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Gender: Male
Age: 22
Member Since: June 8, 2009
Answers: 85
Last Update: September 30, 2009
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okay so when me and my boyfriend dry hump i orgasm really quickly, then its like i wanna stop, but i feel bad cause i get him hard, then he gets blue balls right? do guys get blue balls everytime when they get hard and you don't let them cum? so is it mean of me to dry hump and not give him a hj/bj after?
and yes i'm one of those lucky few girls who orgasm fast by pretty much doing nothing lol (link)
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I wouldn't say that you're being mean by leaving your man with blue balls (after all, it's your choice whether or not you help him out), but as a man I can say that there's nothing worse than being left hanging. Best idea: talk about it with him.
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Okay, i know that my sheets have to be XL twin but does the comforter have to be as well?
And also, what are some great places and sites that you've all found youre college bedding. I've looked on most sites but nothing has caught my eye yet so i'm still looking and need help! (link)
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I always had trouble finding a good XL twin comforter, so I decided to get a queen comforter for my bed. It hung over the sides a little bit, but it was much better than when I was using a twin comforter. No reason you can't get the kind that you want though.
The locations that the previous poster gave are the best places to pick up comforters for college though.
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i just got the wii, and i was wondering, how come the first controller we set up to make first player is permanently first player, even after i turn the wii off and then turn it on again, i cant use any other controller. but in multiplayer mode i can use both. (link)
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The Wii remote that you first use with your system is automatically set as the default. If you'd like to change the default remote follow these steps while the system is on.
1) Press the home button
2) Go to Wii Remote Settings
3) Click on "reconnect" and follow the instructions
That should work for you.
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Recently, I became good friends with this girl. She's fun and really awesome to hang out with and usually it's hard for me to get along with girls (all the drama, etc). The big problem is, I met her boyfriend who she's been with for many years, and he's perfect. He's all the qualities I want in a guy and he knocks me off my feet. I never fall easily for guys, so when I do, it's serious. He'll flirt with me constantly and one time while we were alone he kind of hinted that he was tired of the relationship. I don't know what to do and how to act around him now. If my new friend found out, it'd be a disaster since we have a whole group of mutual friends now and she'd definitely kill me! What do I do? I'm infatuated with him, but she's been really nice to me. (19/F) (link)
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Best advice would be to consider how you would feel if the shoe was on the other foot. You've got a great boyfriend, and then one of your friends decides to swoop in and try to take him from you. What would you do?
If he said that the relationship might be ending soon, then you should wait for that to happen. You don't want to lose your friend (and the respect of all of your mutual friends) just because of one guy.
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This is a really weird question, but...
My cat is a little over a year old, and I adopted her at 11 weeks. She's been litter-trained, and has never missed, never had a problem with it. I clean her litter box every day, and nothing has changed.
I woke up this morning to the sound of her scratching at something, and walked into my bathroom to find a few little...presents...in my tub. I cleaned it up, put them in the toilet, and showed her.
This sounds odd, but she's really, really smart. I can only assume she figured out that the bathroom is where I do my business and she tried to do the same thing.
Does anyone have any experience potty-training cats? Or any ideas?
Thanks! (link)
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I've never potty-trained a cat, but I've always wanted to and I've done some reading on the subject for when my girlfriend and I get our own cat.
Basically, the idea is to move the litter box closer and closer to the toilet seat in incremental steps. You start out by putting the litter box in the bathroom next to the toilet, making sure that the cat knows where it is. After a few days of this, you put the litter box on a small platform (just a few inches off of the ground) next to the toilet, then a few inches higher until it's near the level of the toilet.
Once the cat is fully used to going at the same height as the litter box, you essentially suspend a container of litter above the water in the toilet, so that the cat has to jump onto the toilet to use it. After the cat has this completely learned, take the container away. Presto! Your cat is toilet trained!
Two very important things that need to be done. Always make sure to place the cat in the litter container each time that you move it so that your cat knows where it is. Second, make sure to reward the cat with a treat if you ever see it using the litter box in a new position: while it's not a very consistent reward schedule (you won't see it every time), it will help to show your cat how proud you are.
This is just a basic outline of it: you can probably find more in-depth information on Google.
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I've been going to my local video shop for years now, and this incredibly attractive guy just started working there. I didn't think much of him until a few friends pointed out (on different occasions) that he was checking me out. Whenever I'm at the counter he flirts with me, but I am the most socially retarded person ever and I can't flirt.
I Googled him the other day and found his MySpace page, and read his bio and his interests and such, and we share so many things in common it's absurd. I also found out his age. He's 20. I am 15. I'm in my second last year of high school. He's a second-year university student.
My question is this: Would it be acceptable if I made a move?
NOTE: I'm from Queensland, Australia & in our education system I will graduate two days after I turn 17. This isn't weird, I haven't been skipped up a grade, I just happen to be born at the end of the school year. (link)
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No, it wouldn't be acceptable if you made a move. I've repeatedly heard people respond to questions like this with "age is just a number" and "love knows no boundaries", but with a 20 year old and a 15 year old there really isn't a good way that this situation could end for either of you.
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17/f
i had sex with a guy and he came inside of me, and when i went to the toilet a whole lot of discharge came out, i don't know if it's a mixture of his and mine, or mine alone.. some people say it was a mixture of his too, but doesn't his sperm and cum go into my uterus and fertilizes my egg or something, instead of coming out straight after sex??
thank you!!! (link)
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It's just a mixture, as you suggested. While some of the semen will work its way up through your reproductive tract, the majority of it is lost to good old-fashioned gravity.
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What are some stores that are like Bebe, Express and even Free People where college girls shop at? Like dressy and edgy clothing not like Forever 21, AE, Hollister, etc
Thanks =] (link)
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Unfortunately, the stores that you listed are the only nationally present chains that cater to college-aged girls. If you're looking for clothes that you won't see on every other girl that you see around campus, you'll have to seek out smaller stores. Your best bet would be if you were to go to a large-ish city near you: there are usually more independently-owned stores in larger market areas.
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I have a problem...im 14/f and my boyfriend is 17/m. We have been together awhile and we do a lot of foreplay but we have talke and he knows im not ready for sex and wont be for awhile. I hvae given him bjs though. The problem is....HE WONT CUM! I think he enjoys it because he moans a lot and his toes curl and he looks like hes into it but tonight i tried and i went at it for 50 MINUTES. My jaw is aching and he wouldnt come. eventually he just pulled me up and started kissing me. I don't undrestand. Is it me or do some guys just not cum? Thank you.. :( (link)
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Some guys just aren't able to orgasm from oral sex alone: I've only been able to do it twice in the four years that I've been having sex. You should talk to him about it and try to find a way that you can both be happy without a broken jaw in the mix. You could tell him to finish himself off towards the end and take over right as he's climaxing. Works for me, still feels great.
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Well the title pretty much says it all.
I've come back from uni for the summer and I was tidying up the spareroom and found a tape in the machine. So i know it probably wasn't right of me to watch it but it turns out it was porn! I looked in one of his draws and there's like 7 tapes in there!
I really don't know what to do, I want him to stop doing it. But i don't know what to say to anyone? Or whether i should say anything at all?
I don't think it would bother me so much if he wasn't over 65!!!!!!!!!!!! It's disgusting!! And it's really on my mind loads.
we are moving house soon, so i was thinking maybe i could 'misplace' them in a bin somewhere and he wouldn't notice?
thanks in advance... (link)
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It seems that you're giving everyone who you don't agree with a "3" for feedback, but I figure I'll take a risk here in hopes that you're done looking for the answer that you want to hear.
Your dad is a human being, and he has sexual desires. Thanks to our life-history evolution as a species, males are able to reproduce over the course of their entire lives, and while there is a small drop-off in testosterone production later in life, we're still wired like animals even in older age. Your dad has probably had those tapes for the last thirty years, so nothing that you say will make him want to stop. He'll probably continue right into his grave.
And after all, why should he stop? EVERYBODY MASTURBATES! I'm not sure why you feel that you have the right to deny him of a basic human right.
So no, don't confront him about it.
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I was wondering, is there a way to trick the body into thinking that it ISN'T starving. Like if I am consuming 1200-1500 cal a day but I am like eating 3 meals instead of like 5 or 6, could I do something like have a slice of cheese or a slice of meat every hour or maybe like a slice of something every hour that way my body doesn't plateau in weight loss? (link)
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Best way to do that is to split up your daily food into 5 or 6 meals. The problem is that the amount of food that you're giving your body on that few calories and that few meals is not enough to keep it going until the next meal without making you feel hungry. If you have less to eat but eat more often during the day, you'll minimize the feelings of hunger. Also, this has the added boost of helping to increase your metabolism.
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So, I got a 75 litre backpack today, and I was just wondering, how do you attach a sleeping bag to the bottom? Putting it inside the backpack is not an option.
In the middle front(in the bottom) there's two stretchy ropes that are circles.
So yeah, can anyone help me?
Here's a picture:
http://i39.tinypic.com/2hn9cup.jpg
Thanks!
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Every time I've seen a sleeping bag attached to a backpack it's at the bottom within the two loops. You'll have to roll your sleeping bag really tightly to fit it in there, and possibly buy another one that is more compact in order for it to fit.
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Hey,okay so im having problems with my best guy friend
we have litteraly been friends since we were about 6 grew up together and that,can literally tell each other everything im probably closer to him then i am with my best girl friend.
anyway lately hes got a bit distant not overly but he used to text me every day always left me one or two x's etc,but now his texts have gotten really short just one worded answers no x's or smily faces so automaticly i sense somethings up.
i ask him is he okay have i done something to upset him?
all i got was yea im fine and no.
so i said okay look your talking to me here i know when somethings wrong just tell me and he said nothings wrong,i said alright then im here if you need me.
and he got seriously defensive saying look theres nothing wrong im absolutely fine jesus im going to get really annoyed if you keep asking just drop it.
so i didnt even reply said id leave him to cool off when he gets in moods its best to leave him cool off. but i havnt heard anything from him since and i dont want to text him first its like hes pushing me away all i want to do his help him?
he always helps me with stuff and i wanna be there for him too. what can i do? i cant loose him i really cant.
btw i dont know if this is any relevance but hes told me a couple of times how much he loves me and wishes something could happen between us but he knows that i dont feel the same and accepted it and things are fine that way..now im worried that maybe its becoming hard for him to be just my friend or something?
anyone any advice on what i should do?or what could possibly be bothering him and how to get him to at least talk to me and stop shutting me out like this!
thank you =)
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He professed his love for you and you've repeatedly rejected him, so I assume that's why he doesn't want to talk to you anymore.
I've never been able to come up with a good enough reason to explain it, but it's very rare for a man to remain friends with a woman in the situation that you've described. Nobody likes to be rejected, but being explicitly told by a girl that she has absolutely no romantic interest in you and then being asked to hang out with her and be her best friend is pretty much rock-bottom for a guy. I wouldn't say that he hates you because of it, but it clearly hurts him to spend time with you knowing that you'll never love him the way that he wants.
There are certainly some men out there who maintain relationships with girls who have rejected them, but it's very, very rare that they'll have the kind of friendship that you're after. He's probably realized that you're a lost cause in terms of dating, so he's decided to cut his losses and see if he can find love elsewhere.
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15/f
my boyfriend and I have been going out for almost 6 months. we have done everything, instead of sex. When he fingers me or eats me out, i dont think i'm getting the pleasure that i think i should be getting. I don't know if it's me or him. We're really open, and i tell him things like what he should do to make it feel better, but i dont know exactly what to tell him. What are good "techniques" for fingering and eating out? What does your guy do? thanks in advance! (link)
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It seems like you're having some physical chemistry problems, but it's most likely more due to your age (and the inherent awkwardness) than anything else. There is no physical reason why you aren't really enjoying it, especially if you're communicating with him about it. It could just be that you're not emotionally ready for it to feel as good as you'd like.
If you've never had an orgasm on your own, then you might want to start with that. Until you know what takes you over the edge, you'll never be able to get there with another person. Once you've gotten that all figured out for yourself, you'll know exactly what he needs to do to satisfy you.
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Yeah, so usually I'm good at confronting my friends about this, but this time, it's kind of hard, considering that it's my bestfriend since the first grade.
Well, she's been dating this guy for 6 and half months, but he's been nothing but a jerk ever since they've been dating for about one or two months. To her, he may be really sweet, and I'm happy for her, but for some reason, whenever she's with her friends, he turns all bipolar. He'll accuse her of cheating on him and calling her ugly names when she's done absolutely nothing. One time, after he called her a slut, I told her mom and then leaves a voicemail on her phone saying it's over between them, and that he can thank me for it, which left her in tears for the whole night.
He's 17 and can drive and she's 15, almost getting her learner's. So, he basically shows up wherever she is, and the only real friend that he has is her 16 year old brother.
I've confronted her before about it, but it almost turns into an argument, which we both don't want.
Please, help? (link)
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It seems that one of the hardest lessons that teenagers have to learn when they're growing up is to fight the temptation to get involved in the relationships of their peers. There are certainly a lot of couples out there who get along incredibly well, but there are a considerably greater number who don't appear to be right for each other. It just takes time for them to come to the realization that they aren't right for each other. Getting involved in the situation won't help anybody, no matter how ridiculous it may seem.
You'll find yourself in this same situation repeatedly over the course of your life, and the best thing that you can do is stay out of it. If their relationship works in the way that you've described, then it will end soon enough. You just have to make sure that you don't confront your friend about it and lose her because of some jerk.
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13/f (im turning 14 the 25 of june)
my boyfriend and i have a pretty solid relationship. We give each other space and understand each others needs. Out of all the school relationships, we have gone the healthiest and farthest. We have recently gone to the next level. (Hickies, fingering, feeling) honestly i love it, i might be young, but im in on romance. i wish he could do it everytime together, the flirting the touching... but sometimes it seems as if he'd rather play in traffic. I know he has deep feelings for me, and i think we may have a future together. But how can i get him to understand that i want more flirtation? (link)
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Best advice: talk to him about it. I've never heard of a guy your age who isn't nervous about physical contact with the opposite sex, so it could be that he feels a little uncomfortable. You'll find that having this talk will make everything go a lot more smoothly, and talking about the physical aspects of your relationship is an important hurdle.
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theyre not horrible but i had to take tylenol n i usually don't take tylenol anymore.
my period will be starting and i doubt it is associated with my period because this would be the first time getting a headache like this
okay so i took speed at 10 pm
and i was awake all till the next day of 9:30 am
i chewed gum during most of that time
my body ached
for two days
it doesnt ache anymore
but i still get headaches - (this is three days after taking speed)
when will they leave?
my cousin said a couple weeks the most,
and my friends say a couple days
and the chatroom people, as rude as they are say it will last for the rest of my life.
this is the first time ive taken speed
it was in a blue and red capsule
i look up red and blue
and there are weird results .
its like reddd and blue
like
as red as blood and as blue as crip
seriously
half and half
please help me
when will my headaches leave ? im worried ill have them for the rest of my life, im still scared i could have them for weeks.
am i inernally bleeding from speed?!
i am freaking out
my friend took speed all the time and she took x and all that she has no effects from the speed.
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Shouldn't last more than a few more days. I'll assume that you haven't taken speed very often before (or any other stimulants on a regular basis). A dosage that high when your body isn't used to stimulants will certainly give you a headache, but I wouldn't worry about it. If you're going to try speed again, try to go for a lower dose, maybe half of a pill.
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I am very very afraid of thunderstorms. Afraid to the point of periodically checking weather.com to see if there will be thunderstorms anytime in the near future. I can't sleep during them and its really taking a hold of my life. I was just wondering if there is a way to stop being afraid of thunderstorms. And if there is does it involve being outside in one? (link)
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Best way to overcome a phobia is to face it head on, no matter how frightened you are by it. It's not a technique that is used by every psychologist, but it certainly works. If you don't care about a technical example that I was taught in one of my psych classes, then don't read the next paragraph.
Let's say that you suffer from a fear of the dark, to the point where you have severe panic attacks when you are in complete darkness. While throwing that person into a closet and locking the door may seem like the most cruel thing in the world, it provides the person with a chance to face their phobia and realize that no harm will come to them. The fear and anxiety that are associated with the panic attack will continue for a short while, but as long as the option of leaving the closet is not given, the person will eventually calm down and the phobia will be overcome. This only works if the person is not able to escape from the situation: if they do escape, it only further perpetuates the fear because the experience will be seen as traumatic. There are also therapies that involve systematic desensitization to the object that provokes fear, slowly exposing the person to more dark areas until complete darkness is no longer frightening.
Of course, your problem is a little more complicated because you can't exactly experience degrees of thunderstorms, and you can't count on one showing up at a given time. Best advice to you would be to wait for another thunderstorm and sit with a friend outside (if there's a gazebo near you, that's a perfect place) during a thunderstorm. You'll hear the loud noises and see the flash of the thunder, but you'll realize that you aren't in any danger when you're outside in the storm and hopefully your phobia will go away.
God, I wish this was easier to explain without all the psychobabble.
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(not sure if i have this in the right catogry sorry if not)
anyway so i was out with friends last night and basicly i smoked when i was drunk =/
i feel horrible and so guilty now because its something i SWORE id never do or touch off of.
because my grandad was a heavy smoker and died of lung cancer,my mum smokes and has warned me never ever to go near them and i had such strong opinions about it.
if she found out she would kill me let alone be seriously disapointed
so ive gone against everything ive said or thought about smoking..
but now im wondering will this effect my health?,i dont mean to sound stupid but i smoked about 4cigs,could that do much damage to my lungs?
also ive still got a slight taste of them in my mouth even though ive drank loads of water and brushed my teeth like a million times how long will this take to away?
thanks for anyone who answers sorry if this seems incredibly stupid.
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The taste will go away soon enough: at this point, it's probably only psychosomatic. You did absolutely no damage to your lungs (whatever was done has been repaired in the time you spent writing out your question) and you have nothing to worry about.
I know that you see this as a major slip up and a violation of everything that you've ever believed in, but getting drunk and having four cigarettes is no reason to feel this guilty. Just don't take up smoking now: as somebody who has smoked and went through an entire year trying to quit (and succeeding), I can say it's the worst decision one can make.
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i've grown up going to a christian church and school and i pray everyday but i've never felt God's presence before...
i try to have faith and seek him but it's hard when i don't feel he's there and i feel like there's a hole in my life and i feel lonely but i just don't feel like i'm a christian even though i want to be.
how do i become a christian even though i've already been praying and going to church and have seeked him but don't feel anything?? (link)
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As somewhat of an atheist, I'm not sure that I'm giving you the answer that you're looking for, but I'll give it a shot.
Christianity is just one major branch of religion, and within it are a large number of groups with specific beliefs that separate them from others (Catholics, Baptists, Evangelicals, etc.). That being said, it could be that the reason you're having trouble is that you're barking up the wrong tree...so to speak. You may want to read up on a few other branches of Christianity other than the one that you're a part of to see if their ideals fit in with what you're looking for.
Perhaps Christianity isn't even the religion for you. You may find happiness with one of the other major branches of religion.
Belief in God shouldn't be something that you force yourself to adjust to conform to a specific set of ideals that are laid out by a group.
I hope you find what you're looking for, and I'm glad that you've got enough sense in you to consider your faith rather than making a blind committment.
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