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Sometimes things he does irritates me. Like today, we had an assembly at school, I didn't want to sit beside him, but my irritating friend pointed me out and I sat beside him. Then as me and my other friend was leaving, I saw him just continuing to sit there by himself and I felt REALLY bad afterwards. I know I love him though because I feel like I'm not gonna cry if he's mad at me. I'm not sure what's going on with me.

Is he your boyfriend ?

i don't think that your relationship is working out .You don't even want to sit next to him , and he doesn't exactly look for you and ask you to sit next to him , does he ? He could be giving you the silent treatment , by not following you when you go out of assembly or talking to you . Or maybe he's just really really shy and doesn't know how to talk to you , which is unlikely , as usually the shyest of boys will still attempt to talk to their girlfriends .

You mentioned that you felt really bad , but do you still love him ? I think that if your boyfriend is acting normal , you should really dump him . Usually , boyfriends SHOULD be seeking YOU out , or walking you to assembly . However , he could also be mad at you . Did you just have a fight with him ? If so , he may be feeling upset and need some comfort , such as you taking a walk or an ice cream with him .

Think about it : will you cry or feel really upset if he breaks up with you ? Sometimes , i feel that boys are really irritating , and when they start to ignore you and irritate you on purpose , this is when you should break up with them .

If you want to keep your relationship , tell your friends that you need some private time with him , and to stop bothering you , and be nice to him , and gradually , your realtionship should come back together . If your bf shows signs of irritation when you come near him , there is a chance that he is bored with you or that he doesn't like you any more . Have a talk with him concerning both of your feelings . This way , you can avoid shouting and screaming at each other .

Good luck ,
Laura .

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See, here's the thing. I love my boyfriend, but we're going through this thing right now where whenever we get on the phone, he doesn't talk to much. And sometimes he irritates me. I don't know if I"m comfortable around him though.I think I am, but then again, I don't know what to think anymore. Someone please help me!

I think that you are getting bored of each other . Why don't you spend some time away from him , just to sort out your feelings and to evoke the feeling of longing . If you feel happier without him , i think you should break up cuz you are just fooling yourself that you love him . If you feel sad without him , you still love him , and need him as part of your life . This isn't very accurate , but is a sure way of telling if you still do have a crush on him or not .
How does he irritate you ? If it is obviously intentional , such as "you look fat in that dress" or "are you that pathetic that you can't even pass home econs ? " chances are that he doesn't really like you any more . However , if he irritates you by repeating questions which concern your welfare , he still does care about you . Just tell him nicely that you need some space and to stop worrying .
Hope i've helped ,
Laura .

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I have been dating this guy for some time now and I have caught him lying to me several times already. Lying about stupid things like who he has talked to and just little things that build up. I love this guy with all of my heart but all the signs are there that he is cheating on me and that scares me to death. We were so close for so long and now we really just aren't. I don't want to loose him, but I can't have him lying to me all the time. No he has been doing things, hanging out wise, with all of these different girls and he doesn't tell me about it until one of them call or I find out by him telling a friend or something that retarded. Is he cheating on me?

Here's what I think : Yes , i think he's most probably cheating on you . Either that , or your relationship is seriously falling apart . Was he always like this , or has this been happening all the while since the beginning of your relationship ? Are you sure he hangs out with girls , or does he hang out in groups mixed groups ? ( with girls and boys ) If he has been doing this since the beginning , i suggest you tell him what you think . After all , he deserves a chance .

Maybe he thinks that you might be mad at him if you find out he has hung out with mixed groups . If you find out that he has been playing with you , and he has been meeting other girls and being "more-than-friends" with them , i suggest you dump him straight away . Better you dumping him because of what he did , than he dumping you because of what he did and because he is bored with you .

Also , why don't you enlist the help of some of your closer friends ? ( never tell too many people , or rumors might start to circulate , and any chance of reparing your relationship might just fall apart ) Ask them to "spy" on him , and to tell you what they think . At this point , rely more on your girl friends than your bf , as signs such as he lying to you have appeared , so you had better be cautious .

Trust is a very important element in bf-gf relationships . If he can't even trust you enough to know that you will not blow up at him if you find out he has been hanging out with mixed groups , what are the chances that in the future , he would lie to you ?

Wishing you all the best with your problem ,
Laura .

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im 13 ok for my period i wear pads iv never tried a tampon and i wanna use a tampon but my mom doesnt wear tampons and i dont think she will let me wear tampons i donno why. nut how can i go to teh store and buy tampons without her knowing?

As for the part about telling your mum , its all up to you to decide if you want to tell her or not . =)
Actually , even though tampons are slightly uncomfortable when you first start using them ,they are more convenient , and will not show if you are wearing jeans or whatever . This can happen if you are wearing a normal pad , and the outline of the pad will show if you are wearing a skirt or jeans , unless you are wearing the ultra slim type . Remember not to buy the huge tampons , buy those slim ones for teens ... =)

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I like putting people in mildly uncomfortable situations to see how they react- like they're all a science experiment to me. I can't seem to get close to anyone outside my immediate group of friends.

Is this because i've had issues of abandonment in the past? (mother committing suicide when i was 3 and dad taking off, am living with aunt and uncle now).

or perhaps is it because i'm surrounded by idiots in my school?

i don't put anyone in immediate danger or anything, i just get people frustrated by denying them things. is it wrong/bad?

I suppose i like doing this as well . I don't really find this weird , but what KIND of situations are you putting them in ?

For example , I like doing this to my sister :

I will put something that is mine in her room . I will give her about a day to find it , ( which she definitely will ) and then i will ask her if she has it . She will deny it , because of what reasons i am still not sure of ( i am working on it ). And the next day , i will find the item in some cuboard somewhere or some place where i could have left it under normal circumstances . ( well duh , my sister put it there ) . The weird thing is that i am not doing this out of spite , i just do it to see how she will react .
After all . she IS older than me and therefore should not be afraid of me getting irritated at her .. she is usually the one bugging me . =)


I do this to everyone :

I will ask them questions like "Are you sure ? " , " What makes you think so ? " , "What gives you that idea ", " Are you sure that isn't wrong ? " ( especially if i know if the answer they chose is correct ) and "What makes you think you are right ? "

There was even this period of time that i would purposely answer a question wrongly ,or seem stupid , just to MAKE people laugh AT me . ( Not with , AT ) There was even this time i admitted to doing something which i did not do , just to see what the principal would do . I got suspended .

I still remember a time when i was younger , around 7 , and my sister ( then 9 ) was complaining that she had lost her Pocahontas
tape . My mother couldn't find it , and came to conclusion that someone ( I have two sisters ) had taken it . Even though i knew clearly that i had NOT taken her tape , i said i did . And i got beaten for that .

Somehow, playing mind games are fun , and help you analyse the person better . Problem is , they don't understand , and they will just think you weird or dislike you . Remember never to go overboard . = )

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Who Likes GoodCharlotte. .

Who Likes Simple Plan

Who Likes Bowling For Soup!



I LIKE THEM ALLLLL!

Good for you . GOOD CHARLOTTE ROCKS !!!! ( i'm a very big fan of them ) . Don't you agree ? I mean , so what if they don't fit in a barbie doll image , they are different and original . =)
Simple plan is good , i have never heard of Bowling For Soup . sorry = )

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What's the best mascara to use and why?

I prefer mascara such as the Maybelline's Sky-High type or Maybelline's Full N' Soft mascara . ( I'm a Maybelline fan =0 ) If not , Stila's ones are okay , and cute too .=) . I don't like brands that layer the mascara on too thick because they make your lashes look fake . The (above) brands have rather good mascara and can help you achieve natural looking lashes , with a little curl . It also helps to blot out access mascara on a tissue before applying it . =)
If not , a little eyeliner will help you define your eyes .
Hope I've helped !

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Well first of all...everyone of my friends are having sex now and im only in the 8th grade...i'll b in high school in a couple months and everybody will be trying to get me to have sex??...should i just try it ..like everybody else..or just tell them that im waiting for a special guy?...but the point is ..is that if im goin out with a guy i might think he is the right guy and go for it but i know we wont last long..will sumone pleez talk to me?

maybe i'm just the soppy romantic type , but i will only do it after i get married to my love . Because i beleive in staying pure until you find your soul mate ......
sorry if i sound icky or whatever , but i really don't think you should be doing it now . don't taint yourself or your rep .

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Will ya'll let me know it this is a good idea for spicing up my relationship....Ok Here it is, After school tomorrow I'm going to the band room, and before i walk in the room my boyfriend will be at the time walking towards the room ,so i'm going to look at him and gesture him to come here..and i'm going to go in turn of the lights and i'm am going to go to an empty room and when he walks in i'm going to gesture him to come in there and when he walks in shut the door and push him up against something and startin kissing him and slowly move my hand slowly down and unzip his pants and then give him head... How does that sound???? please let me know before tomorrow!!!!

NO NO NO !! okie , sorry . Kissing is fun , as in , do the kissing part , but don't give him a head cuz if you get caught you are SOOO dead . I just got caught snogging about a week ago on a usually secluded area , but some teacher happened to walk by and got me and my bf suspended ... =) v. embaressing .....=) anyway, if you decided to proceed , good luck !!

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I just met this guy today and he's really sweet and nice ,ect...But the problem is when he's around me he gets kinda ,no very speachless, he's 16 and he just asked me out, I hardly even know the guy and now hes wanting to go out with me and I need help, I'm 15 and looking for the right guy,but waiting a long time !!!!! Help me , Should I give him a chance??? or should I look for the right guy by waiting.... PLEASE answer by tomorrow!!????

Ok , think of the threse factors :
1) Do you think he's cute ?
2) Will anyone strongly disagree with both of u ?
3) WIll you be hurting him by leading him on ,
especially if you don't really like him ?

Don't hurt him by going out with him if you don't like him . He seems like a really good friend once he gets over his whole "speechless" thing . Why don't you go out with him in a group to a movie or something to get to know him better ? Personally , i think its great that hes so sweet and nice to you . Just make sure he will treat you well throughout , and wouldn't have a sudden change of attitude once you agree , and become over possessive or mean . ( i've had one of these jerks before , trust me , they suck , and you can't get out for a loooong time )
Wishing you the best of luck ,
WoDerInG . .....

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ok theres thsi boy at school and i really like him i dont know him that well but he comes over to my house to swim and stuff cuz he lives by me.. ok wut i was gonna ask is what is something like cool to talk about iwht him im not a nerd so i dont talk about books movies crap like that,, he is popular and im kinda popular and i think he thinks im hott and stuff and he isw always pancing me but i need a good conversation to talk to about with him like soemthing horn or soemthign cuz we are both horny and i just dont know that to say when he comes over or when i seee him at school PLASE HELP!!!

relax ..... i used to be so nervous around my crush until i realised that he was also just a normal human being , not some king that we should all worship and stuff . i'm not saying that you shouldn't think about what to say beforehand , but just act cool and say whatever comet to mind but make sure you
1) do not insult him , tease yeah , but insult NO
2) do not say things like " tess is such a slut and a cheat too , do you know ... " This will make you sound like a gossip or a complainer
3) praise him indirectly
4) make him feel wanted , maybe be asking him a math question , but not ALL the time , or you will just seem stupid
4) another tatic is to play " hard to get " . from my experience , about 75% of guys love a challenge . the others will think you don't like them .


hope i'm helping =)
GOOD LUCK

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There is this girl at my school whom I really like but she thinks I am a loser of some kind. I really want to ask her out. What should I do?


why should she think you a loser ? i don't really know about your crush , but i totally fall for those cute slightly nerdy type guys , especially those with glasses , and those cute , shy smiles .
why don't you find out more about your crush and talk to her ? if you are shy , just keep staring at her until she looks at you , and then quickly look down and blush ( if you can ) . Just remember , don't do this more than once a day , because you might seem deperate . ( desperation = turn OFF )
Don't worry , i'm pretty sure you aren't a loser , unless you are the type of guy who frequently gets beaten up by the so called "cool" guys . If you are somewhere in the middle , GO FOR IT !!!

hope i'm helping and GOOD LUCK !!

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i fell in luv with a guy n he doesnt feel the same for me now were no longer 2gether and he has a girlfriend yet i cant even look at another guy. how do i get over him?

Its hard , isn't it ? I went through this same problem , and i lost like 3 kg , at least $400 and in the end , still wasn't over my crush . just remember , whatever you do , DO NOT , i must repeat , DO NOT splurge . ( as in , go crazy and start buying everythign in sight ) The best way to get over him is to get a few of your best mates , and go "guy-spotting" with them . Not only will this help you get your mind off whoever you are still thinking about , you can get some eye-candy and laugh and giggle at the slightest thing .
The best way to do this is to sit somewhere where you can see everybody walking by , and then , of course , start spotting !! And if you are lucky , you can even get a guy or rebound guy by the end of the day .

Sorry if I sound really ditzy or plain mean ,
but you should cheer up , don't think about someone who wouldn't think about you .=)
Hope i'm helping and GOOD LUCK !

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I have a boyfriend, but I have a crush on someone else,what should I do?

Just how huge is this crush ? Why don't you hang out a little more with your crush and try some of the classic tricks just to see if he responds ( does he like you ? ) and just to know him a little better .

Also , prick up your ears and listen to what your friends have to say about him . You have to know if they find him nice , or if they like him as well . If one of your friends admits their crush on him , i think it is best not to do anything just yet . It will make you seem like the "bad" girl in this situation . Also, check your crushes rep , if he happens to be known as a player , you might want to be careful .

If things DO go according to plan , and you are planning to break up with your current boyfriend , make sure that he is single ,and that you don't ask him out ( if that is what you are planning to do ) immediately after you break up , or you might get labled as a slut .

If you are waiting for him to ask you out , make sure he knows that you have broken up with your bf , and turn on the flirting machine ( but don't over-do it , cuz desperation is a major turn-off ) , and drop a few hints , and voila !

I hope you find my advice useful ,
and GOOD LUCK !!!


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