...Im shay, I love giving advice. I've learned a lot of lessons from myself and my four other siblings. If I havent been through it, my friends have, or my family has, I can pretty much solve peoples problems. I do it all the time, thats why I love giving advice. I'm a sucker for music, ask me questions about it, Im sure I can help you. I play guitar, I play tennis, I'm pretty atheletic.
Gender: Female
Location: CA
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I dont have many friends. It may have something to do with the fact that I have two hissing cockroaches as pets, named Fluffy and Sweetiekins, a unibrow, and a strange obsession with polyester. I also have a horrible fear of alarm clocks. I wake up just before it goes off so i can turn it off before that horrifying buzzing starts. Please help me. (link)
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You have cocroaches as pets? Yikes! Theres your problem. People probably think your not normal. Though its fign to not be normal. Nobodys the same. Its just people might be freaked to come to your house and find roaches. I have fear of alarm clocks too! Thats normal though(I think). Well just lose the roaches KKKKK!!
-shay :-)
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Here's the deal.....I have already asked you that question about me and this kid liking eachother but his friend was in the way...remember me? Well, to make things worse, he has now found out that he is moving. His friend is finally over me and we now can date freely, but since the guy I like is moving, it is making things worse. Me and this guy have been talking and he explained to me that if we went out it would kill to move later on. So we decided not to go out. However, we are still majorly in love. We act like a couple, and do things as a couple, but we just don't call ourselves a couple. I don't know what to do. It is going to hurt so much when he moves away and I don't know if I will be able to get over it. This is how he feels, too. Is there anything I can do to help him? I think it is worse for him than for me. Whenever I try to help him or make him feel better, I end up making him feel worse because he knows he will have to leave me sometime or another. Help! I have tried focusing my attention on other guys...but it doesn't work. Any suggestions?
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OUCH! =( that sounds bad. Im sorry he has to move away! Give him your e-mail and phone #. It never hurts to KIT(keep in touch)
-shay :-)
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There's this boy (let's call him...Bug) and I have this friend (lets call her...cool)
Well, I used to have a big crush on Bug last year and I told one person and that one person told a lot of other people (which I don't really care because I wanted him to know) Well...Bug is just so cute, even if he is a jerk. I started liking him last year. I didn't find out he was a jerk until this year though.
My friend, Cool, was at her locker this year, and Bug came up to her (and I was right next to her at MY locker)and Bug was like "Hey, Cool, will you go out with me baby?" and both Cool and I knew he was only joking and being an @$$.
Cool just gave me an embarrased look and then I didnt say anything but big was leaving and he called Cool a HEFFER! and I was just steaming becasue yes...my friend is kind of big but its not something that she could help becasue she is big boned. Everyone calls her the black barney (not to be racist, but a lot of them who cal her that are black too) and it gets me so mad that they call her that. Anyways, I gave Bug such a cold look, and this is when Im pretty sure he knew that I liked him. He looked at me kind of sadly and then when we were walking past each other in the hall...I bumped into him hard on purpose and he just looked at me.
Then all the rest of the days I would just give him such a dirty look and roll my eyes. And Im so mad becasue my friend transferred schools because of him and his friends making fub of her on the bus.
The problem is though....I think I still might like him. He keeps giving me looks (not necessarily looks that he likes me or that hes interested) Its just makes me so confused and I don't know what to do becasue even if I DO still like him......I dont want to.......or at least I think I dont.
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Hmm sounds like your playing a little hard to get, but think your angry with him.To you your friend is gone and its just you and him. He does sound like a jerk if he caused her to move school. Dont be with someone like that. You will be wasting your time.
-shay :-)
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I am absolutely fed up. I am in the seventh grade, not popular, not pretty, but intellectual and intelligent and very very friendly. (I think...) Anyway, all the guys are into the hot girls with no brains, or the ones they dont even know. They are all so shallow, my guyfriends always talk about how hot the sluts are and this doesnt help my self esteem at all. I don't want to change into one of the slutty ones just to please them because I am happy with the way I am, but I dress wierd, like a boy, I buy my clothes at thrift stores and ross, I AM wierd, and some normal people dont want to get near me. I just wish there was a way for people like them to see beyond looks because its really getting to me and making school a living nightmare... (link)
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You made a great decision not being like everyone else. You dont have to be slutty with no brains to be popular. And you are right boys are shallow at your age. Its just want to be seen with hot girls. Thats just how they are. When they talk about the girls just tell them that you are fed up with it.
-shay :-) PS-sorry i didnt get 2 it earlier.
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my boyfriend sometimes says that im too quiet and when he tells me to talk i dont know what to talk about and when i tell him to talk he says no because im the one thats supposed to talk.....what should i talk to him about?
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He is a bit wrong on what he said. You both talk! Thats how you get to know eachother better. Start talking about the weather or some movies youve see. Dont forget to always talk about the funny parts! Music, shows, and sports are always nice. Food too where do you like to eat? What does your room look like? Soon you will carry on conversations for hours. Glad to be a help!
-shay :-)
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well I am having trouble in my 7th grade math class and my grandma wants me to get a touter.She has been buging me for ever and to me if I get a totour I will feel stupid so.. Should I or should I not get a totour. (link)
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You should definetly get a tutor. A good education comes mostley from those kind of people. Do what your grandmother says. Its the right thing to do.
-shay :-)
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ok i was siting with my freind today at lunch and all and i have been hanging with him quite a bit during school and stuff and i am confused about how i feel about him because becuase today i was partners with him in the wieght room and we were having a blast and all then at lunch our friends went to sit with other people so it was just me and him and i was like in my head gosh i feel like a geek and stuff but as we talked i was reall comfy with him and stuff and other times i just think of him as a friend i mean right now i would never be able to see my self kissing hin but i sometimes could see us hugging and stuff and then lik yesterday i was like 'f you matt" kidding around and he knew it and then he was like " i love you too becah" and i was like you love me and he was like sure so i dont know no how i feel casue sometimes i kinda like him like him and other times i only like him as a friend (link)
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Ahhh! This is the perfect story. You start off as good friends and then you end up in a great position! You have no problem here exept the friend part. Is is personality nice? Are you atracted to him? Let your heart decide on that one, other then that your lucky to be in his eyes!
-shay :-)
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My parents were divorced about 7 years ago. I am in my 30s. I feel like the holidays are a job because we have to go so many different places in one day, and worst of all, eat.
I wish I could rent out 2 adjacent ballrooms and have Christmas. It stresses me out. I have tried saying, ok, your house for Thanksgiving and your house for Christmas. This year I made Thanksgiving dinner, but my father forgot or just didn't bother to care. I did visit him the Friday after, which was fun. Mom and brother did come. Brother is also making the grand rounds with his family.
How could this be easier other than purposefully being out of town? (link)
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your holidays should not feel like a job at all. Holidays are a time to spend relaxing and staying out from work. If you feel like renting out ballrooms do what you feel like doing. You can visit with parents any time.
-shay :-)
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I've been leaving my window open at night because the room is so hot, and some time within the last month I have developed an odd crawling, painful sensation in my stomach. At night I have interesting dreams about creatures laughing and poking me with sticks and blue lightning coming from the ground. I am beginning to think I'm in serious trouble.
The thing I'm wondering most is, am i carrying a demon child or an alien one? I would much rather have a demon child, because with aliens, who knows? I find demons a bit more amiable and predictable. Plus, demons generally speak English. Can anyone tell me if I'm pregnant by a demon or an alien? (link)
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lol! Pregnat with demans! If you are a person you should reproduce humans not damons or aliens. And usually when you open your window and cold air brushes onto you and your not used to it you get cramps its normal. If you think creatures are in your room through your window or something I suggest you get a fan. Have you seen a scary movie latley? It could be that. Though you may keep having them because your not finishing your dream its typical. Happens all the time. If this gets serious a sycatris is always a good idea.
-Shay :-)
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I have a internal test in a weeks time on organic chemistry and I have realised that although I understand the work at the time I seem to be completly stumped when presented with a question to work through. Does anyone have any good rvision sites or tips?
Or a miracle...
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The best way to get the work you need is by your teacher. Ask for some work you can use for some xtra help. But I decided to surf yahoo search and I found some webpages you can use at www.ksw.org.uk/departments/chemistry/ Glad to be a help!
-shay :-)
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Ok, Not too long ago, my best friend and I both liked the same guy. I dont think anyone knew it but us 3. Anyways, the guy (I'll call him Roboert) told me that he liked me. And my best friend was sitting right there. She got really mad because he knew that she liked him alot and he decided to like me. She even got mad at me. Well, she got a boyfriend and everything was cool. But now, they're fighting and she's started talking to Robert more. We're not goin out or anything but, I dont want the same problem to happen again. What should I do? I mean, should I stop liking him for my friend or is she a friend at all if she'd get mad at me for someone liking me??
--Thanks--
~Confused~
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Dear confused,
Your "friend" seems like the jealous type. When shes got a boy/f its okay, but when shes not happy she cant stand to see you happy. I dont think shes much of a friend if she feels that way. Ask her how she would feel if you went out with him. Or you could try getting things together with her and her boy/f shes fighting with. Glad to be a help
-Shay :-)
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Okay, there's this guy who I am madly in love with. I think of him 24/7, I doodle his name all over my school work, and I dream about him at night. But, as far as I know, he has no idea that I like him. Now he's got a girlfriend. I have no clue what to do. I mean, just because he has a girlfriend, doesn't mean that I can just turn off my feelings like they never existed. I mean, I cry everytime I see him and his girlfriend together. And I see him ALL the time. Everyday in class, weekends, summer. It's crazy. I just don't know what to do. But my problem is that I don't know how to tell him that I love him, because I'm positive that he doesn't feel the same way. All of my friends say I should move on...but it's just so hard. Thanks in advance for any advice you can offer. (link)
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Of couse you cant just pick up and move! Its very hard to get over strong emotions. Its okay to just keep feeling the way you do. You dont have to express yourself to him either. Just pretend he doesnt have a girlfriend. Its not like he'll stay with her forever. And if he does (witch is VERY unlikley) theres probably many other guys just like him out in the big sea!
-shay :-)
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I'm just starting out in the guitar world, and I've been doing some research. I've decided that I want a Fender, because they've gotten good reviews and are in my price range (or the ones I've seen, anyway.)My questions consist of:
1. What's a dreadnaught? Is it bigger than a Grand Concert?
2. Are you supposed to use a pick with acoustics?
3. What is the best kind of case?
4. What's a good price (in general) for a Fender?
I think I want the Grand Concert GC-12 Acoustic, but I also might want the DG 245 Dreadnaught Acoustic.
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I am also about to enter the world of guitar also. You do not have to use a pick for a guitar only a banjo. And a fender? Isnt that for a car? I think maybe you should go to "music time". They have many answers to questions. Glad to be a bit of help!
-Shay :-)
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How can I get rid of a calus that I have on my finger?...please help if you have any ideas because I've had it for a while and it's making me so frustrated!!
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To get rid of a calus on the finger soak it in hot water and rub it with a pumice stone.(a small grey circle thing)
-shay :-)
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okay, i asked you guys about a 22 year old minister who loves me, a 14 year old. well, it's gotten worse. he's called me, and he told me that he had a dream about me, and we had sex. yikes! i really don't know what to do about him. i don't want to make him mad, because he knows my phone number and could easily find out where i live. any advice? (link)
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Wai,wait,wait! Thats way to gross to share. A dream like that he should have kept to himself. Though he may feel close to you enough to tell you. Thats usually not good if a man you dont like feels close. You should tell him you already have plans for your future. Your going to stay away from relationships until after or during college.
-shay :-)
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Theres this guy at my school, I REALLY like him and I've told him exactly how I feel. One day we were on the bus, on the way to a football game, and he told me that he liked me too. Now that he told me that, everything is all weird between us. And he alwayz reminds me that he likes me but, he never does anything about it. He also likes this other girl but, IDK. He flirts with me and stuff like that...I don't know what Im supposed to do to find out if he really likes me or if its really gonna go anywheres. I dont wanna talk to him and make myself look like a complete idiot. And I dont want to hold on if theres nothing there and theres never gonna be anything...He got really mad at me for goin to my sis' boyfriends and watchin a movie with his cousin. I mean, my god!! If he wants me so bad, why dont he just take me?? I guess what I want to know is...how do u know if a guy really likes you and do you think i should just let go..and if so, how do i do that? Thanx for your help in advance!! (link)
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Sounds to me like your crush is a player. He wants all girls to himself, but wont let them do anything. Ive totally been in that situation. If this guy really is a player you shouldnt hold on any longer (but flirtings okay!). Say he goes out with you for a wile, but then dumps you prepare for major cry!
-shay :-)
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I need help my crush does not have a crush on me what should i do? (link)
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This is a typical problem. You and millions of other people think the same thing. There really is nothing you can do about somebodys feelings. Just hope for the best!
-shay :-)
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Hey Shay,
I'm MiSSc. I'm new to this Advice thing. But you've might of heard of me or answered one of my questions. Anyway...I have a question about your Advice Column and how you got that spongebob pic. I don't want spongebob exactly but if I could I would want to have one. So how did you get yours?
Sincerelly,
MiSSc (link)
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Dear missc,
COURSE I heard of you! Wellto yer Question. You can go to a search like yahoo or google or something and type in "spongebob gallery". Then many choices apear. Pick your choice. Then when you find the PERFECT picture right click your mouse and press "save picture as". Then its automaticly in your my pictures. Come here press "edit settings". Then at "Upload picture of you press browse and your at your picture. Double click on spongebob and if it says setting changed succesfuly YOUR IN!!!! Hope i helped Lots!!
-shay :-)
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Hay shay I see u like 2 play softball. When im playing games im way to nervous 2 hit or catch da ball. How do i relax and shut out my nervousness????ThanxxxLotsss!!!signed,nervous! (link)
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Dear nervous,
I dont actually play on a team, but I do play in school in front of my 43 student class, but I still love it. Anyways dont think to much about it. Empty your mind. You cant possibly hit the ball if your thinking of all the ways you can miss!
-Shay :-)
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i cant spell and im proud of it am i normal? (link)
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Being able to spell is a very important virtue to have, but it seems to me like you can spell by your letter. If you apply for a job and one person has the same applacation as you, but you cant spell. Who will get the job? You tell me.
-shay :-)
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