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Q: I had sex with my boyfriend yesterday and now I'm in alot of pain and I won't stop bleeding, it was my first time. My stomach hurts and a can barly walk. I don't wanna tell my parents cuz they will know I had sex. Please help, I will love you forever! Also I'm f/15

It would probably be in your best interests if you tell your parents. Im sure that they will be more concerned with your health at the moment than the fact that you had sex.
If you aren't comfortable with that then try going to your local health center. They will treat without parental consent. But make sure that you do get it checked out for your health.

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Q: my bf and my ex are good friends and when we are hanging out together and hes there he always talks about things that happened when we were together and stuff and he tries to make my bf think that me and him did stuff and its weird..and like my best friend..and my exs gf was there and when she left is when he started talking about all this..whats going on?

It sounds like he misses you really. He is trying to remind you of the good times you had and is maybe even trying to make your current boyfriend jealous. Try talking to him. Let him know that you don't appreciate him bringing up the past especially in front of your boyfriend. Tell him that you want to be friends but that if he keeps doing that then it won't be possible.

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Q: 16.m

i've been going out with an amazing girl the past 13 months. we're both in highschool and she recently got a job. so she's been feeling responsibilities pile up on her. it was all going good until she wanted time to herself.

she said we're very likely to get back together, but it's nothing i haven't heard before. i guess i just need some comforting words.

but i love this girl and she knows that, she loves me back. i don't get how two people can have feelings like that and one just doesn't see a point in going out.

It may not seem logical but it happens. She may just feel that you are going in different directions, or she may be scared about all of her responsibilities. She may think that you deserve someone with more time for you and in time she may realize that she really does want to be with you. You just need to give her the space she asks for, because if you don't then it will most definatly ruin your relationship. She will think you don't respect her wishes, trust me I've been there.
Give her the space but make sure she knows how much she means to you and that you are willing to wait and do what she wants.

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Q: so my boyfriend has never made out with anyone and i dont want our first kiss to be akward! lol

The boy I am currently dating had never made out with anyone before me either, but I didn't know that at the time so it made it easier. Just try not to think about that fact, just move in and do what you think is best. Always listen to your instincts, they are almost always right.

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Q: okay, i got my period in august 2007, I lost it in october 2007, and now it's march 2008. i heard u loose your period for 3 months. But i lost mine for 6 months. All i do is hump things. i always think i am pregnant but how, b/c my stomach isn't growing and i never had sex. But that is what i think; i know it's stupid. I went to the docters and he said it could be because i am under weight b/c i weigh 85lb and that i'm probably not old enough. What do think??? thank you. ps i would like girls to answer......

Well it sounds like your doctor probably knows better than anyone on this site what is wrong but it could be a number of things. The first time I thought i started my period it was simply because I played sports alot and I popped my cherry which made me bleed. So after like one day of bleeding I stopped and I didn't bleed again for 2 years. It could be something like that because alot of activities can cause it, Horseback riding, excessive exercise, etc.
There is no way you can be pregnant if you haven't had sex or had sexual relations with a boy.

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Q: you know when you dont really like a person but you know they like you and since they are constantly being nice to you, you kinda feel like you like them?
but then you know that deep down you dont REALLY like them. yet, all you do is flirt with them and in a way lead them on. well this guy that likes me goes to a different school than me and i really dotn think he should even like me because he doesnt know enough about me to like me. yet i being a carefree sagittarius cant control my flirting on myspace which is a completely unreliable website to begin with..
so if he asks me out or confesses his love for me again which im sure he will eventually, how can i tell him its a no without being completely rude and hurtful?
thanx =]

You should probably tell him that you just don't feel that way about him before it goes any further. Don't wait for him to confess his love or ask you out. Simply tell him, even through myspace, that you are just intrested in being friends and that you don't really like him in that way. Make sure you are considerate and let him down easy.

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Q: How can you tell if a guy is actually busy, or isn't interested in a relationship?

If he is constantly making excuses on you and never has 'time' to hang out with you then he probably is just trying to tell you nicely that he's not interested. Lay low for a while and then if he comes to you and wants to hang out then you know he was just busy.

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Q: okay so i saw alot of pictures of people kissing in which the girl kisses the top lip of the guy's, is that what your suppose to do? im never really romantically kissed a guy before so im really unsure. please help, thanks.

There really isn't a basic guideline for kissing haha. You just have to do whatever you feel is right and trust me you will know. I'm sure you will do just fine.

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Q: Okay so my boyfriend and I dry hump or whatever. And we realized that he might actually go in me a little bit so that might be bad...But he wears boxers and bball shorts, and i wear nothing. Weve done that before and I have continued to get my period so I believe its okay as long as you dont do it for too long.... And well we did that in the hottub the other night and i had nothing on and he had his swimsuit (mesh and then fabric) and we didnt do it for that long, so how bad can that be?

should we stop? or is there a safer way to do that same thing but not using a condom, maybe something else?

It sounds like there is a very very small chance of getting pregnant this way but there is still a chance. The best way to go about it is for you to get on some sort of birth control and condoms are a very good thing to use. I suggest you try them or you both have your clothes on so the chance is even smaller.

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Q: 16/f junior in high school
he's 17 senior
so i like this guy. no i really really really like this guy. he's incredibly smart, amazing body, he's got an adorable face and a wonderful personality. he's rich but still chooses to be responsible and make his own money by waiting tables. but...he smokes pot, a lot of it. he might even sell it too. i have one class with him and we sit at opposite ends of the room. i've talked to him once when we both stayed afterschool for something and we listened to some music together on his ipod. it was the first time i had ever talked to him and i was shaking. i was sweating but i had chills. we talked for maybe five minutes but then we both had to leave. a week later in class i asked for his number. we've been texting ever since. some days we text for only a half hour and other days we text all day long. we've both flirted a little and when i pass him in the halls i see him doing a double take as i pass by. he's all i think about. this is the first guy that i've felt an emotional "click" with. the thing is that im the one always texting him. he never texts me. we're both incredibly shy people so that doesnt really help. now that its spring break he mentioned that we could hang out sometime but he's really busy and going all over the place. i want to make this relationship go somewhere because now i think its been about two weeks of texting and making small talk. i swear this guy is my male equivelant...like the male version of me. we have the same sense of humor and personality it amazing. i dont want to come right out with it and say "hey i like you" because well first of all i dont have the guts to do that and second of all i dont want to be that blunt about it. how can i hint that im intrested in him without being overwhelming???

p.s. thanks for listening to me blab about a hot kid

It sounds like you both have some interest in one another so maybe try asking him to go out with you in a text and see where that goes. Or while you're in class walk over to him and start talking to him, he will notice you going out of your way to talk to him. Just make sure he knows you are interested but don't make yourself seem desperate.

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Q: okay to start off,
1. im a virgin
2. my cherry is not yet popped.

me and my boyfriend were fooling around and i was giving him a lapdance in panties while he was wearing boxers. we were just doing that but then he said he was starting to get wet so we should stop because precum could leak through so we stopped. My stomach has hurt crampwise really bad the past 3 days like i'm about to get my period but its not happening. usualy after i get cramps for a day i get my period the next. i'm not sure of the exact date im supposed to get my period but its sometime around this time. whats going on with this? i'm so confused.

It is a really slim chance that you could be pregnant. The semen would have to make it through his boxers and your underwear and then IF it did that make its way inside you. You said you don't know the exact date of your period so I would just give it a few days and if you still have started in like a week or two then I would start worrying and maybe get a pregnancy test.

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Q: good day i was just wondering if you could tell me, maybe whats causing this or where i may go to find out. i know i shuold go to the doctor and have it checked out but i just dont want to. when i masterbate it usually ends with me having stomach pains and somtimes it causes me to bleed.

This could be really serious. You may be injurying your insides without knowing it. You really need to go to a doctor and see what he/she has to day about it.
I would stop masturbating until you find out the problem.

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Q: (14, F) My boyfriend and I have been going out for 2 months. He treats me amazingly. The other day, he told me that 2 or 3 weeks after we started dating, he kissed another girl. He said he wanted to tell me earlier but didn't want to make me upset. He promises he'll never do it again, he doesn't know why he did it.

Should I break up with him? I really don't want to, but if he cheats once, does it mean he'll do it again?

I really don't think that you should break up with him right at this moment. I mean he told you about it and promised he wouldn't do it again and if he thought he would then he absolutely wouldn't have told you about it. So I think you should give him another chance but make him earn your trust.

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Q: well i am really scared, i am female 13 will be 14 in May. Me and my friend Tara over heard her brother talking about this party. So we decided to sneak out and go to it. Well Tara really freaked when she saw all the booze and stuff. So she left i stayed. I am not sure how i happen but 4 guys got me into a bed room. well i am not sure how but they all and sex with me. i dont know what to do

You need to try and remember if you agreed to it. Ask these questions, Were you intoxicated? Did you give consent? If you remember saying no then you really need to tell someone, because that is rape sweetie.

You also need to get tested for an STD and maybe also get a pregnancy test. And you really need to be more careful about going to these parties especailly since you are younger. Older guys can be very convincing to a girl your age.

Im very sorry this happened to you, hope everything goes well.

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Q: how do I get a guy horny without acting to slutty..or really touching him...lol

Well you can blow in his ear, wear sexy clothes, kiss his neck, wink seductively, or any of these things. It will be alot easier if you touch him though haha.

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Q: So i was with this guy for a year and a half and i lost my virginity to him and i fell in love. But we broke up last summer and he hates me because he heard that I cheated on him but i really didnt. He wont talk to me or even listen to his best friend when he tells him that I didnt cheat on him. It has been like 6 months and I have even had a boyfriend since then but I am not over him, he was my first everything. I see him at school and my heart literally stops. What do I do? How to I either get over him or get back with him?

I was in a similar situation last summer. This guy and I dated for 3 years but then we broke up. People told him that I cheated on him and he was really hurt and upset with me. He and I finally talked it over but realized that it was just best if we stayed apart. I still cared for him but knew that i wasn't necessarily IN love with him anymore. If you really feel that you are still in love with the guy and want to be with him I suggest that you talk to him and tell him that you still care and want to try again. But if you don't think that you are in love with him anymore but still want to work it out it may be easier to move on if you are friends. That was easier for me. Talk to him and let him know that you didn't cheat and that you would like to be friends. Then you can move on but still have him in your life.

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Q: so going on from the title its pretty obvious whats up, i went round her house yesterday and she tried it on with me nothing too big to start then she started sittin on me and tryin to kiss me, although i wanted to so badly i didnt. and its been playing on my mind ever since (i posted a question a little like this a while ago) anyways, i left there feeling kinda... well, 1) horrified that she would do that even when she has some one allready and then she goes an tells me shes done it before with 2 other guys while she was going out with this one guy and shes all like come on do it he wont find out sorta thing. then over msn i sed somthing that relaly hurt her and i feel bad now i cant stop thinking abotu her and am starting to feel regret that i didnt do anything with her, which is like the worst thing i have thoguht in ages. i need some one else to point out pro's and cons just so i can clarify that what i'm thinking is right/wrong

Well it isn't a crime to like her but think about how her boyfriend would feel if he found out about what you two have done. It would probably really hurt him. She also doesn't sound like someone that you would want to have a future relationship with because she obviously cheats and she has done it more than once with more than one guy. I really don't see any pro's to the situation besides the fact that you like her and you would like to do stuff with her. Con's on the other hand it could hurt a lot of people and your conscience will probably eat away at you. I think you were right to send her that message to try and show her that you weren't interested in her that way because of the fact that she has a boyfriend. Maybe when they break up you can try but just remember the fact that she has cheated before, keep that in mind.

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Q: what sort of things should i put in my boyfriend's easter basket? like he got me a build a bear for no reason, so i want to get him some cute things.

You could find out his favorite candy and fill a small basket with it. Try chocolate bunnies, hershey kisses, or any other candy you can think of. He also might like a cute little bunny but nothing to girly.

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Q: okay last night i had "sex" for the first time.? but im not sure if you would call it sex. the head of his penis was in, but thats it cause the rest wouldnt fit. could you tell me if thats sex and what is actually considered sex? like, is it when the whole thing is in or what?
thanks!

Yes that is techinically considered sex. Sex is when a man's penis comes into contact with a female's vagina whether its the whole thing or just the head.

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Q: i was a virgin, and about.. 3 weeks ago i lost it. i was 4 days late with my period, so i bought a pregnancy test, i got negitave =) but is it normal for my period to be irregular?
(it hasn't been scene i first got it)

It is very common for teenagers' periods to be irregular. Many don't begin becoming regular until a few years after you first start. If you got your period then i wouldn't worry about it, but if you still don't get it then I suggest getting another test and taking it again.

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