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my boyfriend sometimes says that im too quiet and when he tells me to talk i dont know what to talk about and when i tell him to talk he says no because im the one thats supposed to talk.....what should i talk to him about?
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That's stupid...noone is SUPPOSED to talk. If he truly cares for you, then he'll understand that the gift of fluent conversation is not something that comes easy for you. Instead of attempting to force you to an uncomfortable diatribe, he'll take his time, find out if there's anything that makes it easier for you and try to show you that you can be truly comfortable around him.
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I don't know where he got the idea that the girl's supposed to do all the talking... but news, either yours or his or in the world is a good topic, as it's always changing, right? It can also lead into other questions as opinions come up, then you get into philosophy and values and all that heavy-duty stuff.
But, for that to happen, it helps to get him talking too. If he won't join in, consider that you may be in for a rather dull relationship...
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what i think is that if u dont have anything to say to him then u both either need to take some time apart or need to tell him how u feel maybe he is crowding ur space the best thing to do is take time apart let news flow so when u guys get back together u will have things to talk about and if that is jjust a complete no then just say what is ever on ur mind anywhere from welli love cheese cake to did u hear the thing about martha sleeping with her cuzin lol
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Here are some suggestions:
Anime
Manga
Television shows
The news
books
The psychopathic cheese doodles gnawing at your teacher's crotch.
None of these subjects interest you? Dammit, woman, I can only think for so long before i get distracted! I'm not all focused and lawful like the rest of you-- Oh, hey, that doggy has a funny tail! I knew i bought that lighter fluid for something...
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This is the classic case of not having anything in common. Now I'm not the relationship genius or anything, I mean what do I know about you 2? But it seems that you just need to hang out and start doing things that interest you both at the same time. Then when you want to talk about something, you can be like "hey, wasn't that concert awesome last nite?" and have the conversation broaden from there!
~good luck~
Indie*
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Hey!
Isn't your boyfriend slightly childish? Anyway, I won't Quiz you on that. If you want the best advice in this particular situation, you got it.
Firstly, what I want to ask is, are you new to the whole dating thing? Well, if you are, no need to be ashamed. I was there once. we all go through this stage. It's the awkward don't know what to do stage. Relax. It's normal. In most 1st time relationships, you can expect this. what you REALLY need to do, is relax and be yourself. But you must be asking me, " What? Be myself? How can I be myself around a guy??" Well, relax. You can.
The reason you are having this problem is because you are nervous and just 'freeze up' when you two are together. Here's a trick. Just pretend that he's one of your girlfriends. Just tell him what's on you mind. Like 'hey, thats a nice shirt you're wearing.' or 'did you hear about the movie..isn't it really great?'
Another good way to involve your partner and to "prolong" the conversation, is to tell him stuff-ie the question before-and include a question behind it.
Confused? well, here's another example. "I just get the creeps about that boy in school. Why does he wear all that black anyway? Hey isn't he in your class? what do you think of him?"
that's a classic way to bring your partner into the conversation too.
Hope i have been of service to you. If you have any other questions and think I'm of any use, please feel free to email me at teri_advice@hotmail.com
Good luck and Bon voyage!
Faithfully,
Actualtruths
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What a weird relationship. It sounds like you two need some time to get to develop personalities before you try to depend on someone else for entertainment. You can be quiet all you damn well please. If he likes you enough, he can handle a quiet girl.
Doesn't he have any hobbies?
Why is he pestering you?
Read some old Brothers Grimm stories about the silent princess that princes tried to make laugh or speak, yet she remained silent until her True love came.
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Seem like a nerd. Talk about computers.
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He is a bit wrong on what he said. You both talk! Thats how you get to know eachother better. Start talking about the weather or some movies youve see. Dont forget to always talk about the funny parts! Music, shows, and sports are always nice. Food too where do you like to eat? What does your room look like? Soon you will carry on conversations for hours. Glad to be a help!
-shay :-)
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