|
I'm fighting with my best friend a lot.
My friend and I are fighting a lot, i just want to fix it, like stupid fights over nothing really. And i just want hurry up and gt past it, I'm 16 going to be a Junior next year, its summer, and i love her as a best friend, i can't lose her now. Help me?(:
[ ]
Want to answer more questions in the Relationships category?
Maybe give some free advice about: Friendship?
Every friendship communicates differently, so there are some ways you could approach this.
Do you two do best talking face to face, on the phone, or by email? I find that when I fight with my bff, its on text or IM. So avoid how you two fight when trying to resolve it. If you meet her face to face to talk about it, she will know you are serious about making up.
You need to have a clear mind and the intention to patch things up, not prove your point or argue more. Don't talk to her intending to yell or get an apology. You must be willing to give one yourself.
Start by:
Making an honest list. Write what you think she did to hurt you (not petty things, just how she really hurt you and damaged you friendship) and then write how you may have hurt her.
Then, make a list about how much you care about her. Write how much she matters to you and what you love about her.
Take these things and go talk to her (in person is the best way to not have a catty fight, its easy to send nasty texts or instant messages)
or write her a sincere letter. A letter will show her you put a lot of thought into it.
If you don't want to do so much, try making cookies or something she loves and visiting her, and make a card saying how much you love her and can't wait to spend the summer with her.
All you can do is tell her how you feel, what you want from your friendship.
Me and my friends get on each others nerves, so maybe taking a day or two away from each other will help.
Good luck,
-Abby
]
More Questions: |