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Hey my names ali i'm 17 from new jersey. i'm usually really fast with advice so ask whatever you want and i'll answer as soon as possible!!
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My boyfriends staying the night tonight, and we're exchanging Christmas gifts, I'm extremely scared, because what if I don't like something he gets me? How am I supposed to react? Thanks. ♥

Okay, let's face it: guys are not great shoppers!! So, you may recieve a gift you do not like. Pretend that its the best gift ever and tell him that you love it. If it is wearable, put it on then (like jewlery) or on next time you see him and only him if its ugly (like shirts). Tell him its an amazing present and you love it. He obviously spent time on you and doesn't want to see that you hate your present, so make sure you act like you love it especially if you love him. If you have him, who needs a great present anyways.
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Yeah i know this is like really random, but i was just wondering, how do you guys feel about the store Abercrombie and Fitch. I was reading about it online and so many people seem to hate it!!!

i don't really shop there that often but i was thinking of getting some clothes there for christmas and i was just wanted to know some of yall opinionss on it

If you like the clothes, wear them! Personally, I think that people only shop there for the brand name and their clothes are bad quality. SOmetimes, you can find a cute shirt and their jeans are FREAKING AMAZING!! i love their jeans. Don't let anyone else tell you what your style should be or what it has to be.
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So I inherited my mom's fat ankles: / I've gotten used to them I guess but I was just wondering if anyone knows of anything that will make them look less kankle-ish? I'm thin (zero pants size) it's just my ankles. They're not a problem when I wear pants but if I wear a skirt or capris and want to wear regular shoes it looks really bad. It's not that bad with flip flops but I still hate them either way. So any help is appreciated! And don't tell me that don't worry about what other people are thinking and most don't notice because I know that. Most don't notice but I've gotten comments about my ankles before haha thanks!

Try Ugg boots. They kinda make it look like everyone has them! And it's very trendy. Also, maybe leg warmers? It's winter and those are cute styles. Knee high socks with a skirt could also work to your advantage.
Hope that will help you.
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OMG today someone stole my phone at school i am so pissed off. aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa!!!!what should i do???

Call it! See who answers. Block the number and call if they wont answer. Somone may just have it waiting for you to call so they can return it. You should wait a few days for it to turn up. Also, look around your classes, ask your teachers, look in your locker, etc. If it doesn't turn up or if you don't find it, make sure you call your phone company, or go to the store and have them shut down your phone and get a new one. Someone could be using your phone to make personal calls and stuff.

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I'm interested in getting a pay as you go type deal on a cell phone but I want to get something I know I won't be screwed over on. So does anyone have a cell phone (virgin mobile, cingular, boost, whatever) that has a low rate or resonable deals. I'm only looking for people who have the plan...

Even though the "Pay as you Go" deals sound appealing, they really are not. The minute cards are pretty expensive. And, the minutes eventually expire. Like if you buy 60 minutes and use like 20 in a 2 months, the minutes will like expire, so you will have waisted 40 minutes and have to buy another card. T-Mobile is advertising one on TV that apparently is "Fair and flexible" so if you really want one, I would look into that one. Also, with pre-paid, texting may not be avalible, and thats a major part of having a cell phone. You probably can text, but it will cost you a lot of money.
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Recently I got my haircoloured (5 days ago) I opted for permanent dye. I got it coloured black btw. However, everytime I wash my hair the colour comes out. I wash my hair each day, and don't think this can be right. Should the colour be coming out 5 days after I got it done? Am I doing something wrong? Should I head back to the salon?

Thanks.

Yes, its perfectly normal. Right after I get my hair dyed darker then it originally was, the color washes out a few days after it's been dyed. Don't worry about it, eventually it will stop. It happens to me all the time and it's totally normal for this to happen. The color has already set in your hair so it is only washing out some of the excess color that has not set in your hair.
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how long should someone wait to have have sex(are b.f. and g.f.)

Whenever you are emotionally ready. There's no set time to have sex, its just when you are comfortable enough with the person and ready to move into a more serious sexual aspect of the relationship. A person must also be willing to face all the aspects that come with having sex: pregnancy, STDS, etc. Sex can also change a relationship. Do what you feel comfortable with and ready for.
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i'm a guy, 14 yrs. old. here's my dilemma. this girl has a boyfriend right, and everyday in class we hug and talk till class starts. she doesn't even act like she has one. my question is what do i do now, i'm totally clueless.

Talking and hugging are just part of this girl's nature. She thinks of you just as a friend. She's treating you like she probably treats all her other guy/girl friends. If she has a boyfriend, she probably likes him. Still confused? Ask her about her boyfriend. Ask how the relationship is or just something as simple as "how's your boyfriend". It's a neutural subject that you can always turn around without saying I LIKE YOU especially if she's def into her boyfriend. If she replies with something like "things arent well" or maybe even "i dont have a boyfriend" then tell her how you feel. If she says things are great, stay friends and fall for another girl.
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i had a debit card, keyword had. i gat it because i would lose my wallet often, and my money, i though that debit cards didnt allow you to go over your limit. that is evidently not true, i racked up $218 dollars in debt, without a single transaction being more that 10 dollars, i was then charged $60 for every overdraft, but the card was still accepted. is that supposed to happen?

Okay, I work at a bank so I can try to explain this.
Overdraft is when you write checks (or use your card) when there's no money in your account. Since there is no money, the bank has to cover it. The bank has to pay for it and thats why they charge you. At my bank, I know we tend to let the first offense slide then charge for the rest. Also, many banks have something called overdraft protection where if you are going to be overdrawn it will take money out and put it into your account, then you will be billed like a loan at the end of the month depending on how many times you use the overdraft protection account.
I hope this helps.
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okay well im absolutly infactuated with this kid and we just started talking but i styll love my exboyfriend... lyk i mean LOVE him! he has a girlfriend tho and i know he doesnt love her... i dont know what to do should i keep talking to this kid or go back to my ex.. my ex tells his friends hes only going out with this girl to make me jealous and damn it its working but i dont wanna go thru the hurt that i went thru with him... but i love him..


PLEASE HELP ME

Did you really love your ex?? Do you really love him?? Even after he hurt you?? Is he really a changed man?? I don't know if I believe it. Also, you can't rely on what his friends are saying, you have to rely only on what he says. Invite him to come over or go out to dinner (as friends) and then talk about it. Ask him what's up. Also, you need to deciede if he's worth risking getting hurt again! You may still love your ex, but it will take time to heal your pain and get over him. Maybe you just need some time alone without guys to figure out what you are really looking for.
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ok there is this guys that i like alott and he is about to ask out this girl. anyway before this girl came along he liked me ALOT "he said". Now that i look backhe was giving me signs that he like me but i guess i did not pay attention and i still like him alot what should i do.

You need to tell him how you feel ASAP. If you don't, you're going to lose him. As soon as you read him, call him text him IM him whatever just so you can talk to him. I'd recommend telling him on the phone or in person. Seriously, you have to tell him as soon as you read this. If you dont you may never have him if he gets with that other girl, which stinks. Hurry! You might miss out on an amazing guy.
Let me know how it works out!!
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Is it possible to find the "one" when you're only 14? I have been thinking about this alot. I have this boyfriend, he is the best guy in the world. He doens't pressure me to do anything. We have been dating for 3 weeks and he hasn't pressured me to do anything. Just yesterday it took him the whole football game to put his arm around me, and it wasn't even fully. He hasn't even kissed me yet. Personally, I love this. I don't like feeling pressured. He texts me and or calls me everyday. I like him so much. I don't know if I love him though. But that isn't really my question. My question is, should I be looking for "the one" right now? I know it is a really small chance that I will find the one so early. I am only a freshman and I can see this relationship is going to last a long time, but the next 3 years of high school? Is it possible that we can stay together for the next 3 years?

I guess it is possible. Is this your first serious relationship? If so, it's normal to feel like that. Even if it isnt, its totally normal.
You are 14, you dont need to be looking for the one you have your whole life to do that! Just because he may not be the one doesnt mean you cant date him. To find your Prince Charming, you have to kiss a lot of frogs!
You may be able to last though high school, high school sweethearts get married all the time! You've only been dating for 3 weeks, just let it take its course. Relax, have fun, and he sounds like a great guy.
If you need anything else, let me know.
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2 questions...17/f...ok
1) List some pregnancy signs i know everyones different and not all the signs happen to everyone but please list them so i know what they are??
2) OK i know you can get an abortion without telling your parents by going through court..so can if you have ever had one or no someone who has done it this way..please let me know how i can do this?
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FHOHIL

1) Sign 1 - Missed period. You're later then usual and you've def been having sex, especially unprotected sex.
Sign 2 - Dizzyness, being tierd, fatigue. Any one of these symptoms could be part of pregancy.
Sign 3 - Nausea/vomitting (especially in the AM).
Sign 4 - Breast tenderness. THis could be a sign of your period though also a lot of girls experience this right before their period, especially if the girl has a heavy caffene intake.
Sign 5 - You pee a lot more then usual.
2) Yes, you can. Planned parenthood or a local clinic will do this. It will cost money but you can do it without your parents. As long as you have the money.

NOTE: just because you may be experiencing one or more of these symptoms doesnt mean you are pregnant!!! if these symptoms continue, a home pregnancy test is the only way to answer your questions.
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I think I'm 2 months pregnant I'm dizzy alot to where I cant walk I talked to my teacher for my "friend" of course and she says its normal so thats why I think I am. What do you guys think?

Just because you are dizzy sometimes doesnt mean you are pregnant. You may just be in need of a drink of water or something to eat. If you have put urself at risk by having unprotected sex, the only sure fire way to know your pregnant is to see a doctor. If you are ashamed, try a home pregnancy kid. I hope everything works out for you
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If you dont like hearing about sexual things i suggest you stop reading at this point :-)

I asked a question about the pill (birth control) and found out it was 99.9% effective. Does that mean the guy could cum inside the girl and even then there would only be a .1% chance? or is the 99.9% chance with using a condom and pulling out?

It means cuming inside the girl. Its like 99.9999999999% if you use a condom and pull out, its probably safest. Birth Control is only effective if you keep track of your pills - never skip or miss a pill and make sure they are taken at about the same time each day.
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ok this is kinda weird and i didnt kno it could happen...my friend told me he got little bumps on his penis, like pimples and he said he could pop them. there is kinda a lot but only some he can pop....it isnt herpes or warts bc u can only see them when he gets an erection....he is sexually active and is concered so he asked me....i told him i would find out but i have no idea...can someone help please!!!

That could be an STD. It could be anything from herpes, HPV, syphilis, gonherrea, or chlymida. Or it could just be an allergic reaction to something he's beeing wearing. A new laundry detergent or silk boxers or something. He needs to go get tested ASAP. If STDs are left untreated they can cause permanant damage and even death. He also could be spreading it to others which is a big no no.
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I have a CHI straightener that broke a few weeks ago and my hair stylist suggested sending it in to be fixed or replaced for free. Has anyone done this before and knows what to do and where to ship it? Or does anyone know what the CHI website is?

CHI is made by Global Beauty Network. Try googling that. Also, if your CHI is over a year old (maybe even over 6 months old) they may not replace it. Make sure you can still find the warantee. If you dont have the warantee they may not replace it for you. If you stil have the box that your CHI came in their may be a number you can call to speak to someone who will know more about it. Good luck.
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Well i am a grl and i like to wear boy clothes!!!
is that weird or normal?

No way! Just because you like to wear boys clothes doesnt make you abnormal. Boys clothes are more comfortable and less form fitting. People might think you are weird but thats because they are too insecure to wear whats comfortable and what they like. Wear what you like and what you love.
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is there any STORE (not online) that sells seven jeans or other designer jeans like them (citizens for humanity, true religion, etc.) for 60 dollars or under? if you know anywhere, that'd be great, thanks!

Macys will def have them but they will be over priced. They have them for about 100 - 200 dollars. 80/90 is a steal from there.
I got a great pair of Vigoss jeans from Marshalls actually, costing me only 19.99$$. Marshalls sometimes has a great selction of designer jeans but not all the time. It's a hit or miss there. T.J. Maxx also has some designer stuff but again its a rare find to get something from seven there.
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ok look i shave down there and wen i do like a day after there is red bumps and they hurt a lil like wen i put on my jeans and i do use shaving cream and soap wen i dont have any

Do not shave with just water! Your pubic area will become all red, splotchy, and infected. Those red bumps are ingrown hairs. They hurt and then they itch. Use lots of shaving cream and cold water to prevent them. Shave only when the hair is getting longer unless its nessicary. Go slow and take your time, cuts hurt.
if you need anything else, let me know.
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