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Q: i just got a new myspace layout and the "Add me" and "message me" contact box isnt there. does anyone know how to add it?

It's simple.
Most people just use contact buttons.

All you have to do is google 'myspace contact buttons'. But here's the website I use:

http://www.codemylayout.com/myspace-graphics/Contact_Buttons/

kitty

Q: i dont know if my cherries popped. ok this sounds really stupid but i stuck my curling iron up there once (it wasnt on) n it went up like 6 inches or sumthin n nothing happened so does that mean my cherries popped??? THANX 4 THE HELP!!!!

I don't think so. Penetration from a penis is mostly considered. And if you happened to bleed and it was painful, there would be a bigger chance of it popping, but since you said nothing happened, it's highly unlikely.

kitty

Q: on my myspace blog im trying to put a good background on but i cant find anygood ones at all does anyone know any good sites or where to find good backgrounds?

thanx in advance xx

I use www.codemylayout.com
www.pyzam.com
www.hotfreelayouts.com

kitty

Q: can u get any sexual diseases from masterbating cuz ive been doing it lately and ive notice a bump and some white dots and ive never had sex before

You can't get any STDs from masturbating.

kitty

Q: Okay whats

1 base
2 base
3 base
4 base?

like which ones which?

Thanks lots.

;D

It depends on who you ask sometimes, but:

1st: Kissing/Making Out
2nd: Feeling up
3rd: Fingering, oral sex
4th or better known as the home run: sexxxxxx

kitty

Q: I'm losing all my friends because im annoying and the im always being a beep all the time how can i get my friends back or get new ones

P.S. almost everyone teases me cuase im short could u give me combacks to the teasing to

I spent seven years of my life being bullied, picked on, everything. You name it, I've been through it. I've been called fat (because I wasn't a size 0), ugly, big-nosed, ugh, everything.

Hmmm. I've never lost friends over being a bitch, only boyfriends. What I would do is start to socialize. Join clubs, talk to someone in a class who you've never talked to. I know what this sounds like: easier said than done. And i know. But it's what you need to do in order to make new friends. And show your other friends that you're not immature, and that you can be nice.

And if people tease you because you're short, then they're LOSERS. That makes me so mad that people will make fun of you, or anyone, for absolutely anything. You could be like,

"I'm not short, I'm fun-sized!"

Or, just make insults right back.

"I never forget a face...but in your case I'll make an exception!"

"That's nice that you think I care."

"I like how much of a life you have."

"Uhm, pick on someone your own size."

You have to show them that it doesn't actually bother you. You have to have a sense of humor, or else they'll just keep doing it more. Or, just laugh and ignore them. It realllly makes them mad that what they say doesn't affect you.

good luck sweetie. if you need more answers, or ever need someone to talk to, my AIM's listed on my column.
kitty

Q: okay lets start this off with im 14/f. and hes 14/m okay well he also has a girl friend. its very disapointing but any way last weeekend was our homecomeing were fresh man. and well i was dacening with my friends and he pulled me aside and said i looked beautiful and he loved my dress(aww how cute right?) so i gave him a hug and said you look dashing haha. well now hes on my mind at school sometiems . and monday i think it was i went to give my old boyfriend a hug because were still friends and the guy i like well alex well call him was there! so i gave um adam a hug then alex was like wow rachel way to give me a hug. ha i kinda was like oh im sorry heres a bigger hug for you then.! okay well everyday i pass him in the halls before 1st hour and before thirdrd and after school i see him because i have cheer practice and he has base ball..mmm. he gives me this crooked smile witch is really really cute. and he gives me a hug everyday now. oh and something eles you should know is ive dated some of his friends like adam and his friend scott and i almost went out with his friend edmond. oppps but i all ways thought he was the cutest out of them all. hes allways kinda been there in the back of my head. but hes moveing to the front of it know and im not srue what to do sence he does have a girl friend who he doesnt seem to close to but ive never seen them out of school together. but my questions are. does he have any feelings for me if u can tell should i back off sence he does have a girl frien? these are the things i need to know.

He seems to definitely act like it, fersure. BUT he has a girlfriend, and unless she's cool with all of this (she may not even know!) , I suggest you keep a distance; girls are hella catty like that. I'm like that with my boyfriend. And the last thing you need is to get into a drama-filled argument. But, I'd continue to talk to him, but flirt in a subtle way. Key word here is: subtle. You know, compliment him, hug him, but don't make it obvious you really like him. Like, don't cling on to him, and act obsessed with him. Not only will it show you like him a lot, but it may be a turn off for him. Also, ask him to go out with a group of friends to the movies or something, or ask if he would want to come over (or vice versa) to study or anything like that.

good luck !
kitty

PS i've been in your situation, so i know how to deal with this, haha. There's been quite a few incidents where I've blown it for the whole friendship thing, so that's why i'm telling you to take it slow and keep it subtle.

Q: Wow. So I'm a freshman and I'm going to homecoming saturday. and I honestly feel completly screwed. I can NOT dance. And don't say I don't have to. I WANT TO! I told all these guys i'd dance with them. As in, grind. I don't know what to do. Pleaseee help. Please.

Haha. Listen, I can't dance for literal crap, either. But, just let it out.

Here, these may help:
http://www.wikihow.com/Grind
http://www.43things.com/things/view/191332/learn-how-to-grind
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20070117200619AAspC6y

Good luck !
kitty

Q: I died my hair (this is not the first time) and after about 2 or 3 weeks my friends say its already fading. My hair was light brown and i died it dark brown. I normally use Loreal or Revlon hair dyes and i use Dove Intense Damage Therapy shampoo and conditioner. can anyone help me figure out why my hair dye is fading and how i can resolve it? I could go to the salon but that takes too much time and costs too much and i dont have the time or the money. thanks!

Well, the salon's always better. But normally, dark brown (or any brown for that matter) tends to fade a lot faster. Like, I just got my hair dyed by my cousin, and she's a beautician, but after about 3 shampoos, it started fading to a lighter carmel-ish color. I use Loreal Vive Pro, and it's in the orange bottle. It's specially made for colored hair. I would suggest that before anything.

kitty

Q: What are some quotes,poems,songs, etc.. that mean something to you about life & love?

Or even bible verses that you find inspiring, anything.

I'm putting together a book for these people,
that a year ago lost their son in a car accident,
so just good quotes, or uplifting inspiring things.

"To love abundantly is to live abundantly, and to love forever is to live forever."
- HENRY DRUMMOND

"Love is the beauty of the soul."
- ST. AUGUSTINE

"It is only with the heart that one can see clearly, for the most essential things are invisible to the eye."
-- ANTONIE DE SAINTE EXUPERY

"All that I can, I will."
-- FRENCH SAYING

"Mourn not too long that he is gone, but rejoice forever that he was... "
Old Proverb

"When you are sorrowful look again in your heart, and you shall see that in truth you are weeping for that which has been your delight."
--- Kahlil Gibran

"Death--- the last sleep? No the final awakening."
- Walter Scott

kitty

Q: What do you think about dark brown to black hair with caramel blonde streaks in the bangs??

Half tthe people I asked said itd be really cute, them some said it would look wierd...I found a great picture on google images.....
Type in 'girl scene hair' and its the second picture on the second page if you wanna see it.

I think it'd look amazing!
My friend had it done; she look brilliant.

kitty

Q: Ok, I take fairly awful pictures
& evertime I see picture on myspace of people
They are edited to perfection
I would like to kno any good FREE picture editors I can download from the internet

I already downloaded the Google picture editor
So ones besides that one, please
& Thanks in advance [=

http://www.photoscape.org/ps/main/download.php

This is what I use.

kitty

Q: hiow do you you know when you love somone

Trust me, you'll know when you love somebody.

kitty

Q: i dont know why but lately i am always either depressed about or bored with everything. in school i am starting to give up and its hard to make myself happy. i dont feel like i can talk to anyone and i always feel like a loser and like im stupid and awkward. i need help.

I know what you're going through.

First of all, I would suggest seeing your physician so he/she could recommend a psychologist or psychiatrist to help.

This is normal, lots of people get this way, especially in the winter.

Here's some sites that may be able to help:
http://kidshealth.org/teen/your_mind/feeling_sad/depression_tips.html
http://www.mental-health-matters.com/articles/article.php?artID=387

good luck (:
kitty

Q: I got like unwanted facial hair, as in on my upper lips, chin, and alot on my arms. How do I get rid of it without shaving or waxing because my mom doesnt want me doing this stuff being only 13.

I agree: Nair would work well.

kitty

Q: Who narrates the new book, "breaking dawn"
Jacob, Edward, or Bella?

Both Bella & Jacob do.

Part 1: Bella
Part 2: Jacob
Part 3: Bella

kitty

Q: im in highskool and me and some of my friends were thinking bout starting a punk/rock band, but we're stumped about what to call our band, we're think bout something with only one or two words so it'll be easier to remember....
ne one have any ideas???

I love stuff like this (:

MasterMind
Saving Grace
Hypnotik
The Hype
Flat on the Floor

if you need more, let me know. :]
kitty

Q: is an HIV test result pretty much conclusive after 3 months of possible exposure?

Most HIV tests are antibody tests that measure the antibodies your body makes against HIV. It can take some time for the immune system to produce enough antibodies for the antibody test to detect, and this time period can vary from person to person. This time period is commonly referred to as the “window period.” Most people will develop detectable antibodies within 2 to 8 weeks (the average is 25 days). Even so, there is a chance that some individuals will take longer to develop detectable antibodies. Therefore, if the initial negative HIV test was conducted within the first 3 months after possible exposure, repeat testing should be considered >3 months after the exposure occurred to account for the possibility of a false-negative result. Ninety-seven percent of persons will develop antibodies in the first 3 months following the time of their infection. In very rare cases, it can take up to 6 months to develop antibodies to HIV.

Another type of test is an RNA test, which detects the HIV virus directly. The time between HIV infection and RNA detection is 9–11 days. These tests, which are more costly and used less often than antibody tests, are used in some parts of the United States.

-cdc.gov

kitty

Q: My boyfriend and I, was going for 8 1/2 years we had our ups and downs, but what relationship doesn't. When we had our son he finally realized that he wasn't happy and wanted to leave the relationship. I didn't stop him because I'm not going to force anyone to be with me. And deep down, I knew I wasn't happy either. We've managed to stay friends (I think we were better off as friends).

18 months later we took a trip together and on this trip we began reminiscing about the past -one thing led to the other and we slept together. After this, we both realized that the feelings were still there and we wanted to give our relationship another chance. He wants us to get married and be a family. He said he can’t imagine a life without me and our son. I feel the same way, being in a relationship for such a long time it’s hard to imagine anyone else. However, I won’t limit my future happiness for settling for what is comfortable.

In our relationship he had this so called friend and I always suspected it was something more, but of course being a man he denied it. So I just left it alone. But recently I found some emails from this so called friend. In one of emails she is asking him “why do you cheat?” Apparently, she caught him picking up another woman from the airport when he was supposed to be fishing with a friend. She goes on saying how she thought it was only the two of them now running on confessing her love for him and blah blah blah. When I confronted him he still denies the relationship. My God he sounds so convincing, you want to believe he is telling the truth. (I swear if nominated for an Oscar for best actor he would win hands down). I can protect myself from many things, but never a liar. Seriously before I give this relationship a second chance I want to know – NO - I need to know the truth between him and this so called friend. So I decided to call her and ask her (woman to woman) about their relationship. I got her voicemail and I left a peaceful message asking her to call me back. She never did. I told him about it, he told me he already knew because she told him. He said she said that she doesn’t feel the need to call me back. I got upset because I felt it wasn't my job to get to the bottom of this. So I made a demand. (After all HE was the one who asked me previously what could he do, in order for me to marry him) I told him I wanted him to tell this so called friend in my presence (whether by phone or in person) that we are going to give our relationship a second chance and he has to cut all ties with her. He agreed and said it will be better if we do it over the phone. But he doesn't want her to know that I will be on the phone too. His reason was if she knows she will hang up and not talk. I was hesitant but hey, I just wanted to get this situation cleared up so I or we could move on. When it came down to it, he told me he was going to call her and prep her - some bullshit I didn't understand. Again hesitant, I agreed. About an hour and three minutes later he called telling me he told her already and she said she understands and she will stay away and that there is know need for ME to call her. I told him that was UNACCEPTABLE. How do I know if he actually called her. It's just a bunch of he said, she said shit.

I must admit I do love this man (he is a great lover, a great provider and a great father) and I do want us to be a family. But I refuse to enter in a relationship (marriage) with any doubts or insecurities. To me, marriage is not glorified dating, it’s a relationship different from all the others - it’s an entire lifestyle. The act of getting married says I chose this one unique being to share everything with me for the rest of my life. I'm sorry I want it all. I want someone who is willing to give me everything (jump through fire if he has to) I don't want half of a man. Anything less is just settling. For my son's sake I need to make educated decisions about my life. Weighing the pros and cons and coming to the best solution for us (my son and I). I need to feel that all of my questions have been answered truthfully. If its not, it will only create lingering suspicions, making it difficult to move ahead. I need him to recognize, understand and acknowledge what I’m feeling and going through. Until we can face the truth together there can be no resolution or rebuilding. Should I, stand by my demand or should I just cut my losses and get out while I can, because every moment I stay with him is another moment I’m losing from Mr. Right.

I'm sorry that this had to happen to you. All women should be treated with respect.

Personally, I'd be done with him. Because you can't make a person change. Believe me, I've tried. And it doesn't work. You've done all you could, and I think it's time for you to go out there, and find the right man. Even though you really want this guy to be yours forever, sometimes it's just not always good for you, the relationship, or your son, in this case. You both deserve much, much better than someone who you have suspected of cheating! And don't go back and forth, or that will only confuse your son. You've been assertive, and he knows and understands your needs. But I think it's time to move on, be on decent terms with him for your son's sake, and go on your own life. Because quite honestly, all I think he wants is to have his cake and eat it too. And that's not acceptable in any way, no matter the circumstances.

I wish you the best of luck!
Kitty

Q: What's a hydro? My friend had some white pills and told me to snort them/eat them I'm like uh..what are they? She's like they're hydros. So what exactly is a hydro for? And what would happen if you did snort/eat them?

Hydro's like, one of the best kind of weeds out there. Like the person below me, it might be codeine? But hydro is a type of weed.

kitty

bio

Heyyyy, I'm jess. I love to help other people, no matter what. I've been through enough bs to know when to just stop and walk away. I don't judge; feel free to ask me anything. I have quite the temper. But, what makes me a good advice-giver is that for the most part, I'm genuinely empathetic and willing to help.
(:

I've had a lot of experiences with piercings, bullying, family problems, and even sexual issues (no std's)- but with the emotional part of it. I love music, so I give good, basic advice about that, too. Also, I deal with severe anxiety and depression, and have been in treatment numerous times. On top of that, I have OCD (Obsessive Complulsive Disorder), and because I've been around people addicted to drugs, or cutting, I can help! Just give me the chance.

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