Q: Okay so my 16 year old boyfriend dumped me in a text message four days after he guilted me into giving him head. (I'm fourteen). Yeah I know it was stupid and trust me, I regret it, and I'm not going to try and explain how I felt because no one can really understand it...

But anyway. So now we're broken up and I'm hearing some really awful things he's said about me (while we were dating and presently). And I really don't understand why he's doing this... Because I've done nothing to hurt him. I haven't screamed or yelled or made a scene or tried to get people to hate him or turn his friends against him (even though his best friend, we'll call him Pete, took my side after the break up, I never asked Pete to and my ex had been treating him like shit before that anyway). Well my ex and Pete are kiiind of still friends and he's been telling me all the horrible thing my ex has said. Like while we were dating my ex told his baseball team about how far we'd been and that he "had me so whipped" and that you gotta "keep your girl on a leash" and what not. The second part doesn't bother me so much as the first because my ex always promised me that stuff would stay between us... See, our schools baseball team is horrible. They act like girls exist to do what they want and they constantly pressure each other to try and get head or get sex and its disgusting, it really is. Well my ex told them all about me giving him head and the baseball team told the football team and the football team tells everyone else and now goodness... everyones talking about it because my reputation before this was "innocent good girl" and thats trashed now...

I talked to my ex and he's like "no one is judging you, we dated for six months" yet I'm having guys come up to me and ask if I will "put out for them too" or "if I knew you were down for this stuff I would of gone after you a long time ago" and its disgusting and I hate it!!! I know it's true but those kind of things are supposed to stay between you and your boyfriend and he promised me they would. I talked to him. He said he'd tell people he was lying but we know that's not gonna happen. And guess what else I found out??

He's been telling people we've had sex too. Now, that, is NOT true. And he's saying the most disgusting things like "yeah I was on top and I was scared I was gonna break her cause she's so tiny. But she was great, she let me do whatever I want. I could of put it up the ass if I'd wanted to" and I just don't even know what to do... I hate having everyone talk about me like this... I regret giving him a blow job SO MUCH. He just... at the time he made me feel so horrible for not giving him one. And i knew it was wrong but the things he said made sense to me at the time... I just, I don't know... I can't explain it. I know it's not an excuse. But he would say things like "it's been six months, don't you trust me enough to do this?" or, "you don't even want to try to make me happy" and I started believing all of this stuff... I just let him walk all over me and I started thinking it was okay. I just want my reputation back. I don't want to be known for this...

I know I don't deserve it. And I especially don't deserve the sex rumor. I just don't know what to do... My ex denies saying anything to anyone when I try to talk about it with him but I know he's lying. He says he'll tell people that the rumors aren't true but I can't trust him to do that. I just don't know what to do... :( Help.

Please, I'm begging you, don't judge me for doing what I did... If you knew how I felt at the time... Just so low and useless... I don't know. Please just tell me how I can handle this.

Q: Me 13/f
him 13/m

I have posted ALOT of questions on here so if you feel like reading those, just go to my page or column or watever. Anyways here's the story.

I am IN LOVE with this guy. He is my best guy friend. We live three houses away. So I hang out with him somtimes. I've even been inside his house. We always walk home together. Lately on our walks home he has been "touching" me. It's mainly my butt but he's started touching my boobs. I always move away and call him a pervert. Bt he asks me if i want him to stop. And I just don't say anything. Bc if I tell him to stop then he'll think I don't like him when I do. So a few days ago we were testing and I asked him who his crush was and he said this other girl that used to be my best friend. We arnt enemies we just barely talk anymore. But she has a boyfriend. Then when he asked me who I like I told hi
that I liked him. Then he said he had to go. Then the next day he asked me if I wanted to go over to his house and have sex. So I said that I wish I could but I was at my grandmas. (we were just messin around. I am waaay to young for sex.) and he told me to prove that I wanted to and I asked how. And he told me to send him a pic of me naked or come over. So then I told him no and we had a huge convince abot that. Then he just stopped textin me. And now everytime we text, he barely says anything. So my question is.......what's going on. Does he like me or not.

Q: 17/f
So, me and this guy have been talking for quite awhile now. We hang out and act just like couples do. The problem is, he never texts me. Sometimes we go all day without texting and it urks me so bad! I text him and he will write back maybe once or twice and thats it, unless he askes me to hang out.I just hate how he dosent text me that much. I know we don't have to talk 24/7 but i dont wanna go all day without talking to him. Ive mentioned it to him 3 times and all he says is "im sorry." I really really like him but i dont know what to do. :/ Help! Should i text him first, not text until he texts me or what?

Q: Ok so I made a group on Facebook. When I post on my group wall it comes from me insted of coming from the group if you know what i mean. How can I change that and make the posts come from the group instead of me (You know when people who made the group post stuff on the group wall and then the post is on the members wall coming from the group...so how do I do that?) Sorry if I didnt write that clearly!

Q: I went out with my friends, and one guy was dancing with my friend. I didn't know that she was into him- i just thought she was having fun dancing. The same guy approached me later in the night to dance (mostly salsa music, so everyone was dancing), and then, without thinking, I made out with him. Now, I'm concerned my friend is upset at me...well, we don't know each other well, but we did go out. I made some comment about how I couldn't drink the shot that some guys bought all of us, and she said "it's okay, my LOVER drank it for me," she was referring to the same guy. Later in the night as we were saying bye, she seemed nice with me, but I am still concerned that our friendship is at stake, and that she doesn't trust me. What should i do??

Q: My break up is killing me.Im not over the relationship because nothing bad happend.No one cheated,he treated me right,we were having fun,i treated him SO WELL.He broke up with me randomly..i wasn't expecting it AT ALL.That very same day he broke up with me,he was making me breakfast,kissing me,calling me baby,just being normal and when i left and we hungout later that night is when he did it.I think he had been high because he was with all of his friends and I think they had a lot of influence in our breakup because he started spending most of his time with me instead of them.He told me he wanted to have a "break" and hasn't talked to me in 6 days (but he went on vacation) and he comes back tonight. He told my friend "hes going to miss me" and he told my other friend" that he's sad about our breakup " and he was asking about me and stuff.I was his first real girlfriend and all his friends told me that I was the first girl he said he really liked.One of the reasons he wanted to breakup with me is because since we hungout so much he "got sick of me" .Nothing in our relationship was really bad ,thats why I'm so sad instead of mad.I feel like it shouldn't be over.I also cared to much and he told me that.I did EVERYTHING for him.I want him back so badly.What's the best thing I could do? I haven't spoken a word to him in 6 days...

Q: there’s this guy who i/‘i’ve like(d) for a really long time and he started talking to me one day and since then we’ve been talking everyday. and we’re like two grades apart so we don’t really talk in school much because we don’t have classes together.

so anyways... i’m pretty sure he likes me now but i’m starting to stop liking him. and it’s not about the chase anymore because for so long i’ve been trying to figure it out - at first, i’ll admit, it was about the chase, but now i’m trying to figure out what’s keeping me from liking him.
i think it’s mostly because i’m so scared of being let down, or maybe even i’m really embarassed (he’s not popular... and i know that shouldn’t matter... but it also gets in the way i don’t know why), he’s not all that good looking, he can get really sensitive sometimes, and i just don’t think it fits together.

he talks to me everyday on chat. and sometimes, i like him... like a lot. but then there are times when i read our conversation and i just really get disgusted for some weird reason. and i’m starting to have feelings for other people as well. i’m trying to talk to him less now... and i’m trying to make things really boring so that maybe he’ll stop liking me. but i’m also scared that if he stops - then i’ll start liking him again (so maybe its a tiny bit about the chase). i know that’s considered a heart breaker - but i should end what i started. i think i led him on in a unconscious way.

so here is what i need advice on:
1. should i go for him?
2. do you think i like him?
3. what’s your opinion on all this?

thanks

Q: So in a nutshell my spring break sucks.My parents both lost their jobs and we have had barely enough money to eat and get gas. We're in debt with so many family members and friends .On top of that ,my boyfriend broke up with me 4-5 days ago and went on vacation .so ive basically been a mental wreck.Crying as soon as I wake up because we barely have money to get by and because im missing my boyfriend who helped me with money when he could and obviously made me happy without money.I feel guilty because ive been using the gas in my car to pickup friends,go to the beach,drive around at night..just to get me out of the house so i don't focus on my ex boyfriend.What's something less expensive I could do to just get my mind off my ex and money? because if we had a lot of money it'd be soo much easier to be happy but we dont!

Q: Well there are two boys. I don't like both of them, I'm diggin 'em. Meaning, I think both of the are cute. Please don't answer "why on earth are you liking two boys, that's awful" because I'm not. Like I've been trying to explain all day, there is a difference between thinking someone is cute and liking them. Anyway, one of them is in my gym class, let's call him A, the other is in my lunch period, let's call him J. I have been diggin A since before J. Now, both are kinda shy which is where my problem occurs. I wrote A a message on facebook telling him since he wasn't on he missed out and I'm making him talk to me Monday and I can't wait for us to finally talk. I gave him the benefit of the doubt seeming as we didn't have gym that day and didn't see each other. However, I am not going to spark a conversation first because I sent him the message first and since he wasn't on I feel like he missed out, so it has been his job to talk to me and he didn't which kinda leads me to believe he isn't diggin me back. He knows I think he's cute but he isn't making the push to do something about "us" he told my friend that he is nervous to talk to me but he shouldn't be because he knows what I think and I'm not going to be a jerk to him. He also says cute things though like "I kinda wish she will talk to me first because I wouldn't know what to say to her" and "If she won't talk, I will. Bring her to my locker so I can 'rip her out of your arms and finally talk to her"' but yet he's to nervous to talk even when he said he would and to nervous to even exchange glances with me for more than a second. Now, onto J. I walk into lunch and in order to get to my table, I have to pass his table. Every time I walk in the cafeteria door he will look at me the second I walk in the door and hold glance with me until we can't anymore (until I turn to go to my table which is behind him, so we hold our glances until he can't look at me anymore without turning around). He will always wait to throw his tray away until I do so he will be coming up the aisle and I will be going down it and we'll collide (there's two different trash areas, one for the packers and one for the buyers). Also, me and my friend'll be talking in gym and she'll look over my shoulder at J to see what he's doing and she said he is 98% of the time looking at me. I feel like J's feelings are a little more stronger and I think I'm more attracted to J, to the point where I just want to give up on A. What boy do you think has the stronger feelings? Which boy should I give a try and why? For the boy you picked what should I do to get the ball rolling? Thanks!

Q: Well I like this boy.
A younger boy actually, he's in grade 10, I am in grade 11. So he sits next to me in class. For the longest time we sat away from eachother and I also had a boyfriend last year so even though I thought this boy was cute, I never really made an effort. So lately I've started talking to him and making friendly conversation. Now it seems as though we've become closer. :) The other day he walked into class and had a smile on his face and I was already sitting down. I looked up at him and he gave me a big "hey!" and I said hey back. Then the girl sitting next to me looked up as well because she had been sitting there the whole time. Realizing that he hadn't said hi to her, he quickly said "oh, hey." So that struck me as odd... Also he has best friends in this class and they sit very nearby. He talks to them often but sometimes he turns around and tries to get into the conversations that I have with the girl next to me. So I've started to strike conversations with him and he does the same with me. The other day was the last day before spring break and he came and started having a conversation with me and told me about a funny story that happened to him that day. I never did get to wish him a good break though because the girl wanted me to leave early with her.

I never thought that he could like me until recently because he's being so chatty. But he is such a gentleman and is so nice to everyone so it could be just my imagination. I just think he such a total catch though, he's got the highest grade in class right next to me hehe. That's the reason I find him so attractive, becuase he's so smart :). I just found out i'll have to do a sort of group project with him among others. I guess what I'm really asking is how I can become closer to him? But I don't want to actually tell him how I feel, hehe I want it to be mutual before I go doing things like that :P.

Q: im 13 year old girl and my best friend is a guy and im starting to like him....my friend(thats a girl) told me that he txted her and asked if i liked him...she hasnt given him an answer but he told her that he was gonna ask me out...i dont noe wat to do cuz i dont wanna ruin are frienship if the relationship goes bad...HELP!!

Q: Ok, so (Male, 18) I just got off the phone with my girlfriend after an hour-long argument that was about nothing more than my leaving her house to go home and finish a four page English paper and do some college stuff that needed to be finished.

I was over there just hanging out, cooking some bars with her and I suddenly found out that I had to finish some college things before 5 o'clock and, in addition, i had to revise an English assignment and my math assignment.

We had plans to be together all day, but my teacher bumped the deadline up to tomorrow during school today, so i changed plans a little so i would probably leave around 6 or so, that way I'd have time to finish it. When I told her this, it just about ruined both of our days right there, but she managed to get over it until my dad called and reminded me about some College things I forgot about that I HAD TO GET DONE, and my dad was mad at me for forgetting it in the first place...

I really didn't want to leave. first of all, I like spending time with her, and secondly, I knew it would make her really mad. I was hesitant to leave, and just about let it wait until tomorrow but I decided since my dad was already angry, and since i already had other things to finish that it would be ok to leave. Was That Such a Bad Thing to Do?

after I got home, i finished everything and expected a little understanding from her during our nightly talk on the phone. But No. All i got was her crabbing about how i cant ever remember anything and how im home at the "snap of my dad's fingers" 'all the time'... I can put up with it for about 45 minutes, but i got tired of telling her that I had multiple things to do, and asking her to understand my situation here. She made me mad in the end and I hung up on her while she was going off on how i don't have any priorities straight for the umpteenth time.

I know i'm forgetful, and I know my dad makes things a bit ridiculous sometimes. But I had things to do and I feel like she should be able to understand and let me finish things when they have to be done. this isn't the first time this has happened. She always gets mad at me for little things like leaving for home at any time exept right before my curfew, or forgetting things like her plans for the week and which days she'll be busy. It's like its too much work for her to tell me some things twice sometimes. are there any medical conditions that make a person so touchy for little things like this? In addition, when we both leave for college, im sure Ill just be more busy with things, it seems like everythings just going to get worse if these things keep up.

I'm worried because I really love her, I know i probably sound really mad at her now, but she's my girlfriend for almost 2 years now and I'd do just about anything for her if it made her happy. If i could pay to make my memory perfect, or to make my life with nothing but her in it, I'd do it in a heartbeat.

How can I tell her i have to leave or do things other than be with her? What can I say to her after she gets mad with me like this? a lot of the time when she's mad at me she doesn't want to talk or be with me, she just wants to argue and avoid me, so how am I supposed to cheer her up or let her know how much I love her?

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