Hi, ok well my names mandy and i'm 19 i'm currently a student at uni studying medicine. I logged onto this website because i saw how much help lots of you need i am here to support you and give some great advice so i'm there to answer yours or even you can ask me a personal question too!!!
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when me and my boyfriend have sex this farty sound comes when he goes in and out...even though were not farting lol. i know it is me and it is really embarasing. what is it? how do you stop it? thanks (link)
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Hi Darl,
Vaginas do sometimes make that noise a 'queef' it's normal some girls do make the noise. Just life and sex, guys will know your enjoying it so it will give them motivation!
Mandy
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15(F)
I'll be 16 in a few weeks.(Feburary 7th)
My boy friend is 17 (a year and a half older)
First off I just want to thank all of you in advance for reading. I really appreatiate you taking the time! But please refrian from bias opinons. Please don't judge my choices or tell me I'm wrong. I'm just looking for honest advice (experiance recomended)
ok well let me start by saying my boyfriend and I have been dating for almost 6 months. I am totally in love with him and this will sound stupid, but I really feel that he will be the man I marry. He's my best friend, but also one of hte only people I trust. (Here's where you won't judge me! =0])
We're not sexually active as of right now. We do alot of foreply but no sex.
The other night, we were in my basement and we just really started going at eachother. We were both totally turned on. So after a little foreplay, I asked him if he wanted to try to have sex. He always keeps a condom on him...just in case anything ever happens. He said "Yea, but only if you're sure you're ready. I am a virgin, so is he.
One of the reasons I'm in love with him is because the way he looks out for me. He always makes sure I'm comfortable with what we're doing, and that he's careful.
I said I wanted to, so he put the condom on. I was really scared/nervous since I'm no on birth control. He said that he wouldn't cum in me, but he would still use the condom. He also wants me to be on birth control.
The second after, my mom yelled down to tell me something and I felt a little releavied. I just was so scared about getting prenant, I forgot how much I wanted to share this moment with him. I kept asking him what he was thinknig but he seemed to maintain composure. Is his age at all a difference as to why he was so calm?
This has happened a few times in the past week where we have ALMOST had sex. About 3. This was the closest.
So the mood was gone and we stoped. I felt bad because I know we're both ready and he really loves me. A few days after I told him that i felt relieved, and he told me I probably wans't ready. He doesn't mind waiting. He said he'd wait forever.
Sorry for the lenght!
but here are my main questions!
Will he change after sex...will our realationship be any different?
Are there any ways I can approach the birth control situation with my mom?
Will I get pregnant if I'm on birth control, he uses a condom, and he pulls out?
PLEASE HELP!
Sorry for the length
Please don't judge!
Thanks in advance.
I will rate you!
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Hi Hun,
I won't judge you at all, firstly boys tend to act like they are calm it's male instinct to protect you, it's not because he is 17. Honey as you are a virgin and I am pleased, before you lose your virginity at a young age listen, to me it doesn't seem like your ready.
Your boyfriend seems very understanding and genuinely loves you, I really think you should wait, don't rush into things be in a stable relationship I know you are but take time instead of running into sex.
After sex i don't think your relationship will change if it's real and it looks like it is.
Birth Control with your mum, well the best way to approach her is sit down with her and calmly talk about her but listen to her as well and get your point across.
Take time honey and you should never rush.
Mandy
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OKAY I AM 15/FEMALE AND NEVER HAD A BOY FRIEND BUT LOVE SEX I DO IT ALMOST EVERYDAY I CANT CONTROLL MYSELF. I MEAN IVE DONE IT EVERYWHERE. MOVIE THEATERS, SCHOOL, PARKS, WALMART BATHROOM. IM REALLY GOOD. I CAN MAKE A GUY LIKE wowwwww
MY MOM TRIES TO STOP ME BUT CANT. SHE WALKED IN ON ME 4 TIMES. I WAS COMP;ETELY NAKED SUCKING ON THIS GUYS DICK CAN U IMAGINE. SHE GRABBED ME BUT I STARTED TO YELL. THEN ONE TIME SHE MADE ME STUDY WITH THIS GUY IN THE FAMILY ROOM AND WE ENDED UP DOING AND MY FAMILY WALKED IN. I LOVE SEX. SUCKING ON DICKS, GETTING FINGURED PLAYING WITH DICKS, GUYS PLAYIN WITH MY BOOBS I LUV IT IS THAT WRONG. DO U NO Y (link)
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Hi,
Well there's only so much I can say it's not wrong to have sex and want it bad as it's a natural intention from humans. In life you have you have things that are good and bad, sex isn't bad but honey at such a young age you need to make a choice. I'm not going to make that choice for you, but what I will do is give you advice.
From my opinion you really need to let go life isn't about sex and as you get older you will understand, having sex just because you want it and not because you love the person your having it with isn't commitment. I'll tell you something sweety focus on things that are important at such a young age and don't keep on going you may regret it.
Best of Luck,
Mandy
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If your hymen isnt broken can you still become pregnant? (link)
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Hi Darling,
Yes you can still get pregnant because it doesn't matter if the penis had contact with your hymen for it to break. So yes honey.
Mandy
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My boyfriend fingered me in the butt hole. It kind of freaked me out. . . is this normal for a guy to do? (link)
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Hi,
Honey, yes it is normal he is just trying something different by fingering you through an anal way.
Mandy
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So I've been with my boyfriend for about 2 years and we've been messing around lately. He wants to finger me but I'm a virgin and I don't know which hole his fingers would go in and if it would hurt. what does it feel like? how would he do it? (link)
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Hi Sweety,
His fingers will go naturally into your vaginal hole the one it's meant to because the other hole is where you wee out of and that's way to small for a finger to fit in anyway.
All he would probably do is put his fingers inside your vagina then halfway out then in and so on. It could hurt slighly as it's the first time and you amy be tight, but fo some girls they hate the feeling altogether it may be uncomfortable but that's rare. but as it's your first time it may feel weird at first.
Mandy
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okay, well... i started my period on December 3rd, and it's about to end today... which is December 6th. while i was on my period.. like.. since day one. i had a REALLY heavy flow.. i mean.. gross you know? lol. is it normal if it ended early since i had a heavy flow? (link)
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Hi Hun,
Yes it certainly is ecspecially because you just started it the cycles are a bit hectic but yes it is a perfectly stretch of days for it to end.
Mandy
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the first time you have sex..you bleed.. is that from your walls being stretched out or what. im just kind of confused about it. thanks i'll rate any advice i get (: (link)
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hi Darling,
Basically the first time you have sex a girl has something called a hymen which is in your vagina when you have sex the penis will touch it every so and prod it this causes it to break everyone goes through it.
Sometimes a girl may not bleed because they have broken it through sports mostly horse riding.
Mandy
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Female. 15
i have so much dischange coming out threw the past couple of weeks. and i am wearing a pad that how bad it is.
anybody know why...?
should i tell me mom.
its so annoying.
plz help
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Hi Honey,
Have you started your period? If not it could be a sign that it's coming. If you have it's just the hormones kicking in strongly and your at an age where it does do that. There isn't anything wrong with you it's just a way of puberty and the whole menstruation thing starting.
Mandy
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okay so my boyfriend has fingered me a lot. i like it to a point but he like scrapes me when he does it. i know, ouch. but like on the outside to find it. how do i tell him that that DOESN"T feel good? (link)
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Hi Darl,
Yes the best thing to do is to guide his hand or you can just talk to him, just say go easy and make sure he doesn't go deep and just make sure it's a motion where it's in then out in then out and so on.
Mandy
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I plan on being a virgin until I'm married. I am currently a fifteen year old female. I've been confused lately about whether or not I should be dating and in relationships. Can I be in relationships and still manage to stay true to the no sex thing?
[By no sex, it includes everything, not just intercourse. No oral, fingering, touching someone below the waist, nudity, cybersex, phone sex, etc.
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And no, these aren't rules set by my parents or anybody else. My parents have set no boundaries on me or even talked about it. This is something I decided on my own. (link)
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Hi Sweety,
I'm glad you can be able to control yourself you can be in a relationship and have no sexual activities whatsoever. It can work and will if you keep hard at it. Well done it is a really mature thing to do and i wish you the best of luck.
Mandy
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what is making out? is it like frenching for a long time, or what? (link)
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Hiya Hun,
It's basically tongue snogging but it's really long.
Mandy
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wow i wanted to ask you a question cause you are really sweet and nice and i read your advice column and you give really helpfull advice.
anyways, so i have a boyfriend and we've been dating a little over a month. he went up my shirt and people tricked him into telling them that he did go up my shirt..he didn't intentionaly tell them they just found out..and now people think i'm easy. it hurts. like im not like that at all i just have a really deep connection with my boyfriend. would you consider me going to fast?
and my second question..
me and my boyfriend want to have funn without going to far. like sexually but we dont want to do bad things..besides playing dress up(cause we've done that) what can we do just to experiment and have fun?
thank you soo much. i respect all of your advice you're great. im your biggest fan. this is M3GANx21 by the way (: (link)
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Hi Honey,
I just want to say thank you so much for all your compliments im really pleased that you appreciate anf find my advice useful. Thank you for being a fan!
OK so about your boyfriend i'm sure he didn't mean to tell everyone i know sweety it hurts when people think of you as someone your not. When you have someone special in your life you trust them so much and as you have got a connection with him i honestly don't think your going too fast, trust me i tell it like it is and your not like that.
Hun about the new things you want to try send me another message i just want to know what do you mean like you dont want to do blowjobs or whatever do you?
Thank you so much for telling me how much you appreciate my advice your very sweet. thanks
Mandy
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Is it true if you get a physical for school since you have to do that every time you start a new school, is it true that doctors during the physical [or just in general by tests] can tell whether you're a virgin or not? Thanks [: (link)
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Sweety,
No way. and if your hymen is broken it can get broken from sports too so relax your fine.
Mandy
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Okay, well i have this boyfriend and he wants to finger me and i know, hes tried, but i wanted to shave my vagina so i did, but the next day almost all of it was back and i had red bumps. How fast does the hair grow back??? And how do i get rid of the red bumps? (link)
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Honey,
Shaving causes red bumps yes, and awkwardness the best thing to do is to wax brazilian wax. Doesn't grow back fast and doesn't make you feel uncomfortable.
Mandy
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Alright. Im 15. And I do know that right now is really early to start having sex. or whatever. But i feel really pressured. Everyone had girlfriends or boyfriends. And Im like the odd one out. And I feel like, whenever I do have a boyfriend, and I do refuse to have sex, they might breakup with me. Because right now is so sex realated. Everything is about sex. And more sex. Or "head".. I dont know. So Im thinking what is the worse thing that can happen if I do decide to have sex right now. I will just be up to date. And If i use a condom. Everything will be ok..??
And just so you know. Im not the one just to go find some dude and have sex with him. I will go through the regular process or whatever. and like wait like 3 months to start..but im still really iffy about the situation.??
I dont know. I just feel out. (link)
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Darling,
Young teenage girls go through a lot of peer pressure and end up doing something they regret like sex and end up pregnant. Using condoms aren't that safe as well.
Trust me if a guy leaves you because you don't have sex with him how stupid is he? Very. So your better off without guys like that. The advice that i'm going to give you is straight forward but the wisest thing to do.
Honey don't have sex because your friends are and just to get in with it. Your friends may be popular because they have but they are making huge mistakes and are acting like sluts, they may be popular now but what will they do when they get pregnant? Do you actually think they will be in a great situation then. No.
Sweetheart you are in a safe position so keep to it until you are old enough to have sex and it's with the right person not after 3 months or whatever. Sweety safe yourself while you've got the chance so don't do anything you'll regret.
Mandy
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my boyfriend is obsessed with my tits. he always wants to go up my shirt and see them and everything. we love eachother so it's not like im uncomfortable with it and i honestly dont care, so i guess my question is..why do guys like boobs so much? (link)
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Hi Honey,
Well, guys are all different some are obssessed with boobs and some really don't care. I suppose it's just a nature of life opposite sex are attracted to what they don't have and boobs are just one of them.
Mandy
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I've had a friend for about 3 going on 4 years,
we've never been anything more than friends but I liked him and he liked me at a time too.
We lost our virgnity to eachother once and got into this fight and didnt talk to much for a few monthes.
We made up and became friends again[i never stopped liking him]
He acted like he liked me ,but we still didnt go out.
Since about June,we've both been sexually active without ONLY eachother
but we aren't going out,but at the same time I still like him but i feel like its been way to long to tell him ,and he said he used to like me but idk about now.
And i learned about something called oxytocin,or "love glue" and i feel like im really attached to him ,because i havent been able to get over him no matter what,but ive been able to get over other guys i HAVENT had sex with,which i havent had sex with anyone except him ...
Do you think he's attatched to me to..?
I know its wrong to do stuff with someone your not going out with,and i dont have sex with him just because he wants to ,because i want to as well,but i dont know im kind of confused... (link)
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Sweetheart,
This seems to me like you genuinely love him, if you feel this way very strongly you should tell him. And guys they act like they don't feel attracted to a girl sometimes but inside they are bursting for them. You lost your virginity to him and so did he to you there is something there and honey don't lose that spark. Just go for it. and if your disappointed at least you tried and know the truth.
Mandy
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if my mum and dad get a divorse what will i do? (link)
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Hi Sweety,
This is a huge problem in many young teens lives. There is one thing you need to remember if they get a divorce it is not your fault honey. This will make you worry and put a lot of pressure on you, time will go and you will get used to iit. If your worried about who to live with go with your heart, or stay one month at mums and one month at dads vice versa. Sweety if it helps you should see a counsellor they will work it through with you and make sure this doesn't get in the way of your happiness. If theres anything else you want to ask go for it be more specific and i'll help you as much as i can don't worry sweetheart. Let me know how your doing hun.
Mandy
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hi Im 18 and a virgin and ive got a very small penis its about 3 inches fully erect im a bit embarrassed about it i started seeing this girl for almost 5 months and she been talking about having sex im still a bit nervous we touch/feeling each other and it feels good but when she starts to take my clothes off she strips me down to my underpants i get nervous and have to stop i just said i had a headache the other night we both down to our underpants i couldnt go through with it it might be weird but im worried what shell think or if i can satisfy her
so can i please a girl with a small penis?
what else can i do? (link)
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Hi Darl,
Well you can't do anything to make your penis bigger, apart from surgery but don't even go there. Penis size does not matter to girls unless they are sluts, just because you have a small penis doesn't mean you can't give good sex. So go for it baby!
Mandy
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