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Ok, so I let my boyfriend finger me for the first time the other day, and it wasn't great at all.
Whenever I do it myself, it's awesome, but I just can't...you know....'get there' when he does it.
Any ideas on how I can help him, or whatever, without insulting him?
Thanks
It's a good thing you can get off yourself, because now you can teach your boyfriend! (without him knowing, of course) When he's fingering you, you can guide his finger to the right spot and once he's doing the right thing, be sure to make some noises of appreciation so he knows he's doing the right thing. You could also masturbate in front of him (he would think you're the sexiest girl ever) and by watching, he could see what you like.
My boyfriend & I are starting college this fall. But, (we haven't picked schools yet) chances are our colleges are going to be hundreds of miles apart.
My dilemma: I have no idea what the hell we're going to do when we have to live in different states. I don't know if i'm going to be able to put up with a long distance relationship. It's not that I don't want us to be together, I just don't think I'll take the time apart well. What can I do? Do long-distance relationships EVER work out? How much more work are they?
Also, how can I talk to my boyfriend about this without it sounding like a sugarcoated version of "i dont' think we'll last past high school"?
My currect boyfriend and I were actually faced with the dilemna of having a long distance relationship, and we ended up being apart for about a year. We texted all day, talked on the phone every night, and had phone sex and sent dirty pictures to keep the sexual connection. Now, we're literally next door neighbors to each other and couldn't be happier. Long distance relationships are completely possible if you have faith in your love for each other. Talk to your boyfriend about your concerns and also think to yourself about how much you want to be with him. If anything, you could just try the long distance thing for a while, and if you happen to meet someone else thats in closer proximity to you, go from there. But you should definitely talk to your boyfriend about it, he's probably having the same concerns.
I was with my boyfriend for 1 year and a bit, he broke up with me last week on Tuesday. Then, the day after, we spoke and he said he just wants to call this a break and he already missed me and the only time he was happy that day was when he was talking to me. He then said he needs a few weeks to decide if we're going to get back together or not. Sunday night he was being a bit off with me (we decided to still be as close friends and we have been) so I said to him "It seems as if you've already made your decision" and he said he had. And that he doesn't want to get back together. Then, Monday and Tuesday night we just had such a good conversation on msn, like on Monday it was for about 5 hours non stop, only a few hours on Tuesday. He's told me he misses me, and we've got school holidays starting tomorrow and he had said last week that we can meet up in the holidays. So, I asked him last night about meeting up this weekend and he said he's not sure yet.
We can't get into a conversation about 'us' without us nearly arguing - one of us backs off, we've never ever had a serious argument, so I don't know how to get him to tell me how he feels. He's said he needs time but in the meantime we can be still be good mates and I have done that. He's just confused me so much. I've thought maybe he just needs to sort his own head out as well as deciding about us? Because it's a mystery to me how he said he needed a few weeks to decide, yet he decided in about 3 days!?
Idk really. I guess I'm just looking to vent or something. I've recently found out I'm depressed and have been since for a few months which I hadn't even noticed,(my mum dealt with the same thing a while ago) and I know I'm not ready to give up on him yet. I mean, it was only 2 weeks ago he was saying he couldn't imagine us not being together. We're each others first love.
I think I've come to the conclusion to meet up with him during the holidays as friends and just see where it goes from there, if we get back together then I know what to do right this time round.
I think most girls on here would say something along the lines of "guys are arseholes", "guys do nothing but play with girls' emotions". But no, he's the sweetest and nicest guy I don't think he would cause me this pain on purpose.
So, does anyone have any experiance with something similar? Or just any input on this whole situation?
I feel like this exact thing has happened to me! A guy broke up with me but then we'd still be having these long talks and we even continued to hook up for awhile! I think that guys like this don't know how to treat girls, but they're not doing this on purpose. My advice, play hard to get. If he's going to be confusing and indecisive, he should have to work to get your attention. If you don't go running back to him everytime, he might figure out that he does actually want to be with you and he should get his act together before you lose interest! You're the girl and the girl is the one that should always hold the cards!
Ok, so (Male, 18) I just got off the phone with my girlfriend after an hour-long argument that was about nothing more than my leaving her house to go home and finish a four page English paper and do some college stuff that needed to be finished.
I was over there just hanging out, cooking some bars with her and I suddenly found out that I had to finish some college things before 5 o'clock and, in addition, i had to revise an English assignment and my math assignment.
We had plans to be together all day, but my teacher bumped the deadline up to tomorrow during school today, so i changed plans a little so i would probably leave around 6 or so, that way I'd have time to finish it. When I told her this, it just about ruined both of our days right there, but she managed to get over it until my dad called and reminded me about some College things I forgot about that I HAD TO GET DONE, and my dad was mad at me for forgetting it in the first place...
I really didn't want to leave. first of all, I like spending time with her, and secondly, I knew it would make her really mad. I was hesitant to leave, and just about let it wait until tomorrow but I decided since my dad was already angry, and since i already had other things to finish that it would be ok to leave. Was That Such a Bad Thing to Do?
after I got home, i finished everything and expected a little understanding from her during our nightly talk on the phone. But No. All i got was her crabbing about how i cant ever remember anything and how im home at the "snap of my dad's fingers" 'all the time'... I can put up with it for about 45 minutes, but i got tired of telling her that I had multiple things to do, and asking her to understand my situation here. She made me mad in the end and I hung up on her while she was going off on how i don't have any priorities straight for the umpteenth time.
I know i'm forgetful, and I know my dad makes things a bit ridiculous sometimes. But I had things to do and I feel like she should be able to understand and let me finish things when they have to be done. this isn't the first time this has happened. She always gets mad at me for little things like leaving for home at any time exept right before my curfew, or forgetting things like her plans for the week and which days she'll be busy. It's like its too much work for her to tell me some things twice sometimes. are there any medical conditions that make a person so touchy for little things like this? In addition, when we both leave for college, im sure Ill just be more busy with things, it seems like everythings just going to get worse if these things keep up.
I'm worried because I really love her, I know i probably sound really mad at her now, but she's my girlfriend for almost 2 years now and I'd do just about anything for her if it made her happy. If i could pay to make my memory perfect, or to make my life with nothing but her in it, I'd do it in a heartbeat.
How can I tell her i have to leave or do things other than be with her? What can I say to her after she gets mad with me like this? a lot of the time when she's mad at me she doesn't want to talk or be with me, she just wants to argue and avoid me, so how am I supposed to cheer her up or let her know how much I love her?
Well first off you sound like a great boyfriend! Alot of guys wouldn't even care in the first place and I can tell that you really love her! Second, that's just how alot of girls are! We love attention from our men and sometimes it's hard to hear that they have other things in their life except for us! There's nothing you can say to her besides that you have important work to do for your classes and it's not like you're leaving her to go party or anything! When you're apart, make sure you send her some sweet texts just to remind her that even though you're not with her, she's still on your mind. She'll appreciate that.
Hi,
I just want to know how well the No! No! hair removal shaver, but I guess not shaving, system thingy works.
Has anybody used it? Can you help me before I spend the money on a No!no! of my own?
Thank you!
I actually tried buying this a few months ago, and unfortunately it doesn't work :(
Hey all.. very long but a bit confused.
I'm 18/f and my boyfriend is 21.
We started dating in high school. I was 15 and he was 17. We broke up in june bc he was being mean to me, so i wanted a break, got back together, but broke up again. Lately I have been feeling like I want to be an 18 year old girl. We never had any other serious relationships, so how do we truly know if we want each other for ever? I dont want to hear I am too young to be thinking about this, but I want to know now so i didnt waste my teens years of just having fun, or if he is it, hes my "one"
At times I feel like im married and I mean, I have the rest of my life to be married. I talked to him about this and he even said he isnt sure if i'm "the one" and Im thinking if he thinks that too, then why dont we take a break to really find this out?
What is hard is we work together, 5 days a week at the time same, bc we work for my mom. I WILL see him.
My questions are, what do you guys think? Am I too young to be in such a long relationship, and if I do want to take a break/break up how will I do this?
I can relate! I once dated a guy that was a few years older and we were constantly on and off. And from my experience and what most people who go through on again/off again relationships say, it's probably not right. Offer to just take a break for a few weeks (since you'll still see each other at work, just stop seeing/talking to him outside of that) Still be polite to him at work though, to avoid hard feelings. If you miss dating him after a few weeks, give it another shot. But while you're apart, make sure to flirt with other guys a little so you know what else is out there!
what flat iron do you reccomend?
CHI. hands down.
What can i use instead of a dildo, because i can'not buy one and have no one to buy it for me. I use a plastic coat hanger (but ofcourse i clean it)but it doesn't seem to be working. All i do is stick it in and move it in and out which is what you are suppose to do but i feel no pleasure! PS: if i clean it with soap and water real good, can i get an infection? what can i use and how do i make it feel good, can i get an infection?
Well your fingers are probably your best bet, but there's always the handle of a toothbrush or hairbrush! I would advise against the coat hanger. Make sure to clean anything you use after each use!
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so my boyfriend and i have had sex about 10 times or so and I have not orgasmed yet. He is my first. I have never orgasmed with him before either when he has fingered me or massaged my clitoris. In fact no guy has ever made me climax. The only time I can orgasm is when I am by myself watching porn...and I do this by stimulating my clit while watching. I love my boyfriend so much and he would love it if I could finish with him, and I would too!!!
Please help. any advice with positioning? anything? AHHH HELP. lol
Ask him to go down on you, that usually does the trick! Or maybe he's not fingering you the right way. Since you're able to get off using your fingers, show him exactly what you do to yourself. Guide his fingers to where they're supposed to be and make some noise when he's in the right spot so he knows where to stay!
I recently had sex for the first time with my boyfriend who I like a whole hell of a lot. I used to want to be with him all of the time and think of him all of the time. After we had sex, the only thing I think about IS him, but it's thoughts of whether or not I should've done it. I feel like I'm less attracted to him, but I don't want to be. Is this just a phase? Are these the thoughts that might usually follow after having sex? I'm worried that my feelings are disappearing and I don't want them to. I also have thoughts that I probably shouldn't have done it, just because I feel less innocent than I have before, but I don't really regret it. What's wrong with me?
You just feel guilty, which is a totally normal feeling to have after you lose your virginity, and you could be pushing your boyfriend away because he reminds you of this guilt. Spend some more time together before you decide to have sex again, and the guilt will subside.