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13/f


ok is it un normal to still be a virgin or not hooked up yet for my age?

It is great for thirteen-year-olds to not be sexually active. You will realize at some point how much you value your virginity.

If it gives you any perspective, I'm almost 17 and I've never kissed a boy. And people still think I'm cool. So you don't have to do stuff with guys to fit in at school or whatever.

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OMG!!! ok i am super scared!! i have had my period twice and it always comes at the first week of the month! ow this month, its been 2 WEEKS AND IT STILL HASNT COME!!!!!! I no im not pregnant!!!!!

If you've had your period for under five years, this is not unusual. I've had mine for four years and it's still messed up. If you know you're not pregnant, you don't have anything to worry about. The only thing that should cause you to worry is if you have your period for nine days or more.

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i want to get into music production, and work up to eventually owning my own label.

but before i do this i need to find a school with a good music recording/production program.

has anyone heard of good schools or programs?


thankyou!

Berklee College of Music is the best place for music production.

http://berklee.edu/

A lot of music schools focus only on classical performance and crap, but they teach innovative stuff about the music business and everything. They have seminars in the summer that you can attend, and they also have correspondence courses on just about anything if you're interested.

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ok so i had to choose between a sleepover at my bff's house or spending the afternoon with my bf. i dont see either of them often. i chose my bff cause she and i never get to just hang out but i really wanted to hang my boyfriend. i will see him but not really spend a lot of time with him. like one-on-one. i wanted to see him more but i dont want her to feel bad. i love her and she and i never get to hang out. buuut i wont see my bf nxt weekend either and nxt mon. is our 3 month anniversary but i can probably see him nxt thu or sumthing like that. did i make the right choice? i kno i will have fun either way :) thanks

I think you made the right choice. Chicks before dicks.

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hey, i am 100 lbs and 14/f
i want to lose around 5-10 lbs.
any suggestions?

If you are five feet tall or taller, you should not lose weight. If you were 4'10", then it would be okay for you to lose ten pounds, but you are not overweight. When I was 14, I weighed 120 pounds, and I still weigh that much. If you want to change the way you look, however, try to tone muscle, not lose fat. Eating healthy is key. Losing weight and toning your body are two totally different things. Look at am-i-fat.com for more tips.

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I'm friends with this guy, and whenever we talk, he's always like making contact with me. Like we were having a conversation this morning in school, and he would have his hand on like my waist.
And then we were messing around, and he just grabbed my hands, and was holding onto them.
Also, randomly he'll just hug me and hold me tight.
Is this a sign of him being interested?

Thanks!

Yep, definitely. He wouldn't touch you so much if he wasn't really interested.

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so this friend told me Oreo cookies contain some kind of drug that makes kids addicted to them. I did not believe her, that sounds crazy!
Does anyone know if this happens to be true or not??
Plz Plz I wanna know

No, that would be illegal. Food sold in stores has to follow certain regulations... like it can't have drugs in it.

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How do you convert from being catholic to christian?

Since Catholics are Christian, you might want to just try going to different types of churches. Some of the different denominations are Baptist, Methodist, Church of Christ, Latter-Day Saints, Presbyterian, Seventh-Day Adventists, Jehovah's Witness, Episcopalian, etc. If you experience different ways of learning about Christianity, you will most likely find something that you really believe in. Converting to being "unCatholic" is not the same as converting to Catholicism- you just decide what you want to be :)

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you know those drink machines at like gas stations and stuff that make cappucino or mocha kinds of things? how many calories are in like 8 ounces of stuff like that or something like that? does anyone know? cuz i'm on a diet but i have those like almost every day. thanks@

Regardless of the calories themselves, those drinks have a lot of sugar and fat in them, so if you are on a healthy diet you should not drink sugary drinks anyway. It's just like cutting out most candy or soft drinks- it's okay maybe once a week, but every day will really hurt your diet. I know people who lost five pounds in one month JUST by cutting out soft drinks- and the coffee drinks have way more calories than soft drinks, believe me. Once a week, or even twice a week is a lot better than every day. Try drinking juice, or even better, water. If I had to guess at how many calories, I would say at least 200. Many Starbucks drinks are near 500 calories, and even drinks at places like Jamba Juice are close to 300 calories. If you start drinking more water, you will find yourself CRAVING water like no other- seriously! I started drinking more water than soft drinks and it's like all I want to drink anymore is water. Anyway, good luck with your diet :)

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i like this guy, and we exchanged numbers and he texted me first that night.
anyways, i don't know if he likes me, sometimes it seems like he does but other times it seems like he likes someone else.
i don't know how i can tell, what are some sure ways that i would be able to tell he likes me.
like sometimes i catch him looking at me in class, and if i catch him he usually looks away and smiles.
anyhelp, thanks.

He likes you. It's pretty obvious- you know the three day rule? (Don't call/text until three days after you get the number.) He totally broke that for you. And besides that, he's obviously interested in you because he looks at you all the time in class. It's a little hard to tell because I don't know you in real life, but ask your friends if it seems like he likes you. It may seem like he likes someone else because he is trying not to seem too interested, or desperate or something. Keep texting him and see where it goes :)

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I really like the way that Miley Cyrus has her hair in this picture. My hair is about medium length, about, 2 inches below my shoulders. I'm growing it out, and I want it to look like this. So, when I get it cut to this stlye, what all would I have to ask for to get the CUT STYLE just like this? I want my bangs to look like it too. So, would all I have to ask for are alot of long layers?

Thanks so much for your help!

It's best to just print the picture and take it to your stylist. That will be better than trying to describe it. Also, take note of Miley's facial shape and how it works with the haircut. If you have a similar facial shape, you should be fine, but if not, really consider if that haircut would suit you. It also looks like she has extensions in the picture, so keep that in mind.

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Hey.. ok so my brother is on a hockey team and his team made it to the state finals. This is there third year in a row. My friend also asked my if i wanted to go see the jonas brothers the same night. I told he i could go but, haven't given her the money yet. Also there is a chance that the hockey team may not make it to the finals, they still haven't won the semi finals. My friend though, wants to know if i still want to go to the concert though.. What should i do.. Go to the concert, or my brothers state final game??

Ask your brother if he would care if you didn't go to the hockey game. If he hesitates to tell you, then go to the hockey game. If he tells you it's okay to go to the concert, then go to the concert. However, you really need to tell your friend soon about the money- like this week. So talk to your brother about it. If he's really counting on you being there, then definitely go to his game, but if he could care less, go to the concert. If you haven't already, clear it with your parents first about possibly skipping the game. My parents probably wouldn't let me do that, which is why I say that. Anyway, have fun no matter what decision you make!

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okay yesterday i got my period FOR ONLY THE SECOND TIME IN MY LIFE and last night i wore a pad to bed and i was sleeping on my back any the blood leaked even tho i was wearing pants underwear and a pad. and on my bottome sheet was a blood stain the size of my hand.
how do i prevent that??

Here are things that you can do:
Get overnight pads (they're longer).
Sleep on your stomach/sides part of the time.
Sleep on top of an old towel.
Get up in the middle of the night and change your pad.
Use a tampon (if you're only going to sleep like 7 hours or so).

Most of the time I use a tampon just because it's easier at night. You are only supposed to leave them in for like 2-8 hours though.

Tip: cold water gets bloodstains out.

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13/f
hi i just got my period for the first time on jan.31 and then i got it yesterday well my boobs are that grown they are like a 36 A and im sorta over weight [150+] well i need to get a bra from target or walmart [cuz i want one that like around 5 dollars] but the ones that are my size they dont fit AROUND me...
what do i do?

If you live near a mall, or Victoria's Secret, or a department store like Dillard's or JCPenney's, they will size you for a bra, and then you can go to Target or Wal-Mart and find one you like.

Bras are weird in sizing: for example,

38A is similar to 36B
36B is similar to 34C
and
36A is similar to 34B
34B is similar to 32C

So band size is what really matters- not necessarily cup.

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in "I'll Do The Driving" there are the lyrics
"We're out, the jukebox plays "Jumping Jack Flash"
She says "I love Johnny Cash, the man in red"

I don't understand the contradictory of johnny cash/the man in red
who's the man in red?

Johnny Cash is known as the man in black, and "Jumping Jack Flash" is by the Rolling Stones, so the girl is getting everything ever wrong. So nobody is the man in red, she's just messing it up.

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if my boyfriend and i are having sex and he pops my hymen and he is still wearing protection that hasn poped or broken yet can i still gett pregnant...(this question isnt about the condom i already no if it brbeaks i can but if he pops my hymen

As far as your hymen is concerned, it doesn't matter if it is broken or not- if you have sex, you can still get pregnant (even if you use a condom). So yes, you can still get pregnant, but it has nothing to do with the fact that your hymen isn't intact.

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15/f

i have to write an outline, but i don't know how, for like my paper. like for the intro. what do i put? i know in outline looks like this..

I.
A
B
1
2

etc.

but like for intro, and conclusion what do i right in for that?

I don't know what type of paper you're doing, but here are some general ideas for outlines. There are different types of outlines for different types of papers. I'm assuming that you're writing in MLA format. If you have any more questions, ask your teachers or your friends who are also in that class. Here are some links:

http://www.wikihow.com/Write-an-Outline
http://grammar.ccc.commnet.edu/grammar/composition/brainstorm_outline.htm

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Under my arm pits i have like little lumps, they are really small and like they kind of look like moles, but they are my skin color.

They don't sound like anything harmful, but if you want to get rid of them, or if you notice that they are changing (growing or something), then go to the dermatologist. They can give you stuff that will make them go away really quickly if you want. They could just be skin tags or something, but if you want them gone then go to the dermatologist.

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my parents gave me a good luck charm which was a small statue of a god in my religion to take with me to the nj state forensics tournament on friday. well, as soon as they gave it to me, i put it right into my purse and put the purse right into my tote bag. not once did i take the charm out.

when i got back last night i was very tired and took out all my stuff in my purse & tote bag and put everything away in the correct spot. even when i'm extremely tired, i know i'd either put everything in the right spot or keep everything on my table, and i put everything away in the right spot & didn't misplace anything... i hope. well, this morning i was awoken by the thought... "why don't i remember taking out the charm from my bag?" so i got up to look in my purse.

and -- conveniently -- the charm disappeared. i had NO idea where it went. i mean yeah the typical answer, "duh, you left it at the forensics tournament" but it couldn't have just WALKED out of my purse. and the odds that i was taking something else of of my purse & the charm got stuck on the item and fell ... are unlikely because the charm is heavy for its size.

so i now need some advice.

should i just look through ALL my stuff (again)?
should i just tell my parents right off that i lost it?
should i do a combination of the above?
what should i do if they ask me for it? (should i stall and say, "ohh i don't feel like getting it now"?)
should i just hope that they forget about it and never ask for it again?

i feel so terrible. they told me not to lose it and i LOST it.

and no, it's irreplaceable. it's not from this country so i can't just BUY a new one.

This is tough. Go through your stuff twelve more times before you even think about telling your parents. Keep in mind that it could have fallen into little places in your bags. Also, since you were very tired, look all around your room because it could have gotten dropped somewhere accidentally. Last month I had on a necklace, and I was just standing in my bathroom when I noticed that the pendant was gone. So I looked all around my bathroom, and didn't find it, and then I ended up seeing it in the hallway outside my bedroom door. I hadn't even walked there with the necklace on (because I had just put it on) so keep in mind that it could be ANYWHERE. If you think the charm might be affected by a magnet, go ahead and find a magnet (or a bunch of them) and just sweep through your bag and all of your stuff. I think they make huge magnets for sewing kits and stuff so you might want to check to see if you have one. Also, if anybody else could have gotten into your bag at the tournament (even if you left your bag alone on the table once), call and ask them if they took it out. If you don't find it, tell your parents that you put it in a safe place in your bag (and didn't even take it out) and now it's not there anymore. Don't say that you lost it- just say that you can't find it. Hopefully they will understand. If not... keep looking... it's bound to be somewhere.

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okay so i'm planning on redoing my room soon, and i wanna do like 3 of the walls, different shades of brown, and then one cheetah skin, but i'm not sure how to do that. i don't wanna do wallpaper, because its hard to get off. i was think maybe fabric but idk how...any suggestions??

You could always buy cheetah curtains and hang them on an entire wall. That wouldn't look half bad. If you go to a fabric store, they will definitely have cheetah fabric, and you can have them made into curtains. You could also do big cheetah panels to hang on the wall. You could get huge sheets of plywood, padding, and cheetah fabric and staple it on there, like they do on shows like Trading Spaces. Then you hang it on the wall, just like you would a picture frame (but bigger). It always ends up looking great.

Here are some other ideas:
http://www.wikihow.com/Decorate-an-Entire-Wall-Without-Paint

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