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Q: Shes my bestfriend and she hates one of my other friends. My other friend wanted me to spend the night and i dint really want to so i called my bestfriend and she said she didnt care and that i should go then after leave her house and walk to my bestfriends. (they live close to eachother) So i did
and she was really mad when i called her at my friends house and was like "why did you guys block me??? etc" I told her we didnt but she was all biiitchy. Andso she talked to like 2 other friends about us. The part that makes me the most mad is that she didnt trust me?? like that ide block her and that i went to her house even though she said she didnt care!!! And she has spent the night at her house to but i didnt make a big deal out of it. My bestfriend said she didnt say anything about me to them but i found out thats all they talked about. What should i do?

well... it isnt up to your best friend who you hang out with and spend your time with.. and if she has such a problem with you hanging out with your other friend and then going behind your back and talking about you.. that doesn't sound like a best friend.
you should try talking to her about it and why are upset/mad at the situation.

Q: i signed up for face book and it said it will send an email to me so i can confirm my account, but it hasnt yet. does it usually take this long? and is facebook different from myspace where the only way u can view someones comments and profile is by being their friend?

yeah it takes awhile to get it, but try again if you think its been to long..

and the person below me is wrong.. you can view peoples profiles and comments without being there friend.. but some people set there profile private settings so that you cant see them, but if they havent set there privacy settings then yeah you can see there profile.

Q: how exactly do you give a guy hand? like one or two hands? further details and tips would be much apreciated.

http://www.sexdictionary.info/handjob.html

go there.

Q: okay so theres this guy i met at a party a while back. well we started talking, and hes REALLY cute. on sunday, i was kinda drunk, and i invited him to a kickback and he came. and he was really sweet to me. he carried me around and stuff like that. and we hooked up. but he was like ohh i cant mess with you when youre drunk. so yeah. then yesterday, on valentines day, we went to see a movie together. after the movie, we went to the beach and just chilled. and he said really cute things to me and we just talked. like he said how that moment was so great and he said that if he died there, hed be happy. and it was really cute. and then it was kinda late, but he asked me to be his valentine and i said yes. haha. um. but yeah so we talked a little and made out a little. andd he wanted something more but i stopped it. he seems like the flirty player type, but then again i don't know him THAT well. but i think i'm really starting to REALLY like him, and i was just wondering likee how should i go about this? thankss in advance, sorry if its long.

hm, i was in a situations similar to this.. well if you like him, you should try to keep talking to him, and maybe find out or see how he reacts with other girls like if he flirts with them to or if its only you?

Q: how hard is it for asians to get dreadlocks?

i imagine its hard seeing how most Asians have straight hair but heres a website about how to get dread locks with straight hair..

http://www.wikihow.com/Dreadlock-Straight-Hair

Q: I just broke up with my boyfriend last week, and I just cant live life without him. This morning I saw him kissing my bffl, should talk to him about getting back 2gether?

well maybe you should stop and ask yourself what was the reason why you broke up with him.. you shouldnt go back out with him just because your jealous that he kissed someone else, if thats the reason it wouldn't be fair to him, or yourself, but if you cant "life life without him" why would you brake up with him? if you really like him that much then i say go for it and see what he thinks about getting back together.

Q: So I'm going over to my boyfriend's house tomorrow to hang out. Thing is, I've only met his mom like twice and I'm still kind of nervous (we didn't really talk, but she and my mom did). I don't know why, and neither does she (she's asked him why she makes me nervous, and said she likes me fine), and it's weird because I like her fine too, I just don't know what to say.

So...how would you talk to your boyfriend's mom? Like...how do you act or what do you say? I know once I get to know her I'll be fine...but help?

hm, i would try simple things first like just saying hi how are you.. ext. or talk to your boyfriend and ask him what kinda things she likes to do.. and bring up the subject casually of something that interests her and you something like that.

Q: Hi, i was wondering, when you kiss someone is there supposed to be feeling?
I mean i kinda get a feeling in my stomach.and kinda get excited somewhere else.But i wanted to know if theres supposed to be a feeling with your lips or anything.

Also..is it possible for a girl to get wet just from kissing, not all to much like making out, just kissing alot.

well, i guess it would vary from people, if they get a feeling in your lips but the feeling in your stomach is normal it means you probably like that person or care about them.

as far as getting a girl wet from kissing a lot, yeah it happens, it means the girl is getting turned on.

Q: 15/f

i'm mad right now.
ha. ok,so this kid, i really like him alottttt, & i know he would tottaly like me if he got to know me. i know he already kinda likes me. but i just dont know how to take it to the next level..we talk in classes, and flirt, but thats as far as it gets. how do i get his like number or screename?

well without stalking him.. the only logical way is to ask him for his screen name or number.
just casually bring it up say something like "hey do you have AIM?" and if he says yes then be like "thats cool, me to whats your screen name?" and if he says he doesnt want to give it to you.. then that probably means he isnt interested in you. or you could try asking one of his friends for it?

Q: how far in is your hymen?

for the first person that answered this question you shouldn't really need to put your finger in far at all.. its at the vaginal opening.

go to this website theres a diagram at the right and it shows where it is.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hymen

Q: okay this guy that i really like, told me a while back that he had a gf but i thought he was sending me mixed signals...well today in class he was saying what he liked in a girl and i was sitting right next to him...(it was the assignment to talk about relationships) and everytime i was supposed to talk, the first time he swung his leg to hit mine...then the other times he moved his torso toward me and smiled and said its your turn...and the fourth time he did it i moved towards him...also i was trying to tell this girl a joke but he kept moving back and forth to where i couldnt see her...and he like would look at me when i was talking and smile...and when he looked at me he looked at my eyes...his pupils looked dialated...and i dont know if he looked at my mouth or not but he was focused on my eyes everytime i spoke...and he had his arm in front of me, and he was touching me the whole time and he kept on calling me blonde and loud..but he would laugh (basically saying it was funny)...

at first i was like oh my what just happened....but then as time drove on i was thinking what could he want me for he has a girlfriend i am probably just turning nothing into something....but he said if i needed anything to talk to him....

any ideas on all of this??

i think that there could be a chance that he might like you a little bit, by the sounds of it, but you have to stop and ask yourself is he like this with any other girls other than his girlfriend because if he is, he could just be a flirty kinda guy, but if not than yes i think he might like you but to be sure maybe you should casually bring it up and just find out the straight answer.

Q: I've had sex so many times with my boyfriend. So it's not one of the first time things. It didn't hurt when I first had sex either.. so I'm wondering why it hurts a bit now.

I like it rough, I'm always relaxed.. but after 40 mins or an hour, it starts to hurt? Like a stabbing sensation. It's not like we stay in the same position.

Is there something wrong with me? It's been like 7 months since we first had sex.. Does it have to do anything with his size er what?

i dont think anythings wrong with you..
but like even if you are changing positions.. and your relaxed 40mins- to an hour of rough sex will start to hurt a bit, i mean think about it.

Q: Ok, my question is does it feel better for girls to be on the top or botton when u r having sex? any comments will be appreciated!!!

it varies from girls,everybody likes diffrent things but personally top is better, in my opinion.

Q: My dad is leaving next year. My parents are divorcing. My mom doesn't even have a job so I don't even know what we're going to do. My dad is always yelling. My mom's always blaming me for everything. My dad hates me & I don't even know why. My parents are always talking about how smart my brother is & why can't I be like him. I get grounded if I don't make A's in every subject like my brother. My cousin is in the hospital. My grandfather has cancer & won't be living much longer. I can't talk to anyone but three of my close friends about anything, but I hardly see them anymore. Two of my best friends got separated from me because they changed the school districts. Another one of my best friends just got transferred to another school starting Monday. Two more of my best friends go to my school, but I never see them, so it's pointless. Another one of my best friends...my parents won't even let me hang out with. I ended up breaking off the friendship with five of my close friends last year because they started drinking & changing & all they do is spread rumors about me & gossip/talk about me now when I see them. God, I can't take all of this. How can I deal with everything that's going on?

well first you should take a deep breath and realize that everything thats happening in your life isnt your fault these things happen to a lot of people sadly and it is very tough, maybe you should try to do something active and try to take your mind off things that always helps me when im stressed, or try to pick a day were you and your friends can hang out , and go do something.

hope that helped a little..

Q: lol i know this is gross...but when your fucking a girl in the ass do you get like crap on your dick?...and wont is smell and shit...?

wouldnt anything smell funny if you shoved it up someones pooper?

thats what soap is for my friend

Q: So, i had sex today. and i ended my period a little over a week ago; well me and the boyfriend didn't use a condom,so he busted his load all in me. should i be worried about becoming pregnant?

well, obviously.

Q: 15/f
This is really weird, but down there there is some whiteish clearish stuff coming out. like randomly throughout the days. I don't know what it is and if its normal.

If someone could please help it would be nice.
Thanks alot.

thats very normal, its like female cum i guess you can say it means your body is healthy its the vagina's way of cleaning itself, if it gets to the point where theres a lot try getting pantie liners.

Q: 14/F

I get really horny really fast. I've fingered myself, but thats not warking anymore. I dont want 2 go out and just have sex witha guy. Any advice?

everyone goes threw that, and its normal but theres not really to much you can do besides masturbating or sex.. maybe just go out and do something active to get your mid off it.

Q: okay so ive heard you can still get your period if your pregnat
i had sex and we used a condom
and i usually start my period on the 1st of the next month or the 31st of that month
like my period for january=jan.31st-febuary1st.

my period just came today but its lighter than usual
even the color is lighter

so im not sure if maybe just cause its the first dysa or wat

well what you heard is called "spotting".
if you go to this website it explains all about it.. but if your still worried wait until your period is over and by a pregnancy test.

http://womens-health.health-cares.net/pregnancy-spotting.php

Q: 14/f

I'm a virgin and probably won't be having sex anytime soon seeing as I'm single, but I wondered, how do people expect your vagina to look?

Cause when guys talk about it, they act like they expect you to be completely bare.

So, I'd like to know, if you're a virgin, how would you expect a girl's vagina to be when you do have sex? Like completely waxed, or shaved, or what?

x

well, im a girl and im not a virgin but all answer anyways.. uhm most guys like it shaved but like it all really depends on the guy? so when you do get a boyfriend and end up having sex.. you should ask the guy what he prefers.. but you dont need to listen to them its your body so do as you want.