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shes turned on me... for a guy???
19/female. this may be long but i'll return the favor ... thanks!:)
so my best friend taylor, who i have known since like 7th or 8th grade told me that she absolutely hates when girls put guys before their friends, and i'm the same way. i've never been like that, never will and its something i strongly believe in. well last night, i was with her, this guy she likes (shes hung out w/him like 3 times only) my two other friends and my cousin. well me and taylor had plans to hang out, because we wanted to give each other our christmas gifts and then we decided to go out to dinner with everyone then go bowling after. well taylor was my ride, i had my jacket in her car and everything .. i mean i rode with her. well she was acting weird the whole night and then after bowling we all didn't know what to do so we just decided to go back to my friends house, and i had ended up riding with my other friend back, because i had a feeling taylor would want to ride alone w/that guy. anyways so we get to my friends and taylor doesnt even get out of her car and the guy she likes has my jacket, and gave it to me. i was like uhhh whats going on?? and he was like we're going to go to my moms. i was furiated, i was like what the f*ck, why is she ditching us?? and she was my ride home!!! i mean my other friend ended up bringing me home but taylor didnt even ask or CARE. and she didnt even say bye or anything so i just walked passed her car and was like whatever!! she didnt say anything last night and then today she texted me and tried acting like nothing happened. so finally i said something .. i was like why did you ditch us last night for some guy you like just met, that was bit*h move. well then she made up all these excuses and i was like i'm done, done with this sutation and done with you and him if its going to be like that and she didnt say anything back.
i have a right to be mad dont you think?? once someone breaks trust w/me or something i strongly believe in, i dont just forgive easily. i'll admit i keep a grudge and i just cant beleive she did that to me. everyone i was with thought it was rude of her too. i just dont know what to do from here though...
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Everything is easier said than done. Your friend is probably blind to what she is doing. The trick is to try to understand it through the other person's eyes. See, she may really really like the guy. I'll admit that she is really wrong for ditching you like that, but in her mind she did have a reason, even if you don't think she does. You do have the right to be mad, but everyone makes mistakes. That's what life is about.
Try showing her what she is doing wrong. Have a heart to heart talk with her, you know? A friendship is never worth being broken up by some boy. I'll even admit to myself that if I met a guy that I ended up liking, I'd be blinded by love.
I understand completely what you are saying. If my friend ditched me for some guy, I'd be upset, too. But is it really worth losing the friendship you had? Think about it.
If you were in her position, you would need some understanding friends, she does too.
She will be surprised at how understanding true friends can be.
I'm very sorry for my long answer, but you asked a really long question ;)
Let me know how things turn out :)
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So yeah,i do understand what youre going through because i went through it with my best friend not too long ago. Ive been best friends with this girl literally since we were born..our moms were best friends while they were pregnant and the friendship has just carried on. Were pretty much insperable,or so i thought. My friend hasnt really ever had a serious boyfriend until recently and now she acts like she has to be with him 24/7. When they first started dating and she started acting like that i didnt really think anything of it,but now it has just gotten progressivly worse. A couple of months ago i had my heartbroken and i really needed my friend to stay with me so we could talk about it. I called her non stop that night but she avoided everyone of my calls..so i just went on to sleep. I woke up the next morning and still didnt have any texts or calls from her so i called her one last time and (laughing) she told me that she must have not had service..and she blew it off like it was nothing. I thought id been pushed over the edge and i pretty much told her to f*ck off. We eventually made up and realized that we shouldnt end a friendship over a petty problem like that. Looking back on this situation i learned that as you grow up with your friends,things ARE going to change and thats just a part of life. It sounds like to me that youre afraid you will lose your friend to this guy? But if theyve only hung out 3 times and shes already ditching you for him,she must be too starstruck with him. Give her time,shel realize her mistake.
Friendship is a key part of life,and you shouldnt let something as silly as a boy interfere with that. Things will get BETTER!
xoxo,taylor.
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Dude, she deserves to get pelted with anger. She's a damn hypocrite. I completely understand why you're angry with her. In fact, I encourage you to be angry with her. Show her that you don't like hypocrites or backstabbers! Well, I hope she doesn't do it again. :) Get things sorted out with her, and merry x-mas & a happy new year.
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