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hello everyone. I'm 15 female. Is there something wrong with me coz nobody had ever courted me so far. Like nobody since ever. I've had no boyfriend. I live in a city, im active in community and popular in our school.
Uhmm yeh I'm boyish type but I'm girly still. I play with guys on school and talked with guys always. Guys say that I talk like them and whilst girls on the other hand say that im still even girly. I have lots of crush in school and some of them know that I like them but they never courted me. Is there wrong with me? Coz I want to get a boyfriend. Thank you. (link)
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I used to think there was something wrong with me sometimes. I used to look around and see that everyone was either in a relationship or had a crush on someone who actually liked them back. I'm going to list off a few scenarios why you may be in the situation you're in.
1. Your personality. Now I'm not saying you have a bad one but that could be the case. Or you could have a very dominant personality which a lot of guys get intimidated by. It's not a bad thing to be more dominating as a girl, I know the feeling of having such a personality. I hope you generally are a nice person, and a bad personality isn't ruining your chances of a boyfriend.
2. Boys are weird. A lot of boys don't show their feelings in the way that girls do, so there may be someone with a crush on you but you won't know. And sometimes as the most unexpected times they let you know.
3. You're "one of the guys". I know how it feels to be a tom boy. When I was younger and even now, I love to play sports with guys, hang with them etc. When that happens a lot of times they see you as one of the guys and it would be weird to date "one of the guys" if you understand what I'm getting at. It's like being friend zoned for us tom boys.
4. Just be patient. I know sometimes being single isn't the best feeling but trying to force something will be worse than having no one in the long run.
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I feel alone. One of my best friends moved and the other(Megan)... Well in the beginning of the year she kinda drifted off to this sneaky evil girl, Sam. The other friend of Megan ,sarah, spends her time trying to chase them around . I have given up trying to be close friends with Megan ;Megan hung out with us but as soon as Sam showed up she took her away. the first girl moved, And now I don't have anyone. I tried to get sarah to stop chasing her but it's no use. I'm not good at making new friends,and I recently spent the last month reading in the library during recess. I don't want to go prom shopping by myself or spend recess alone or not have a bday party cause there is no one to invite. And before you say "join some clubs. It'll help u make friends." I already am but no one gets me. Any ideas????
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Questions like this are particularly hard to give advice for. Not in any way trying to brag, I have never been in a situation like this so I can't say "it will get better" "you'll be okay" and just leave it at that.
Friends come and go. Being someone who is just about to exit high school, this is a fact. Yes I wish I was still close with some people but some people only cross paths once. It's slightly depressing, but there isn't much you can do. I wouldn't say move on from your friends yet, but prepare for the worst. (Not being close anymore)
I'm not very sure how to go about making friends because I make friends very easily but you need to be confident. Yes it is hard, and yes it takes practice. Join in on conversations even if for the first while you're just listening. Maybe the next time add to it. Add people from the clubs on a social network site, get their number and one day ask if they would like to do something outside of school.
As for prom,go with your mom! A lot of people do, popular kids even. Moms usually give the best input anyway. And don't worry about a birthday party yet. You have many more to come and by your next once hopefully you will have a group of new friends!
Good luck xx
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I'm a 14 year old girl I asked my mom to bye me a dildo or give me the money to. My mom whom is a bit protective said I'm peara phrasing " hell no!!!!!" What is the best way to masterbate till I save up for one (link)
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At 14 years old if I was your mother, I wouldn't buy you one either. Yes masturbation is a natural thing, but your mom isn't being over protective, there is just a certain age where it would be more suitable for those types of things.
As for the ways, you can use your fingers, or as I have seen is a popular one, pretty much hump a pillow. I will not go into too much detail as you are only 14, but online you can look and find tons of ways. Good luck xx
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what is the minimum % required in 12th class to get admission in DU(Delhi University)?
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Go to the university website and theu should have the kind of information listed somewhere. You can always email o4 contact someone from the university (from the admissions office perhaps) and they should be able to help you. Good luck xx
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hey i've been having a heavy heart beat every time i take a bath or get up from the bath. i also get heart palpitations at night before i go to bed. I am also a healthy and fit 18 year old girl with a history of anxiety BUT i've not once ever had this problem which leads me to question if this is heart related? i would love to read something comforting as this is a scary time for me please. please respond.. (link)
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As I am not a doctor and since you have not listed anynpossible factors, change in diet, routine, emotions etc., I can't say for sure what is the cause of these heart palpitations. My advice would be to go see a doctor. Sitting on an online ask forum can't ensure you proper answers so seeking medical help would be ideal. Good luck and hope you're alright hun. xx
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okay so I want to have sex with my bf and were both virgins.... all my friends tell me not to... they say it hurts ALOT and now im scared but I really want to have sex with him....
-how bad does it hurt?
-should I be scared?
-what is the most comfortable position?
-will the pain ever stop?
these are my questions... please awnser them! (link)
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It will hurt for your first time. Whether it's a lot or not, that varies from person to person. Once you are regularly sexual active, it won't hurt anymore; the pain will eventually stop. You shouldn't be scared but you should make sure you're ready, and use protection to avoid unwanted pregnancies.
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I have a crush on a boy but it turns out 2 of my friends have the same crush. They keep saying that they told him. I really want to talk to him but I do not know when I should. What should I do? (link)
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Personally if I like someone I don't really care who is interested in them, even if it happens to be a friend. However, be careful because some people will take it as being "backstabbed". There are no rules when you can and cannot talk to someone or how many people are allowed to like a person at once. Talk to him whenever you feel like it. Start up a friendly conversation and see where it goes.
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I am bisexual. No one is aware of this, and everyone just assumes that I am straight. Recently, a coworker of mine and I have been getting closer, and I'm starting to feel as though I am developing romantic feelings for her. As far as I know, she is straight.
How should I deal with my growing feelings for her? How do I handle my work relationship with her?
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I actually have similair problem. I'm gay and I like a girl at work who "thinks she's bi". Very hard to know if she's flirting back or not. Anyways, on to your question.
I don't think it's romantic feelings yet, just a huge crush. Infatuated with her if you will. Try to put in your mind that she's straight and it won't work. As harsh as thag sounds, it might just help. I used to hve a crush on this girl who is now my best friend. I turned that flirty energy into a positive means of gaining a friend. And yes there were times I just wish I could date her, but having her as a friend is better than nothing. So just try that for a bit. It's alright to have quick glances an such , just don't make it a habit.
I just don't want you to waste your time to pursue her and ruin a perfectly goos friendship
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In response to the question about visiting my mother in jail
How do you think this could change her parenting to me? Would it be eye opening for her to be in the punishment situation now? Maybe she'll go easier on me (link)
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I mean it's possible yes but then again she may be harder on you because she doesn't want you to end up in jail too
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my dad says he will not merry me he will merry someone eles... i was just thinking .. maybe gods making room for someone better to come around !!
but im thinking now god says merry him im in guessing its him ive liked him for 5 years or more and thats who i can only think of i dont know im really confused and really hurt of the things he does (link)
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This question was very hard to follow but I'm guessing if you're saying "my dad" that means you're his daughter? Or possibly gay son, I have no idea. But you shouldn't marry family members anyways. If you have more details such as age etc I could be able to help you a bit more with your question.
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Can opening a website on your phone put a hack and/or virus on your phone? Help ASAP please, I'm scared that might happen. (link)
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I don't think it's possible. I've opened way to many "unsafe" sites on my phone and nothing has happened. And I've never heard of anything of the sort happening unless somone who is smart enough deliberately tries to put a virus on your phone (which I doubt it possible), I wouldn't worry
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I wanna do something fun creatative and EASY for fourth of july for my nails. Ive done tie dye dipping and dripping designs but they dont turn out the way i want it. Soo can you please help. (link)
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Red and white striped nails are so cute and easy as pie to do! You can even do a small version of the American flag but that might be a bit too hard. You could paint your nails red, and on top do a firecracker in the colours white and blue. Or paint them then put JULY FOURTH on then. (One letter per finger)
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If you block someone on instagram, does that effectively "block" you from theirs? I know that's kind of the way it works with blocking people on Facebook; if you block someone, my only can they not see your things, but their things are hidden from you as well. Someone blocked me on instagram before I could get the chance to block her. I don't even care about seeing her things but I don't want her to see anything of mine, but of course since she's blocked me, I can't find her profile to block her back. So can she still see my things, or since she blocked me are my things already hidden? (link)
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I am 99.9% sure she can't see any of your pictures. Its usually works that way for blocking with anything really. So don't worry. And that 0.1% chance that she possibly could, I doubt she'd want to look at your pics if she blocked you
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15/f me and this guy have been talking for like a month or two on and off. we are friends and we hadn't talked for like a week or something and then he texted me like a week ago and then we started talking again like everyday until we went to bed. he started asking me to hangout with him and we always tried to make plans but something always came up. like he'd be like you wanna hangout soon? and i'd be like I cant right now and I actually couldn't I was dying my hair and i'd be like maybe later and then when we were talking later he'd be busy so then he'd be like im down tomorrow so then he'd ask me the next day and I was like I cant im going out right now and I actually was and I was like I'll text you later and I did and he was like you never texted me when we were supposed to hangout im out now I cant but tomorrow i'll see if I can . so the day after he was just saying he was bored just hanging out and I said the same thing but he never like "asked" me to hangout like he had before and then he stopped texting me out of nowhere the next day. and its been like 4 days since we talked and I wonder if I should just text him to hangout because I think he thinks I was blowing him off but I really wasn't I actually wanted to hangout with him. he also asked me If I wanted to hookup (makeout) awhile back and I said yeah I would and maybe he thinks now that if we hangout I wouldn't want to. he is a good guy and i'll be like lets hangout later at night and he wants to hangout during the day just me and him. I don't know what to do if I should just wait for him to text me or just text him and what do I say to not make it awkward even though we are good friends?! thankyou (link)
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Sounds like he does think you're blowing him off. I had the same problem before with this guy. He always wanted to chill when I was busy so eventually he stopped texting. I think you should text him first because if you both wait for the other person to text, no conversation will happen. Just text him and say: You may think I'm always blowing you off but I just wanted tell you I'm not, I'm just busy whenever you want to. Something along those lines and then ask him to hangout a time when you're not busy. If you guys are good friends, it shouldn't be awkward.
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My body itching an lil black spots r on me (link)
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Very vague question. I suggest going to the doctors to get it checked out or look for some online possible solutions
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My friend has many talents, like, sing, drawing, playing instruments. Well sometimes I feel like poop because it like she better than me. She gets random people on instagram telling her how talented and how pretty she is and sometimes it's like, wow what the heck am I. And the thing is she always like my life sucks or boring or something like that, but yet she's like the most luckiest person I know. She talks to people like Diamond White on twitter and get them saying stuff like I love you and your so amazing. And I always feel like a piece of poop when she tells me stuff like that. But I want to be happy for her, but it's just hard because I want to be able to draw and have people tell me I'm pretty ( even though I already believe it) and be able to talk to famous people too! (link)
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Jealousy is a natural thing. I have friends who get praised more than me and I have lots of talents (not meaning to brag) and I admit sometimes it bothers me but not everyone can get the same opportunities and same talents or else we'd all be the same. Just be happy for her and who knows, a chance to meet someone famous might come along!
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Sorry for the ineloquent subject/title. Anyway, I'm going to start out by saying I don't want this to turn into a debate. I just want my question answered. :)
So, possession of marijuana is illegal where I live (unless you have a license or whatever). And I haaaaaaaaate drugs, alcohol, things of that nature. Those things make me extremely uncomfortable. Now don't get me wrong, people have the right to smoke that stupid crap, but in a state where it's LEGAL. Here where I live, it's illegal, end of story. Well, I work at a grocery store, and let's just say some of my coworkers don't make the best of decisions... Sometimes, they come to work high. At it makes me so sad, mad, and anxious to be around that. I get SO uncomfortable. I think I have a right to not want to be around that. It's different if I'm at a party or something. If someone brings out the booze for us minors or people start blazing up, I can leave. But I can't do that at work. If I walked off the job, I'd be fired. I have to work close by these people, too.
I'm not making plans to sue or anything like that. And whether or not I should tell my supervisor isn't the concern. I was just wondering, because a friend and I were talking about this, and I said "When they come to work high, it takes away my choice to want to be around that crap or not. It infringes on my rights." Well, he goes "It only infringes on your rights when it's harming you. They're not harming you, so you can suck it up." I think that's bogus. My argument is, what about laws against sexual harassment or religious discrimination? If someone says "HEY, nice tits, baby! -Motor boat noises- ;)" that's considered sexual harassment, and they can get fired for that. That would violate my right to an unoffensive/non-hostile work environment. Same with drugs, I think. They're illegal, and they make me uncomfortable, and offend me. I choose to stay away from them. By being forced to work with those people, it takes away my right to choose.
What do you think? Do I have the right to choose to not be around that crap? Or is my friend right, they're not harming me, so my rights are not being infringed? Thanks for reading! (link)
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I don't understand why it makes you so anxious and mad. You said they come to work high, well they aren't physically smoking it near you so technically they aren't harming you. For example if someone just finished a cigarette, which IS legal and they came to work and you didn't like the smell of cigarette that lingered on them, there is nothing you could really do. Same with this scenario. If they just show up high then they aren't harming you but could most certainly losetheir job. I personally think your friend is right. You do have the right to choose not to be around it by simply quitting your job which I can imagine isn't an option. The law is tricky and so mant loopholes. But seriously I'm sure you can stick it out. :)
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From the 1st of July, I'm getting a pass to a gym. Fortunately for me, this gym is 5 minutes from my apartment and it means that I'm hoping to go work out every other day.
Ideally, I need to lose at least 20kgs, but I am not in a rush to do so (as in I don't want to starve or over-work myself)
I'm already eating better - mostly veggies, giving up sugary drinks. But my problem is, how can I motivate myself to go work out every other day and how long can I expect it to be, before I see results?
It might sound pathetic, but I only really reach a motivational state where I see a physical change in my body as well as feeling better and more refreshed - what can I do meanwhile that will motivate me to keep going?
Any input from somebody who has started working out without having really done anything before would be great - your experiences and results, etc :) (link)
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It's all in your mind. You have to have a strong mind to motivate yourself and stay on top of things. Tou know those urgea you have to sit down and stuff your face? You have to keep your goal in mind and be stronger than your urges. Aometimes writing out your workout plan down in a checklist form it may be easier for you. There's really nothing that will motivate you more than yourself unless you have a friend to workout with and they can help you stay motivated. Good luck! :)
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So say there's this guy, and he's like 23.
He's said that he has never dated anyone ever in his entire life and says that he is focusing on school. But then say you find out from a close source of him that he's a player and just wants to have fun. Not only that, he has done many one night stands and hook ups.. And that he has also one time hooked up with this girl and was seeing this girl for awhile afterwards but then that girl was already taken by another man but he knew but he still did it anyways cause he felt that she could've been the one... But it didn't work out anyways and has gone back to his old ways!
Anyways point of this question is do you think a guy like that could ever change his ways and be serious and be committed like say in the future? Getting it all out of his system ..
Or do you think he could never be changed and that if he ever did finally settle down , do you think he would cheat later on cause he would miss the wild single life ? (link)
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It's really hard to tell. I've always heard "once a cheater, always a cheater" but I don't exactly believe that. I think eventually he'll be able to settle down, but now is not the right time. I don't know what else to say besides anything can happen.
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my mother is going to jail for eight months for a financial crime. My dad asked if I want to visit her sometime because he said she would appreciate a visit and it could be an "educational experience" (What does that mean?)
I have no problem with my mother and other than this misdeed she was a good mother but I don't know if I should subject myself to go into a jail just to see her for a while. Does anyone know what it is like there and how the visiting works? I am a 14 year old girl by the way. Also, what can we talk about in the short time we probably have?
My best friend joked ""maybe it will remind your mom how it feels when she punishes you. when she comes back, things might be a little different". Even though she is joking she has a point. Kind of funny to think she is in the punishment situation now
also, my dad said I still have to listen to my mother when she gets out and even when she is jail if she calls and he wants her opinion on something he will listen. I don't understand how he can do this. I mean like I said I don't hate my mom or anything and had a good relationship with her but now that she committed a crime, her telling what to do would be hypocritical (link)
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From 14 year old I wouldn't expect a different reaction, but your mom didn't do anything TOO bad if she's only in there for 8 months. The visiting process is usually just both of you sitting at a table I'm pretty sure. It pobably won't be that weird at first considering she hasn't been in there forever but later visits might be a bit more tense. Yiu could talk about school, how jail is etc. And personally I still think she has a say in final decisions. She is still your mother and when she ets out she will still be taking care of you. Her crime was a financial one so no she will not be hypocritical.
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