I know that im just a teenager,but ive been around the block a few times and i chose advicenators to try and see if i could help in any way. I love giving advice and trying to help people,it absolutely makes my day! (: if you need anything,just ask...im here pretty much 24/7 and il help to my best ability.
Just a little bit about me
-im still in highschool
-im a cheerleader
-i play softball
-i love rock,indie,electro pop,the classics,and country music
-and im just a downright kind person!! :D
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19/M
I have been a thumb sucker my whole life. My New Years resolution is to quit it for good. I am going to go cold turkey. If that doesn't work, what else can I do to help me quit? (link)
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Im sure that when people read my advice column and they see that ive said that i can relate to all of the questions ive answered,they dont believe me. Heck,i wouldnt believe it if i saw it either..but the funny part is that ive related to every question ive answered. This is a question i can beyond relate to. I sucked my thumb up until 6th grade,and it was a secret i was going to take with me to the grave. I used to be really embarassed by it and only my really good friends knew about it. I would carry a blanket with me and suck my thumb when i was having a bad day..it was sort of like a stress reliever i guess. By the time that i got to 6th grade i started getting worried that i would never quit sucking my thumb and it really scared me...i didnt want to end up going through highschool and the rest of my life sucking my thumb. Id always tried quitting but nothing seemed to really work. One day,without my knowing,my sister took my blanket and hid it from me. At first i thought i was going insane..but later on i realized that it was for the best and i just kind of stopped sucking my thumb. Im pretty sure its just a security thing that makes us feel comfortable. So yeah,id definitely reccomend just quitting cold turkey..try and do things that will get your mind off of it. And this might sound wierd,but id invest in some suckers and gum..keep your mouth busy (: haha
hope this helped.
xoxo,taylor.
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16/f i am 5' 1 and weigh about 120 or 125 lbs. i never feel like i have energy. i eat alot of breads and such so i know im getting enough carbs in my diet. what can i do to have more energy? (link)
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As much as us girls hate exercising,it actually has several perks to it. Everyone assumes that exercising can only help you lose weight,BUT it also actually boosts your energy level and can make you feel 100x better! (:
If the exercising doesnt help out i would reccomend taking vitamins,such as vitamin d. You should probably talk to your doctor first though.
hope this has helped.
xoxo,taylor.
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Female-16
First of all, I have a pretty good relatonship with my mom. We can joke about stuff and get along well. Except when it comes to my clothing. She hates how I dress...skinny jeans, band tshirts, eyeliner, converse. It's the typical attire of a teenager today, right? She wants to dress me in leggings and dresses. I hate dresses and stuff like that. She sometimes makes me wear a dress and leggings when we go on an errand to walmart! She said to me twice already "I'm starting to question your sexuality." She obviously doesn't notice my crushes on rockstars and hockey players. I even have a boyfriend. I'm NOT gay.
What do I do/say to my mom to make her accept the way I want to dress? (link)
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Wow..so i have plenty of friends that dress like this and i actually dressed like that last year..and one thing that i can say is YES that is just a style. Some people dress like that as a fashion statement,rebellion,or just as an expression. To me,it sounds like yours is for a fashion statement..and who can blame you,its a cute look (: If your relationship with your mom is as good as you make it sound i would totally just sit her down and have a talk with her. Id start off by telling her how much you dislike the way she makes you dress sometimes,and that the reason you dress the way you do is because its the style and thats that. The whole "sexuality" topic can be a touchy one..but as long as youre comfortable with what you are then it shouldnt be hard to be honest with her and get her to see that you arent a lesbian. Id make a note to let her know that you cant base someones sexuality on what they wear. There are plenty of lipstick lesbians that wear the dresses and leggings that shes trying to make you wear. Im sure after you sit and talk with her shel see your perspective.
All parents really want is whats best for their kids,and maybe she just thinks your going through a stage of some sort.
Hope this helped.
xoxo,taylor.
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Okay so here's the deal... I'm fourteen, girl and I'm a freshman in highschool. I recently started dating a sixteen year old boy, sophomore. He's great and what not and weve been dating for a little over two months. The problem is this... Our town sucks. Haha, like really. There is nothing to do besides see a movie or go bowling. Weve done some fun stuff, like midnight sledding and guitar hero fests, haha, but its just hard to find exciting stuff to do around here... And the past few times weve hung out its just been chilling in one of our basements watching a movie. So its gotten pretty dry (not the relationship, the relationship is great) were just kinda bored... any ideas?? (link)
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Haha wow,so i can totally relate to this. Where i live there might be about 2000 people in the town and we dont even have a movies or a walmart..so consider yourself lucky lol. The nearest movies or bowling alley is about 45 minutes away and thats pretty much all i ever get to do when i go on "dates",if thats what theyl even count as. Something to remember about relationships is that theyre about the two people..not what the two people do. As long as youre in each others company im sure youl be happy doing whatever. Have you ever considered comparing your guy's interests,and then figuring out things to do. My boyfriend and i used to actually color together,and wed draw each other pictures with hidden messages (: Wed babysit together,play outside or just go riding around. All of those things might sound babyish to you..but if you think about it its actually the cutest thing you could do with a guy.
I hope this has helped.
xoxo,taylor.
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Hi well i read you're advice column and you seem to give really good advice. I'm a 14 year old girl and i really want a boyfriend. There's someone that i really like and i think have a good chance with. I've used loads of tips and i'm starting to look really nice. I went to my hairdressers and she put in some highlights. They are AWFUL. It looks like she's tried to dye my hair a disgusting blonde but missed lots of places. I have school next week and i was ready to look great for him but now ive got these and i dont know what to do.
HELP!!!
Thanks, Jazz xx (link)
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Hey! Im definitely up for helping you,and considering the topic is about boys i can totally feel your pain!
Something to remember about trying to snag a guy is that CONFIDENCE is a must. It drives guys crazy when a girl knows what she wants and flaunts it. You cant be insecure around a guy or that will just turn them off and they wont be interested. Another thing to remember,and this includes pretty much everyone in the world,is that we all want what we cant have. Now im not telling you that you have to play hard to get..but dont throw yourself at him,ya know? Let him know that you like him and if he wants it hes going to have to work for it (: As far as your hair goes it doesnt sound too much of a problem. I would reccomend going back to the hair salon and explaining to her your problem with your hair and i would ask her about different styles. Dont settle for just anything..afterall you are the one thats paying her and you deserve what you pay for. Maybe you could get an all over color? Like a dark brown? or a light blonde?
Just know that whatever happens with this guy was meant to be...if it works out for you then im very happy for ya..but remember,if it doesnt,its not the end of the world. I guarentee that youre a very pretty girl and there are plenty of other fish in the sea.
If you need anything else feel free to email me 24/7.
xoxo,taylor.
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So heres the deal, my boyfriend asked me to prom, and I need a killer hairstyle that I can do myself, I dont trust hairstylist, dont ask why, im just random like that...
any advice?
Thanks :)
Sondra/f/15/Canada (link)
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I figured itd be easier if you had a visual,so i looked up a few things on youtube and watched them for you to make sure theyd look good!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nBCxnQ9tMDU
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xmn_OCxszRk&NR=1
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=faRlrexRIEE&feature=related
hope these helped,(:
xoxo,taylor.
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19/female. this may be long but i'll return the favor ... thanks!:)
so my best friend taylor, who i have known since like 7th or 8th grade told me that she absolutely hates when girls put guys before their friends, and i'm the same way. i've never been like that, never will and its something i strongly believe in. well last night, i was with her, this guy she likes (shes hung out w/him like 3 times only) my two other friends and my cousin. well me and taylor had plans to hang out, because we wanted to give each other our christmas gifts and then we decided to go out to dinner with everyone then go bowling after. well taylor was my ride, i had my jacket in her car and everything .. i mean i rode with her. well she was acting weird the whole night and then after bowling we all didn't know what to do so we just decided to go back to my friends house, and i had ended up riding with my other friend back, because i had a feeling taylor would want to ride alone w/that guy. anyways so we get to my friends and taylor doesnt even get out of her car and the guy she likes has my jacket, and gave it to me. i was like uhhh whats going on?? and he was like we're going to go to my moms. i was furiated, i was like what the f*ck, why is she ditching us?? and she was my ride home!!! i mean my other friend ended up bringing me home but taylor didnt even ask or CARE. and she didnt even say bye or anything so i just walked passed her car and was like whatever!! she didnt say anything last night and then today she texted me and tried acting like nothing happened. so finally i said something .. i was like why did you ditch us last night for some guy you like just met, that was bit*h move. well then she made up all these excuses and i was like i'm done, done with this sutation and done with you and him if its going to be like that and she didnt say anything back.
i have a right to be mad dont you think?? once someone breaks trust w/me or something i strongly believe in, i dont just forgive easily. i'll admit i keep a grudge and i just cant beleive she did that to me. everyone i was with thought it was rude of her too. i just dont know what to do from here though... (link)
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So yeah,i do understand what youre going through because i went through it with my best friend not too long ago. Ive been best friends with this girl literally since we were born..our moms were best friends while they were pregnant and the friendship has just carried on. Were pretty much insperable,or so i thought. My friend hasnt really ever had a serious boyfriend until recently and now she acts like she has to be with him 24/7. When they first started dating and she started acting like that i didnt really think anything of it,but now it has just gotten progressivly worse. A couple of months ago i had my heartbroken and i really needed my friend to stay with me so we could talk about it. I called her non stop that night but she avoided everyone of my calls..so i just went on to sleep. I woke up the next morning and still didnt have any texts or calls from her so i called her one last time and (laughing) she told me that she must have not had service..and she blew it off like it was nothing. I thought id been pushed over the edge and i pretty much told her to f*ck off. We eventually made up and realized that we shouldnt end a friendship over a petty problem like that. Looking back on this situation i learned that as you grow up with your friends,things ARE going to change and thats just a part of life. It sounds like to me that youre afraid you will lose your friend to this guy? But if theyve only hung out 3 times and shes already ditching you for him,she must be too starstruck with him. Give her time,shel realize her mistake.
Friendship is a key part of life,and you shouldnt let something as silly as a boy interfere with that. Things will get BETTER!
xoxo,taylor.
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Hi,
I was looking at stuff online and was really surprised to find all this conflicting information on the effectiveness of condoms. My girlfriend doesn't take the pill so I've been using condoms.
She's not goin on the pill since she's from another country and only here temporarily. I only use the latex ones too.
So if I use non-outdated condoms, and put it on correctly and at the end it doesn't tare or anything and after inspecting it before throwing it away I see that no semen is leaking out somehow then shouldn't the chances of her getting pregnant be close to zero?! I hope so anyway...
I'd like to hear what others think about this.
Thanks a bunch- (link)
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Its a known fact that condoms are pretty much the only way to prevent pregnancy other than the other forms of birth control. Although condoms are highly effective,they arent 100% effective due to some mishaps that can occur. Obviously you know the possible mishaps and seem to be taking them very cautiously. So i guess the answer is no they arent 100% effective,but your ordeal sounds to me like you are making them almost 100% effective..so keep up the cautiousness and youl be just fine! (:
xoxo,taylor.
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Has Kate Moss written an autobiography? & what's it called? I can only find biographies in local book shops. Thanks:) (link)
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Kate moss has announced that she will be writing an autobiography rather soon..so nope its not been written just yet,but she has decided to use her time off from modeling to write this autobiography.
hope this has helped!
xoxo,taylor.
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so im grounded for winter breakk!!! yayy thats so much FUNNNNN!!!!!!!! ughhh omg yeah so iono wat to do with my life until school starts ); (link)
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Considering that i spend 50% of my life being grounded,ive learned a few tricks to help solve my problem. Ive noticed that while im grounded if i start acting super nice to my parents and i help do things around the house without being asked to they start to soften up and let me off the hook. If that doesnt help then,if i were you,id sit down and talk to them and try to apologize for what id done and see if theyd unground you or just shorten the time youve been grounded.
xoxo,taylor.
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I have a cat he's getting kind of old but he has had catyracts for quite some time now and now it is turning red what should I do? please help....please. (link)
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i would definitely recommend taking your furry friend to the vet,theyl know exactly what to do!
But if you dont feel like taking him/her to the vet,i would at least go out and purchase some time of eye drops that will help reduce the redness.
xoxo,taylor.
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soo a while back i texted a friend saying something inappropriate. not too bad, but i guess it'd be bad in a parent's point of view. i didn't think anything of it until he told me his mom read my text online... i was really freaked out. luckily she didn't say anything to my dad. but now i'm worried if my dad can read my texts or not online like my friend's mom. they had cricket or some cheap service. i have t-mobile. if i could get some info on this i'd really appreciate it. thanks :) (link)
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Actually,the person above me is wrong. There are ways for parents to read texts from their kid's phones..all they have to do is ask your service provider for a copy of your texts. They have a right to this considering that they are your legal guardian and they are more than likely the head of your service bill. Im not saying that your dad will go to these extremes,but it is a possibility. But more than likely he wont do that,so dont worry your head to much! And if by some odd chance he did find out what you were texting id either 1.) just be downright honest and apologize for what id done,or 2.)DENY DENY DENY!
haha,hope that helped some!
xoxo,taylor.
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16/f
i actually don't know how i feel about my boyfriend anymore, i don't know why but when i see him nothing really pops up, it's just normal.. it feels like it's an everyday thing or something. he even started noticing that i didn't seem so happy to see him or be with him, so now i act like i am. usually we get into arguements, but i'm tired of it so i end up avoiding any sort of conflict and stuff. i don't really want him to touch me as much or a kiss just seems like a regular kiss. i'm not sure whether my mind is just bored and wanting something new and if i'm just acting like i'm happy. or if i really am happy but i think that i'm bored, if you know what i mean. for example, you don't know what you have until you lose it.
i've been debating whether or not to end it... part of me does, but part of me doesn't because it was somewhat like a schedule that i can't let go. and i'm so used to seeing his face everyday and sleeping on the phone with him, and i do like him.. but i just feel emotionless or something, i'm not sure what it is.. help me please? (link)
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wow...so i recently just experienced this..and i learned quickly that if you start feeling bored,its time to LET GO. Whats the point in wasting your time and his? Someone will end up getting hurt in the end. Noone is to blame in this situation..it just obviously wasnt meant to be. 95% of the people in the world dont live their life..they spend it on never ending rituals..dont be a part of that 95%. Youre still young,so live your life! (: And if you guys do break up it doesnt have to be permanent. Id start off by asking for a break..in time youl see if you truly miss him or if this break should be permanent.
Remember: Whats meant to be will always find its way..you guys might end up getting back together in the end!
xoxo,taylor.
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I bleached pieces of my hair. I have medium brown hair. I have a lot of layers and i was wondering what would be some good places to put the blonde ?
I put some underneath my hair, some in my fringe, and some on certain layers.
I just bleached my hair tonight, and I used toning shampoo to get rid of the brassy tones, but it didn't get rid of all of them.
I can cut some of them out though, it's mainly the ends that are brassy. I was wondering if in 24 hours, I can make some more bleached places in different parts of my hair, also to take the dark brassy places and rebleach them for a few minutes?
afterwards i use that special brassy tone removing shampoo, deep condition moisturize them, and then i give them a protein treatment.
so will it be okay to wait 24 hours?
(all the bleached places in total would only be 30 % of my hair, so i'm not bleaching much)
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The idea youre going for sounds pretty cool..if i were you id throw some color around..like a coontail maybe? Itd be awesome to do a coontail on your bangs and then have random coontails in your hair.
similar to this--->http://media.photobucket.com/image/coontail/dramaqueen_am/hurrrcut/coontail.jpg?o=30
but substitute the brown dye with bleach,(:
hope that helps..
xoxo,taylor.
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I've stayed up all night tonight, i can't sleep. i just drank this situation away,but i know that never lasts, i just need to vent and ask for some advice on here.
I've loved him for 5 months, and yesturday i had so much hope. I talked to his bestfriend, and he told me straight up that *he really did like me. his best friend, said it was always me. i was going to talk to him today. But ah, today. One of my bestfriends comes over, and i mention him to her (they're related- so they're close) and how i felt about him. Then- she tells me her other good friend made out with him just the other day and he was interested in her. (yet his BEST friend told me that *he only "flirts" with her to make her feel better). I feel mind fucked, hahah. I can't sleep, i can't stop thinking about him and that girl making out (any possibly doing more, but i dont want to know). Now i really just want to hate him. I do, i feel nothing for him anymore..but i dont know why i still feel like shit. I don't know what to do now, i've spent so much time hoping for this-to realize it was all for something that was just in my head. Every time i have hope, it comes crashing down.I'm incapable of relationship. I just have no more will anymore. I dont even care. I just don't know what to do next and i'd really like some help from anyone at all, thankyou (link)
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Hang in there sister,life can be hard sometimes;especially if a man is present in the situation. I know you said you hate him now,but tell me this..do you think thats actually true? My theory is that true love never ends,and therefore your love for him will never end. It sounds like youre just having a break down right now..and thats perfectly normal. I tend to break down at least 3 months out of the year. When i experienced my first depression i wasnt sure what to do with myself..it was like i was having an out of body experience..i was numb to the world. The only advice i can truly give you is to realize that life goes on and your broken heart is going to heal with time. Perhaps this boy you love is just confused right now..everyone does make mistakes you know! Stay positive and just remember that IT WILL GET BETTER.
pain is inevitable..suffering is optional.
xoxo,taylor.
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I've been invictemed to a harsh and suprising dance and ditch. That's all I have to say to describe that. I was wondering if anyone had some tips on overcoming this. Thanks a bunch! (link)
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One thing to remember....most guys are jerks!
I agree totally,there are wayyyyyy toooo many fish in the sea for you to be upset about one stupid guy. I say you should go out and forget this other guy..its totally a waste of your time.
xoxo,taylor.
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15/f
I've suffered from an ovarian cyst which i felt like completely ruined my life for a couple of months. it was extremely painful and at times i would find myself unable to hold myself upright and end up simply having to crouch over in pain and at times cry. I hear that ovarian cysts are reoccuring and have what some might see as an irrational fear of getting another. i dislike having my periods in general and am wondering if it would be reasonable to ask my mother about maybe getting me started on birth control. also, although i've been thinking this over for quite some time before, i've also recently just started having sex. my mom's unaware of this. do you suppose she would find my reasons reasonable enough for her to consider putting me on birth control? thank you. (link)
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Your number one problem right here is that you arent telling your mom about having sex. Im aware of how hard it is to tell someone,especially your mom,that youre growing up...and a topic like sex can be especially embarassing. Although you might want to keep your mom from knowing about your sex life you must first realize that ADULTS ALWAYS FIND OUT! Ive learned about this first hand,and ive also learned that coming right out and telling your parents the truth is always your best option. It sounds like to me that youre just really wanting to take the birth control so you can continue with your sex,which isnt a bad thing! Im really glad to hear that youre searching for ways to keep yourself safe. Im not sure what kind of personality your mother has or how she would take to you asking for birth control..so im not sure how good of an excuse the cysts will be..she will probably tell you that shel take you to a doctor and find a different method to treat the cysts other than using birth control. If you have your heart set on receiving birth control i would just go ahead and be honest with your mom about you having sex. She will more than likely be proud of you for being honest and wanting to have safe sex.
I hope ive helped...feel free to ask any other questions,(:
xoxo,taylor.
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i want a tattoo on the inside of my lip but not a tacky one
anyone have any idea of a fashion logo or anythinv high fashion like a symbol or something that would be cute there?
or soemthing goth like a skull...
i want james dean but they dont do pictures!
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i do agree with the previous answer,TATS ARE PERMANENT!!,but i wont argue with you because i plan on getting a few myself when i come of age (: ha ...fashion logos? on the inside of your lip? Well..id personally go for juicy;like juicy couture. Itd be pretty cool to have juicy written on the inside of your lips for a couple reasons: 1.)juicy couture is pretty much the bomb,2.)itd be kinda like "in your face" simply because lips are "juicy" and i just think thatd be cute to have a tattoo of that!
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I live in SC and if I make the cheerleading team I will have to go to Fl and my mom and me are close and I don't know what to do? (link)
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lol karenr,that was a tad bit insensitive..i cheer as well and i can relate to this question. Something you must ask yourself,before i can help you,is how much does cheerleading mean to you? I know that you had said that you and your mother are close,but have you considered the options you can have? If you do indeed go to Fl and leave your mother behind it wont be a permanent thing! She can always visit and so can you. Parents love their childrens and are always wanting them to fulfill your dream. So if cheering is something you truly enjoy,i say go for it..things between you and your mother will be just fine!
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I don't even want to say I love him, but I think it's true. I don't want to think of him this way. He is my best friend. I can't tell anyone, "Hey, I lied I still like him. Hey, I'm not over him. Hey, I feel empty inside because he said he was going to love me forever, but he doesn't." I can not especially tell him. I told him a month ago that I would never mention "us" anymore, and I've kept to my word. By now he must believe that I am over him. I hope he does think that. But if he truly does, then it truly means he does not care and that he has moved on. It's so easy for him to mope about other girls and talk about them and me to give him advice, to cheer him on, to tell him to not give up. I tell him that he'll meet the right girl someday. I know that it isn't me. It can't be me right? If it was me, then he would know it. I have this break up book and have read some of it. I think it might have made my feelings resurface when I started reading it and actually feeling them again. I think I've tried to deny my feelings thinking that it's the easiest way to make them disappear. Life just changed on me so suddenly and I can't go back. How do I believe anything anymore? I know it was my fault but now I don't know how I'll trust a guy. It was bad enough before, it took me ages to open up to him properly, I'm scared. I'm scared that people lie and that love ends so suddenly without warning. And I thought everything was okay just yesterday. I don't know what to do. (link)
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I can honestly say that i am in the same boat that you are. Ive been in love with a guy for three years,and the only thing that i have gotten out of this fiasco is an empty heart and a head full of confusion. I told myself that it would be for the best if i just forgot about him and moved on...but i was totally wrong. All the sleepless nights and overflowing tears only made me realize that i was truly in love. The idea of being in love scared me,because i had never known such a feeling before. Of course i love my family and all,but this was different...this was a feeling that i couldnt explain correctly...all i knew was that i loved this boy and not having him made me miserable. It sounds like were experiecing the same thing...and all i can really tell you is to not give up. A wise man once told me that "good things come to those who wait",and thankfully that expression now applies to me. He came back to me,and now im not sure if ive ever been this happy. If you truly love this boy like you say,you will NEVER give up on him...true love has no expiration date,and thats a fact. In order to trust again youre going to have to admit to yourself your true feelings...if you want to trust others again you must learn to trust yourself first! We are our own worst enemies. So just hang in there,i know you can do this.
remember,pain is inevitable..suffering is optional.
xoxo,taylor.
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