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lost love in korea...
last year i fell in love with a woman while living in korea. however she was a smalltown korean girl with a boyfriend, and it being the first time i had ever fallen in love and having noone to talk to about it i quit my job and flew back to england. she got married to her boyfriend in November and i havent spoken to her since. I now work in Japan, but i think about her every day, wishing id married her, and no other girl even comes close to her. some days i just feel very depressed and other days i want to fly back and live in korea just to be close to her. what can i do?
im a man. age 27.
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i heard a saying once that said "If you love someone you'll let them go and if they come back to you they'll be yours forever". go woth that saying write to her ease yourself back in to her life by mail, and when your comfortable enough ask her how she feels anout you. It may not be the answer your looking for but then you'll know where she stands.
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Write her a letter explaining your thoughts and feelings to her and maybe if she is your true love :then maybe she will understand what has happened from your past then maybe she'll find you.
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Well, considering I'm slightly younger than you, I can't offer you advice from a "wiseness" perspective... The best I can do is to offer you a little insight in how I perceive the situation.
I think that the thing you need right now is closure. If you fell in love with a wonderful woman and then left soon after, of course you will continue to be in love with the fantasy of the woman whom you "loved". But the thing is... It's just a fantasy... I'm sorry to say, but there is nothing that you can do that is morally correct to try and win her away from her current husband. I think that the best thing for you to do, however, is to get contact with her and speak to her, either over the phone or in person. Not to profess your undying love for her, mind you, but rather to find out how her new life with her new husband is. Realize that she is very content with her situation. It will hurt you at first, but it will give you the closure you need in order to move on from this woman.
I know that this probably isn't the most satisfying solution for you, and I know that you'd really rather hear, "The gallant thing to do is to fly to Korea, profess your love for her, and carry her off into the sunset a happy man and his bride-to-be." But I really don't think that is the solution. I think what you need is closure, and you won't gain any by sitting by your lonesome, fantasizing about the lost love that could have been.
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