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Ok so I'm new at the whole boyfriend / girlfriend thing, and I feel like the process of me becoming more comfortable with the more physical (though not sexual) aspect of a relationship is going extremely slowly. I'm okay when my boyfriend initiates hand-holding, hugging, whatever, but for some reason I'm having a really hard time reciprocating - as in initiating anything myself. It would probably be useful to mention that I'm generally not a touchy-feely sort of person, and I tend to have a large personal space bubble. Plus, I'm kind of shy, so I think I've developed a sort of avoidance mentality where I often purposely try to avoid contact/interaction with people (yes, I probably act a bit anti-social at times, but I'm not a recluse or snob, just more of a natural introvert). Obviously, I want to get over this habit / mentality at least with my boyfriend. I don't hug him as much as he would like, nor frankly as often as I would like - half the time I feel like hugging him, I just don't for whatever reason. Irrational inhibition. He's also trying to get me to flirt more with him, which I haven't been able to bring myself to do yet (I've never flirted intentionally before :P). I really do want to do these things, so why don't I? Any ideas for how I can overcome my problem?
First of all I would like to congratulate you for adding the not sexual part. It's a smart decision for you not to get sexual right now.
Most people have a inhibitions about physical contact because of doubt in themselves or lack of comfort with the other person.
What I would suggest is this. Remember, your boyfriend like YOU. Obviously he does or he wouldn't be with you. He WANTS you to hug him, hold his hand, ETC. I think that you feel like you might be doing something wrong or making others uncomfortable by initiating contact, but he won't feel uncomfortable. Just remember, by holding his hand you're making your self happy, at least I'm assuming you want to hold your bf's hand, and your MAKING HIM HAPPY at the same time.
Sometimes people feel uncomfortable in new relationships. Most of the time that goes away with time. You become more comfortable around each other. In the few cases where you don't start feeling comfortable around each other after a good amount of time that signifies that maybe you aren't right for each other.
Hope this helps.
so i had an interesting conversation with someone i know today. we were talking about relationships. it feels like im always screwing things up. even if i didnt do anything i still feel like i couldve done something different. she mentioned that i might be scared of committment. which im confuzed as to why this might be the conclusion she came up with. because to me it seems like im always running towards the relationship. just with the wrong guy. it just seems like every guy that's come along..ive ended up getting hurt in the end. the one guy i truley want has a girlfriend and i dont think that i'm ever going to be able to be with him. ive been basically in love with him since 9th grade and im a senior now. we were best friends during my 11th grade year and i dont understand how he moved on so fast. i just want to be with him but i dont know how to even talk to him about any of it since it seems like he so preoccupied with his girlfriend. we barely talk anymore because of it. so the way i deal with it is by running around tryn to find any guy that would be willing to date and go for them. i just want to know if i'm EVER going to find someone who will treat me right . im not cocky or anything but i kno i have the looks, but i also seem to have it in my head that pretty girls can get what they want..let alone many girls. but i just dont understand why i havent gotten what i want. i know that sounds really bad it's just the only way i can explain it. sorry for making this so long. i just dont know how to go about this.
I have a lot of the same type of problem. I never can keep a relationship going, and I used to have the one person I knew it would work with, but the had a girlfriend. So I know how you feel. I would date anyone just to help me get over her. Eventually, I did get over her. And you'll get over him. The key is to not date to get over the person, but to just realize that you have to get over him and date others because you LIKE them. And you don't sound cocky. I'm the same way. I'm not saying I'm a model or anything, but I'm a pretty okay looking guy. So don't worry. The right guy will come along, until then, just date for fun. If a relationship doesn't last long, that's okay, don't get hurt. It's not like you're having these amazing heartfelt relationships that are ending, they are just for fun. So enjoy the time you get to meet new people and date for fun. Because if you make it, it can be a LOT of fun. :)
i am a 15 year old gurl and there are 2 boys that i liked last year and now I'm having mixed feeling about them...i keep sayin I'm over them but when Î see them all my feeling come back and Î don't know wat 2 do
Just remember, at 15, it's nothing serious. You don't have to get over them. If you like them let them know. Just don't make a big deal over it. Though it seems so huge. It won't be important for long.
I have a video ipod and want to put a movie that i already have on dvd on it. How would I do this? BTW: i have a pc, if that makes a difference :)
You have to download a DVD to Ipod converter program. Look on google for one you like. Most of them cost money though.
To make it simple: I cheated on my boyfriend. Twice. Once was with a boy I took a trip to Europe with. We made out after having a few too many drinks. This was back in April. Just a few nights ago, my friend and I went to our friend's apartment and we also drank, so I ended up sleeping on the couch with one of the guys, and we also made out and he tried to finger me but I didn't let him.
I feel like pure crap. I've been with my boyfriend for over three years. I don't even know why I did it, but I'm guessing it was just the thrill of being with someone other than my boyfriend for once (since we've been together so long and that 'infautation phase' has passed). I love my boyfriend more than words can express and he loves me too. There are very, very, very slim chances that my boyfriend will EVER find out about these mistakes. So, I chose not to tell him. These hook ups meant absolutely nothing to me, and were mostly the result of too much to drink (which I have only drank one other time besides these two).
Any advice on how to cope/what to do? I am not going to tell my boyfriend, but I just need some general advice and to know I'm not the only one in this situation. Thanks in advance.
The best advice I can give you is to stop drinking. It makes you make bad decisions and puts you in these situations. Also, you need to tell your boyfriend what happened. If you love him you shouldn't be okay with lying to him. He will either forgive you or not, but he deserves to know the truth no matter what.
my iphone cracked big time on the front glass part. It still works so is there any way i can cover that up?
You can't cover a crack, since it is PART of the screen. The only thing you can do is have Apple put a new screen on for you. It's gonna cost you though
i talk to my guyfriend a lot, and we enjoy playing games via facebook. games like
(1) truth or dare without the dare
(2) awkward truth
(3) word association games (e.g., he says "llama" i say "animal")
(4) games where we have to think of a word starting with the last letter of the last word said (e.g., "clock" "kid" "depend")
can anyone else suggest other games that i could play with him? we tried would you rather but it didn't work out too well cause it required too much thought and we couldn't think of good ones even when we used the internet.
20 questions is always fun.
well i have a really ugly smile. cuz i barely smile at all n when i do, my cheeks go all da way up.. TO MY EYES.
but when i have a flat face i look pretty GOOD.
hmmmm what would you say?
p.s. whats OXYMORON?
Well, I would say don't go all out and smile till you hurt your face. Just give a cute, half smile. Make it look like your happy to be there.
An Oxymoron is a phrase that contradicts itself.
Ex:
Living Dead
Jumbo Shrimp
I tried popping a deep white head on my nose (big mistake, I know), and scratched off some skin in the process. Now I have big red patch of new skin- it's very noticeable. I try using foundation, but it still looks kind of greyish underneath.
Any recommendations on a good foundation/concealer that will adequately cover it up?
It happened to me too. I'm hoping mine will go away. I would suggest going to a dermatologist and getting Xeragel, it is a scar removal gel. Instead of trying to cover it, get rid of the scar.
i'll try to make this one short, im 17 and she's about my age i think
so. i go snowboarding every sunday night its allaways a good laugh. tonight the ramps and stuff wernt made up so there wasnt anything else to do but bomb it down the slope all night. so 9 oclock comes and everyone but me is off the dry slope and in the bar, then a girl who i'v seen before working there had come out on her board, i dont even know her name we've spoken before but only breifly and then i was fine. but that was before i found out she had the same interest as me. anyway it turned half 9 and she'd had enough so she went up for the final time and i followed sort of on the lift a couple of hand rails back she got off at the top which was were i was going and she gave me the nicest smile and wave i have seen in my life. now of course that moment is stuck in my head and i dont want to get too attached to memories because i dont know her. i dont even know her name, i dont even know if she has a boy friend.. but yeah... has any one else had this trouble? how have you forgotten about things like this or if you have any good advice its all welcome, thanks
by the way dont say keep yourself busy :P im normally busy but its times like this that things just get to me lol thanks again
I know how that is. I've been through it. It's just something you have to deal with. If you see her again, don't just sit back. Be confident and say something. If you don't think you're going to see her again just live through it. You'll get over it, but just always remember, NEVER let a girl get away. If you like her, ASK FOR HER NUMBER. Don't get nervous or afraid, I know it's tough... But you'll end up regretting it later if you don't.
I feel like my dad is treating me the way that his parents have treated me. To back track...
His parents and my parents were born in a time where boys are good and girls are useless. My mom hated the sexism in that. When my older sister was born, everyone was like well, okay. Then when I was born, my dad's parents were like, grr, she's a girl. So they never bothered to come and see me when I was a baby. I'm afraid that my dad's kind of catching onto that.
Nowadays, he's always telling me to take care of my business by myself. I mean, yeah, I guess that's good but listen to this. I don't want to sound spoiled or anything but. . .
When my sister was still in high school, he took care of keeping all her report cards, awards, test scores, etc. He also took care of finding out information about colleges she was interested in, planned out when she should take what SAT, etc. He planned out everything for her. Now that I need to start looking into colleges and everything, he's telling me, I'm not going to do this for you. You look stuff up yourself. Here's what I did for your sister when she had to so if you need an outline, here it is. Oh, and by the way, you take of your own stuff from now on.
I mean, yeah, he takes me to places if I need to go and helps me with math questions. But other than that, he's just telling me to do things on my own because he's not going to bother doing so as he did for my sister.
Yes, I know I should get over it and embrace this as a "learning" experience but at the same time I can't help but wonder why he's so helpful to my sister yet tells me to do stuff by myself.
Now I don't know your family, but it may be that your sister turned out to be dependent on her father. Imagine having everything taken care of for you, then you are thrown out in the real world alone. You wouldn't know what to do. Maybe your dad has realized this and is trying not to make the same mistake again. I don't think he hates you.
so im turning 18 next month, and i want to find something FUN to do. after the 10 year old little birthday parties passed, all i've ever done is go out to dinner with the family and maybe a friend or two, but never anything really exciting, even for my 16th. i cant go all out and extravagent because we're not loaded, but i want it to be memorable. so far im thinkin about going to the Hard Rock Cafe for dinner with the family/friends and maybe getting a hotel room in Atlanta for the night with my friends, but i dont know what after that? i'd LOVE to go to a club, but only like 2 of my friends are goin to be old enough to get in with me. its still an option, but yeah. ughh gosh. any ideas?
Just rent out a party room and get a DJ, probably the same price as a hotel room and all that, and then you can invite everyone you know. Just have one of those crazy parties like you see on My Super Sweet Sixteen
what do i do to take a good yearbook photo!!! im getting my photo taken on wednesday and im scaredi ALWAYS END UP LOOKING UGLIER! =[
help?? =]
Don't be afraid to smile. Give the picture a big smile. Cover any blemishes up with makeup. Brush your hair before the picture to make sure it looks good. Look at the camera lens and have fun. If you are happy during the picture you'll look better than if you are trying to hide nervousness.
Okay, so, I am a fourteen year old female and has really never had bad acne besides a few white heads everyone once in awhile. Anyways, I have had random break outs and I'm guessing it's stress. But I've been getting huge [single] white heads in/under my nose. They are really sensitive and I'm not sure how to get rid of them. Help? Thanks.
I get those too. The best thing to do is to wash your face DAILY. Having a clean face keeps pimples away. When you get whiteheads DON'T PICK THEM. This only leaves you with big ugly red spots and possibly scars. They will go away eventually.
my roots are black and the rest of my hair is brown when i dye my hair home will it be perfect shade like all over my head or the brown part will be lighter? i want it even
if not, HOW CAN I MAKE IT EVEN?
The brown part will be lighter. To make it even you will need to bleach your head FIRST, so that all your hair is blonde, then you can dye it and it will come out even. I would suggest seeing a stylist to make it look good.
I have no clue if this goes in this category but whatever. This is pretty gross to me, but I have like these small dry patches of my head like my scalp. I don't know what they are. They itch usualy and I can't help it so I end up scratching them till they bleed a little. Who do I ask about this like do I ask a doctor or who? Also if anyone has this or something and know how to get rid of it or knows what it is please answer. Thanks in advance.
I actually used to have this. It's called Agsema and it really isn't fun. There really is no way to get rid of it. You can go to a dermatologist who can give you a prescription for something to lessen the symptoms but in the end, it is something that you grow out of. I had it for years but it finally went away. It's just something you'll have to live with. It might not go away for sometime. Sorry. The best thing to do is see a dermatologist.
Can't control herself on a car ride. She jumps all around and i'm scared she'll hurt herself by possibly jumping out of the window. She's tried to before, but i'm always holding her with the leash. I see alot of dogs without the leash perfectly still on car rides and i really want my dog to be like that. She's a shepperd mix, 5 months old. Is there a good training method for keeping your puppy obedient in the car? :/
Well, first off, i would say you should keep the window closed so you don't have to worry about her jumping out. As a puppy there is not much you can do to keep a dog calm. Thats part of having a puppy. They are VERY active. As a dog gets older it calms down considerably. Soon enough your dog should be fine.
OK so im 18/f and he is 22/m
His father owns the restaurant i work at.
Any how the other day at work when i was getting the buffet refiled he was getting something to eat and he said "i miss you". Then he flashed a lil smile. We were right next to each other. It was quite quiet.
Last summer we talked alot but lately we just talk every now and then. He barley ever even responds to my e-mails. Im leaving in two weeks for college. I also had a thing for him before but i never let him know.
I guess my question is what do you think he ment by telling me this and what do i do?
THANKS!
Well, first of all, in my opinion the age difference alone is too much. Him saying I miss you might mean that he likes you, but with you going away to college in probably wouldn't be smart to pursue a relationship.
I have these two little white heads, or something underneath my eyes, so its in a really sensitive place. How can I get rid of them? I get them a lot, but now there's two and they're right next to eachother. Last time they went away by themselves (One under EACH eye) But it took maybe 3 or 4 months! Anyone know how? They're really noticeable ):
I've had the same problem for a long time. It hurts really bad when you try to get rid of them. I would say just try to either tough it out and get rid of them or see a dermatologist if you want.
I want to add a forum to my sight and a membership sign in, how do I do this? Please tell me in the simplest way because I'm new at this.
It's almost impossible to code it and host it on your own. If you want to make a forum you can use invisonfree.com
They have great free online forums with membership sign in.