Frankly, we have always found this all-too-common male behavior just as weird and confusing as you do. Why are guys like this? It's annoying! If someone we like is standoffish when their friends are around, it makes us paranoid that they actually don't like us after all. Since this conduct is so alien to most of us females, we turned to our guy friend Wes for some insights into the male mind. Wes points out that, sadly, guys are confused and think that you can't be both nice and cool and macho, and that somehow being sweet to a girl when other guys are watching is going to make them look weak. The fact is that their buddies will tease them and give them grief for being nice to a girl. Mature? No. Pretty normal? Yes. I mean, guys joke around with each other about everything else, why not this? Here's the Wes test, though. When you and this dude are hanging out one on one, is he interested in doing stuff with you besides making out? Do you go see movies, or hit the skateboard park, or jam on your guitars? Does he call you and say hi, or check in with you via IM now and then? If you do hang out and spend time together, then what we have here is garden-variety annoying boy behavior. It is frustrating, but as you two hang out more, he'll chill a bit about being around you in front of the boys and things will work themselves out. After a little more time, you can even suggest that you meet up with him and his friends at a party and bring along some of your girlfriends to make it more of a group activity. That way he won't feel like he's got all his guy friends watching his every move. However, if all he ever wants is to hook up and leave, then his acting like a loser in front of his friends is a sign of a larger problem, which is that he's not treating you the way you deserve, and you should send him packing.

It's understandable that you'd be concerned about your friends. They're doing something that could cause them serious physical harm, and you don't want them to mess up their long-term health by smoking cigarettes. Unfortunately, though, there's not much more you can do about it. You've told them that you don't like that they smoke, and that you're concerned about their well-being. Other than that, you're pretty much stuck. They will have to decide on their own that they want to quit. Maybe they'll notice all the negative ramifications of smoking: They'll start to cough, have a gross taste in their mouths; their skin might look nasty, and their breath will be stinky (not to mention their clothes). Or maybe they'll be broke from spending tons of cash on cigarettes. Whatever the reason, quitting will have to be completely up to them.
That doesn't mean you have to like it or let them smoke around you (which puts your health at risk), but at some point, people have to live their own lives and make their own stupid mistakes. Let your friends know you love them, and that you're not trying to judge them at all but that you know smoking is bad for you and you don't want to see them get sick. You could even offer to help them in any way if they decide they need some help quitting. After that, it's out of your hands.

Let's see. This is somewhat of a complicated question because sometimes mixing jean colors can look really tacky. If you're wearing really dark bottoms and have a light jean jacket that is semi-ok. If you have all light on then it's ok.. it gives you that vintage look... even if they are dark sometimes they can be compatible. the best thing is to ask a friend for their color theory. What's really hip right now is the full matching jean outfit.

There are so many reasons these days as to why some people want to dress like their peers. Some of it stems from wanting to be accepted, some people dress the way they do because that's what they like...just like you. You know as well as I do, that people are often separated into different clichés. In these different clichés you are often judged by how you dress and what type of music you listen to. Being in fashion is not necessarily following the new trends or fads either. It's about creating your own look and feeling confident about it. Just as you have done yourself. The weird stares and funny looks are only because they probably wish they could wear something as intricate and get away with it like you can. Then again, don't bother with the stares. People who are dense enough not to have an open mind about fashion are totally not worth your time! Yes, people are allowed to have their likes and dislikes... So don't worry about those fashion-party poopers! Keep being yourself...and hey you could even enjoy the stares. Knowing that you're different from everyone else and that you're not afraid to be you!

Don't be scared to wear your new clothes! If you bought them, it means you like them. If you like them, wear them! They are in style now, and won't be later, so get up the guts to wear them before the style is over. You'll be the coolest dressed girl in school. 'm jealous that you have so many cool clothes. To get up the nerve to become a fashion queen, start off by wearing your new clothes someplace that you don't see anyone you know, like a different town. Then wear them to a movie or something, where you'll see very few people before it gets dark. When you do wear them in your hometown at the mall, go with friends. They will help give you support and make you not so self conscious. Build up to wearing them all day to school. Trust me, you'll love the effect. I am SURE everyone will love the new look for you!

A disco look sounds perfect for the turn of the Millennium. Very nice choice! Because the Millennium bug is coming and technology is evolving at lightening speeds, fashion goes glittery and shiny. Try something really ostentatious like a big fake fur coat in red or turquoise with a teeny little sequin skirt a la Dolce and Gabana. A disco look is definitely not something you want to scrimp on! Check stores like BeBe and Urban Outfitters for things like leather (I prefer leather) fitted flares and racy sequined tops and skirts. For shoes go for stiletto heels or funky platform boots. Try a hip cowboy hat and either frizz up your hair or straighten it. Textures are very important so mix them up--Stick straight glossy hair with a fur top and leather peddle pushers. You could even go for a Jennifer Lopez look and don 70's aviator sunglasses. If you're scrimping, check your local thrift stores for old 70's low cut dresses and clunky platforms and cowboy hats. Now go and Party...year 2000 is upon us!

Are you perhaps wearing the same combinations of outfits over and over again? As for myself, I often trap my options by finding a combination that works and never deviating from it. Try having an open mind to try different ensembles and accessories what you already have. If you have any sewing skills, capitalize on them. Take a trip to fabric or crafts store and purchase some inexpensive patches, iron-on decals, rhinestones... whatever catches your fancy. Use your creativity and good taste to jazz up your old clothes. If you have any friends in the same situation that wear the same size clothing, barter. Each person can bring a few pieces in good condition that she would like to rid herself of and trade them. Bond. Have fun. And obtain a new look at the same time!

First things first, It may not be that he doesn't notice you. It may just be that he notices your style and your cute self, but you have no clue! So, we don't want to make a drastic change quite yet. Start off simple, maybe kick it off with a new hair style or hair cut. Something that will draw the attention of all your friends...and in the mist of their commotion and compliments... he'll happen to overhear and take a look for himself. You're looking for a cute and trendy statement.
Basically, If you want to get his immediate attention you'll have to enter the levels of skirts and short skirts. Most of the skirts I've seen floating around are either short with cute pockets or longer skirts with funky cuts and strings. Tops are clingy and sleek. You'll find most of your tops in different cuts and such. Your best bet is to find the style that coordinates with your preference and take it from there. The common colors this fall are dark reds, oranges, yellows, purples, greys, and blues. Pick out a favorite color or one that brings out your eyes. To hide that tush, try finding bottom pieces in darker colors. Make sure they are also slim and loosely cut. Darker colors have a miracle slimming effect, and slim, loose cut items seem to hide your bum pretty well. Lastly, when you're trying on various items.... check your tush in a mirror, or have a friend do it. Make sure you like what you see before you buy it, and make sure it makes that "butt look cute!" Good luck girlie...and if all else fails... Just Be You.

I doubt you're the only person who cuts. It's not something people tend to talk about, you are proof of that. But you do need help. Sounds like you actually do have issues that need to be resolved with a psychologist. I'd go to your guidance counselor to start, and be ready to admit that you cut. You're gonna need the support of the people who want to help you, like your teachers, family, etc.

Venting is fine, but it is bad that you hit yourself over it, especially in the face. Something like that, where any bruises that could emerge would be visible, makes me think you want people to see and ask what's wrong, so you can have a reason to talk to someone about it. Yelling in private is just fine, hit a pillow or something instead of yourself. But at the same time, consider that you have the right to stand up for yourself if someone is doing something really wrong to you.

I'm sorry for your loss, I know what it's like to lose a friend. It will take time to mourn the loss of your friend and the feeling of regret, but all you can do is remember the great times you had with him and try to remember that even though he's gone, he'll always be in your heart. Share memories of him with your other friends, and keep busy, in time it'll get easier, and the regret you have will fade.

um...you're 15. Not that you shouldn't be in one, but don't feel like you're missing out or anything. Plenty of people go a couple more years before their first serious relationship, and plenty more people go even longer. All I'm saying is don't go after a guy because you think you need a boyfriend right now. See, it's really hard to actively look for someone to date. It's better to just live the single life and keep an eye out for opportunities. Look to make friends, both men and women, and some of those guys will rise above the rest. From that point it's just a matter of flirting and showing interest. You shouldn't want to be close to a guy you don't have any feeling for out of some feeling of obligation.

Well i'd sit and think about which is more important, your friendship, or this guy? Although your friend seems a bit shady, why would she be trying to get you two together and then tell you to stop flirting with him and you can't date him. It doesn't make sense. If he can't give you a straight answer on why he won't date you,maybe you should just forget the both of them, they can't seem to be truthful with you. If neither of them will be straight with you, move on from both of them.

You would have to get sperm in your vagina for you to get pregnant. That can happen other ways besides sex(him cumming on your vagina, him fingering you with cum on his fingers, etc)... but if you haven't had interaction with the opposite sex then it's no possible. My guess is that you just have a very irregular period. That can happen because of lifestyle changes, diet changes, stress, and other changes like that. You should talk to a doctor to see what the cause may be. You should also consider getting on birth control because that will help regulate your periods!

I would tell someone, she is endangering herself and is heading down a bad path. Either tell her mom/dad/counselor/friend... someone that can help her. Otherwise maybe she has to hit rock bottom
before she realizes what she's doing is wrong. Try talking to someone to see if they can help,
otherwise it's out of your hands.

There's nothing wrong with you. You're just hitting points of being down and out. A lot of people hit them. More people than you would expect go through these feelings.If you feel wrong about your actions, then perhaps try something different. Think about what could make you happier or more comfortable with you being yourself in a situation where you'd not really know what to say.You may have hit a point in your life right now where you feel unloved and very much misunderstood, but it's not going to remain this way forever. I can promise you that. BUT, you need to help yourself by realizing that you aren't being judged for every single action that you take in your life. People are not always watching for the mistakes that you might make. Just try to find a way to be more comfortable with the person you are. and perhaps you might start noticing that you aren't really as alone as you would believe you are.

The only real risk is your friend could get jealous at a shift in attention away from her, both by her brother and by you. However, I don't think you are under any obligation to not try. Ask him out, it's her responsibility to not be petty about it.

You can't stop him and change his mind, you just don't have the ability to do so. He needs professional help, and if his parents for some reason aren't willing to help, a good choice to start with might be a school guidance counselor. Go there with him so he doesn't feel alone, and seriously stay outside the office for a minute or two if you can to make sure he doesn't just leave without talking to anyone.

Take it slow. Just because you had sex for the first time with this other guy doesn't mean you have to "plan on it" with this new guy. Just take it slow - start with a few dates, kiss whenever you're ready. Eventually you'll trust him and you can do what comes naturally. But you have to take it slow since building up trust with the new guy will be harder. If you're already starting to date this new guy, you should tell him about how you feel. Hope this helps

Look into a drug counselor. Life is always going to be full of hard times and it's up to you to figure out a way to deal with it in a health constructive way. Seek professional help so you can learn to kick this habit and figure out a way to deal with issues differently. Instead of turning to drugs, find a hobby, exercise, look to a friend for help, but definetly stay away from any substances. Substances is a weak way to dealing with life's problems, it only makes you forget for a little bit and when you sober up it's all back in your face. You can't be high 24/7 everyday of your life. Get some professional help for these issues. Good luck!

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