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Q: what do u do to get rid of hiccups??

hahah. I have someone scare me lmao .. but sometimes that doesnt really work cause im usually not scared - just drink alot of water and stop thinking about it.. or try holding ur breath! =)

Q: okay. so i had a boyfriend. and we madeout and stuff. and its not like i dont know how to makeout or anything, but now im like scared to makeout with another guy. i made out befor sure, but its alwasy been the same guy, i dont know why i feel weird, and i want to kiss again bad. i dont know. this will porbley be a hard one.

ima 13yearoldchick

I think you feel wierd because since you've made out with the same guy before you know that he doesnt think your bad & doesnt have a problem with how you make out. Your accustomed to making out with him, and the thought of someone new your not sure about their reactions or anything or what they might say. If thats not whats going on then maybe its just you still ahve feelings for your x or whatever and your not sure how to overcome that so the thought of making out with someone other than him scares you. Its not that you dont know how its that your not allowing yourself to be able to do it either because of feelings, or the thought of being embarassed. [ I hope I helped, I didnt have much to go by =/ ]

Q: oK..My mom and dad just split up about 3 months ago and like they decided to just get a divorce after the year ((im pretty sure)) so they are dating other ppl..and like this guy that my mom is dating..we have all thought they should date forever..but anywho..and so they went on there first date tonight and like i REALLY like this guy cuz hes really nice to my my sis and my MOM and like I feel like I'm not being right to my dad b/c i like this guy so much but i REALLY love my dad and so and I being not fair or right to my dad..HIGH rates for help!!!

PLEASE HELP!!

Its okay to like your moms new boyfriend. Just as long as your dad knows that you love him and that he and you both know that that new guy isnt going to replace your dad.

Q: i was wondering if anyone could tell me about how much it would cost me to redo my room.

it is curently light purple and i want to repaint it prob orange or anyother bright color like that(room 12x12). i also want to buy a new conforter, sheets, bed skirt and those things you hang on your windows(not blinds). im prob going to get the bed stuff(twin bed) from either pbteen kohls or a place like that. doesnt anyone have a ruff idea on how much that would cost me. please dont say depends on what i get. i just want an estimate. i would also like shipping included in the estimate because im prob gonna buy it online.

Well. Im redoing my room and its going to cost me around 1000 dollars. It depends on what ur doing. A gallon of paint at lowes is about 30 bucks. If your rooms 12x12 a gallon should probably do it. Comforters run about 60 bucks depending on cotton, satin, or whatever. Sheets run about 20 - but a full bed set [ comforter, sheets, pillowcases, everything etc. ] wouldprobably be around 100 ish. if ur buying it online- the shipping usually goes up 10 bucks in like 50 dollar incriments. [ 50 bux = 10 dollar shipping ] - thats usualy what happened when I bought online. PBteen has great stuff but its real expensive. Why dont you shop JCpenny or Kohls if you want a cheap price. Also look for sales. =)

Q: how exactly do you have sex? i mean like how d you get th dick in you? if you are laying under him and he gets a boner i dont understand how it gets in you? i know this is sickening...but i am curious.

Well. People usually like to fool around before they have sex. They dont just whip off their clothes and get to work. haha. They do what is called foreplay, which makes the vagina secrete a liquid [ cum ] which is also known as lube. When that happens, it makes it easier to slide the penis into the vagina. This can only happen though if the penis is hard, because if it wasnt then it just couldnt happen. =)

Q: Okay. Me and this kid went out for 5 months. He broke up with me a month ago cuz it was summer and we never really got to see each other. We still talk on the phone a lot, talk on-line, go to the movies, hang out all the time. I still really like him, and he still likes me. We talk about going out all the time because school starts in a week. Should I be the one asking him back out? Or should I wait for him. I tried moving on, but Idk. There's something about him that just drags me back to him. He's the easiest person to talk to. But I really don't know what to do. Should I try moving on, or should I stay with him. I really like him, but I just don't know what to do! Please help! I rate high! K, thanks =]

Well. I dont get why you broke up if you still see each other all the time ? lol. I personally dont ask guys out, but if you really feel like you want to be with him and you dont want to wait for him to ask you, then yeah go for it. what do you have to lose. If you have tried moving on and it doesnt work than it shows that theres something special there and maybe you should stay together. =) If you really like him, then you basically just told me what you want to do, and thats be with him. So ask him or talk about it more and hint at it and see if he asks you. =) Good luck !

Q: I really like to wear skater clothes but the problem is im not a skater. Ive tryed before but im just not good so i dont really want to skate but i want to wear the clothes. Im afraid of being called a poser. what do you think?

Well doll, it doesnt matter if you skate or not, you can still wear the clothes. & it doesnt matter what they think. If they call you a poser than just tell them that your buying what you like. & Actually if you buy the things that wont get you called a poser, than your still in fact being a poser. so just stick to buying things that you like and fuck what they say.

Q: I recently asked a question about suade shoes. Now I found a pair of shoes I like. They are white etenies with checkers on the E. The only problem is when I looked on their online store they didn't have them in my size. So can anyone give me a website that has etenies? Thank you in advance.

www.css.com =)

Q: does anyone know what song that is on laguna beach that stephen and lc are singing on the way back from dinner?

Midnight train, by Journey. [ the title gets confused alot. ]

Q: well me and my one friend were best friends but i did something horrible...when her and her boyfriend were going out i went to his house and we did stuff...we told eachtoher we loved eachother... but then another one of my friends found a website me and him had made.. well she got mad and other people started getting mad too. well now my best friend that was dating him knows about everythign that happened. well they broke up but she keeps saying that he doesnt really like me and i am sooo confused with who to believe...

please help me

Hm, thats hard. She could just be saying that he doesnt really like you out of jealousy, and she might just be saying that so there is no chance of you two happening because she still likes him. I dont see why he would do that stuff if he didnt like you, but who knows with guys. I honestly think it would be better to not see the guy because him being your best friends bf / x. It would make the situation alot easier to lose a guy than to lose a best friend. I know from personal experiance =/

Q: I've been with my boyfriend for 4 months, and in a few weeks (actually like a week) he's moving. He's not moving very far away, but it is a completley different state. I have a license so I could ddrive down to see him pretty much every weekend. But I'm worried that we're gonna drift apart and it's not gonna work out. I'd give anything to make this work, and we've both agreed that we're gonna try our hardest to do so, but it just seems so hard. Do you have any advice that could help us stay close, even if we don't see each other every day like we do now?

Try talking on t he phone or internet everyday. Tell him everyday how much you care for him, and let him know that your still there, so he wont feel like your messing around and go out and do it too. Long distance relationships are really hard ,even if people have liscenses, you just have to talk to him as much as you can & then hope for the best. You also have to have alot of trust.

Q: I have a phobia that I want to get over but dont know how, please help.

I would have to know what the phobia is sweetie, before I can give you any advice,

Q: I completely accept that no one else can tell someone whether they are in love or not but does anyone else find it a little silly when people say they are completely in love with someone they have never dated or kissed, or dated for a week or so?

I almost find it offensive. I don't like that word being taken so lightly and thrown around. Does this annoy anyone else here, or am I being too judgmental?

I feel the same way, and I hate how random people who didnt know each other 2 days ago are suddenly like OMFGSZZ I LOVE YOU LIKE WHOA.. its like ew stfu now. - but anyways yes i do feel the same, but i dont let it get to me because i cant change how people judge decision making - or whatever.. and im not going to try, lol - its not worth it to even get upset about hun.

Q: i think i'm big enough for a size a but i'm scared to ask my mom and i certainly won't ask my dad but i hate feeling like i should have a bigger bra what should i do do i tell my mom or wait till she says something?

I think you should tell your mom, because Its not healthy to wear a bra thats too small for you, when you should be in a bigger one. Your jsut going to have to get up the guts and tell her you think you might need a bigger one, and you can go to a local store that sells bra's and get fiited for one. =)

Q: Does anyone have any sad slow love songs similar to "All My Life" by KC and JoJo and "Have You Ever?" by Brandy??Please help me I'm going through a bad time right now and it would help me very much! I'll rate 5's thank you!

How to deal - frankie J
We belong together - mariah carey
thank god i found you - mariah carey
i can still feel you - colin raye
ill be missin you - pdiddy
my baby - bowwow

lol i dont know - im just namiing stuff on my playlist .. hope that helped =/

Q: My best friend probably has the worst life i could imagine. Her home life is a wreck, her mother constantly yells and screams and blames her for her family problems. She can't even spend an entire day in her house without getting blamed and screamed at. Her mom has this "disease" which i personally think is just a scapegoat, considering her mom just sits on the couch all day, smokes, watchews tv, and eats. She dosn't work or anything, and when my best friend comes home, she just harrasses her. Caling her a slut, a cunt, bitch, anything.

Her younger brother gets everything he wants, and i hate to tell her this, but he sells drugs, hangs out with the worst crowd ever, and yet her family idolizes it. the only two that ever notice his bad habbits are her and i, her family thinks he's just a fine kid. and they spoil him to death.

her house is aweful, her father always works and it's just a disaster. her mom never cleans up, her brother makes messes and my best friend is left to cope with it. it's no wonder why she's always leaving and getting outof the house .. she's basically lives at my house.

last week her mother beat her (her mom was drunk) and she kicked her out of her house. she drove over to my house, and stayed the night. the next day cops were here saying that she stole her car and had to return home. my mother and her have talked and my mom really wishes to have her live with us, her home life is just aweful. but her parents won't allow it.

so much more happens to her that i just can't sum up in this. i feel aweful and don't know what to do for her. no one takes her seriously and im afraid one day she's going to snap. she's the nicest, most prettiuest person i know, and no one would ever expect her to have this life. i;m scared one day it's all going to end, she's going to go down the wrong path or take her life. idk what to do for her. she needs to get out of that house. help her.

If things are that bad your mother or someone thats an adult needs to contact the authorities and show proof of bruises or something. You;d have to basically take her mom to court, if she lost, her custody rights would get taken away and they would be given to her father. If her father is just as bad as the mother, than it would be passed down to aunts / uncles / or grandparents. However, if temporary custody should fall inu the hands of the aunts and uncles you and your family can make an agreement with them and sign papers so that she would be able to live with you under her mother has proven that she can "clean her act" up.

Q: What are some little things that turn guys on?
(Ex. ear nibbling, jaw-bone kissing, etc.)

Actually sweetie, it depends on the guyy. If you want to know what turns him on, try different things, or straight out ask him. =)

Q: my family is all messed up.. my mom is terrified of my father and my father is the BIGGEST bastard. the other night i told him i hated him and wish he died.. he hit me and almost hit my mom.. their supposidly getting divorced and their already selling the house..but my mom never does jack shi**T because shes scared of him.. i want to be emacipated.. how can i come about doing it? im 15/f

First of all. You have to be 16 to emancipate yourself. You have to have prove of insurance, ur liscense, and a job. If you have all that then you have to be able to show that you have picked out a residency and you will be able to care for yourelf on your own. But its not all that easy, both parents have to sign for this to happen. =(

-- okay sorry but i checked into it and u have to be 16. unless its different for states, but uhm u cant even get a real job untill your 16. theres child labor laws that prevent getting jobs at 14.

Q: This may sound kinda gross but I'm just curious. I'm a virgin and I've been thinking about having sex with my boyfriend. What happenes when your cherry pops? Do you bleed alot? And also I've heard that sometimes it doesn't pop the first time. Is that true? Thanks for your help. =]

lol, Ive just answered this question but its alright. When your cherry pops, you tend to bleed alot, yes. & yes that is true that sometimes it doesnt pop the first time. Also, popping your cherry can happen from things other than sex, such as playing sports, having something hit you in that area, and masturbation. So if it doesnt pop when you have sex, it doenst mean you dont have one or anything, it just means that it didnt hit you in the right spot, or you already popped it doing something else. =)

Q: I was just talking to my boyfriend about how he makes me feel; wonderful, amazing, incredible, and how I wanted to make him feel that way too. Well, I got something I totally didn't expect. He told me sometimes I make him feel unwanted. I never knew this. My heart is in my stomach. I'm getting chills every other second. What do I do? How can I make him feel more wanted?

Tell him that more often, or ask him why or how you make him feel unwanted ask what are some examples of things you've done or said to make him think that, and when he reponds with whatever he'll say, just make sure to change those things =)