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Hello. I need some advice and knowledge here. I am worried and scared at the same time. I am 22 years old if this makes a difference. On the 11th of last month, I had intercourse for the first time. (long story about the condom) The following week I got my period. But it wasn't the full 7 days as I normally have. Anyway, all this week and all last week I have been sick. I have been nauseated, vomit every other day, tender breast, feeling lousy and tired all the time. Thirsty more than ever! I have been constipated, have ran a low grade fever for the last three nights. These last few days I have had light cramps like I am going to start my period but nothing ever comes. Today I noticed a vaginal discharge but it had a little blood in it. Not a whole lot. My Parents think that I may be pregnant. I don't feel pregnant. I was wondering if it was even possible to be pregnant if it has been a little over a month ago since I have had intercourse. I have taken a test, results were negative. I am supposed to start my period tomorrow. I don't know if I could be pregnant. It just don't seem to add up. Maybe it could be stress? My boyfriend and I broke up three weeks ago. Could it be an illness that I should be concerned about? I am worried and scared at the same time. Please don't say that my body is tricking me into thinking I am pregnant. I deny that I am, and I keep my mind off it, until my parents say something about it. I didn't even think of the possibility until my Mom pointed it out to me mid last week. I have already been having the symptoms of it before she pointed it out. Any advice or knowledge appreciated. Anything will help. Thanks in advance! (link)
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Yeah something is wrong, but I doubt it's a pregnancy. Go see your doctor!
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I went to the tanning salon yesterday for the first time. I went into a low pressure bed for 20 minutes and I got a little burned. Not to the point where I don't want to go back again. I'm planning on going back tomorrow but how long should I only stay in for? And I wasn't using lotion or anything. What do you suggest for someone who got kind of burned? (link)
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If it's the first time of the season you really ought to start at short periods of time and build up. Some girls will start as low at 4 minutes and add an extra minute every day. That way, you don't get burned, just tan. The lotions they seel you are notorious overpriced and not very effective, just bring your own thick body lotion and slather it on beforehand (this will avoid dry skin under the bulbs).
Sunscreen is always good for avoiding cancer....definitely consider it.
Always wear eyewear.
Remember: tanning is bad for you, just so you know.
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When you have vaginal itching does it necesarily mean you have yeast infection?
Does masturbating make you itch? (link)
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That last person was right, you probably have some sort of infection, most likely just a yeast infection. If it is your first one, call up your doctor and get it checked out. A lot of people think they have a yeast infection when it really is something more serious. Yeast infections are terrible, all girls hate them. Your doctor will give you the best medicine to knock it out fast.
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is it true that after 2 hours of dinking baking soda and water that it will hide the use of meth in a persons system if so how does it work (link)
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Absolutely not true.
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I can't seem to shave my bikini line right. I've used a new razor, two different shaving creams and some zest soap before... it never leaves the area completely smooth. and It's very noticeable. What should I do next time? (link)
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Wax
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I'm 20 years old,quite old enough for living alone,but i've got a big problem.My parents and especially my dad doesn't allow me to move to and began my new independent life.I feel like i'm in prison here.could anyone advise me what to do? (link)
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You're 20 years old, how can they not "allow" you? You don't need their permission in any way, shape, or form. Go apply for an apartment, move your stuff into it.....
I don't really know what kind of advice to give you, you don't need anyone's permission at your age to do anything. You just have to go against their wishes, it's true. It isn't unreasonable in the least to live on your own at 20.
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Someone keeps prank calling our home phone. We have no idea who it is and why this is happening. It happens a good 15 times a day. It's been going on for 4 days now. Prior to these past 4 days (about 4 weeks ago), the same thing was occurring - prank calls a good 15 times a day. Yes, that time those calls did stop on their own, but it went on for weeks on end. We never did anything about it, but we probably should have. My main focus for now is right now. Nothing is said when we answer the phone, and they only stay on the line for maybe 1 second. The number is set 'Private'. Could this be a business? Is it more likely that's the case? What can we do about this? How do we go about reporting them? Do we just dial the police? Is there a certain number we should have? Isn't what's going on here illegal!?! Does anyone have any idea what we should expect if we report them? (link)
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Maybe it's someone at the morgage company that knows a family member of yours personally. Since you know what the company is, call your phone company and tell them you want that number blocked, and tell them why. The person in question might resort to other numbers to call from, if that turns out to be the case then call the police (non emergency number) and tell them your situation and find out what you should do next.
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My godmother (who is actually younger than I) asked my fiance to be her baby's godfather. I knew that her other child's godmother was her sister-in-law. Well, my godmother was with us at his birthday party and she told him that her orginal choice had turned him down. And then her proceeded to ask him in front of me if her second choice (a close friend of ours) should be god mother. I was so upset that it was all I could do to not cry at the table.
He said that she needed to pray about it and talk to Father. So essentially, he didn't bring me up either, but knew I was visibly upset. He tried to talk about it with me after the party, but it just made me cry...a lot.
What is wrong with me? I can't believe I am acting so selfishly. I don't want to beg to be godmother, I don't want to tell my fiance that he can't be godfather. I asked her in general why she wouldn't pick a couple. She said she wanted someone loving and nurturing and motherly. And apparently I am chopped liver. I shouldn't have said anything. I should have just gone to the bathroom.
So now I am going to have to go to the Baptism and not cry. It is going to be one of the hardest things ever.
I don't know what to say to her, but she is helping me with my wedding. And I cannot feel this way for any more time. It hurts very badly. I really wish she hadn't brought it up in front of me.
If this seems a little weird, it gets better. Her husband is also my fiance's godson (he joined the church as an adult like I did). So we got some serious oddness going on. (link)
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She can choose whoever she wants. It doesn't have to be a couple, and she probably just wasn't thinking when she was talking about it in front of you. Maybe she really wanted the opinion of you and your fiance/friends. Just because she didn't ask you doesn't mean that she doesn't think you are good enough, I really think that you are being overly sensitive about this. Why does it mean so much to you that YOU be the godmother? If you assumed you were because you are her closest female friends then you should be close enough to talk to her about it. If you aren't close enough to be comfortable bringing this up, then you probably aren't close enough to be the godmother to begin with. It sounds like you are really making a mountain out of a molehill, I'm not trying to be rude but this isn't all about you, you know?
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I cheated on my boyfriend yesterday, I don't know what made me do it. I was really turned on by my ex boyfriend he was grabbing me and flirting with me and I just grabbed him and kissed him. I stopped and walked away and started crying because I AMMMMM happy with my relationship, crazy happy but I just really felt a strong horneyness (link)
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If you cheat on someone once, you will do it again. Obviously your current relationship isn't as good and you aren't as happy as you have been trying to make us believe. I'm glad that you love your boyfriend, if you really do then have enough respect for him to end the relationship, you don't really have to tell him what happened though. He deserves better then you, so let him go. You can talk until you are blue in the face about how it will never happen again and how you can work it out but your relationship is already over, you just haven't realized it yet.
You are really young, it's good to go through something like this now instead of when you are much older and your relationships are more
serious. Take it as a learning experience.
Sure,if you don't want any advice, don't ask for it.
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Me and my bf had sex without a condom and he cummed inside me..i was on my period though and it ends in two days. I figure i should be ok because sperm only can survive inside you for 3-5 days right? and the egg for next month wont be coming down for a couple weeks right? should i be worried or am i most likely not pregnent? (link)
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It is possible to get pregnent anytime, period or not. You could be randomly ovulating early, and sperm can live for up to seven days actually. If you are young, then your peiod/ovulation cycle is most certainly irregular anyway. Always use a condom.
I wouldn't stress about this unless you miss your next period, just please always use a condom from now on.
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hey well its my birthday this weekend! SWEET SIXTEEN! :] and my friend said that there is this hotel party that she was invited to from this other school this saturday..and i really want to go! there is gonna be drinking and stuff but the kid said we can stay there overnight. i just wanna party this weekend and celebrate because you only turn 16 once. the only problem is i got my period late today (tuesday) and it wont be gone by saturday so i dont know what to do! i wear tampons but i dont want to bring a purse to the party at all and i wanna wear flip flops and a tshirt and jeans! so i dont know what to do about my period! and if we stay overnight which we probably will..i dont want to leak! also i will need to bring tampons but where would i put them? im probably gonna be drunk so i dont wanna bring a purse--wont trust it since there will be alot of people and my friend doesnt carry a purse either!! soo what do you think i should do? the only way we can go is if we stay overnight too since we will be drinking and stuff. well thanks!
i will rate 5 for anyone who answers
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Periods are a fact of life, no big deal. You can still do whatever you want while you have them, you just need to get used to what your body needs at that time. Just carry a purse (don't you need an overnight bag anyway?). You NEED tampons, that's all there is to it. Since when is it not cool to carry a purse to party? I always want everyone to see whatever cute handbag I have at the moment.
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I have a pretty big scar on my upper left leg from when I got surgery when I was a baby. Now that summer's coming up, I want to wear shorts and bikinis but I don't want anyone to see the scar. What are some ways to make the scar less noticible so you can't really see it? (link)
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I have a large scar on my abdomen that is very noticable. There isn't really anything you can do to cover it up, so my advice is to accept it as part of who you are. Noone would think less of you for having a scar, and if you are confident then noone will even notice it as a negative thing. Confidence is everything!
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i am planning to go to planned parenthood tomorrow to get some birth control pills and iand an ememergy pill. can someone tell me what to saw or do when i go. i am goin alone and this is my first time. (link)
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Just tell them why you're there and what you want, they'll give it to you. Don't be embarrassed or hold anything back...their job is to help. They will give you standard medical GYN test, and that is good. Just relax and don't be afraid to let them know that you are stressed about it.
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okay so yeah im new to this site and stuff so...i've been in my house for the past like 7months doing NOTHING and i wanna get out and im only 13 so i cant get a job..well i can but not a good one or anything, so yea my parents dont let me go to camp cuz there scared im gonna come back and be on drugs or something...dont ask why....(im a good kid really!...) so any way i was wondering if anyone had any ideas on something i could do to get out of the house and not b so bored all of the time..well thanks!!!!=) ~ Rosemarie (link)
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Volunteer, get involved with a church group, join a sports team, take music lessons, organize outings with your friends, babysit or pet sit, mow lawns....
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how do you cover the smell of smoke?? like get it out of your hair w/o washing it like 50 times (link)
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Jonathan redo is a neutralizer spray for skin and hair. It's a little pricey though.
I work for a plant that manufactures high end hair care products.....I know you can't just walk into a salon (most anyway) and buy it because it's for celebrities and rich people. Try google and see what websites come up where you can order it.
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Hey did that diet pill girl give you a one too?
she gave me one, for saying i didnt help. (link)
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No, but she accussed me of not knowing what I'm talking about. I am actually a scientist. I get the impression that she is a naive teenager.
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Fair warning this isn't a "omg am I pregnant? question"
Well I had sex with a long time friend, the condom broke and we both noticed it as soon as it happened. I'm not worried about being pregnant, because I have all the signs that my period is going to start soon.
Anyway it happened on Saturday night, well since the condom broke is there any chance that a tiny part of the condom, is still inside me? Since it broke and it may have like torn a piece got stuck to the inside of my vagina? Or should I not really worry about?
Thank you in advance. (link)
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It's technically possible but no cause for concern, unless you happen to be allergic to latex (in which case you would already know). Your body is designed to work such things out in due time.
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Ive always heard about the 7 year itch in marriages. Now I believe it. After my husband and I have been married 7 years now it seems things are starting to go wrong. We had a great marriage untill about 6 or 7 months ago. Since then things have changed so much between us. Nothing in particular happened to change it so I have no idea what the problem is. We fight constantly and half the time we dont know what we are even mad at. Sometimes I feel like Im just going through the motions with him and acting and not really feeling.
Latley its been worse. And to make matters more complicated Ive meet a very nice man..no, nothing like that has happened, we just talk and etc when he comes in the where I work. But he hints that he would like more and the more I hear him talk the more things I notice my husband lacks. A year ago I would never have even thought about leaving my husband for someone else but now, with our marriage falling in at the seems its starting to look like a better idea. I have no idea what to do any more. I wake up in the mornings feeling confused and just walk about the house playing perfect wife and mom but I cant get this other guy out of my head no matter what I do.
My husband must not notice things are bothring me becaues he just lays on the couch barking out orders to me like Im a waitress.
What should I do?
Ive talked to family and friends but a majority of them are biased because they never liked my husband in the first place. (link)
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You sounds like you need couples counseling...if your relationship was good until a few months ago then it may very well be fixable. Do not persure a relationship with another man while you are married. If you are truely unhappy then move out for awhile and then explore your options. There is no excuse for seeing someone behind your partners back, no matter how bad the state of your marriage is. If you are thinking of that, then leave first. If I were you, I would tell my husband my concerns and try counseling together, if he refuses to work on your marriage then that is your answer right there.
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I want to know the rules of nude beach. At what age people can visit nude beach. is any one allowed or only couples or families are allowed. Are there the nude beaches for families only. Are the children below 12 are allowed to visit nude beaches. Please reply. (link)
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Please don't take your child to a nude beach. Please don't be "that" parent. Please.
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i am 16 and my boyfriend has been talking about getting married he said he was going to ask me to marry him soon...how do you guys feel about teenage marriage? and why do you feel this way? i need ohter teens advice! thanks xox (link)
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Are you kidding? Wait until you're divorced with a kid by 22, see how much you enjoy your life then.
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