songs that don't include high pitches. It will show off ur amazing voice and you'll enjoy yourself and not have to worry about hitting the high pitches. Hope I helped!

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how do i hide everything including freinds and how many friends i have. i dont know the code. thanksss

go on google and put in "myspace hide codes" it'll give u codes to hiding friends and many more things. Hope I helped!

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I live near a city so i go into there a lot. when i do, i see soldiers sometimes, and marines. I always want to walk up to them and just give them big hugs, thank them and walk away. But i never do. Would it be weird if i walked up to them and stuck out my hand and said "thanks for everything"???

I think they would deffinetly not thin it is weird, but be very thankful. They have been through so much and not that many people even thank them let alone care what they have gone though. They'll deffinetly be very thankful. Go for it!

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One of my friends is very rude! Now when i say rude i don't mean burp in your face, potty-mouth rude. I mean this: she never listens to me...like if i tell her a problem of mine she turns it into a joke, even though i listen to hers. She also constantly puts me down by saying "youre dumb" or "retard!". Also she leaves me when the "populars" are around even though she isn't popular! This is so annoying and really hurts my feelings! I don't know weither to leave her or what! I know that scince we are just entering highschool it gets tough but it shouldn't be this bad! You know with the whole "clique" thing but, i just don't know what to do!!!!

First off, if you haven't told her that its hurting your feelings you should. She shouldn't be allowed to be mean like that. Than second a lot of people I knew left me for the populars which made me think they weren't true friends. If she'll just dump you and not even invite you to come along, then you shouldn't be friends with her. But it's not my decision its yours. Try thinking about the goods and the bad's of the friendship. If there is more bads in the friendships, then I think you should rethink you and her being friends. And my advice to not be friends is slowly drift apart, rather than being rude and saying I don't like you or something like that because it will create more drama for high school. Everything will fall into place soon! = ]

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My best friends mom say no to have a sleepover everytime I go to her house and that she will miss her too much. But might not say no if she knows about it before. Evertime I ask my mom to have a sleepover she always says YES! We really want to have a sleepover. How could my friend convince her mom to sleepover my house.

I've been in this situation many times. Her mom is probably just being very protective. Tell your friend to talk to her mom and say " Mom, I'm very good friends with ___, and i was wondering if you could talk to ___ mom on the phone and discuss sleeping over" I'm sure her mom won't miss her, but is just being very protective and doesn't really know ur parents. If her mom still won't agree I'm sure after you guys keep hanging out she might think twice about it. I hope I helped! (hope she gets to sleepover sometime soon!!!)

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I'm 16. I've never drank, done drugs, or done anything with a guy. I'm pretty okay with that because I do really well in school, have never gotten in trouble before, and still have alot of fun with my friends. I actually have a good time just reading a book or watching TV or whatever. Is that weird? I mean, I kind of hang out with a really straight-edged kind of group of people, and I don't really mind that. Am I the only one in high school who actually IS a good girl like that? Because sometimes I feel like everybody's out getting drunk at crazy parties while I'm at home reading a book. Haha. Hopefully good things come to those who wait and DON'T make stupid decisions in high school? I just don't want to look back at high school when I'm older and wish I did crazier stuff... What do you think?

Peer Pressure honey. You don't have to get high or drunk to feel like your missing out on things. Go to parties have fun, but don't make 1 night ruin your whole life. A lot of the people who are on drugs and drinking are the ones that will be missing out on life in the future. Your making a good decision by doing good in school that will help you with a bright future. For example lets say you wanted to do crazy things by getting drunk at parties, then when you look back at that your not gonna think good times, your probably going to think "wow i was pretty dumb back then" Not everyone in high school is getting drunk. Thats what growing up is about, you get more oppertunities. Hope I helped!

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Ok so i like this guy and we dated a while back and he broke up with me after four days but said he still liked me. And now he always tells me he loves me and kisses me when ever we hang. I dont know if i should keep being friends with him or stop talking to him?? help me please!!


Brittany

Well first you have to think about if you still like him to. If the answer is no he shouldn't be all allowed to kiss u because than your leading him on to think you sitll like him. If you don't like him and keep letting him kiss you, then your just leading him on and sending mixed signals. Tell him the truth bottom line. If he doesn't stop than you gotta think about being friends with him again if hes going to keep kissing you and annoying you. Hope I helped!

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do you know any websites where you can take a test and it'll give you careers you might like?

thanks :D

Here are some cool websites to take tests on to see what your career is:

http://www.rocketcareer.com/index.php?&CCID=20070731203258335&QTR=ZZf200702211508350Za20070731Zg172Zw44Zm570Zc203258335Zs5507ZZ&CLK=682070714175956651&&se=google&kw=take%20career%20quiz&ag=career_quiz&ad=665896967&type=search&exp=y

http://www.projectcareer.com/?code=G71-CPC50701-CareerTest&gclid=CIyh0O-tqI0CFRrnPgodb2Rb1A

http://www.livecareer.com/?cobrand=CLEAR

http://similarminds.com/career.html

http://www.mycareerwhiz.com/?code=G1S-CPC40801-JobTest&gclid=CJylgJOuqI0CFQILPwodhTX5zw


Hope I helped!

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how can girls have a crush on angelina jolie and not be lesbian/bi

Many people find people pretty and attractive even if they aren't bi/lesbian. Think about it this way. When you look at a magazine and you see and model and think she is gorgeous or pretty, that doesn't mean you have a crush on her. A crush is when you want to date a person and kiss them. But I think you find her more attractive than crushing on her. Angelina Jolie is very beautiful so theres nothing to worry about!

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im 13 and im going to see a movie with my girl friends. im not sure which one would be the best for us.. but we are thinking of going to see either evan almighty, harry potter, sicko, or transformers. what do you think we'd find the most entertaining? thanks :)

Everyone I talk to tells me transformers was a GREAT movie with great effects and everything.

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I can never get my period timing right!! So then on the first day of my period, its always on my underwear because i never know when to wear a pad!

I really don't want to wear a pad every single day, because that is just very very expensive and weird. I keep track on my online calendar and my period is around every 24 days.... but there are times when it comes every 15 days or every 30 days!!

How can I get my timing right? What are some signs that tell you, you are about to get your period? Thank you very much

Since it is your first year, it is deffinetly ok that you are getting it at different times. My first year, I got it at many different times and lasting sometimes 6 days to 3 days. Pantiliners aren't that exspensive. If you bleed through you might ruin a pair of your pants and underwear, which is a lot more money than pantiliners. Some few signs of getting your period is you might get a couple of pimples and have some different mood swings. Also you will get discharge in the middle and close to your period which also can ruin your underwear. Pantiliners will only help for a short amount a time, but will also exspand a little more time. I hope I helped!

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