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My friend is having this huge birthday party! Her uncle owns the house in laguna beach and its gonna be a two day party. I've been her friend only for like 6 months but we're pretty close. My birthday was last week and i invited her and she came. I dont get y she wont invite me!! AT least 50 people are going so dont say she didnt have enough room in her 3 stretch limos.

Hm...wow, I'd say she's just trying to get popular and stuff, and she's just blowing you off. If you ask me, she's not a very good friend. Next time you have a really awesome thing going on, and she expects you to invite her, say no, or just act like you don't know what she's talking about.

Have you asked her why she didn't invite you? Even though its rude, you should remind her that you have been her like...best friend.

I'm 13/f in the 7th grade

For a while, I've been having a real hard time paying attention. I get really bored easily, and I fidget a lot, I'm really slow (physically), and I get lethargic a lot. and I'm VERRRY disorganized. My school learning specialist said that there's a possibility of me having ADHD. but when I was little, I was always full of energy. Usually ADHD shows up in kids when they're little. Does my case sound like ADHD???

x0x0

*Cheyenne*

I know someone who has ADHD, and he was so hyper when he was little he had to take riddlin. He would push people, scream, jump up and down for hours at a time, he was crazy.

But, yes, maybe you have ADHD. Although I've been trying to tell my Mom I have ADD, because I have a hard time paying attention. I get bored and start daydreaming, she says I don't. She says if you have the following you are:

-Bad grades
-Forget to do everything (aka homework, etc)
-Really hyper
-Mood swings
-Not remembering almost everything

Anyways, if you want real results, you should ask your doctor to test you if you're that worried. ^_^

Good luck!

i hav a friend who is like my best friend and ive known for like 4 yrs but just this yr she moved to laval and changed schools, i thought i would never be replaced and she even told me that i wopuld never be replaced, but just yesterday i was talkin to her on aol and she added a friend from her school and she was acting totally different and telling me sbout how everyone there is soooo open and funny, and she had all these inside jokes and stuff and when she left the convo she said nice talkin to me, but she told her friend sum inside joke and started laughin away. And shes always telling me about how she went out with all these ppl at her school. Im starting to feel super left out. (and she didnt lie about any of this)
-feeling left out (female, 13)

I know how it feels. I've moved away from my old schools a lot, and I've had friends move away. You always say you'll never lose touch, but one of you gradually grows apart, and usually the friendship doesn't last. Its sad, I know, but its something that happens.

There's not much you can do about it. If you guys are that good of friends, try telling her how you feel, she should understand and try to make you feel better. If she thinks you're overreacting, she's not being a very good friend.

Sorry I couldn't help more. Good luck! ♥

okay well i have a major crush.

on this boy jon, and well i need to tell him, but im way too shy. and afraid im going to look stupid !

so yeah can you please help me in a way not to act stupid?

ps hes in my classes and theres nothing to ever talk about.

There's this kid named Jon that just moved to our school. lol.

Anyways, I know how it feels for there not to be anything to talk about. I usually never know what to say to my crushes, either...

I know its hard, but make an effort to start saying Hi to him and stuff when you see him. Maybe he'll get the clue you like him and he'll like you back. Get your friends to talk around him and pretend to flirt and stuff, I'm pretty sure guys like being flirted with, even if they don't like you back. It makes them feel special.

And also, try finding out his s/n or something, it's always easier to talk online than infront of other people/his friends. Get to know him and what he likes, see if you guys have a lot in common, and then ask him to go out if you think you still like him. ^_^

Good luck!

okay well i am obsessed with my boyfrend i rite his name all over my papers and i rite it on my hand i rite it in my AIM profile i rite it EVERYWHERE!!! do you think that boys like it wen you obsess over them or do they find it annoying? plz help thnx ;)

Well, I know for a fact there's this one guy that a lot of dorky girls obsess over because he's pretty hot. He finds it annoying and just plain weird.

But since you're his boyfriend, I don't know. It could be different. Maybe just take it a little easy...it might creep him out. Try thinking about other things rather than just him. I know its hard, but in the end I think it'll help.

Because when or if you guys break up, do you want him to remember you as "the obsessive girlfriend"? Lol, I don't think so!

Hope I helped. ♥

well my brother has this friend and he told me brother that he likes me and i like him..and he now knows that thanks to my brother!!...its sound like a dream right????..WRONG...he has a girlfriend..and like they are always together and they are all over eachother...and its right infront of me..i feel like im gunna cry...but when i see them together they are usually like wrapped naround eachother but i see his staring at me..WTF...i dont know what to do

i need help
will rate 5's for good answers

~so sad~

He might be trying to make you jealous, which I don't think he should anymore since he obviously has your attention.

But maybe he's just trying to be a "player", and be cool for the 'ladies'. If I were you, talk to him about it. I know its hard, but if you have his s/n online or something, it'll be easier. Or write him a note/have your brother talk to him if you feel you can trust your brother.

Good luck!

well, im 13 and i live in mastic on long island and i have a job at a traveling carnival....well theres this boy there that i like and hes 13 too but hes 8 months younger....his name is danny and he lives in comak...how ever you spell that..lol...well i really like him and i think he likes me..he gives me hugs when i see him and we share are food and drinks and all that other spit...we've never kissed though...but we tell eachother we that we love em all the time...any way-his obnoxious older brother pete (15), told my older sister amber (17) that compared to all the other girls danny's gone out with im god.now this danny is really hot but not to tall hes prolly 5'4''- im 5'5 and a quarter....and hes really skinny and im well not exactly skinny im average....anyway my sister was like isnt my sister a little chubby for him-pete was like i said she was like god.im scared that he might not like me though so if i go up to him and like ask him out and he says no then im going to be really embarassed...but i was thinking that if he s ever online while i am then i could trick him...i could be like im here with my cousin and allthat good stuff and then b lik ima pretend to b my cousin (whos not really there), pretending to be me and like start asking how he feels about me if he dont like me then ima b like this is her cousin dum ass- but if he says he do lik me then im just gonna turn back into me- do you think that might work???please help me-i rate high

If he really cares about you being average weight, then he's a prick and you shouldn't worry about him. He should like you for other reasons beside how much you weigh. :(

Hm...perhaps you should tell him, or just ask him if he feels the same. After all, it sounds like you've known each other for a while and are pretty comfortable with each other, right? So why not ask him?

Seems to me like he likes you back. ^_^

Good luck!

i CANT STAND my older sister. Shes a junior in highschool, im a freshman. she is always making fun of me for no reason at all, and always telling me what to do. So, im always mean back to her. I dont wanna be mean to her, but i cant control myself, she thinks shes so smart. She gets straight A's, drives her own car, has lots of friends, .. so she thinks shes wicked cool. I cant stand it, i really cant. Like, sometimes i just go completely insane. I have a bad temper, as im typing this now im just shaking, i feel like im gunna explode. WHAT SHOULD I DO

You need to stand up for yourself. Try telling her that you don't appreciate her making fun of you, and don't say it in a mean way, because she'll most likely keep doing it. If you talk to her in a superior way, she'll feel intimidated and you'll most likely prove yourself to be more mature.

Just tell her you hate being made fun of, and you don't do it to her infront of her friends (I'm assuming you don't?) and it's very immature...just tell her how you feel. If she doesn't listen, just completely ignore her when she makes fun of you, or act like its funny, because chances are she likes getting entertainment out of your anger, so if you ignore her, she'll get bored and just completely stop. ^_^

Good luck!

i recently started to get into magic. like coin and card tricks. and i want to buy a book online that can teach me some really nice tricks to do with real coins and a normal deck of cards. i need a website that sells this kinda stuff.

all 5's.

I'm not sure what books/sites there are, but look up Magic Books on Google. I'm sure millions of them will come up. OR you can look on eBay.

OMG I have a halloween party on like the 7th and I haven't gotten a costume yet. I don't know what to wear. I also will have a halloween dance and go trick-or-treating. I think I might be a boy but not sure. My mom won't let me buy a costume so what should I do??

I Rate HIGH!!

xHlaxstarWx

Well, if you want to do what I'm doing, just follow this:

Buy some footy pajama's for your age or adults, if they can fit. If not, just look for old pajama's and buy a big diaper to go over them. Sling a baby blanket over your arm, put your hair in pig tails, buy a pacifier and a bottle, and carry a bear in your arm and BAM! You're a baby. ^_^

My Mom wouldn't let me buy a costume either, that's why I decided to be that. Cute but inexpensive! Good luck!

I love to read funny quotes, bumper stickers, ect., you know, the stuff you get offline. Does anyone have a good website where I can find stuff like that? Please, don't reccomend goodquotes.com, I've already printed everything off of it. Any ideas?
-TeeJay

www.firehotquotes.com

I used to know more, but just go to Google and search for Funny Quotes, or just quotes in general. That should work, even if it takes you a few minutes to find a site.

Sorry I'm not of much help!

I am a Christian who doesn't go to church. I pray every night and believe that Jesus died for our sins and that God exists.
My question is that why do so many other Christians put down other ones that don't go to church? I have a relationship with God, too! Thanks.

I'm a Christian, also. I don't go to Church either. I'm actually kind of stuck right now. I know God's real, but I don't believe everything they say about him, I believe a bit in Evolution, too.

Anyways, to answer your question, when people ask me if I go to church or if they can meet me at Church, and I tell them I don't go, they treat me weird like "OMG YOU DON'T BELIEVE IN GOD?!?!111" but its not true. If anyone asks you/tells you that, just tell them simply that you DO believe in God, and you don't have to be Christian and believe in him if you only go to Church.

Because there have been serial killers & rapists that go to Church like everyday, and they say they believe in God, but it still doesn't make them a good person. ^_^

Im 13, and theres this boy who ive liked from the first day of school, and on the second day, he just randomly walked up to me and started walking next to me and talking to me. He is kind of my friend now but he still doesn that sometimes...do you think these are signs that he likes me?

He might just be interested in being your friend. You should start talking to him, getting to know his interests, and seeing if he shares the same as you. If you find that you start to like him even more, and he seems to like you, make your move and ask him out. If he rejects you, at least you'll still know enough about him and stuff that he'll probably still want to be friends. But if you just spring out the question right now, it might be kind of awkward for him, since he might still be getting to know you. But if you really trust him, you could just ask him or have a friend ask him if he likes you, and make it seem like they're just asking for the sake of it, not for you to find out. Good luck!

my boyfriend and i have been going out for about a month, but i dont really see him as a boyfriend because he doesnt really treat me as one. i feel like we are better as friends but i dont know what to do. some people say i should break up with him, but others say to tell him to start treating me as a girlfriend and let it last longer. what do i do?

Well, if you still want it to maybe work out, I think the best thing to do is talk with him. I mean, you have been going out for 3 months, so you should be able to talk to him by now, right? So just ask him to talk, and tell him how you feel. If he doesn't seem to care or just denies it and doesn't try to help make the situation better, I would break up with him, but if he actually looks like he's thinking about how the relationships been going, then give him a while. See if his actions change. If they don't, you should break up. Because you don't want to be stuck with a person who doesn't treat you like they even like you...trust me, I know. There are plenty of other guys to date in your life time.

Good luck!

A few days ago my friend hurt her foot. Now its all swollen and she can't walk! But her parents refuse to take her to the doctor, saying that she's blowing it all out of proportion. How do we get her parents to take her?

Herm...that's weird that her parents won't take her.

Perhaps talk to someone about it? Talk to your parents so they can talk to her parents? You have to do everything you can to try and make them take her.

Is it one of those things where they're saying "Its going to go away on its own?" Because I've had that happen with my aunt when I was staying at her house. It ended up I broke my foot in half.

Erm...well, just try everything. I'm not quite sure how to answer this! :/

I like my friend, more than a friend, but he dose not like me the same way. We like all the same things, but he just likes me as a friend. How do I get him to like me more than a friend.

~shannen*

Don't try to make anyone like you more than a friend. That just makes things worse. For one thing, it feels like you're lying. If you try and do something that he likes even though you don't like it, it'll be like lying to yourself and to him. It doesn't feel good.

And another thing, after you guys break up it usually feels awkward to be friends again. I would just stick with the whole friend thing. Maybe tell him you like him if you already haven't. Start talking to him more than just as a friend.

Remember there are plenty of fish in the sea. ^_^

I cheated on my boyfriend and now he is really mad at me. he is thinking about breaking up with me. What can i do to fix this?

If you cheated on him, why would you want to fix it? Obviously you don't have feelings for him if you cheated. Because number one, that's just plain wrong when you're going out with him in the first place. Think of how you'd feel if he did that, so you should've broken up with him. Number two, if he's that mad he's probably not going to let you fix it.

im SUCH a girly girl! so wut should i wear the first day of school (september 6th)? i know you dont know whats in my closet so i wont give u like a 3- if i dont have it!! but what are you wearing, what would be cute/in. im going to straighten my hair. and im pretty sure i want to wear a skirt. thanks

I wore a jean skirt that had a Cherry belt, a rolling stones shirt with a jacket over it from Aeropostale. (it was black with a pink butterfly) and I wore some flip-flops.

I did my hair in pig tails that hung over my shoulder (my mom said i was too old for them but whatever) and i wore make-up?

Erm...so perhaps that could work? lol Everyone told me I was majorly cute that day.

heya i think im pregnant havn't had a period in 2 months getting all the signs, i'm getting a test for sure when i get paid next week :D
im just worrying if i am what should i be eating more or less of and what should i definatly avoid eating?? thank you!

No smoking, alchoal, spicy foods, try to lay off a lot and lot of sugars, not too much caffine, I bet people before me have already said all this so I'll just stop there. XD

Good luck with the test! ^_^

hey i need some quotes or sayings or something 2 put in my profile 2 kinda tell my ex that i still like him. See he just dumped me yesterday because he figured out that he liked someone else. So i need something like haha i hope ur happy or something like that. you know what im saying... but i still like him and stuff but i told him that i was kinda happy that we broke up even though im not so i need something 2 tell him that im happy that we broke up and i hope that hes happy w/ her. Maybe is there a song like that or something? But quotes or sayings 2 put in my profile would be greatly appreciated! 14/f thx alot!

www.enchanted-wishes.com I think that's right.

But anyways, I know you probably feel like you still like him, because I felt the same way about my ex a few weeks after he dumped me, but trust me, its just the aftermath pain. After a while you'll completely forget about him or even hate him. He'll move on and you'll move on, but for the first few weeks it's gonna feel like you like him more than ever. When really its just the pain trying to get over him talking.

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