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Is it worth it?
So there is this guy I really like. I met him about 4 days ago and we kinda started a fling. There is just ONE problem. He kinda has a "stalker". She like tells everyone he is in love with her and all this other stuff... and I mean the girl and I USED to be friends but now all she wants to do is create drama and thats something im not dealing with right now; i just wont have it. I am not sure whether I should just go TELL the girl we are gonna date/are talking about dating or let her find out by herself via someone else or facebook. I dont want to create any drama, but i really DO like this guy. WE just CLICK- in every way possible; mentally, physically, and emotionally... so I dont want to NOT date him just because of this jealous girl. What do you think is the smart thing to do?
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MADISON
Age 18
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I would honestly say just ignore her, let her find out because if you tell her now it will just cause more drama and your fling might end, dont worry about her and when she finds out deal with it then. I mean if you guys really do click then anything is worth it. Just watch out for what this girl is doing because she might try and break you guys up. Hope i helped =]
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Just let her find out.
Telling her beforehand implies that she has some sort of special status, some sort of right to know, and she doesn't. She's not your friend, and she's nothing to him, right? So, she can find out the same way any other sort-of-acquaintance might find out.
You ARE inviting drama into your life by dating someone with a crazy stalker. To be more specific: You are inviting drama into your life by dating a guy who would allow and put up with this kind of behavior from a girl. I hate to be the cynic, but there are very few people who’d get and stay that obsessed without ANY encouragement at all and it’s not uncommon for people to encourage, even without knowing they are doing it, that kind of obsession because it’s flattering and entertaining.
So that is a question you really do need to ask yourself about your crush: Is he really as anti-drama as you are? Or does he just talk a good game at the same time as subtly encouraging her attention? It doesn’t make him a horrible person if he does, but it’s something to watch out for, because if he enjoys her attention, it's will only get worse and more drama-filled.
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