Hello, call me Abby =] I'm eighteen and a senior in high school this year. I've always had great advice, I'm just not so great at following it =P Feel free to ask me anything, I'll do my best to give you an answer.
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Is it possible to get toned, shapely legs from simply weight-lifting? Or does one have to do Pilates and yoga and dance and whatnot to achieve that? (link)
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You can increase your muscle strength in your legs by weight training, and also pilates, yoga, and dance. They offer toning qualities as well as cardio, which I think is what you are getting at.
If you want muscle defintion and to see how well your muscles are toned, you need to have little fat on your legs. Like my calf muscles are much more noticable then my thigh muscles because i have less fat on my calves. So if you have relatively thin legs, you could probably see results with weight training. Otherwise get some cardiovascular or aerobic exercise (Running, walking, dancing, riding your bike, etc.)
Good luck,
Abby
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I'm 12 years old about to turn 13 in November,I'm going into 8th grade and I was curious what the average dick size was for my age. Haha (link)
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I don't know that there is a average penis size for that age group, because all boys hit puberty at different stages. So if your feeling small, consider that you are pretty young and won't stop maturing til after your 18. Average adult male sizes are between 4-6, so if your close to that or getting there don't worry about it. You shouldn't worry about it at all, actually, your 12! My little brother is 12! If you are planning on being with some girls, please re consider. You have high school and all your life for that. Just enjoy the time before you become a freshman and life gets girl-crazy!
Good luck,
Abby
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16/f
Is there anyway to make fast money before the 22nd? My bill is due and I have no money (link)
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Sell some clothes at a consignment store
Do odd jobs around your neighborhood
Borrow money/ask for an extension
Get a job and ask for an advance
Good luck
Abby
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hey ,...... i am going into high school and i want to make an IMPRESSION i dont wanna be laid back i want to show my true personality , which is a total girly girl. I LOVE to wear high heels and mini skirts (which i always wear on the weekends and to the malls and stuff. Thats just who i am. I LOVE acting girly, but i never wanted to be like that at school because i didnt know what people would think. So.... i think that going to high school and with all the new people it would be a good idea to finally be ME.... but i wanna know what you guys think. I wanna wear high heels and stuff BUT im not sure if iam to young and that.... BUT my mom lets me wear them and i go shopping and out like that. It is FUN but then again i am going into gr.9 I DONT WEAR HOOKER HEELS i wear wedges and a little more and skirts and make up (pretty kind ) LOL anways just wanted to know if that was going to far or what your impressions are?
SORRRY I WROTE ALOT BUT WRITE BACK a.S,a.P thnxs guys .... MMR (link)
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I say go for it. New people, new chances to make an impression. Be yourself, that is so important. But don't go too far or do too much. Girls who wear heels to school sometimes look like they are trying to hard, or look slutty. Add girly touches to things you would wear now and just go into it gradually.
Don't be afraid to show your style, though!
Good luck,
Abby
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I been writing and drawing for 9 years. Anyways to my problem.
I finished 9 books and sometimes It never feels right.
So my problem is I can't get reconizeed!
I tried using sites like for my stories or comics but they flop.
Noone will give my work a chance!
What should I do?
-Zockery Q. Endland (link)
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You just have to keep trying. The Harry Potter books passed through many publishers before one decided to pick it up, and look how popular those are. Send your work to websites, publishers, anyone who might look at it. Make a portfolio you can give to people. You could also make your own website (there are a lot of free ones you can use) and put your stuff on there. All you can do is try.
Good luck,
-Abby
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I am completely non-flexible! I can't even do some simple stretches! How do I get to be more flexible soon? I don't like stretching but I'll do whatever it takes! What stretches should I do to help improve my flexibility? Thanks! (link)
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Practice is really what you need. Flexibility takes time, you won't be as loose as you want in just a week.
Stretch every morning when you wake up and every night before you go to bed. Developing a routine will help you stick with it. Each night you will find yourself a little more flexible, so push it further each time, if you can.
Sit on the floor and touch your toes, or as far as you can go. A good stretch needs to be held for 30 seconds. I know it hurts, but I find that if I hold the pose after a while it stops hurting.
Do each leg individually, and then stand up and try to touch your toes again.
You can attempt a straddle/split and hold however far you can get down for 30 seconds.
I find that kicking each leg in the air as high as I can really loosens me up.
You can try the scorpion pose (holding your leg behind your head with your hands) to stretch your thighs.
You can stretch your arms by holding each one straight across your chest and then elbow up beind your head.
You could try yoga videos (free ones are online) as well.
As long as you have the dedication, you should easily become more flexible.
Good luck,
-Abby
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I have sideburns and lip hair and am growing black hair on the side of my face.
it scares me ...
my lip hair is prickly but ive never shaved my face before.
why is it doing this ?
how come every girl i know doesnt have it
and i dont want to shave every day and have a prickly face
that's disgusting!
what do i do!?!
i can notice it in my bathroom mirror
and i feel angry/depressed/shocked
because this is exactly what i never wanted to have.
EXACTLY.
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It's probably heriditary. Are your parents or other family members hairy? Sometimes you can't help it. Other times, it could be a hormonal imbalance. If no one in your family has a similar problem, I suggest seeing a doctor.
In the mean time...
You can use products like nair or veet. You rub it on, let it sit, and wash it off and it removes the hair. No stubble since it takes it from the root.
Waxing will give you smoother results and it isn't uncommon for women to wax their faces, especially the upper lip area. At every salon I've been to they have facial waxing.
If this is a problem you have to live with, you can consider laser hair removal. It's expensive but is permanent.
Best of luck,
-Abby
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I have only one guy im truely interested in BUT theses a list of guys that I talk to all the time. and some times we talk in ways we probably shouldn't. I want to focus on this one guy and only him but it's hard I've been single practically all of my life just because of the fact that Im naturally a really big flirt. but now im ready to make a commitment to some one and Im having a hard time breaking a bad old habit...FLIRTING! (link)
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You can talk to other guys and even flirt a little while being in a commited relationship. Don't take it to far (if you feel yourself being turned on or attracted more than usual to the person, tone it down) and make sure these guys know you have a boyfriend. It seems like when someone has a partner they become more of a target. People want what they can't have and it might just make the flirting from others more intese. Or if you have the "I want to have my cake and eat it too" ideal then it might be hard for you.
You can still have fun conversations, just don't use too much ineuendos or get touchy with the other person. If you get distracted, remind yourself you are in a commited relationship and think of why you like him so much. Send him a text just to bring him into the situation and prevent temptation. You could even tell the other guy "hold on, I have to call my boyfriend."
If you really want to commit, you shouldn't have to worry about the flirting. It will come naturally if you really like this guy.
Good luck,
-Abby
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I've been single for the past couple months... i would rather not get into the subject of why my ex and I broke up because i'm afraid if i start i will never stop.. and believe me..that's not a good thing.
Recently, i met someone new... problem is.. he is going into the navy within the next couple months. I can honestly say he is one of the nicest and most sincere guys I have ever met in my life. And I am definitely not blinded when i say this.. because after my last relationship I think I know by now the difference between when a guy is being real and when he's not.
I guess I'm at the point where i feel somewhat alone...he is going to leave in a couple months..and right now he is the only one keeping me from going insane. my best friend has compromised herself more then i ever imagined and i feel like i don't know her at all anymore. My parent's could care less about my personal life...and really no one seems to understand.
I don't know what to do anymore....
I feel like everytime something good comes into my life, it leaves just as quickly.
please help :( (link)
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Discuss your relationship with him. Does he want to stay together while he's away? If so, there are lots of ways to stay in touch. Letters are romantic, phone calls are great to hear each others voice, and many people in the service use web cams to stay in touch. You may find that your relationship grows stronger over this period. Absence makes the heart grow fonder, they say. You both can find out if you really matter to each other or if he isn't so important in your life.
My personal belief is that things happen for a reason. God could be giving you an oppurtunity to test your faith and to recieve a great reward. If this man really is the one for you, you can survive seperation and have a beautiful reunion. This could be something to fight for, to hold on to.
Good luck and have faith,
-Abby
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ive been with my grl for a while and we'r having sex, yesterday the condom i was using broke and i think i came in her. is it a 100% that she will get pregnant? she's due to b on in a couple of days. im a 17 yr old guy (link)
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It's deffinitely not a 100% chance. Usually the girl has to be ovulating to get pregnant (certain days of the month) and if she is getting her period in a few days those days of ovulation should have passed. If the condom broke then I'll assume less then a full ejaculation entered her so that lessens the chance.
Don't stress about it, but get a pregnancy test in a month or so just to be absolutely sure.
-Abby
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Okay. So I have liked this guy that goes to my school for a few months now. Over these past few months he and I have become really close friends, and during this time I also realized I liked him a lot. All of our friends agree the feeling is mutual. I have reason to believe he likes me, too. We talk to each other every single day without fail, we write notes to each other, he tells me he has dreams about me, we talk about our "future" together, etc. He also told my best friend that he liked me. The main problem is that he is extremely shy when it comes to romance, and I do not want to scare him off and wreck our friendship. But I need to do something soon because I'm losing sleep over this and all of our friends are sick of us holding back on our feelings for each other. I think what we both need is closure on the whole matter, and I hope the end result is positive, since I really want him to be my boyfriend! Please help me! (link)
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Since you two talk so much, try subtly making your conversation suggestive (not sexually) or flirty. It sounds like he does like you, and is just too shy to make a move. Most guys LOVE it if girls make the first move. If you two are talking about a movie, suggest you two go together.
Since you write notes to each other, why not surprise him with a special note.
Or if you find yourselves talking about the future together, ask him if he sees you as more then friends in the future, or better yet, now.
Or when you are talking, just come out with it. It will only strain any relationship you may have if you both bottle it up. Say you have to get something off your chest and even if he doesnt feel the same way you understand and your just happy you two are friends. It's scary, but you just need to let him know how you feel!
Good luck,
-Abby
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okay.. I'm 19 and just got my drivers liscense about 3 months ago...I'm looking at cars that are 2000 or newer..About how much would my insurance run?? thanks (link)
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I'm not an expert, but I'll tell you about my personal experience.
I'm getting my liscense in a few weeks and I'm sixteen, and my dad told me insurance for me on my 2002 honda accord is 1500 a year. Yours will be less because your over 18 but the range should be similar. It all depends on the company, the state, the car, etc.
Good luck,
-Abby
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I want to work in the travel industry when I leave college next year (Im doing a travel and tourism course) but my friend and I both have want tattoos lol. I want a tattoo on my wrist and my friend wants one on her ankle. She would like to work as a check in service agent and I want to work as a travel agent but we were wondering if having tattoos can stop us from getting jobs..? My friend has a tattoo alredy but its easy to cover but we both want more visable tattoos. I know that working as a member of cabin crew you arent allowed tattoos but does this refer to all aspects of jobs in the travel industry?
Thanks for any help x (link)
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Almost all jobs frown upon tattoos on employees, and in the travel industry communication with customers is involved, and companies want you to represent them well. Some people don't respond well to tattoos, they think its a sign of deliquents. It sucks people aren't more open minded, but thats the way it is.
I knew a girl who got a wrist tattoo and at work they made her wear long sleeves or cover it with band aids. She regrets getting it in that area because it some what restrains her in the career world.
Get it somewhere you can hide it easily and you'll be fine.
Good luck,
-Abby
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Okay well I am 15/f and I have had sex before but he never busted inside of me. Well here recently my period was supposed to start on the tenth and it didn't. It started around the 15th. I still took a pregnancy test and it showed positive. I am still on my period so what is up? Am I pregnant. And if so, how do I tell my mom, because she has no idea that I have ever had sex, and my dad would flip out if he knew. Help Please.! (link)
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You can have a period while being pregnant...if the test was positive there is a great possibility you are. Take another test in a couple of days to be sure.
And if you are...
Tell the guy. You may want him with you when you tell your parents.
Tell your parents. If its easier tell them one at a time. There is no easy way to break it to them.
Then, Consider your options:
Keeping the baby
Adoption
Abortion
I wish you luck in these trying times,
-Abby
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Hey, im a female and im 15. Im interning at a law firm in which my sister works at. Im wearing my school jeans right now and a nice shirt with heels. But for some reason, everyone here dresses really nice. Id like to know where I could buy professional clothes that are cute and could make me look a little older and more mature, but thats still in with the fashion of today. I know I sound really corny but yeah. Thanks in advance(: (link)
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Forever 21 is good
Platos closet is more focused on teen clothes but I found a black dress there that I could wear to the office so you could give that a shot
A department store has everything, so try Macys' JC Penneys, Sears, etc.
Invest in nice pieces (a black suit, some collared shirts) and you can mix and match with things you already have.
Your only an intern so you wont be expected to be so formal, but fitting into the dress code is a good idea. Khakis and a button down collared shirt with nice shoes should be fine, but if you want to try a businuess suit jacket then go for it.
The key to looking more mature is to cover up. Too many teenagers wear revealing clothing and it just makes you look younger and trashy in the businuess world.
Too much jewelry is gaudy, but you can never go wrong with pearls!
Good luck,
-Abby
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okay..so i have medium length hair..and side swept bangs.
but the problem i have with my bangs..is that they seperate..like..there is a whole chunk that seperates from the rest..and my bang's dont really stand out what i want them too.
but could they maybe be just because they're growing out??
how could i fix it?
i have silky hair.. (link)
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Getting a trim will increase the volume, and blow drying your bangs to a certain side will make them stay there. Sleeping with them pinned to your preferred side will also make them stay to the side.
Good luck,
-Abby
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I lay outside when it's sunny and get a tan. I tan very easily. But my problem is, is that my tan is kind of uneven..i'm darker on my front and back than i am on my sides.
So..how can i make my tan more even? (link)
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Lie on your side to get tanner there. Switch positions often while sunbathing.
You could exfoliate really well all over the darker areas, and that may make your tan appear more even.
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My friend and I are fighting a lot, i just want to fix it, like stupid fights over nothing really. And i just want hurry up and gt past it, I'm 16 going to be a Junior next year, its summer, and i love her as a best friend, i can't lose her now. Help me?(: (link)
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Every friendship communicates differently, so there are some ways you could approach this.
Do you two do best talking face to face, on the phone, or by email? I find that when I fight with my bff, its on text or IM. So avoid how you two fight when trying to resolve it. If you meet her face to face to talk about it, she will know you are serious about making up.
You need to have a clear mind and the intention to patch things up, not prove your point or argue more. Don't talk to her intending to yell or get an apology. You must be willing to give one yourself.
Start by:
Making an honest list. Write what you think she did to hurt you (not petty things, just how she really hurt you and damaged you friendship) and then write how you may have hurt her.
Then, make a list about how much you care about her. Write how much she matters to you and what you love about her.
Take these things and go talk to her (in person is the best way to not have a catty fight, its easy to send nasty texts or instant messages)
or write her a sincere letter. A letter will show her you put a lot of thought into it.
If you don't want to do so much, try making cookies or something she loves and visiting her, and make a card saying how much you love her and can't wait to spend the summer with her.
All you can do is tell her how you feel, what you want from your friendship.
Me and my friends get on each others nerves, so maybe taking a day or two away from each other will help.
Good luck,
-Abby
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My best friend had an abortion almost 2 months ago now and it's really hitting her hard. She dreams about the lost baby all the time, and everywhere she goes it reminds her of what she lost and "the life she took." I'm scared she may do something drastic because she continues to talk about suicide. How can I help her get through this, learn her lesson, and move forward? I've suggested a therapist but she doesn't want to go to see anyone like that--she says she feels that she can't trust them.
Like I said, she's talking about suicide and I'm really worried about it. She's always crying and talking about how she "murdered" her baby. I've never had an abortion (never will) so it's hard for me to relate, I guess. I just need some help so I can help her...that's all. (link)
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Its great your being a concerned friend. My friend told me she wanted to commit suicide and it scared me half to death, but I talked her out of it. First off, if you feel in anyway she might attempt it, you need to call her parents, the police, someone who can stop it.
Seeing a therapist is a great idea, but if she wont do it, maybe just talking to a trusting friend like you will help. Sit down and let her vent everything to you.
See if she'll consider talking to an expert online or on the phone, its anonymous.
http://suicidehotlines.com/
She needs to get all her emotions out, and then work on healing.
Suggest she keep a journal. She can talk about how she feels. She could also write a letter to the baby she lost, if she feels ready. It might be the only way she can apologize if she feels she needs to.
Forgiveness may be what shes looking for, and there is no one who can out right say 'you are forgiven'. Try taking her to a church confession. Even if she isn't religious, the only thing that can forgive her is God. Tell her forgiveness is possible, and that once she has hit rock bottom she can only go up.
If she is suicidal, beg her to get through this trying period. Tell her that taking her own life is the same as abortion, and name all the people who will miss her so much if she did that. She could give up on life, or work to suceed and over come this.
Thank you for being a great friend, we need more of them out there.
Best of luck to the both of you,
-Abby
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hey guys.
so i made my youtube account and i just want to upload some of my favorite songs you know and make therm into a video like basically just a cpicture and the song playing. just like this video. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1rcnuIKATlY&feature=related
i know i need to upload the song and the picture but do i use a program? i just dont know how to do it. thanks so much ! (link)
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Just to add to the person below me,
Be careful on the songs you chose. Music companies are on youtube and get very angry when someone uses their music in their video. (Hollywood records, Sony, MGM just to name a few)
You should be alright if you credit them in the description and add a link to buy the song in itunes. Usually those people are okay. Otherwise they delete your video or remove the sound, and that would suck if you spent so long working on it.
Good luck,
-Abby
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