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I work in a fast food reastaurant thats always busy...I never eat there but I'm always moving around and I'm never sitting...am I losing weight??? is this considered exercise??? (link)
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1. am I losing weight???
Good question. Why don't you weigh yourself?
2. is this considered exercise?
Sure, if you want it to be exercise. Exercise is anything that gets the blood pumping, whether it's walking, gardening, or running a marathon. I think your job could be considered exercise, but I wouldn't call it STRENUOUS exercise. You probably won't notice any noticeable difference in the way you feel or the way your muscle tone looks, unless you do a lot of lifting. Standing and walking around a restaurant does burn calories, but it definitely isn't a real workout.
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where couldi go to buy free 80s clothing ... not ebayi already tried that... i donno how to do it ...i need 80s clothes for my parties i have and stuff ...i am A HUGE! 80s person im only 13 but i want 80s clothes the 80s is my life i dont wear 80s clothes to school only to parties i need free 80s clothign online only .. where ase some good places.... NOT EBAY! (link)
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How about on Ebay?
It's not that hard to work, you just sign up for an account and away you go. It's honestly the best place to find everything you can imagine, and one of the only places you can order online without needing to enter credit card information.
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Hi my name is Bailey, i am 13 yrs. old and in the 7th grade. I would like to be either a dancer, singer,poem writter, or a film maker. I like doing all of theese things what should i do to figure out which path i should take to find my career (link)
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The average adult changes their job/career 8 times during their lifetime. You are 13. I know 30 year olds that still live in their parent's basements and don't have a clue what they are doing with their lives.
You don't need to be picking a career when you're 13. Do lots of different things, or else you could be missing out on something you're really good at. When I was 13, I probably wanted to be an astronaut or a ballerina or something like that... But since then, I have changed my mind about 47 times. I'm 19, and I still have no idea what I want to be. That should give you some sort of consolation, although, the 30 year olds in their parent's basements is a much funnier story.
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I feel positively idiotic asking a question about "love" but anyway. There is a guy at my middle school who I recently found out has a crush on me...a freakishly huge crush. We're friends, and I used to think he was just teasing when he make jokes about his "undying love" for me. To tell you the truth, it's kind of creepy. He's a great kid, but I don't like him the same way. How should I tell him without destroying a friendship?~ insanity_will_dominate (link)
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Certain types of friendships are worth destroying. If he's weirding you out, maybe this is one of them.
Just remember that he feels differently about you than how you feel about him. So technically, it's not a friendship to him. It's trying to get you to date him. If he knows you don't want to date him, sure he'll be crushed temporarily, but it's a lot better than the permanent scar you can give him by leading him on... Even though you think it's a platonic friendship, he is secretly wanting it to be more. And, if he's creeping you out, I suggest maybe you let him know flat out that you're not interested. Hopefully he'll get the hint and move on without destroying the wonderful bond the two of you hold. Ahem.
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I am getting soo fat these days and i cant seem to get the weight down i have been eating good but when i jump on the scale, im still the same weight *sigh* I'm getting more depressed then ever...if I eat only once a day will i lose some weight???? please help! (link)
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You will lose weight if you only eat one meal a day, sure. But after a few days, your body's metabolism adjusts to your new caloric intake and operates on how much you are putting into your system. This means that if you only eat one meal a day that is 700 calories, your body start shutting down on itself because it needs about 2000 calories a day to function properly.
Also, if you only eat one meal a day, your metabolism slows RIGHT down. Everything you eat after this will automatically transferred into fat anyway.
Recent studies have shown that eating 6 smaller meals throughout the day is actually better for you and your metabolism than just eating 3 larger meals (breakfast, lunch, supper). By eating 6 smaller meals, it keeps you feeling fuller longer, and it keeps your blood sugar up all day so you don't feel sluggish and cranky.
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i dont know what to do!!!!!!! im so scared everynight that im going to get kidnapped or something!!!! how do i get over that fear so i can sleep at night?? (link)
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It sounds like you might have a phobia...
Lots of people have phobias, whether it be fear of spiders, clowns, closed spaces, or being kidnapped. Most of these fears are irrational, but still, the thought of being kidnapped is obviously a horrifying thing to imagine. For right now, the only advice I can offer is that you really have to make a conscious effort not to let thoughts of being kidnapped consume your thoughts. One technique that I learned from one of my professors in university is to think about a time in your life when you were exceedingly happy, and whenever you feel a thought or anxiety attack coming on about thinking of being kidnapped, concentrate all of your energy and your mind on thinking of the time when you were happy and safe. You need to feel safe in your bed when you sleep at night, and this might just help.
If the problem persists, you really should talk to your parents about it or go and see a therapist; you can probably even find one in your school. Sometimes talking about things with a person can help to subside your fears. Therapists are also very knowledgeable in finding ways to help you with different
techniques.
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If I stop eating will I lose weight?? (link)
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Well, the answer to your question is yes. Had you asked, "If I stop eating will I die??", the answer would also be yes. Decide which is more valuable... To be able to look like Paris Hilton in a mini skirt, or to be another statistic teenaged girl who falls into the claws of anorexia.
If you don't want to become ill, don't stop eating. Choose more sensible ways to lose weight. I wrote a huge post on this a few days ago that's available below. That should probably help. If it doesn't, send me another message and I'll see what I can do for you.
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last year i fell in love with a woman while living in korea. however she was a smalltown korean girl with a boyfriend, and it being the first time i had ever fallen in love and having noone to talk to about it i quit my job and flew back to england. she got married to her boyfriend in November and i havent spoken to her since. I now work in Japan, but i think about her every day, wishing id married her, and no other girl even comes close to her. some days i just feel very depressed and other days i want to fly back and live in korea just to be close to her. what can i do?
im a man. age 27. (link)
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Well, considering I'm slightly younger than you, I can't offer you advice from a "wiseness" perspective... The best I can do is to offer you a little insight in how I perceive the situation.
I think that the thing you need right now is closure. If you fell in love with a wonderful woman and then left soon after, of course you will continue to be in love with the fantasy of the woman whom you "loved". But the thing is... It's just a fantasy... I'm sorry to say, but there is nothing that you can do that is morally correct to try and win her away from her current husband. I think that the best thing for you to do, however, is to get contact with her and speak to her, either over the phone or in person. Not to profess your undying love for her, mind you, but rather to find out how her new life with her new husband is. Realize that she is very content with her situation. It will hurt you at first, but it will give you the closure you need in order to move on from this woman.
I know that this probably isn't the most satisfying solution for you, and I know that you'd really rather hear, "The gallant thing to do is to fly to Korea, profess your love for her, and carry her off into the sunset a happy man and his bride-to-be." But I really don't think that is the solution. I think what you need is closure, and you won't gain any by sitting by your lonesome, fantasizing about the lost love that could have been.
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hey,for april fools these guys in my grade got a really popular guy to ask a girl that is really nerdy out! and she was so excited and said yes right away and sfter she said yes he told it was an april fools joke. everyone in my grade thatought it was really funny and everybody still laughs at her!!! i feel sorry for her and i want to stick up for her but i dont want to lose my reputation!!! what should i do???
CONFUSED (link)
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Sticking up for her probably isn't the best way to go about things. Everyone in your grade laughed at her because it made them feel a sense of power and that they were higher up on the high school food chain than this poor girl. If you tell them to stop laughing at her, all they'll do is laugh at you, too. Sad, but it's true.
The best thing to do is to talk to the girl in private and tell her that what all those people did was really mean and that you're there for her. Right now, she probably needs a friend, and you can do that for her. It'll probably make her feel 10 thousand times better to know that she at least has one person in school that isn't laughing at her behind her back.
I can't give you any advice on how to not "ruin your rep" because I never had a "rep" in high school. I thought reputations were a waste of time, especially if it's considered "bad for your rep" to associate with "nerds". Personally, I think that "nerds" are the coolest people of all because they don't care about stupid things like "reps". I've said "nerd" and "rep" about 28 times in this paragraph... I hope you get the picture.
So, to sum up... Reputations are a huge waste of time that make absolutely no difference to you after you graduate high school. If you're afraid to sacrifice your coolness in order to help somebody, then don't. But remember: The real "cool" people are the ones who don't care about what other people think.
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what are caffeines effects on the body? (link)
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From: http://www.motivationstation.net/caffeine.htm
"Caffeine is a stimulant. That is why so many people rely on a cup of coffee in the morning to "wake them up". Luckily caffeine doesn't impair judgment, therefore it is widely accepted as a stimulant. Side effects from caffeine can be felt within an hour of consumption, and include increasing the breathing rate, heart rate, blood pressure and secretion of stress hormones, and some other hormones as well. It is also a natural diuretic, therefore dehydration is a concern. To combat dehydration, drink an extra glass of water above your normal intake, for every caffeinated drink you enjoy."
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I am 17. When me and my boyfriend were first together, things were so great. We used to do so much together. We saw eachother everyday. We couldn't stand being away from eachother. Infact, we couldn't be away from eachother so much that he convinced his parents and I convinced my mom to let me move in beacause it was like we practically lived together anyway. We've been together for 8 1/2 months, and lived together for about 3. I love him so much, but now at days I can't tell how much he loves me. We rarely do anything together anymore. He's always hanging out with his friends. infact, about 5 mins ago he just left with his friend to go watch a movie on his friends big screen. The only reason he came here was to get a movie, and mind you its 2 o'clock in the morning. This is how it is for me every night for like the past 2 weeks, I am up til like 3 waiting for him. I tried to tell him how left out I feel but I havn't seen any improvement. Just now I tried to talk to him and he said "I'm sorry, do you want me to take you back home?" its like his solution is breaking up. I feel like I am last on his list. I don't know what to do. (link)
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It's important to realize that in all relationships there is a stage that everyone goes through at the beginning where you always want to be together with your new love, where you believe that you'll never tire from one another, and that you can't imagine possibly being apart set in. You two felt this... And took it much, much too far. You two are young adults, but in all honesty, much too young to be making a committment to be living together and having the expectation that you will spend every waking minute with one another without growing tired of one another.
It sounds as though your boyfriend has gotten past the "honeymoon stage" while you're still stuck inside of it, wondering where the old boyfriend went. He wants to spend time with his friends, and I think that the knowledge of you always being there waiting for him when he gets home is a little bit scary to him right now.
Here's my advice: Move back home. You're young... Spend time with your family and don't jump into situations as serious as moving in with a boyfriend of 5 months. This relationship may not be over, but I definitely think that the two of you need to spend time apart before you can move on. If you continue to live at his house, I think that it's inevitable that he will keep pushing you farther and farther away while you are left alone in his home wondering what you did wrong.
EDIT: Your immaturity astounds me. If you were not looking for someone's honest opinion, you should have just typed "Somebody please tell my 17 year old undeveloped mind that my boyfriend whom I have been dating for 8 and a half months still loves me more than anything in the world and wants to come home every night for the rest of his life to see me there."
The way in which you chose to not even consider my advice, insult my integrity, call me immature names, and take the advice that you had already formulated in your head simply reaffirms the belief that I already had that you are an immature girl who has no idea what she is getting herself into. Best of luck to you.
Lauren
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Can any of you guys help me, because I can't seem to get a picture onto my advicenator homepage. If yyou can help me, thenwould you please wirte me back telling me the steps into getting a picture onto my homepage? PLEASE AND THATNK YOU!!!!!!!
P.S.: Thery said that my picture wasn't valid to the files jpg, gif, or png. What does that mean? (link)
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It means that you probably tried to load a .bmp image. Bitmap images aren't supported on this site. You can change a .bmp image to a .jpeg image if you save it as a .jpeg in either Adobe Photoshop or Ulead PhotoExpress. When you're going to save it, you can save it as file type ".jpeg" instead of ".bmp"
Other than that, you can go to the image through "My Computer", right click on it, click on properties, and change the image from a bmp to a jpeg. This doesn't work on all computers, but it worked on my old one, so maybe it'll work for you. The best way is to edit it through one of the editors I mentioned above. If you edit things in Paint (the default microsoft drawing thinger), they are automatically saved as bitmaps.
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i am hearing things that my boyfriend is cheating on me and when i ask him he said no. what should i do? please help!!!!!!!!!
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Your statement is slightly ambiguous... Who are you hearing these things from? Are you hearing it from somebody who you trust, or are you hearing it from someone who is either out to get you or your boyfriend? I'm assuming you're in junior high or high school... People make up stories like these all the time in school just to stir things up and rock the boat. There could be lots of different reasons that a story like this could be formulated... By a cruel person to see you two go through agony, by a jealous guy who has a crush on you and wants to date you but can't because you have a boyfriend (and then hopefully when you dump this guy for cheating on you, he'll have a chance), or by a jealous girl who wants your boyfriend.
Although these are just "stories", I wouldn't completely rule out the fact that they may be true. There is no way to know whether or not your boyfriend is being dishonest with you when he tells you he's not cheating. How long have you two been dating? Does he have a past of cheating on his previous girlfriends? How does he act when you ask him about it? Does he get defensive or violent, or does he look you in the eye and tell you that he'd never do that to you?
It's very dangerous to believe every piece of gossip you hear from your peers, because most of the time, it's either a formulated piece of garbage, or an exaggeration of the truth. If you start feeling as though this relationship is on a downhill slide and that you can no longer trust him, I think it may be time to end it. A relationship without trust is one that is doomed to fail.
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i like this guy and hes my friend a really good friend but hes really shy. right? and i thought he liked me by the way he acted but idk how ican find out with out him knowing or being too obvious. HELP
love stricken brunette (link)
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Are you happy with just being his friend, or are you only his friend because you want it to be something more? Do you "like" him enough to risk ruining your friendship if the two of you ever broke up?
I think that the idea "you guys shouldn't date because it'll ruin your friendship" is rather stupid... Obviously you like him and want to date him. And, believe it or not, he probably has at least somewhat of a clue that you'd like to date him... You're probably sending him signals even if you're not meaning to... Smiling more at him, gazing lovingly into his eyes, laughing more at his not-so-funny jokes, talking to your friends about him more... So, I guess the question is, have you noticed him acting any differently around you? Has he been any more shy or uncomfortable around you lately? Has he ever mentioned the possibility of the two of you dating?
The bad news is, if you start analyzing every little thing he does as a signal, you are going to eventually go crazy. The only way to really find out for sure if he "likes you" is to ask him... Whether or not you ask him yourself depends on you... Some other popular methods among teenagers are the ever present "do you like me?" note, or the "get my best friend to ask him without me being around" technique. Other than that, you're going to have to keep guessing.
Of course, part of the fun of having a crush on a boy is the constant guessing of whether or not he likes you, and the giggling about how cute he is with your girlfriends. But when you grow tiresome of the giggles, and feel as though your head will explode with the constant guessing and anguish you're experiencing, maybe it's time to ask him out by yourself. Good luck!
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i am getting so fat these days and i try to work it off but i cant and whenever im bored i always just eat!!! i cant help it!!! eveyone at school is calling me a fat weaner and they always ask me if i want some cake! please help!! (link)
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First off, you already answered your question... You're gaining weight because you are eating when you're bored, not hungry, or depressed about your weight. It becomes a vicious cycle because you get depressed about your weight, you eat, and then you get even more depressed about your weight. Here are a few suggestions for you to try:
1. Get rid of the really bad junk foods in your house. Make it a habit when you're first kicking this food addiction to reach for fruits or vegetables instead of chocolate bars or candy when you're bored or depressed and feel the need to eat.
2. If you're bored, to get your mind off of eating, go for a walk, or anything that just gets you up and moving... Away from the cupboards and fridge.
3. Whenever you're craving something that is bad for you, go to the bathroom and brush your teeth instead. I know this sounds dumb, but it's a trick that I've heard a lot of people do. I tried it myself when I tried to give up junk food for a while, and it actually worked.
4. In order to change your weight, you need to change your attitude. If you keep thinking of yourself as a "fat weiner", you're never going to get anywhere with your weight loss. Think positively, and remember that weight loss is a steady process and you won't see results over night. The fad diets and exercise routines you hear about on infomercials don't actually work... The only way to truly lose weight is to combine a healthy diet and exercise.
5. Exercise comes in lots of different forms. Do you play any sports? If you drive to school, why don't you make it a habit to walk instead (if it's close enough)? At lunch time, instead of going back for seconds of desserts, why not pack up with a friend and go rollerblading or for a walk?
6. www.fitday.com - You can sign up for a free account and it keeps track of the calories, fat, carbs, protein, etc. that you've eaten throughout the day. It takes a bit of committment, but if you're serious about losing weight, this can be a very good trick to help you see just what you're putting into your body. Gaining weight is not just embarassing for the way you look on the outside, it can also be very bad for your health.
7. The only way you'll be able to seriously make a change in your lifestyle is if you, yourself, honestly make the effort to change it. The insults from your peers won't make a difference until you decide to change yourself. I'm sure you're very beautiful regardless, but I hope that you are sucessful in taking control of your life and creating more self esteem for yourself.
8. It's always easier to tackle a diet/exercise routine/etc. when you have a friend by your side. That way, you have responsibility to go running with them, or to eat healthy lunches with them. When you don't feel alone in the world, it makes trying to lose weight a whole lot easier.
9. Remember that weight loss is a slow process. If you don't see results right away, don't get discouraged... It takes time. Especially in teenagers, when our bodies are still developing, hormones are going crazy, and all that wonderful stuff, it can be very hard to lose weight.
Whew, I wrote a lot. I hope it helped... Good luck with everything... I think that if you really want to make a change, you'll have no problem changing your lifestyle and becoming a more healthy person.
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