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My name is Sami.♥ Wherever life takes me, you'll find me with a smile. Feel free to ask me anything, I will give you the best advice that I can :)
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how come gay guys are so nice to us girls?
I know this might sound weird but its because they act like girls, and if your like me i accept gay people, and girls accept them more than guys. But they love shopping (so do we) they love gossip and secrets (so do we) and they just love being silly (and once again so do we) so its just like us having friends who are girls. if that makes any sence? Well hope i helped =]
Hi, I am really confused..I have a crush on this girl.We already exchange acquaintances and have already been hanging out together like eating lunch and going to malls. We talk a lot and share secrets and etc. But every time we talk, i get this hint that she keeps telling me that I'm his sweetest friend.What does this mean? I really wanted to tell her my true feelings but after hearing this I get second thoughts. Does that mean she s not ready for a relationship or something?
Well it may just mean that you have fallen into the "friend zone" and with girls thats where a lot of guys fall into, but if you can show her your caring flirty side you have a pretty good chance that she will fall for you! So dont tell her your true feelings yet, just wait until she sees how you really are. Hope i helped =]
So I m 15 almost 16 and pregnant, my baby is due in late October early November. My boyfriend and I would like to stay together and raise our baby, and do the best we can we know it will be hard but we are up to it. He is a senior and graduating and taking over his dads company so money isn't an issue.
My parents are the issue, they don't like my boyfriend and think that if I have this baby and keep it then I will hand it off to them to raise. They want me to put the baby up for adoption. I think this would be very hard and I think I would regret it. What should I do? Im very confused on what I should do I don't know if I should just give the baby up for adoption or try to talk to my parents more about keeping it.
My parents always have said and still say that I am a smart enough girl to do anything I want and put my mind to but if I say I want to raise my baby and keep it they say i can't? Why are they going against what they have always said?
Also is there any way to get this pregnancy off my mind? I feel like everything I do I start thinking about the arguments at home and just being pregnant it keeps distracting me when Im at school and work and even when Im at home trying to fall asleep my mind just keeps wandering...
Sorry its long but just need help.
Well i would talk to your boyfriend, if he wants to be with you and help you raise it then try to show your parents that he is really a great guy, and that you think that you can take care of it. But if you want to get somewhere, then i would put the baby up for adoption, you can find parents that do open adoptions where you can still be a part of your childs life but you are not the one raising them. Or you can have a closed adoption where you dont speak to the parents or the child. But if keeping the baby is what you want to do, sit down with your parents and tell them how you feel about keeping the baby, and how you will need their help but your not just going to give the baby to them. Just try to do anything to keep your mind off of it, sooner or later it will get better so there is no reason to worry about it just be happy =] Well i hope i helped and if you need any more advice just go to my column and ask. Hope i helped =] Good luck!
f/16
I think I'm a lesbian and I'm not too sure of how I should break it to my family and friends. Lets be honest I'm petrified. Not too worried about my family but my friends I'm very scared about telling, considering most of them are girls and will probably be scared away from me. Can someone please give me some advice on how I should break the news without all my friends running a mile. I need to get it out soon or I think I might just die with worry.
Well if they are true friends then they will accept you for whatever you decide to do, Some of them might not talk to you as much, but the ones who do are the ones that really matter. Just slowly tell them one at a time but close together so they dont tell each other, But just come out and tell your family too and they should accept you, i mean they might have a hard time at first but they are going to have to get over it, it is your life and that is what makes you happy, and what makes you happy should make them happy. I hope i helped and good luck =] p.s. if anything else happens and you want advice go to my column and ask me i will help in whatever way i can!
There is this guy I like and we grew up together from diapers. We were best friends. Then we grew apart. Well, now he is back in my life. We go to church together and I caught him staring at me.(that happens a lot) One day I asked him point blank if he liked me and he said he couldn't answer that because he has a girlfriend and it wouldn't be fair to her. What does this mean? Does he like me or is that his polite way of saying go away? Help!!
Honestly it sounds like he likes you, but he is being really good about being faithful to his girlfriend. People still get feelings for other people that they cant control so he is giving you hints but not saying anything that would hurt his grilfriend. So stay friends with him and if anything happens with him and his girlfriend then see where things go from there. Hope i helped =]
I've been really depressed lately, because I have less friends than I did last year, and I feel really ugly/
my family is broke, so I cant afford and clothes that are cute, and every one tells me Im bad at dressinggg :( cause my only clothes are from the beginning of the year.
And I just feel really REALLY ugly and everything! I need help :( Im so depressed about how I look, and my teeth, and hair, and makeup and clothes (mostly)
Well honestly as you go on in school you will lose friends and you might have a couple that are with you in the end and thats where you find out who your true friends are. And with the clothes dont even worry about it everyone has hard times with money and especially right now, its worse than ever, if you ignore them and hold your head high you will be happy, you are the best you can be and apperance is not the only thing that matters, sometimes you need a change so try doing your hair a little different or go to school one day with really crazy makeup on and just be proud to be you and dont worry about other people. Cheer up! Hope i helped =]
ok here is the thing there is this kid on my bus and he flirts with me magerly. i am single but i like someone and they like me back. but this kid(tim) is really annoying he will sit with me when there are like 10 other seats open and he will touch my hair(it is really uncomfortable) and when he goes to get off he says i will miss you. i dont like this kid at all except for a friend how do i get rid of him wihtout hurting him or having it feel akward??? please help
--Sam
It sounds like he is kinda weird and im really sorry, but you can tell him " look im not trying to be rude or anything but i only like you as a friend and nothing more, we can be friends but i really dont want it to go any farther than that. and hopefully he will understand.. if you need more advice go to my column and ask me and i will try to help you as much as i can. Hope i helped =]
i really like my best friends ex. she broke up with him and they dont talk much anymore. ive been talking to him a lot, and giving him a ride home after school for the past week. hes the nicest guy ive ever met, and im not over exgerating. hes differnt than other guys and respects girls and is a vigrin and wants to find a girl to be with, haha not kidding. he has a great sense of humor and is really nice and visits me at work, i could go on and on. i dont know if hes just being a good friend or if hes actually intrested. i guess its weird cause he dated my friend, but im definitely willing to work around that. should i keep trying for him or give up?
I think that you should talk to your friend first and ask her if she thinks its ok that you two hook up, and if she says no your going to have to deal with that, unless he means so much to you that you are willing to lose your friend, and tell him that your asking her and he should respect whatever decision you make. If this guy is the one it will work out. I hope i helped =]
this is mostly meant for those who have been in a relationship for a while, but anyone can answer. when(how many months) did you first tell your boyfriend/girlfriend you love him/her? thanks in advance.
Well honestly it is when you feel that you do love them, no one can tell you when the time is right to tell them, if that makes any sense... But like with me and my boyfriend, we have been dating for a little over the year, and it was like our 3rd or 4th date and when he went to kiss me goodbye i said "i love you" and i have never been one to just throw that out there, it has to mean something and it just came out, and i have been with him ever since. So really its just when you feel that your feelings are true and your comfortable. Hope i helped =]
So there is this guy I really like. I met him about 4 days ago and we kinda started a fling. There is just ONE problem. He kinda has a "stalker". She like tells everyone he is in love with her and all this other stuff... and I mean the girl and I USED to be friends but now all she wants to do is create drama and thats something im not dealing with right now; i just wont have it. I am not sure whether I should just go TELL the girl we are gonna date/are talking about dating or let her find out by herself via someone else or facebook. I dont want to create any drama, but i really DO like this guy. WE just CLICK- in every way possible; mentally, physically, and emotionally... so I dont want to NOT date him just because of this jealous girl. What do you think is the smart thing to do?
thanks!
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MADISON
Age 18
I would honestly say just ignore her, let her find out because if you tell her now it will just cause more drama and your fling might end, dont worry about her and when she finds out deal with it then. I mean if you guys really do click then anything is worth it. Just watch out for what this girl is doing because she might try and break you guys up. Hope i helped =]
what exactly is a "rough patch" in a relationship?
A rough patch is when you guys just dont get a long very well in the relationship for a while, or where you fight a lot, so its like everything goes good and then you hit a rough patch. Sorry its kind of hard to explain but i hope that makes sense =]
What is a good age to let a kid date?
I would say high school, i mean let them hang out with opposite sex friends before then but let them start dating in high school, if you tell them not to you know that they will anyways, its good to be close with your kids that way they tell you pretty much everything and they dont hate you and rebel, if that makes sence? And also the first time you let them date, they will be nervous anyways so dont make it any harder on them and dont tell them you dont like who they are dating or it will just make them want to date that person more because you dont "approve" well i hope i helped =]
I really like this boy. He is the friend of alot of my friends that I hang out with regularly, but he does not always hang out with us because he lives quite far away even though he is in my school district. We have one class together: band. I really want to start talking to him. I am very friendly, but I just have no idea where to start. We have alot of social time in band, but it just seems too much of an akward streach just to walk over and start talking to him. I dont want to seem desperate or attention seeking, thats why I feel so akward just walking up to him and chatting him up.
Also, I think that I am nice looking and am overall pretty self-confident, but I have braces. I have never had a real boyfriend before and I feel like thats why. Honestly, I usually dont even "like" guys with braces unless there is somthing really special or likable about them. My braces are coming off soon, but I like him now! I feel self-concious about my smile. Also, prom is in a few months and I would love for him to take me! :D
I really am seriously crushing on this guy, I just dont know what to do about it! Please help!
Well you could just make a small conversation with him in band, i mean just walk up to him and be like hey how long have you played and when he answers be like by the way im (your name) and if the conversation carries on then it is a lot less akward and easier to start another one next time you see him. And hopefully you guys will talk more and have something =] and about your braces dont be self concious at all, a lot of people have braces and honestly i dont even think that braces bother most people. Then if he likes you then maybe bring up prom... just give little hints and hope he asks you! Hope i helped =]
What do you think is an appropriate age limit for dating? Like how many years older should it be and how many years younger. I am 18 years old and I have come to the realization that I need to set a date age limit... so any ideas would be lovely. Thanks. =]
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I really think it just depends, i mean if you find someone who is 30 and you really like him it could work but 30 is a little high if your just dating around ya know?? and as for how young you should go, you have to be careful because if anything ever happened they could turn you in if your 18 and they are under 18 but i would say about 16. Hope i helped =]
I met this really nice guy (lets call him warren) almost 5 days ago. We met at a bowling alley and I actually kinda liked his friend (Luke)- however when I found out that I was 4 years older than Luke, I knew that wouldnt ever happen because it would be illegal because he was 14 and im 18... so thats a negative. Well, Warren, Luke's friend, ended up letting me stay at his house for the night because it was too late for me to get back to my house. Warren hit on me, and then we started kissing, and well, one thing led to another. THEN, after that happened we were just talking and I found out he is my best friends cousin. I told her about me and warren hanging out and when i did she was like "Please tell me you arent messing with him." I told her i wasnt, but that i was becoming pretty close to him (which is true). I dont know what it is about him though. We are complete opposites. Im more of a voluptous girl, while he is skinny, im in high school, he is graduated, he is country, and I am proper. However the connection we have is hard to ignore; physically and emotionally. He said to me, "I bet you $100.00 that you will fall in love with me." and of course I denied it. I cant tell if by saying that he is wanting to start dating me or not. But based on the situation do you think that I should pursue the relationship or let it diminish? I just wanted an honest opinion.
madison
(I rate high for good/well-thought out answers!)
If you really like him then anything is worth a shot =] Some people say opposites attract and its true in a lot of ways you look for someone to fill in for the things that you dont have if that makes any sense. But if you guys do carry this on i think that you should tell your friend about it because she has the right to know and if she finds out any other way that could cause a lot of problems. Well hope i helped =]
Ok.. I have this weird kind of puffiness under my eyes and I don't know what to do to get rid of it.. I've tried a lot of things but none of them work.. It kind of always looks like I didn't get enough sleep even though I do.. If anyone has any ideas, please let me know.. thanks :)
Well when i get puffy eyes i freeze a wet spoon or i have one of those flexible ice packs and i sleep with it on or with the spoon i use it as soon as i get up... or i use st. Ives firming mask which helps a lot you just put it under your eyes let it dry and wash it off, and if that doesnt work use a light powder (lighter than your normal powder, if you use powder) and lightly brush it under your eyes this will get rid of the darkness of the puffy eyes. I dont know if any of these will work for you but they worked for me. Hope i helped =]
17/f
my ex boyfriend and i dated for a year and a half, and he broke up with me wednesday night. ever since then i haven't ate, i can't sleep, i cry 24/7..and when i do eat, i puke it up..i need some serious help.
don't tell me i'm young, i'll moved on..i've heard it before and it hasn't helped any
So i had this happen but i got cheated on so i know how you feel... Its really hard but do things to get your mind off of it, go out with your girls and do everything possible to stay busy, dont talk to him, dont talk about him i know this will be hard but its the easiest thing to do, and when you eat eat things like bread and crackers that way its easier on your stomach. For sleeping if you cant sleep dont lay there and think about it go out and drive around or watch tv. Well i hope you get through this and i hope i helped =]
Yeah, i know it was messed up. but he doesnt know that it was my ex. he THINKS it was a guy but he has no proof... so idk im going to try and get him back because i love him alot. but thanks anyway
Well then try to explain to him how you really feel and if he really does care about you he will understand, everyone makes mistakes and no one is perfect and if its meant to be you guys will work it out =] Hope i helped
What does it mean when someone goes next to you all the time and follows you around and smiles at you whenever you do something stupid?
Well it sounds like whoever this is has a thing for you =] i dont know if this is a good thing or a bad thing but they definatly like you. Hope i helped =]
16F
I usually get my jeans at PacSun, and they've been pretty good but lately they kindof bother me, like i'll have a bunch of the same size and some of them will be too tight, and some might fit ok, and then like all of them sortof like ripple in the zipper area whenever i sit and it's annoying and weird looking. What stores have good jeans that fit well and are pretty comfortable? that includes regular fitted jeans and the skinny jeans that are in style now.
My Favorite are Buckle and Rue 21 i always find a pair there that fit me just right but they are a little bit more expensive but also I wear hydraulics they are really cute and fit good, it depends on where you live on where to find them though. Hope I Helped =]